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[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by MarieG

Yup- definitely!! Just like you said: the discussions might be different but they talk just as much- quite a few of my guy friends have confirmed this, too! I also think that guys (on average- not everyone) are a bit less critical with their good guy friends and some of their stories. If a girlfriend of mine would tell me about something mean she pulled with a guy I'd def tell her my honest, critical opinion while guys seem to like to stay out of it and just i.e. laugh. I've definitely been a witness of that kind of behavior before!

I agree with that. I think they are more likely to just stay out of it and not have much to say if they don't agree with what their buddy is doing.

[MarieG]

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

MarieG, I am glad you're staying strong and ignoring the guy. But I have to say a part of me is happy he reached out to you... you know why? Because he realized he was being a jerk and quite possibly lost somebody as great as you. Hehe... sweet revenge

To be honest: me, too! I feel like I am back in control now and am also glad he seems to be regretting what he has done. Tough luck for him though!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by MarieG

Mellecyn, I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing and would not eliminate the other options yet. I personally could not sleep with multiple guys at the same time but I don't see anything wrong with dating a few guys at the same time until a deeper connection and level of commitment develops with one of them. My guy was the sweetest, most caring and kind guy in the world for 4 weeks and you see how that changed... I think you and I both have a similar relationship backgrounds and, before my recent experiences, I would have NEVER been ok with dating multiple guys at once and would have felt awful doing it but now I think it's a different game so I think it's ok until things develop... Hope that helps

same here, while I may talk to a few guys at once I'll only be sleeping with one if any at all.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by lostnexposed

I do the same thing too! My friends say its bad cause that way I'll always be thinking "Coulda, shoulda, woulda" but I kinda look at it as a form of protection for myself.

I will let the guy know how I feel somewhat before I back off just to make sure i;m right about what's going on.

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

same here, while I may talk to a few guys at once I'll only be sleeping with one if any at all.

I'm the same. I don't see how guys sleep with multiple women. That's just ...ewwwww.....

[bellapsyd]

here's to hoping we have a great weekend comin up...and the men don't ruin it

[fabgrabs]

Feeling really alone tonight. I'm tired of feeling so lonely. I want to just give up and not care anymore, but I don't know how.

[mellecyn]

For now it´s just dating, a bit of kissing. I´ll sleep with a guy once I ´ve made my mind up and we are exclusive and there are no other guys in the picture.(Eventhough I am dying for a bit of action lol).
1 guy can´t make it until next week for our first date, he was so sorry poor guy.....which let the other one take even more lead (he texts me good night everyday...sweet, but intense ? He either really wants a relationship badly, or is just that way in general).
Guy 4 I haven´t met yet and really am unfortunately too excited to meet. (my friend is setting us up)Well turns out he´s seing someone at the moment, it´s not serious since he wants to meet me.....BUT I don´t know what to think about the situation, it´s not cool if he´s playing the field that way and that girl thinks they are exclusive whereas not ? They are not simply going on dates, they are spending a lot of time together, I don´t know if I should pretend I don´t know anything (yet). They might just be having fun together -they met for s*x right away-, he might just be having fun in general and I am attractive and he can´t pass up an "easy" opportunity..........or according to my friend, he´s a good guy, just waiting for a good and better match !?
Anyways, thanks to this thread, I am taking it easy, I am not jumping on conclusions and actions and plotting too fast.....I just say "why not" and "let´s see".

[Kansashalo]

Originally Posted by bellapsyd

here's to hoping we have a great weekend comin up...and the men don't ruin it

I concur!

Originally Posted by fabgrabs

Feeling really alone tonight. I'm tired of feeling so lonely. I want to just give up and not care anymore, but I don't know how.

I know this may sound shallow, but I stopped "caring" by shifting the focus on ME. I changed my haircolor (something I'd always wanted to do), treated myself to new make-up/mani/pedi, new handbag and I even bought myself a small piece of jewelry to remind myself that I should always be #1 in my life (because sometimes we can get soooooo focused on finding someone else to make us #1 is their life, that we loose sight of how truly fabulous we are!).

HTH!


and on another note.....i was the victum of "drunk texting" (the 2009 version of drunk dialing lol) last night. I received a text from the army guy that I posted about a few weeks ago (the one that got made because I wouldn't hook up with him). When I checked my phone, I had two text msg from him at about 3am! One saying "I'm sorry" and then another saying "I love you". HUH????? I'm not mad or anything - even after the earlier episode where I had to hang up on him. He's had 2 tours in Iraq so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, because I'm sure that has a lot to do with his weird behavior. I dunno....

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

I concur! I know this may sound shallow, but I stopped "caring" by shifting the focus on ME. I changed my haircolor (something I'd always wanted to do), treated myself to new make-up/mani/pedi, new handbag and I even bought myself a small piece of jewelry to remind myself that I should always be #1 in my life (because sometimes we can get soooooo focused on finding someone else to make us #1 is their life, that we loose sight of how truly fabulous we are!). HTH! and on another note.....i was the victum of "drunk texting" (the 2009 version of drunk dialing lol) last night. I received a text from the army guy that I posted about a few weeks ago (the one that got made because I wouldn't hook up with him). When I checked my phone, I had two text msg from him at about 3am! One saying "I'm sorry" and then another saying "I love you". HUH????? I'm not mad or anything - even after the earlier episode where I had to hang up on him. He's had 2 tours in Iraq so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, because I'm sure that has a lot to do with his weird behavior. I dunno....

I don't remember the full story behind that guy but wow 3am txts how annoying!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Zophie

I'm the same. I don't see how guys sleep with multiple women. That's just ...ewwwww.....

Yeah I couldn't do it, I think its super gross Lol

[Jahpson]

Visiting my hometown to see some old friends of mind. I caught up with an old ex and made some major mistakes and I'm now a mess because of it.

im just so mad at myself and can't stop crying

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

Visiting my hometown to see some old friends of mind. I caught up with an old ex and made some major mistakes and I'm now a mess because of it. im just so mad at myself and can't stop crying

don't beat yourself up about it! Maybe it was just what you needed for the moment!

[Jahpson]

thats the thing, it shouldn't have happened.

I hate myself for being desperate..i was just looking for love.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

thats the thing, it shouldn't have happened. I hate myself for being desperate..i was just looking for love.

don't worry yourself about it too much, we all do things we regret. It happened and its over now, feel better