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[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Zophie

yay, that's awesome! Mine wasn't accepted. :( I really wish I hadn't done that, although looking at how I did it it's not like I told him I think he's hot, I just asked if he was the same guy I'd met. I still feel like an idiot. Whenever I get even a slight hint of liking someone I just feel so stupid and insecure. I can't explain it, but it's like it makes me feel vulnerable and I don't like that feeling. It scares me. and mellycn, good for you for giving him your number! I couldn't have done that at all myself, no matter how much I drink. I'll just never be that forward. Look, I'm feeling like an idiot just for adding someone on facebook. I wish men didn't make me feel so insecure. I'm in my 30s and I'm still like a 15-year-old when it comes to relationships.

Just because he hasn't added you yet doesn't mean he won't! I know how you feel though it's tough. But hey at least you didnt send him some weird creepy message you were friendly and there's nothing wrong with that. You could have easily seen him as a friend of someone else so its not like you look like a stalker or anything like that. Cheer up and don't worry! Trust me its no big deal at all!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by lv_forever

^^Zophie, I've seen your photos and you are DEFINITELY hot. Some could be just intimidated and if you are not out there smiling and flirting they may just think you're not looking. When I am single I consciously try to flirt mercilessly. I don't care if it's a cashier or someone on the street, lol. I think of it as practice. And if they do ask me out as a result, I just tell them sorry, not looking for a date.

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

Just because he hasn't added you yet doesn't mean he won't! I know how you feel though it's tough. But hey at least you didnt send him some weird creepy message you were friendly and there's nothing wrong with that. You could have easily seen him as a friend of someone else so its not like you look like a stalker or anything like that. Cheer up and don't worry! Trust me its no big deal at all!

OMG, dude just added me and posted his phone # on my wall (which I guess he doesn't realize means he posted his phone number publicly on the internet)

[mellecyn]

Originally Posted by lv_forever;10392413[B

]^^Zophie, I've seen your photos and you are DEFINITELY hot. Some could be just intimidated and if you are not out there smiling and flirting they may just think you're not looking[/B]. When I am single I consciously try to flirt mercilessly. I don't care if it's a cashier or someone on the street, lol. I think of it as practice. And if they do ask me out as a result, I just tell them sorry, not looking for a date.

Totally agree !!! You´re stunnng !

OK, this might cause a bit of controversy but I have put a while ago a profile on a dating website....and honestly I am disapointed by the results. The guys who are half correct don´t even answer, all I get is the men who are 10-20 years older, fat and ugly.Not that the looks do all but I am only wishing for average here....So I was so down and fed up with this that I did another bold thing : I put a profile on "beautifulpeople" and I am watching the harsh judgement happening. It takes 3 days for members to vote you in or out (as in they accept you among them), it´s only day 1 and so far I am in.....But browsing at the profiles waow, what a change.....oh please let me in, fingers crossed lol.
I only put a photo of my face, no sort of body/bikini/cleavage image, that´s not me. Have you ever tried this ?

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by lv_forever

^^Zophie, I've seen your photos and you are DEFINITELY hot. Some could be just intimidated and if you are not out there smiling and flirting they may just think you're not looking. When I am single I consciously try to flirt mercilessly. I don't care if it's a cashier or someone on the street, lol. I think of it as practice. And if they do ask me out as a result, I just tell them sorry, not looking for a date.

Thanks, that's really sweet of you to say. I know I can sometimes be kind of cold/standoffish when it comes to men so maybe that's it. It's so hard to see how the outside world sees you and I can be really hard on myself. I've been trying to work on that but it's difficult.

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by mellecyn

Totally agree !!! You´re stunnng ! OK, this might cause a bit of controversy but I have put a while ago a profile on a dating website....and honestly I am disapointed by the results. The guys who are half correct don´t even answer, all I get is the men who are 10-20 years older, fat and ugly.Not that the looks do all but I am only wishing for average here....So I was so down and fed up with this that I did another bold thing : I put a profile on "beautifulpeople" and I am watching the harsh judgement happening. It takes 3 days for members to vote you in or out (as in they accept you among them), it´s only day 1 and so far I am in.....But browsing at the profiles waow, what a change.....oh please let me in, fingers crossed lol. I only put a photo of my face, no sort of body/bikini/cleavage image, that´s not me. Have you ever tried this ?

