Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth?

helium · Dec 24th, 2007, 04:37 AM

Ok this thread is inspired by that other 'when did you have sex' thread, which was inspired by the Jamie Lynn is pregnant thread.

I realise a few people think teen love is the most stupid, delusional thing they've ever heard, while some people are actually married to their teenage sweetheart and obviously they completely believe in it. Personally, I completely believe in it having fallen in love with my boyfriend at the age of 15, and we're still together now that i'm 18, and we live together and provide for each other so on so forth. We've, honest to God, never had a real argument. Everything is solved by civilised sitting down and having a giant discussion sort of thing.

My thoughts: I think it's unfair to assume all teenagers are completely delusional when they say they're in love, but unfortunately I myself believe that half of them are a little delusional. Far from thinking 'everyone! teenagers are completely in love!' I actually want a lot of teenagers to just wake up and not ruin it for the ones who actually are! It's very hurtful when you have older couples together for a long time, and everyone thinks it's so sweet and congratulates them, but when you're young you simply can't say 'we're in love' because people will think you're too young to even know what it is. It's also hurtful when your parents start urging you to find someone else so that you won't regret marrying the first guy you meet, because there is probably a better one out there. Most teenagers are very immature and self centered in my opinion (i'm sorry, but seriously have you seen how loud some of them are on public transport?), and so sex, love, all of those are probably, and rightfully, something they shouldn't dabble in.

Speedy · Dec 24th, 2007, 04:55 AM

Having been one of those teens who were in love at 15 and not seeing anything else, I don't think it's a myth.

Puberty comes with all kinds of new emotions, and desire is often confused with love. But no-one could tell me that when I was 15! OF COURSE no-one could tell me otherwise, I knew EVERYTHING!

My daughter ended up marrying the guy she fell in love with when she was 15, alhtough they did take a break and were apart for several years from the time she was 16 to 19. After 15 years of marriage, she recently left him, but they did make a great go of it for all those years. Sadly, my marriage to her father didn't go as well, although now we recognize we were just too young. We still remain friends, some years ago there was an incident and our daughter was the victim, he came up here and stood by both of us during the court proceedings.

The thing is, nowadays life is such much more complicated when I was 15. Too many choices, too many reprocusions from things we did as teens, (IE, arrest the guy if he had consensual sex with his girlfriend, making him be forced to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life, not to mention jail time) but on the other side, education, drugs and violence is spoon-fed to the kids, and at ages I find younger and younger...

Hormones is a weird thing. And I agree, they see nothing wrong with kissing, petting and feeling up their boy or girlfriend in public, probably because self-control in public isn't taught in school, nor in their gangs of kids who find it funny to have group sex or swapping partners during the deed.

Then they equate love with sex, or sex is showing the other person that they "love" them. That person gives the other things that their parents and friends can't, a way to scratch that new itch you've suddenly discovered down there.

I hope this makes sense, I'm drozy sleepy.

outpt · Dec 24th, 2007, 05:05 AM

Two of my friends from college met while they were teens in high school, and they're getting married next year (we're all in our mid-twenties). They're two of the most level-headed people I know, and they are a wonderfully functional couple. I'm sure it doesn't work for many, but there are still some who find the one for them early and can make it work.

x joie · Dec 24th, 2007, 05:08 AM

helium: I completely agree with you. I am 20 but met my current bf when I was 17. He is the love of my life and it is very obvious to everyone that we are very much together for the long run- and yet people have no issues telling me unsolicited opinions about how I am too young to know what love is, how we are wasting our times when we should be out there "having fun", and all sorts of other bs. What if I'm already having fun? What if I am NOT too young to know what love is? Why do people find it necessary to comment incessantly about other people's lives? It drives me nuts.

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 24th, 2007, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by helium

Ok this thread is inspired by that other 'when did you have sex' thread, which was inspired by the Jamie Lynn is pregnant thread.

