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mellecyn · Mar 24th, 2009, 09:07 AM

Hollywood : I think you are young for dating websites, but you should try anyways it´s a good way to get out of your usual social circle, maybe you´ll find a young entrepreneur ??!! Or maybe someone out of college at least ! Just be extra aware.

RedApple : LOL ! good you´re being so open about it, maybe try a bigger city (at least on the week ends

)??!

Fab : you must give out a great vibe of confident and carefree attitude. Let us know how it develops with the guy your brother introduced you to. But if you´re looking for a "good time" only, the idea of a cop is quite hmmmm, men in uniforms !

Nothing really new with me, been abroad for a few days and it was refreshing and nice to see men checking me out !!
I just want to ask for your opinion : my FWB is silent. It´s usually up to me to propose our dates (usually every 1 or 2 week ends), but last time I did (1 week 1/2 ago) he was away for the week end so couldn´t. First time he couldn´t, and since haven´t heard anything, So I won´t contact him anymore.... I think it´s dying off but I wished I was the one cutting it. ....Geez why can´t I ever let go of people first ???

~Fabulousity~ · Mar 24th, 2009, 11:03 AM

^^^ How unfortunate, maybe because you two were just FWB he's found someone else that he's seeing and has become her "friend" and is giving those benefits to her.

HappyGrl2008 · Mar 24th, 2009, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by mellecyn

I just want to ask for your opinion : my FWB is silent. It´s usually up to me to propose our dates (usually every 1 or 2 week ends), but last time I did (1 week 1/2 ago) he was away for the week end so couldn´t. First time he couldn´t, and since haven´t heard anything, So I won´t contact him anymore.... I think it´s dying off but I wished I was the one cutting it. ....Geez why can´t I ever let go of people first ???

Couldn't it be that he's waiting for you to contact him again? Since you're always the one who does that...does it matter if you would have to contact him again? At least then you'll have your answer for sure...

mellecyn · Mar 24th, 2009, 04:05 PM

^yeah but it´s a strange situation, I was the one contacting him for the next "meeting up" bc we dated for 4 months and he broke up with me, I wasn´t in love with him, but I needed love, but he didn´t know that .
So he has had feelings of guilt in "using" me for sex, wouldn´t realize I am fine ! I never told him I didn´t care and wasn´t expecting more, even if I was really making sure to show it.
Maybe he has found someone, or maybe it´s just time to move on anyways !
But what to do when you´re feeling *...* but don´t want a 1 night stand with a stranger ??? (and he was good, in fact we were both the best we ever had to each other lol, what a chemistry on that level !!!)

HappyGrl2008 · Mar 24th, 2009, 04:44 PM

I know this doesn't really belong here but I don't want to start a new thread...this ex-boyfriend of mine (wasn't really a boyfriend, more of a... ahem...very close friend...and we never really broke up...long story) had his b-day last week. Of course I congratulated him through e-mail...I doubted for a while if I should, cause well...he hardly ever replies to e-mail. Anyway, I didn't hear from him but just now I see that he's been thanking everyone on his facebook personally...but not me...

It makes me so sad. I really loved this guy (not romantically [ok, a little bit] - but as a person)...but it seems like he has become someone else. It's just hard for me to accept that. I know I sound dramatic but he is the reason that I can't ever see myself getting close with a guy again...I feel somewhat used by him...he had always been so sweet for me and from one day to the next he ignores me without a reason. It hurts so much...he's 34, you would think he's mature enough to have some decency.

sorry for venting..I know I should just let it go...I guess I'm a little sensitive when it comes to these things...I wish I knew what I did wrong in his eyes...or maybe he just forgot about me...either way it makes me sad.

mellecyn · Mar 24th, 2009, 04:56 PM

^Do you mean he was really sweet, you got intimate, and then...personality transplant ? gone ?
Why don´t you ask him directly if you don´t understand ? You have nothing to lose here, just clear your mind. (and there is no general age for maturity from men, some are, some will never be)

jennalovesbags · Mar 24th, 2009, 05:14 PM

I'm a full time grad student, work a bit at the university and am 23. I've been single pretty much my entire "dating life," and overall I'm pretty okay with it. I mean, at this point I barely have time for myself, but it would be nice to have a casual relationship. I'm not into the bar scene though... guess I had better spend more time by the med center at the Uni where all the doctors are

HappyGrl2008 · Mar 24th, 2009, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by mellecyn

^Do you mean he was really sweet, you got intimate, and then...personality transplant ? gone ?
Why don´t you ask him directly if you don´t understand ? You have nothing to lose here, just clear your mind. (and there is no general age for maturity from men, some are, some will never be)

yeah, something like that...we were good friends...and we both knew it would not be more like that (due to circumstances). But I was OK with that...if it were me we would be friends for life, but he makes that very hard for me this way.

Maybe I will send him a message next week or so...to ask him what's up. I just don't want to come accross as annoying...

