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Zophie · Mar 31st, 2009, 01:09 AM

Originally Posted by lostnexposed

me too. i need to do something daring by this weekend...or....well..what's my punishment? LOL!

hmmm, what would be a suitable punishment? Maybe we should start some kind of dare club for the single people, like you have to do something out of your comfort zone at least once a week.

lv_forever · Mar 31st, 2009, 02:41 AM

I am kind of getting tired of this rebound scene already.
I kind of miss my ex too, and then I get mad at myself for feeling that way. Oh I miss cuddling the most!

I do have 2 dates set up this week... One is a drink after work and the other is a movie date.
I am going to a party on Wednesday... there should be more prospects there.
Wish me luck.

mellecyn · Mar 31st, 2009, 05:36 AM

^No punishment for the "daring", The sense of self pride and impressing us should be enough motivation and if you don´t do it, just think of the disapointement you caused in us lol

It´s not like a competition, just a way to get out of a root with ourselves. Encouraging, that´s all we need to do !!!

Zophie, I am SO excited, first time I see something happening here thanks (a bit) to our "push" lol. Yes if he left his number, he was prob. hoping for you to call, but since he already proposed a date....then, just respond, don´t let him do all the work.

LVForever : Have fun and enjoy your time !! And I can´t believe how many dates you´ve got (I certainly couldn´t deal with that) ! Helloooooo, everybody know I am single by now (after 1 year1/2)....anyone ?

Prayes : Just talk to your crush IRL, no facebook.....

My dating sites stories....can you believe that on the regular website, almost no one contacts me, and on the elitist one (beautifulpeople) I get like 10 messages a day ??!!!!! I don´t get it, and that simply reflects the torments of my everyday life...............
In fact I think I can answer my own question : I am from a different country, and my profile is in english and even if everybody is fluent in english overhere I am still not a "homie". Whereas on the other one the motives might be slightly different....and language doesn´t matter.

Prayes · Mar 31st, 2009, 09:13 AM

mellecyn, that is really interesting about the two different dating websites. One of my friends who is on match, says she has gotten over 100 messages in the month that she has been on it, but pretty much all of them are just really sleazy off the bat, or are really pushy. That's good to hear beautifulpeople looks like it is working for you though!

Zophie · Mar 31st, 2009, 12:48 PM

mellecyn, that really is weird about the difference in the two sites. I didn't look at that beautifulpeople thing but I'm going to check it out.

Prayes, see your neighbor yet or chat?

Funny how it seems like no big deal and easy to tell other people oh, just go talk to the person, but when it's your own situation it is. I left FB guy a wall message late last night telling him to call me when he wants to go to lunch and now I'm feeling lame for doing that. I guess I'll wait and if I don't hear from him in a few days I'll get the nerve to call him.

Prayes · Mar 31st, 2009, 01:26 PM

No I haven't... we only run into each other once a month or so. If even. I mean I could just pace around the hallway a lot or try knocking on her door, but neither of those strikes me as good ideas, lol. So chatting her online seems like my best option, but I am always very hesitant to IM someone for the first time, even though it is a hell of a lot less nerve racking than calling someone for the first time. I feel incredibly lame for having to have to use the internet for this, her apartment is literally 10 yards down the hall, but I don't see any other options?

Anyway, that is a good idea Zoph - I'd wait until Thursday to call, that way you still have a shot at this weekend. And suggest grabbing a drink/coffee together to catch up. And make up something funny that you can say reminded you of him! like, your dog gnawing on your tax forms, or something.

And yes it is funny, but I think this positive encouragement is benefiting everyone!

Zophie · Mar 31st, 2009, 01:33 PM

Originally Posted by Prayes

No I haven't... we only run into each other once a month or so. If even. I mean I could just pace around the hallway a lot or try knocking on her door, but neither of those strikes me as good ideas, lol. So chatting her online seems like my best option, but I am always very hesitant to IM someone for the first time, even though it is a hell of a lot less nerve racking than calling someone for the first time. I feel incredibly lame for having to have to use the internet for this, her apartment is literally 10 yards down the hall, but I don't see any other options?

Anyway, that is a good idea Zoph - I'd wait until Thursday to call, that way you still have a shot at this weekend. And suggest grabbing a drink/coffee together to catch up. And make up something funny that you can say reminded you of him! like, your dog gnawing on your tax forms, or something.

And yes it is funny, but I think this positive encouragement is benefiting everyone!

Yes, coming on here for positive encouragement is great. I really don't talk about this stuff IRL much, just kind of keep my poise and don't let anyone know how I sooooo suck at dating. It's like I want to seem somewhat interested but not too interested and creepy or desperate and when I even halfway am interested in someone I get all nervous and insecure. What's funny is if I had made lunch plans with some guy I'm just not that into (which there seem to be so many) it would be a non-issue. We'd have lunch or we wouldn't, no biggie. And I don't even know this dude really yet I'm getting all worked up over a first impression he made on me over a year ago.