I realise a few people think teen love is the most stupid, delusional thing they've ever heard, while some people are actually married to their teenage sweetheart and obviously they completely believe in it. Personally, I completely believe in it having fallen in love with my boyfriend at the age of 15, and we're still together now that i'm 18, and we live together and provide for each other so on so forth. We've, honest to God, never had a real argument. Everything is solved by civilised sitting down and having a giant discussion sort of thing.

My thoughts: I think it's unfair to assume all teenagers are completely delusional when they say they're in love, but unfortunately I myself believe that half of them are a little delusional. Far from thinking 'everyone! teenagers are completely in love!' I actually want a lot of teenagers to just wake up and not ruin it for the ones who actually are! It's very hurtful when you have older couples together for a long time, and everyone thinks it's so sweet and congratulates them, but when you're young you simply can't say 'we're in love' because people will think you're too young to even know what it is. It's also hurtful when your parents start urging you to find someone else so that you won't regret marrying the first guy you meet, because there is probably a better one out there. Most teenagers are very immature and self centered in my opinion (i'm sorry, but seriously have you seen how loud some of them are on public transport?), and so sex, love, all of those are probably, and rightfully, something they shouldn't dabble in.

I totally agree. I met my now boyfriend when I was 15, and we started dating one month shy of my 16th birthday. I can honestly say I wasnt "in love" for a while (maybe a year?) but, we have been together for 5 years and I love him very much! I believe there are teenagers who can say they are truly in love. But, my niece(whos one month shy of 17), every boyfriend she has had(3 or 4), she was "in love" with

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PlushKitty · Dec 24th, 2007, 06:03 AM

I know a sweet lady who has married her childhood sweetheart... thats right... they met when they were in grade 2! She tells me stories like how he used to walk her home after school everyday... it's so cute, I know I lost my chance for a grade 2 romance :lol: but I can still wish!

PlushKitty · Dec 24th, 2007, 06:03 AM

I know a sweet lady who has married her childhood sweetheart... thats right... they met when they were in grade 2! She tells me stories like how he used to walk her home after school everyday... it's so cute, I know I lost my chance for a grade 2 romance :lol: but I can still wish!

pixiepink37 · Dec 24th, 2007, 08:32 AM

I fell in love in the 6th grade. I am now 19. me and him dated from 6th-12th grade. We had our share of immature fights. And we did break up and get back together a thousand times. but we were young, and jealousy rushed through our bodies every second of the day. He currently moved across the country to cali (I'm from jersey) we ended our relationship. But I will ALWAYS love him. He's my best friend. And I still believe hes my soulmate.

so YES teen love is 100% real

pinkybear · Dec 24th, 2007, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by PlushKitty

I know a sweet lady who has married her childhood sweetheart... thats right... they met when they were in grade 2! She tells me stories like how he used to walk her home after school everyday... it's so cute, I know I lost my chance for a grade 2 romance :lol: but I can still wish!

THAT IS SOOO CUTE!!

as for me i dont think its a complete myth at all. ITA with Speedy i think we all have to distinguish love from infatuation and/or raging hormones. i had my first long term relationship when i was 13. we were together for three years and broke up because my family migrated to the US. looking back now what hurt me the most from the break-up was i had the romance movie mentality. boy meets girl, falls in love, lives happily ever after. imagine my disappointment when that didnt happen.
i was totally inlove with that boy. hes the first person i completely gave my heart to. i am in a different relationship now and very much inlove. what i have now is deeper maybe because of my age and what i have learned from my previous relationship.
teen love depends on the person. i didnt end up with my teen love but my grandmother did. her and my grandpa met when she was 16. he died when she was 32 and she never remarried. shes 93 now and she still brags about him all the time. its sooo sweet!