How big are the odds that he was only nice to me to use me for sex? He really didn't seem to be that type of person...it just wouldn't make any sense to me...if he did then it's the biggest mistake of my life.

amymaria · Mar 25th, 2009, 12:27 AM

Originally Posted by sheishollywood

HI Ladies! Glad there is a fresh new thread opened! I haven't been involved with tPF for the last couple of weeks. Have been very busy with work and such... so I haven't had the time. But finally looking to reconnect with all of you.

So, for those who just recently joined this thread... I've dabbled in and out of here for awhile... I've been "single" for about a year but have dated in semi-committed relationships for a couple of months here and there. I'm back to being 100% single... I work a lot. I'm only 20 going on 21 but have began my "career" at 17 after graduating high school while going to post secondary. So although I am in a semi-senior role and have more responsibility than a lot of professionals my age... I find myself in a problem. I have moved back home about a year ago to save up for a condo. Although, I make good money, in my market I do not qualify for a mortgage for at least another year and a half. So I'm in this weird limbo where I live at home but from 9-5, I'm this... business woman. I kind of feel embarrassed and try not to date because men that I am more attracted to have somewhat their sh*t together. I think I almost use that as an excuse to not even consider dating. "I have to wait until I have my own place" or "I'm too busy working+building my dream to think of dating"... which now I feel is wrong because I really won't get anywhere with that outlook.

A lot of my friends are still in school and many of the guys I meet through them, although I may like them, are intimidated that I've finished school and have a career at such a young age... so now I am proposing the question - ONLINE dating. For a 20 year old in limbo... would you do it?

While I'm not in your situation precisely, I know exactly how you feel about it. I too have the same outlook in life and I'm a bit older (24) but have always had the "older" mentality. I resented younger men who were into partying and basically all normal things people would do in their 20's. I am also saving for a home on my own and I can understand how you feel apprehensive about dating. I date older men (30's) and it would be fairly uncomfortable for them to visit me. SO...yes I do put off dating sometimes. Or I have in the past.

I found it hard to meet people I could connect with, same problem with you - liking them as people but lacking any real chemistry beyond that. I signed up for online dating and I'm seeing a guy though I still consider myself somewhat single. I don't think you're too young for online dating but keep in mind that it's not the only form of dating. It's pretty fun to meet people this way - and despite how you feel about living at home remember that it's pretty normal still for young women to be in that situation. As long as you have a goal in mind and you're actively working towards it there is no real shame in it.

lv_forever · Mar 25th, 2009, 06:06 AM

Well girls, here I am again!
I was in Single's Community a few months back, just when my ex boyfriend and I were getting together. We just broke up tonight. Back to the dating game!

~Fabulousity~ · Mar 25th, 2009, 08:42 AM

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

I know this doesn't really belong here but I don't want to start a new thread...this ex-boyfriend of mine (wasn't really a boyfriend, more of a... ahem...very close friend...and we never really broke up...long story) had his b-day last week. Of course I congratulated him through e-mail...I doubted for a while if I should, cause well...he hardly ever replies to e-mail. Anyway, I didn't hear from him but just now I see that he's been thanking everyone on his facebook personally...but not me...

It makes me so sad. I really loved this guy (not romantically [ok, a little bit] - but as a person)...but it seems like he has become someone else. It's just hard for me to accept that. I know I sound dramatic but he is the reason that I can't ever see myself getting close with a guy again...I feel somewhat used by him...he had always been so sweet for me and from one day to the next he ignores me without a reason. It hurts so much...he's 34, you would think he's mature enough to have some decency.

sorry for venting..I know I should just let it go...I guess I'm a little sensitive when it comes to these things...I wish I knew what I did wrong in his eyes...or maybe he just forgot about me...either way it makes me sad.

Awww sweetie don't worry about it to much

~Fabulousity~ · Mar 25th, 2009, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by lv_forever

Well girls, here I am again!
I was in Single's Community a few months back, just when my ex boyfriend and I were getting together. We just broke up tonight. Back to the dating game!

Well you've broken up but at least you don't sound sad and depressed!

lv_forever · Mar 25th, 2009, 08:54 AM

I am sad, but not depressed. Honestly I am still in shock. The next few days will no doubt be hell. There were no warning signs really. Just out of the blue. He said he had been thinking about it for a while, like he knew we had been dating for a while so it was either taking it to the next step or ending it. He chose to end it.

HappyGrl2008 · Mar 25th, 2009, 10:33 AM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

Awww sweetie don't worry about it to much

Thanks Fab! He's out of my system most of the time. Every now and then he pops up...that sucks!

If you think of it...some men have this magic, superman kind of power: they become invisible after they have sex......! I wish I could do that!

HappyGrl2008 · Mar 25th, 2009, 10:37 AM

Originally Posted by lv_forever

Well girls, here I am again!
I was in Single's Community a few months back, just when my ex boyfriend and I were getting together. We just broke up tonight. Back to the dating game!

