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[ima_ailurophile]

Originally Posted by lunatwinkle

^^ Hugs ima_ailurophile! Don't worry, it just takes time.

Thanks, lunatwinkle . I think my time has passed though LOL.

[annaversary]

Originally Posted by lunatwinkle

I just got out of a 4-year relationship in January. It was tough, but I needed to get out of it. We had gotten too comfortable with each other that I was in denial about all the negative aspects of our relationship. I didn't realize until recently how damaging it was to my self-confidence. I finally accepted that we want difference things (I really should have accepted that a year ago, but no girl wants to admit that she was stupid to stay in a bad relationship.). We're still friends and talk once or twice a month. I don't know if I'm ready to jump back on the dating bandwagon just yet. I'm trying to re-empower myself and just enjoy my singlehood. It's been a really long time since I've been single and had the opportunity to be a little selfish and not have to worry about another person. Hope that didn't come off cruel-hearted. I'm just concentrating on me right now. But I'm loving hearing about all your other dating stories ladies!

HAYYYY N!

Nice to see you over here @ the Single's Community

I bolded all of the above in your post that I related to. And speaking of not been single for a while, I finally hit my ONE MONTH of being single and haven't gone on any dates or been talking to anyone (I can't believe Mr. New Years was a month ago.. .) anyways --> I hope I continue, lol.

[juneping]

Originally Posted by ima_ailurophile

I've been single for 18 years and it saucks. That about sums it up for me.

It will come
I got my first bf when I was 18. And then the dry spell didn't end until last October - I am turning 38 in a few weeks.

[Zophie]

^^^

Shoot, I might be single for the NEXT 18 years at the rate I'm going.

I went to a car show with my dad today. Good place to meet guys you'd think, but no such luck. I went to the bathroom and came out and my dad was talking to a guy he had known from way back. My dad introduced me as his daughter and the guy goes, "Oh, I was thinking, wow, that's your wife!" Hahahahaa! My dad couldn't stop talking about it all day. We did go to dinner and had a cute waiter though. Kinda young, but still adorable.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by lostnexposed

Fab, u have such awesome stories! Hopefully the hot officer asks u out. Do u think that maybe he's interested in you but mentioned his coworker just to test the waters? Have u noticed the coworker checking u out or anything?

thanks

I thought he liked me too since he always smiles and blushes at me, but the other officers are always smiling and all that as well

I just figure that they probably do that to all the pretty women they see walk by. But the one who told me about the "other" guy definitely seemed to be just as interested in me as I was him. IDK...maybe he thinks i'm cute but is married or something.

[~Fabulousity~]

Here's an update~

The new guy who my brother introduced me to came over yesterday and painted for me like he said he would. I cooked dinner and he and I sat ate dinner and talked. He seems like a really nice guy and I think he's sincere for the most part. He told me that his focus is on me, and he's not interested in persuing anything else. I told him that I like him too, but that we should get to know each other a bit better before we start talking like that, and that maybe I can take what he's saying seriously about 3 months from now.

I reminded him that we've only known each other a week and that he may see something else he likes he just doesnt know it yet. To which he responded "its been a little more than a week, and you may be the one who sees something else you like, I already see what I like". I responded "well maybe I will maybe I won't only time will tell, but like I said lets see if you feel this way 3 months from now". Then he started asking me things like do you believe in love at first sight? And was telling me he understands why I have a wall up but he's not going anywhere he's gonna do whatever it takes to get close to me"

I don't know I feel like he's laying it on kinda thick pretty early???? Maybe he just wants to get in my pants??

[aklein]

^^ Haha, Fab. It may be that he is just trying to get in your pants, but I don't know too many guys that would help with painting just to get laid. Although, it isn't outside the realm of possibility. I say keep it slow and the 3 month rule is a good idea. If he is one of those guys that falls hard and fast, he might have moved on in three months.