OMG you are bold! I could never do that and take the cricisim. I had a friend a while back that put my picture on "Hot or Not" and I actually was surprised that I got decent votes, but I think he also posted a link to a forum we were on and a lot of people voted for me. Anyway, I'm too chicken to ever do something like that. I'd never even heard of that site but I know what you mean about getting all the wrong guys and the 20 years olds. I actually thought about putting a profile on sugardaddie just cuz I was like feck it, at least they supposedly have some money, which means they have a job and aren't a crackhead like 99% of the dudes who hit on me. But I just couldn't do it.

[Prayes]

Originally Posted by Zophie

OMG, dude just added me and posted his phone # on my wall (which I guess he doesn't realize means he posted his phone number publicly on the internet)

WOW. That is just too awesome, haha! You have to call him now!! I am stuck staring at my neighbor's aim sn, wondering if i should IM her or not, haha.

ps. HotOrNot.com + Bon Jovi's "You Give Love a Bad Name" on repeat = a great way to spend an evening with some friends.

[Prayes]

Originally Posted by mellecyn

Totally agree !!! You´re stunnng ! OK, this might cause a bit of controversy but I have put a while ago a profile on a dating website....and honestly I am disapointed by the results. The guys who are half correct don´t even answer, all I get is the men who are 10-20 years older, fat and ugly.Not that the looks do all but I am only wishing for average here....So I was so down and fed up with this that I did another bold thing : I put a profile on "beautifulpeople" and I am watching the harsh judgement happening. It takes 3 days for members to vote you in or out (as in they accept you among them), it´s only day 1 and so far I am in.....But browsing at the profiles waow, what a change.....oh please let me in, fingers crossed lol. I only put a photo of my face, no sort of body/bikini/cleavage image, that´s not me. Have you ever tried this ?

Is that just a social networking site, like facebook or something? It looks cool though, hope you get in!

[mellecyn]

Originally Posted by Prayes

Is that just a social networking site, like facebook or something? It looks cool though, hope you get in!

Nah....a dating website, for pretty people, OMG that sounds so shallow but I got so tired of the local farmers I am sorry.....

Zophie : I missed your post earlier.....FANTASTIC !!! See !!! And he posted his phone number, that´s even more that we hoped for.
I think that´s how this singles community should be : dare and aspire each other to push destiny a little

[~Fabulousity~]

^^^Zophie I missed your post too! The fact that he not only added you but posted his number says a lot
told you you had nothing to worry about

[Liz_x3]

UGH!

I hate to say this but I am reaching the point where I just don't trust any guy at all!
I've recently began talking more to this particular guy and he's very good looking but also a little shy at first. I thought that he wasn't slutty at all (ie: doesn't sleep around like most guys in high school do) but today this other guy (that I know wouldn't mind messing around with me) told me that he's been with 20+ girls.... I've never heard of X being slutty before so I'm wondering if the other guy was just making it up.... I never know when to trust guys and when not to.

[Prayes]

He's in high school you say? If so... I would put my money on that 20+ figure being made up. That's just ridiculous. Is it possible he was just joking?

[Liz_x3]

Originally Posted by Prayes

He's in high school you say? If so... I would put my money on that 20+ figure being made up. That's just ridiculous. Is it possible he was just joking?

We're all in high school lol. It's such a wonderful place full of people who seem to love drama.

I want to say it's made up because everyone pretty much knows who's been with who and etc. but it could be that X is just very good at keeping his escapades on the downlow... I mean he IS really good looking not to mention his body...

I guess it's just hard to know what to believe and what not to believe. I want to take a chance and etc. but I am scared of getting hurt so I tend to take the stuff I hear about guys to heart so I can keep in mind to be wary of them...

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by Zophie

OMG, dude just added me and posted his phone # on my wall (which I guess he doesn't realize means he posted his phone number publicly on the internet)

I think it's so funny how you got all regretful about adding him and now he did this! So what are you going to do now??

[aklein]

Originally Posted by Zophie

OMG, dude just added me and posted his phone # on my wall (which I guess he doesn't realize means he posted his phone number publicly on the internet)

So add his number to your phone so you can call him and delete his wall post. Then you have a reason to call him .... just to mention that all of your friends could see his wall post. Then ask him out.