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup lv_forever. I read about it in the other thread. I don't understand why men never share their thoughts...and then they drop a bomb on you out of the blue. Someone should teach them how to c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-e-

take your time to heal!

Mar 24th, 2009, 09:07 AM	#31
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,093	Hollywood : I think you are young for dating websites, but you should try anyways it´s a good way to get out of your usual social circle, maybe you´ll find a young entrepreneur ??!! Or maybe someone out of college at least ! Just be extra aware. RedApple : LOL ! good you´re being so open about it, maybe try a bigger city (at least on the week ends )??! Fab : you must give out a great vibe of confident and carefree attitude. Let us know how it develops with the guy your brother introduced you to. But if you´re looking for a "good time" only, the idea of a cop is quite hmmmm, men in uniforms ! Nothing really new with me, been abroad for a few days and it was refreshing and nice to see men checking me out !! I just want to ask for your opinion : my FWB is silent. It´s usually up to me to propose our dates (usually every 1 or 2 week ends), but last time I did (1 week 1/2 ago) he was away for the week end so couldn´t. First time he couldn´t, and since haven´t heard anything, So I won´t contact him anymore.... I think it´s dying off but I wished I was the one cutting it. ....Geez why can´t I ever let go of people first ???
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt Last edited by mellecyn; Mar 24th, 2009 at 09:19 AM.

Mar 24th, 2009, 11:03 AM	#32
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,791	^^^ How unfortunate, maybe because you two were just FWB he's found someone else that he's seeing and has become her "friend" and is giving those benefits to her.
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,791

Mar 24th, 2009, 04:05 PM	#34
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,093	^yeah but it´s a strange situation, I was the one contacting him for the next "meeting up" bc we dated for 4 months and he broke up with me, I wasn´t in love with him, but I needed love, but he didn´t know that . So he has had feelings of guilt in "using" me for sex, wouldn´t realize I am fine ! I never told him I didn´t care and wasn´t expecting more, even if I was really making sure to show it. Maybe he has found someone, or maybe it´s just time to move on anyways ! But what to do when you´re feeling ... but don´t want a 1 night stand with a stranger ??? (and he was good, in fact we were both the best we ever had to each other lol, what a chemistry on that level !!!)
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt

Mar 24th, 2009, 04:44 PM	#35
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 261	I know this doesn't really belong here but I don't want to start a new thread...this ex-boyfriend of mine (wasn't really a boyfriend, more of a... ahem...very close friend...and we never really broke up...long story) had his b-day last week. Of course I congratulated him through e-mail...I doubted for a while if I should, cause well...he hardly ever replies to e-mail. Anyway, I didn't hear from him but just now I see that he's been thanking everyone on his facebook personally...but not me... It makes me so sad. I really loved this guy (not romantically [ok, a little bit] - but as a person)...but it seems like he has become someone else. It's just hard for me to accept that. I know I sound dramatic but he is the reason that I can't ever see myself getting close with a guy again...I feel somewhat used by him...he had always been so sweet for me and from one day to the next he ignores me without a reason. It hurts so much...he's 34, you would think he's mature enough to have some decency. sorry for venting..I know I should just let it go...I guess I'm a little sensitive when it comes to these things...I wish I knew what I did wrong in his eyes...or maybe he just forgot about me...either way it makes me sad.
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 261

Mar 24th, 2009, 04:56 PM	#36
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,093	^Do you mean he was really sweet, you got intimate, and then...personality transplant ? gone ? Why don´t you ask him directly if you don´t understand ? You have nothing to lose here, just clear your mind. (and there is no general age for maturity from men, some are, some will never be)
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt

Mar 24th, 2009, 05:14 PM	#37
jennalovesbags Member Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Yankees Universe Posts: 1,841	I'm a full time grad student, work a bit at the university and am 23. I've been single pretty much my entire "dating life," and overall I'm pretty okay with it. I mean, at this point I barely have time for myself, but it would be nice to have a casual relationship. I'm not into the bar scene though... guess I had better spend more time by the med center at the Uni where all the doctors are
	__________________ My slowly growing collection Photos (updated 09/16/09) http://forum.purseblog.com/album.php?u=173241 (no boutique, outlet, ebay or bonanzle) until I graduate with my masters on 5/15/10 OR a job! Wishing for the new owl fob

Mar 25th, 2009, 06:06 AM	#40
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,053	Well girls, here I am again! I was in Single's Community a few months back, just when my ex boyfriend and I were getting together. We just broke up tonight. Back to the dating game!
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,053

Mar 25th, 2009, 08:54 AM	#43
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,053	I am sad, but not depressed. Honestly I am still in shock. The next few days will no doubt be hell. There were no warning signs really. Just out of the blue. He said he had been thinking about it for a while, like he knew we had been dating for a while so it was either taking it to the next step or ending it. He chose to end it.
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,053

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