I still don't have anything to report. No progress with last Sunday's delayed date guy. I did call him on Thursday and left a voicemail telling him that I had a nice time and hoped to hear from him again. He didn't call back. So, I guess I know what the means. I do have some girl friends that are putting some effort into setting me up with friends of theirs. So I may have a few more dates to look forward to when I get back to NO. I'm on spring break at my parent's in Philadelphia. I was home for my (younger) sister's bridal shower.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by aklein

^^ Haha, Fab. It may be that he is just trying to get in your pants, but I don't know too many guys that would help with painting just to get laid. Although, it isn't outside the realm of possibility. I say keep it slow and the 3 month rule is a good idea. If he is one of those guys that falls hard and fast, he might have moved on in three months. I still don't have anything to report. No progress with last Sunday's delayed date guy. I did call him on Thursday and left a voicemail telling him that I had a nice time and hoped to hear from him again. He didn't call back. So, I guess I know what the means. I do have some girl friends that are putting some effort into setting me up with friends of theirs. So I may have a few more dates to look forward to when I get back to NO. I'm on spring break at my parent's in Philadelphia. I was home for my (younger) sister's bridal shower.

Have you spoken with him since the date?

[aklein]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

Have you spoken with him since the date?

Nope. I called left a voicemail, he hasn't called back.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by aklein

Nope. I called left a voicemail, he hasn't called back.

Wow...that's odd. Oh well the balls in his court now, don't worry about it

[aklein]

Thanks, fab! I kinda thought so too. I guess the date didn't go as well as I thought it did. I am not too worried about it. I am definitely keeping my options open.

[kissmyace108]

Well I've been following this thread for a little over a month but hadn't posted yet because I didn't truly "feel" single yet. I broke up with my first serious boyfriend of 4.5 yrs on February 5th because I wasn't sure what I wanted, if he was "the one", etc. No contact for a week, but then I felt weak, we started talking again. About 2 weeks ago I said I'd give him another chance and have regretted it since, felt suffocated...I re-ended it today and I don't think he'll be coming back for more, he looked and sounded even more devastated. It kills me because he loves me so much, unconditionally actually, but he doesn't love me the way I want him to and I don't feel like long-term he is the one, so I don't want to string him along further after all these yrs already.

Didn't mean for this to get so long! All I'm saying is I will now be single for the first time ever, im 19 and have been with him forever, so I'll be checking in and looking for tips!

[RedApple99]

Well,
On one hand a golden carriage comes to everyone, but not all enter. On the other hand, you are so young. Imagine 10 yrs down the line one of u thinks...hell I have never seen anything outside this relationship.... that’s when it gets nasty, so give it some time. If he loves u so much, it’s not going to change in a few months.

As for me, single and loving it, apart from wanting no strains attached sex , but have built such a reputation its no way to have. Unlucky as I am, where I live you cannot meet much people that will just disappear from your life, small town you know the story.
So horny….

[sheishollywood]

HI Ladies! Glad there is a fresh new thread opened! I haven't been involved with tPF for the last couple of weeks. Have been very busy with work and such... so I haven't had the time. But finally looking to reconnect with all of you.

So, for those who just recently joined this thread... I've dabbled in and out of here for awhile... I've been "single" for about a year but have dated in semi-committed relationships for a couple of months here and there. I'm back to being 100% single... I work a lot. I'm only 20 going on 21 but have began my "career" at 17 after graduating high school while going to post secondary. So although I am in a semi-senior role and have more responsibility than a lot of professionals my age... I find myself in a problem. I have moved back home about a year ago to save up for a condo. Although, I make good money, in my market I do not qualify for a mortgage for at least another year and a half. So I'm in this weird limbo where I live at home but from 9-5, I'm this... business woman. I kind of feel embarrassed and try not to date because men that I am more attracted to have somewhat their sh*t together. I think I almost use that as an excuse to not even consider dating. "I have to wait until I have my own place" or "I'm too busy working+building my dream to think of dating"... which now I feel is wrong because I really won't get anywhere with that outlook.

A lot of my friends are still in school and many of the guys I meet through them, although I may like them, are intimidated that I've finished school and have a career at such a young age... so now I am proposing the question - ONLINE dating. For a 20 year old in limbo... would you do it?

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by RedApple99

Well, On one hand a golden carriage comes to everyone, but not all enter. On the other hand, you are so young. Imagine 10 yrs down the line one of u thinks...hell I have never seen anything outside this relationship.... that’s when it gets nasty, so give it some time. If he loves u so much, it’s not going to change in a few months. As for me, single and loving it, apart from wanting no strains attached sex , but have built such a reputation its no way to have. Unlucky as I am, where I live you cannot meet much people that will just disappear from your life, small town you know the story. So horny….