Prayes, I don't think it's bad to use the internet to try to chat with her. I have guys chat with me here and there on the net and I don't think much of it. Unless they IM you like every second or constantly come on saying how horny they are it's cool. Since she lives down the hall can you tell if she's attached?

lolitablue · Mar 31st, 2009, 02:04 PM

Hey, hey! I have something good to share. FINALLY, a cute guy showed up as a Match on the site so we have been talking on the phone, texting and we are meeting on Friday night for drinks. Totally within my comfort zone, very interested in knowing me throughout the convo and so shy! He is like 6'2" and I loved that he sounds like a huge guy but so shy. Me being the sassy girl, was all over that and we talked and laughed and shared a lot of stuff that we have in common.

I am excited and cannot wait to see how it goes. What I loved the most is that he calls when he says he would and we are talking again tonight. Just to chat since we already have the Friday plans out of the way. Cannot wait for our next chat session.

Stay tuned!!

Prayes · Mar 31st, 2009, 02:23 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

Yes, coming on here for positive encouragement is great. I really don't talk about this stuff IRL much, just kind of keep my poise and don't let anyone know how I sooooo suck at dating. It's like I want to seem somewhat interested but not too interested and creepy or desperate and when I even halfway am interested in someone I get all nervous and insecure. What's funny is if I had made lunch plans with some guy I'm just not that into (which there seem to be so many) it would be a non-issue. We'd have lunch or we wouldn't, no biggie. And I don't even know this dude really yet I'm getting all worked up over a first impression he made on me over a year ago.

Prayes, I don't think it's bad to use the internet to try to chat with her. I have guys chat with me here and there on the net and I don't think much of it. Unless they IM you like every second or constantly come on saying how horny they are it's cool. Since she lives down the hall can you tell if she's attached?

Is there anyone IRL that you would talk to about this stuff? I have 8 or 9 close friends, but there’s only one I discuss this stuff with.

Oh, and everything you said about getting nervous and insecure… I get the EXACT same way. The last time I ran into my neighbor, it was like 8 pm, and I ended up saying “have a good day!” Of course, immediately after, I was thinking to myself, have a good day? It’s been dark for an hour. What the hell were you thinking?? My brain just goes into freak out/I don’t even know mode. Ugh, how embarrassing… lol.

I have no idea if she is attached or not. I mean, it’s probably like you and your lawyer guy, in that I barely know anything about her. I’d be happy if we just ended up being friends. (One thing I don’t like about NYC is apartment neighbors don’t ever seem to know each other, it makes me miss college dorms where everyone has their door open and you’re friends with everyone.)

lolitablue · Mar 31st, 2009, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by Prayes

Is there anyone IRL that you would talk to about this stuff? I have 8 or 9 close friends, but there’s only one I discuss this stuff with.

Oh, and everything you said about getting nervous and insecure… I get the EXACT same way. The last time I ran into my neighbor, it was like 8 pm, and I ended up saying “have a good day!” Of course, immediately after, I was thinking to myself, have a good day? It’s been dark for an hour. What the hell were you thinking?? My brain just goes into freak out/I don’t even know mode. Ugh, how embarrassing… lol.

I have no idea if she is attached or not. I mean, it’s probably like you and your lawyer guy, in that I barely know anything about her. I’d be happy if we just ended up being friends. (One thing I don’t like about NYC is apartment neighbors don’t ever seem to know each other, it makes me miss college dorms where everyone has their door open and you’re friends with everyone.)

Hey, maybe you need to figure out a common interest and take it from there. One day when she is holding a bag or something, ask her about the food or the shop, something small. Pay attention to details.

Prayes · Mar 31st, 2009, 03:19 PM

Oh, we talk every time we bump into each other. The problem is that only happens once a blue moon. But ty, I will keep that in mind for next time!

Zophie · Mar 31st, 2009, 04:28 PM

Originally Posted by lolitablue

Hey, hey! I have something good to share. FINALLY, a cute guy showed up as a Match on the site so we have been talking on the phone, texting and we are meeting on Friday night for drinks. Totally within my comfort zone, very interested in knowing me throughout the convo and so shy! He is like 6'2" and I loved that he sounds like a huge guy but so shy. Me being the sassy girl, was all over that and we talked and laughed and shared a lot of stuff that we have in common.

I am excited and cannot wait to see how it goes. What I loved the most is that he calls when he says he would and we are talking again tonight. Just to chat since we already have the Friday plans out of the way. Cannot wait for our next chat session.

Stay tuned!!

That's great news! Keep us posted. Maybe things will start turning around for all of us.

Zophie · Mar 31st, 2009, 04:33 PM

oooh, I think FB guy called me and I missed the call.

Prayes · Mar 31st, 2009, 04:55 PM

lol! if you are still too nervous to call back on this one... something is definitely wrong with you... hah j/k... Way to go though! Sounds like you got this in the bag.

mellecyn · Mar 31st, 2009, 04:57 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

oooh, I think FB guy called me and I missed the call.

(I save the Happy Dance for when you WON´T miss the call !!)