ChiChi143 · Dec 24th, 2007, 08:53 AM

Teen love is possible! I've been with my bf since we were 15. It's 7 years later now and we are planning on getting married. Now that I look back, we had immature fights and went through a lot due to his parents, but we got through it stronger than ever! My bf's parents and I don't get along because when we first started going out they said mean things bout me because we were too serious at a young age. They urged him to "play the field" and not settle on his first gf whom he "claimed" he was in love with. They thought it was only "puppy love", so it would eventually end. Now they're embarrassed and can't even look at me!! Teen love is 100% possible/real. I never thought I'd find my future husband when I was 15, but I did

bagnshoofetish · Dec 24th, 2007, 12:49 PM

I believe teen love is perfectly normal. a womans prime years for childbirth are in her early teens afterall. my grandmother married when she was 13! had about 9 kids. this has been normal for centuries. especially in farming communities. as soon as you were able to work and have kids, thats what you did. and you had alot of kids cause you needed the work force!

All this waiting till you are much older is a very contemporary idea. in this modern century, life is different and there is no need for kids to marry so young and have kids anymore. many more opportunities are available now. but just because the circumstances have changed doesn't mean the human heart has. you cannot control who you fall in love with or when. you can divorce just as easily when you are 40 as you can when you are 17. I know people will cite maturity but again, I believe there are just as many emotionally immature adults as there are teens. Everyone in spite of their level of maturity does have a working conscience though - and that is what eventually guides them at any age and mistakes will still be made. As long as younger people have a support system and someone to help guide them, its not the end of the world if they marry/have kids at an early age. Sure there are complications but when in life aren't there? (sorry for the poor grammar. its early.)

Glamorous_girl · Dec 24th, 2007, 03:14 PM

I think it is true. I know lots of people who get married in highschool! My mom met my dad when she was 16 (but he wasnt in highschool) and they are still married 32 years later! I just think that in alot of cases people dont know what love really is in highschool. Especially if its a first boyfriend. I have alot of friends who are just getting a first boyfriend, and after 2 weeks they are "in love". Im just someone who believes love takes alot of time.

devoted · Dec 24th, 2007, 04:22 PM

I found my soulmate when I was 16. Perfect chemistry, and I loved him with such a passion it hurt. I would have been happy just being with him for the rest of my life, I prayed to God that when we were old and near death that we would die together because I couldn't fathom a second knowing he wasn't with me anymore.
It was intense, the most intense wonderful feeling imaginable. I have never felt it again and never will. The relationship didn't last....so complicated to explain, maybe one day, but we didn't just break up and go our seperate ways. If he was here, we would still be together. 7 years later I still believe I truly loved him and he was made for me, no one has ever made me feel so satisfied with life....everyone told me it was puppy love and I'd know real love one day...NO, I had it, for a short time but I know it was real.

bee* · Dec 24th, 2007, 04:59 PM

I started going out with my boyfriend when I was 17 and I'm 26 now and we've just gotten engaged earlier this year, so I definitely believe in it. We had quite a few friends who started going out at that age too and went out for years but from looking at what happened to them, one of the real tests seem to be when you're both working full time and not in college. That seemed to be when a lot of our friends broke up.

Pursegrrl · Dec 24th, 2007, 05:02 PM

My Aunt & Uncle have liked eachother since 5th grade! They're 64 now, grandparents and still madly in love!!

Dec 24th, 2007, 04:37 AM	#1
helium Member	Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? Ok this thread is inspired by that other 'when did you have sex' thread, which was inspired by the Jamie Lynn is pregnant thread. I realise a few people think teen love is the most stupid, delusional thing they've ever heard, while some people are actually married to their teenage sweetheart and obviously they completely believe in it. Personally, I completely believe in it having fallen in love with my boyfriend at the age of 15, and we're still together now that i'm 18, and we live together and provide for each other so on so forth. We've, honest to God, never had a real argument. Everything is solved by civilised sitting down and having a giant discussion sort of thing. My thoughts: I think it's unfair to assume all teenagers are completely delusional when they say they're in love, but unfortunately I myself believe that half of them are a little delusional. Far from thinking 'everyone! teenagers are completely in love!' I actually want a lot of teenagers to just wake up and not ruin it for the ones who actually are! It's very hurtful when you have older couples together for a long time, and everyone thinks it's so sweet and congratulates them, but when you're young you simply can't say 'we're in love' because people will think you're too young to even know what it is. It's also hurtful when your parents start urging you to find someone else so that you won't regret marrying the first guy you meet, because there is probably a better one out there. Most teenagers are very immature and self centered in my opinion (i'm sorry, but seriously have you seen how loud some of them are on public transport?), and so sex, love, all of those are probably, and rightfully, something they shouldn't dabble in.

