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pisdapisda79 · Oct 13th, 2009, 10:42 PM

I think you deserve to be happy & love ther person you are married to. Try to find work so that you can support yourself & your children. Ultimately your children will sense you are unhappy once they get older so staying with your husband just to stay isin't the right thing to do.Have you tried going to counselling? Good luck

jackie100 · Oct 14th, 2009, 01:23 AM

If he's browsing CL erotic section he is cheating and hooking up with these women in person, especially if he is getting it once a month. Men need sex more often then that. Men usually don't browse the CL section there for fun, its to meet up with people. There's tons and tons of married men on there... He's probably been doing it all throughout the marriage.

I would say get a skill or trade and then move on and leave him. You need to do it in order to be happy.

Also, put a keylogger on his pc. I bet he has been going to lots of casual sex sites and maybe even escorts. I would stop having sex with him period because he might be exposed to std's.

kavnadoo · Oct 14th, 2009, 06:05 AM

ghall it's been a while since I've seen you around the forum... My heart broke for you when I read your post. You have 3 beautiful kids and I remember the photo of you and your hubby and the 3 kids and I thought, wow you all look so happy. So you can imagine how shocked I was when I read your post.

I don't know what to say... wish I could give you a hug. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. Him not admitting to his infidelity must also hurt. You have 3 young kids and I am sure that must make things so much harder. Do you have anyone that you can talk to this about? Your parents perhaps?

Again I really do not know what to say, this is so hard. PM if you ever need to chat. Will be checking back for updates.

PS: should you perhaps remove your avatar pic, just in case your husband sees it?

ghall · Oct 14th, 2009, 02:19 PM

thank you so much for all of your support and advice.
i definately know i want to leave. and the main thing now is finding a job. saving up. and following thru. i need to make 100% sure i'm financially secure and can handle things on my own. i'm just depressed about how long this might actually take.
i've sent out my resume to at least 20 places a week without a single call back.

bagnshoofetish · Oct 14th, 2009, 05:00 PM

Originally Posted by ghall

i'm just depressed about how long this might actually take.

its gonna be stressful thats for sure. if you can at all, take some time out to exercise. it will help you release a lot of tension. I always recommend kickboxing or just walking really fast on a treadmill. gets out a lot of frustration too.

Rockysmom · Oct 14th, 2009, 05:13 PM

If I were in your shoes I would get some counseling before making any drastic changes.

AngelBABY84 · Oct 14th, 2009, 06:38 PM

Alot of good advice has been given already, just think things through before making any huge decisions, best of luck!!

olialm1 · Oct 14th, 2009, 06:40 PM

I think you know what needs to be done

There comes a point when you need to put yourself first. You can only stay together for the kids for so long. It's so obvious from what you've written that you need to get out and be free! I wish you and your children the best.

Oct 14th, 2009, 01:23 AM	#32
jackie100 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 754	If he's browsing CL erotic section he is cheating and hooking up with these women in person, especially if he is getting it once a month. Men need sex more often then that. Men usually don't browse the CL section there for fun, its to meet up with people. There's tons and tons of married men on there... He's probably been doing it all throughout the marriage. I would say get a skill or trade and then move on and leave him. You need to do it in order to be happy. Also, put a keylogger on his pc. I bet he has been going to lots of casual sex sites and maybe even escorts. I would stop having sex with him period because he might be exposed to std's.
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Oct 14th, 2009, 06:05 AM	#33
kavnadoo Member Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 6,421	ghall it's been a while since I've seen you around the forum... My heart broke for you when I read your post. You have 3 beautiful kids and I remember the photo of you and your hubby and the 3 kids and I thought, wow you all look so happy. So you can imagine how shocked I was when I read your post. I don't know what to say... wish I could give you a hug. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. Him not admitting to his infidelity must also hurt. You have 3 young kids and I am sure that must make things so much harder. Do you have anyone that you can talk to this about? Your parents perhaps? Again I really do not know what to say, this is so hard. PM if you ever need to chat. Will be checking back for updates. PS: should you perhaps remove your avatar pic, just in case your husband sees it?
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Oct 14th, 2009, 02:19 PM	#34
ghall OP IWANNABUYSTUFF! Joined: Feb 2008 Location: Flatsville Posts: 1,055	thank you so much for all of your support and advice. i definately know i want to leave. and the main thing now is finding a job. saving up. and following thru. i need to make 100% sure i'm financially secure and can handle things on my own. i'm just depressed about how long this might actually take. i've sent out my resume to at least 20 places a week without a single call back.
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Oct 14th, 2009, 05:13 PM	#36
Rockysmom Member Joined: May 2008 Posts: 941	If I were in your shoes I would get some counseling before making any drastic changes.
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Oct 14th, 2009, 06:38 PM	#37
AngelBABY84 Can't get over LV... Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,705	Alot of good advice has been given already, just think things through before making any huge decisions, best of luck!!
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Oct 13th, 2009, 10:42 PM	#31
pisdapisda79 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,617	I think you deserve to be happy & love ther person you are married to. Try to find work so that you can support yourself & your children. Ultimately your children will sense you are unhappy once they get older so staying with your husband just to stay isin't the right thing to do.Have you tried going to counselling? Good luck

Oct 14th, 2009, 06:40 PM	#38
olialm1 windy city Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,550	I think you know what needs to be done There comes a point when you need to put yourself first. You can only stay together for the kids for so long. It's so obvious from what you've written that you need to get out and be free! I wish you and your children the best.
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