I had a funny one on sunday...my phone rings, unknown number, and I am starting to get the butterflies thinking it´s the bartender....It´s was the bl**dy airport to tell me my next week flight was cancelled !!!!!!!!!!!!

Mar 31st, 2009, 02:41 AM	#197
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,055	I am kind of getting tired of this rebound scene already. I kind of miss my ex too, and then I get mad at myself for feeling that way. Oh I miss cuddling the most! I do have 2 dates set up this week... One is a drink after work and the other is a movie date. I am going to a party on Wednesday... there should be more prospects there. Wish me luck.
lv_forever Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,055

Mar 31st, 2009, 05:36 AM	#198
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,112	^No punishment for the "daring", The sense of self pride and impressing us should be enough motivation and if you don´t do it, just think of the disapointement you caused in us lol It´s not like a competition, just a way to get out of a root with ourselves. Encouraging, that´s all we need to do !!! Zophie, I am SO excited, first time I see something happening here thanks (a bit) to our "push" lol. Yes if he left his number, he was prob. hoping for you to call, but since he already proposed a date....then, just respond, don´t let him do all the work. LVForever : Have fun and enjoy your time !! And I can´t believe how many dates you´ve got (I certainly couldn´t deal with that) ! Helloooooo, everybody know I am single by now (after 1 year1/2)....anyone ? Prayes : Just talk to your crush IRL, no facebook..... My dating sites stories....can you believe that on the regular website, almost no one contacts me, and on the elitist one (beautifulpeople) I get like 10 messages a day ??!!!!! I don´t get it, and that simply reflects the torments of my everyday life............... In fact I think I can answer my own question : I am from a different country, and my profile is in english and even if everybody is fluent in english overhere I am still not a "homie". Whereas on the other one the motives might be slightly different....and language doesn´t matter.
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Mar 31st, 2009, 12:48 PM	#200
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	mellecyn, that really is weird about the difference in the two sites. I didn't look at that beautifulpeople thing but I'm going to check it out. Prayes, see your neighbor yet or chat? Funny how it seems like no big deal and easy to tell other people oh, just go talk to the person, but when it's your own situation it is. I left FB guy a wall message late last night telling him to call me when he wants to go to lunch and now I'm feeling lame for doing that. I guess I'll wait and if I don't hear from him in a few days I'll get the nerve to call him.
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Mar 31st, 2009, 02:04 PM	#203
lolitablue Looking for VPs!! Joined: Mar 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 3,766	Hey, hey! I have something good to share. FINALLY, a cute guy showed up as a Match on the site so we have been talking on the phone, texting and we are meeting on Friday night for drinks. Totally within my comfort zone, very interested in knowing me throughout the convo and so shy! He is like 6'2" and I loved that he sounds like a huge guy but so shy. Me being the sassy girl, was all over that and we talked and laughed and shared a lot of stuff that we have in common. I am excited and cannot wait to see how it goes. What I loved the most is that he calls when he says he would and we are talking again tonight. Just to chat since we already have the Friday plans out of the way. Cannot wait for our next chat session. Stay tuned!!
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Mar 31st, 2009, 04:33 PM	#208
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	oooh, I think FB guy called me and I missed the call.
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Mar 31st, 2009, 09:13 AM	#199
Prayes rawr! Joined: Nov 2008 Location: New York, NY Posts: 516	mellecyn, that is really interesting about the two different dating websites. One of my friends who is on match, says she has gotten over 100 messages in the month that she has been on it, but pretty much all of them are just really sleazy off the bat, or are really pushy. That's good to hear beautifulpeople looks like it is working for you though!

Mar 31st, 2009, 01:26 PM	#201
Prayes rawr! Joined: Nov 2008 Location: New York, NY Posts: 516	No I haven't... we only run into each other once a month or so. If even. I mean I could just pace around the hallway a lot or try knocking on her door, but neither of those strikes me as good ideas, lol. So chatting her online seems like my best option, but I am always very hesitant to IM someone for the first time, even though it is a hell of a lot less nerve racking than calling someone for the first time. I feel incredibly lame for having to have to use the internet for this, her apartment is literally 10 yards down the hall, but I don't see any other options? Anyway, that is a good idea Zoph - I'd wait until Thursday to call, that way you still have a shot at this weekend. And suggest grabbing a drink/coffee together to catch up. And make up something funny that you can say reminded you of him! like, your dog gnawing on your tax forms, or something. And yes it is funny, but I think this positive encouragement is benefiting everyone!

Mar 31st, 2009, 03:19 PM	#206
Prayes rawr! Joined: Nov 2008 Location: New York, NY Posts: 516	Oh, we talk every time we bump into each other. The problem is that only happens once a blue moon. But ty, I will keep that in mind for next time!

Mar 31st, 2009, 04:55 PM	#209
Prayes rawr! Joined: Nov 2008 Location: New York, NY Posts: 516	lol! if you are still too nervous to call back on this one... something is definitely wrong with you... hah j/k... Way to go though! Sounds like you got this in the bag.

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