Dec 24th, 2007, 04:55 AM	#2
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? Having been one of those teens who were in love at 15 and not seeing anything else, I don't think it's a myth. Puberty comes with all kinds of new emotions, and desire is often confused with love. But no-one could tell me that when I was 15! OF COURSE no-one could tell me otherwise, I knew EVERYTHING! My daughter ended up marrying the guy she fell in love with when she was 15, alhtough they did take a break and were apart for several years from the time she was 16 to 19. After 15 years of marriage, she recently left him, but they did make a great go of it for all those years. Sadly, my marriage to her father didn't go as well, although now we recognize we were just too young. We still remain friends, some years ago there was an incident and our daughter was the victim, he came up here and stood by both of us during the court proceedings. The thing is, nowadays life is such much more complicated when I was 15. Too many choices, too many reprocusions from things we did as teens, (IE, arrest the guy if he had consensual sex with his girlfriend, making him be forced to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life, not to mention jail time) but on the other side, education, drugs and violence is spoon-fed to the kids, and at ages I find younger and younger... Hormones is a weird thing. And I agree, they see nothing wrong with kissing, petting and feeling up their boy or girlfriend in public, probably because self-control in public isn't taught in school, nor in their gangs of kids who find it funny to have group sex or swapping partners during the deed. Then they equate love with sex, or sex is showing the other person that they "love" them. That person gives the other things that their parents and friends can't, a way to scratch that new itch you've suddenly discovered down there. I hope this makes sense, I'm drozy sleepy.

Dec 24th, 2007, 05:05 AM	#3
outpt absentminded prof Location: NYC	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? Two of my friends from college met while they were teens in high school, and they're getting married next year (we're all in our mid-twenties). They're two of the most level-headed people I know, and they are a wonderfully functional couple. I'm sure it doesn't work for many, but there are still some who find the one for them early and can make it work. __________________ purple-haired art-making professor my collection: 13 Tokidoki for LeSportsac, 3 Balenciaga, 1 Chanel wishlist: GSH Electric Blue day..err, city! and something in 08 Turquoise

Dec 24th, 2007, 05:08 AM	#4
x joie Member	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? helium: I completely agree with you. I am 20 but met my current bf when I was 17. He is the love of my life and it is very obvious to everyone that we are very much together for the long run- and yet people have no issues telling me unsolicited opinions about how I am too young to know what love is, how we are wasting our times when we should be out there "having fun", and all sorts of other bs. What if I'm already having fun? What if I am NOT too young to know what love is? Why do people find it necessary to comment incessantly about other people's lives? It drives me nuts.

Dec 24th, 2007, 06:03 AM	#6
PlushKitty Shopaholic Location: Vancouver	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I know a sweet lady who has married her childhood sweetheart... thats right... they met when they were in grade 2! She tells me stories like how he used to walk her home after school everyday... it's so cute, I know I lost my chance for a grade 2 romance :lol: but I can still wish!

Dec 24th, 2007, 08:32 AM	#8
pixiepink37 Member	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I fell in love in the 6th grade. I am now 19. me and him dated from 6th-12th grade. We had our share of immature fights. And we did break up and get back together a thousand times. but we were young, and jealousy rushed through our bodies every second of the day. He currently moved across the country to cali (I'm from jersey) we ended our relationship. But I will ALWAYS love him. He's my best friend. And I still believe hes my soulmate. so YES teen love is 100% real

Dec 24th, 2007, 08:53 AM	#10
ChiChi143 ♥ ChiChi and Lola ♥ Location: NY	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? Teen love is possible! I've been with my bf since we were 15. It's 7 years later now and we are planning on getting married. Now that I look back, we had immature fights and went through a lot due to his parents, but we got through it stronger than ever! My bf's parents and I don't get along because when we first started going out they said mean things bout me because we were too serious at a young age. They urged him to "play the field" and not settle on his first gf whom he "claimed" he was in love with. They thought it was only "puppy love", so it would eventually end. Now they're embarrassed and can't even look at me!! Teen love is 100% possible/real. I never thought I'd find my future husband when I was 15, but I did __________________ ChiChi & Lola

Dec 24th, 2007, 12:49 PM	#11
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I believe teen love is perfectly normal. a womans prime years for childbirth are in her early teens afterall. my grandmother married when she was 13! had about 9 kids. this has been normal for centuries. especially in farming communities. as soon as you were able to work and have kids, thats what you did. and you had alot of kids cause you needed the work force! All this waiting till you are much older is a very contemporary idea. in this modern century, life is different and there is no need for kids to marry so young and have kids anymore. many more opportunities are available now. but just because the circumstances have changed doesn't mean the human heart has. you cannot control who you fall in love with or when. you can divorce just as easily when you are 40 as you can when you are 17. I know people will cite maturity but again, I believe there are just as many emotionally immature adults as there are teens. Everyone in spite of their level of maturity does have a working conscience though - and that is what eventually guides them at any age and mistakes will still be made. As long as younger people have a support system and someone to help guide them, its not the end of the world if they marry/have kids at an early age. Sure there are complications but when in life aren't there? (sorry for the poor grammar. its early.) __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Dec 24th, 2007, 03:14 PM	#12
Glamorous_girl LVOE Location: Tokyo, Japan & Hanover, PA	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I think it is true. I know lots of people who get married in highschool! My mom met my dad when she was 16 (but he wasnt in highschool) and they are still married 32 years later! I just think that in alot of cases people dont know what love really is in highschool. Especially if its a first boyfriend. I have alot of friends who are just getting a first boyfriend, and after 2 weeks they are "in love". Im just someone who believes love takes alot of time. __________________ Wish list (LV): Trunks and bags mini pochette Inclusion bracelet PM Grey-on it's way Speedy undecided Sunset boulevard amarante Lambskin Rivets Bag black

Dec 24th, 2007, 04:22 PM	#13
devoted Member	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I found my soulmate when I was 16. Perfect chemistry, and I loved him with such a passion it hurt. I would have been happy just being with him for the rest of my life, I prayed to God that when we were old and near death that we would die together because I couldn't fathom a second knowing he wasn't with me anymore. It was intense, the most intense wonderful feeling imaginable. I have never felt it again and never will. The relationship didn't last....so complicated to explain, maybe one day, but we didn't just break up and go our seperate ways. If he was here, we would still be together. 7 years later I still believe I truly loved him and he was made for me, no one has ever made me feel so satisfied with life....everyone told me it was puppy love and I'd know real love one day...NO, I had it, for a short time but I know it was real.

Dec 24th, 2007, 04:59 PM	#14
bee* Member	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? I started going out with my boyfriend when I was 17 and I'm 26 now and we've just gotten engaged earlier this year, so I definitely believe in it. We had quite a few friends who started going out at that age too and went out for years but from looking at what happened to them, one of the real tests seem to be when you're both working full time and not in college. That seemed to be when a lot of our friends broke up.

Dec 24th, 2007, 05:02 PM	#15
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	Re: Teen love - uncommon or a complete myth? My Aunt & Uncle have liked eachother since 5th grade! They're 64 now, grandparents and still madly in love!! __________________