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[spoiled_brat]

^ agreed.

However, my last three boyfriends were about 8-12 years older than me and the age difference has not worked out so well. They seemed to think they were ready to start a family and have kids but were nowhere near the maturity level and financial stability it would require.

Just my luck though, I am not saying all guys are like that, obviously. Still a safer bet than a lot of our peers!

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by lostnexposed

LOL..nah...jersey shore.

haha, just wondering if it was the guy I've been seeing. Wouldn't put it past him.

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

^ agreed. However, my last three boyfriends were about 8-12 years older than me and the age difference has not worked out so well. They seemed to think they were ready to start a family and have kids but were nowhere near the maturity level and financial stability it would require. Just my luck though, I am not saying all guys are like that, obviously. Still a safer bet than a lot of our peers!

just because someone is older doesn't mean he's matured. I've been seeing a guy 15 years older than me (he's 52) who told me yesterday that he washed his car in the garage because he can't be seen in public washing his own car. He has a lot of weird insecurities about things and then insists that something like being seen washing his own car could hurt his law practice.

[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

^ agreed. However, my last three boyfriends were about 8-12 years older than me and the age difference has not worked out so well. They seemed to think they were ready to start a family and have kids but were nowhere near the maturity level and financial stability it would require. Just my luck though, I am not saying all guys are like that, obviously. Still a safer bet than a lot of our peers!

Absolutely.

[spoiled_brat]

^^ wow, yes, that is a little odd.

While age doesn't obviously equal maturity, it's still safer to go for somebody a little bit older though. I've been recently interacting quite a bit with a guy my own age (I'm 25) and he is just... horrible.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Zophie

just because someone is older doesn't mean he's matured. I've been seeing a guy 15 years older than me (he's 52) who told me yesterday that he washed his car in the garage because he can't be seen in public washing his own car. He has a lot of weird insecurities about things and then insists that something like being seen washing his own car could hurt his law practice.

that's crazy!

[juneping]

Originally Posted by Zophie

just because someone is older doesn't mean he's matured. I've been seeing a guy 15 years older than me (he's 52) who told me yesterday that he washed his car in the garage because he can't be seen in public washing his own car. He has a lot of weird insecurities about things and then insists that something like being seen washing his own car could hurt his law practice.

wow...sound like "i have issues" all over his forhead.

[Kansashalo]

Well in his typical fashion, I've gotten the "too busy to call back" ruse from the guy I went out with last week. I shouldn't be surprised because he has done this before and its not until I give him the "if you're not interested, it cool - I'm moving on speech" that he acts right for about a week and then we're back to square one. So I'm done....he doesn't even deserve an "I'm done" speech from me because I don't want it to start all over again. Recess is over and KH is getting off the merry-go-around.

So....with that said, I've decided that I'm done with men persay, but I'm not going to sit home moping about it as I would have done. I've decided that at minimum, I will go out to 1-2 social events a week. It will be anything from happy hour/dinner with friends to visiting a bookstore. Basically, anyplace where people congregate, I'm going to go there at leat once a week. I typically get tickets to events via my job and in the past, I would turn them down because I didn't want to attend alone (granted, its actually with a table of company employees that I don't know so technically, not alone). But going forward, I'm going to accept them and go. Screw it - if nothing else, I will have some great conversation and a free meal. And who knows what else.....

But I'm not going to get down about it - if anything, I think I'm going to go shopping for some new clothes.lol I'm tired of getting down about being 34 and single. Cripes, there are worse things I could be!

Hope everyone else is having a great evening!

[spoiled_brat]

Kansashalo,



You know how they say that once you stop looking... I'm sure it will happen that way for you too!

[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

But I'm not going to get down about it - if anything, I think I'm going to go shopping for some new clothes.lol I'm tired of getting down about being 34 and single. Cripes, there are worse things I could be! Hope everyone else is having a great evening!

That's great! Have fun shopping!

[mellecyn]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

Well in his typical fashion, I've gotten the "too busy to call back" ruse from the guy I went out with last week. I shouldn't be surprised because he has done this before and its not until I give him the "if you're not interested, it cool - I'm moving on speech" that he acts right for about a week and then we're back to square one. So I'm done....he doesn't even deserve an "I'm done" speech from me because I don't want it to start all over again. Recess is over and KH is getting off the merry-go-around. So....with that said, I've decided that I'm done with men persay, but I'm not going to sit home moping about it as I would have done. I've decided that at minimum, I will go out to 1-2 social events a week. It will be anything from happy hour/dinner with friends to visiting a bookstore. Basically, anyplace where people congregate, I'm going to go there at leat once a week. I typically get tickets to events via my job and in the past, I would turn them down because I didn't want to attend alone (granted, its actually with a table of company employees that I don't know so technically, not alone). But going forward, I'm going to accept them and go. Screw it - if nothing else, I will have some great conversation and a free meal. And who knows what else..... But I'm not going to get down about it - if anything, I think I'm going to go shopping for some new clothes.lol I'm tired of getting down about being 34 and single. Cripes, there are worse things I could be! Hope everyone else is having a great evening!

You go Girl !!! I know it´s terrifying to go alone at social gatherings but I found it´s necessary if you want to enjoy life, painful at first, enjoyable after !
I also feel like a loser if I am alone but screw this ! Months ago I complained about always being with the same friends (who are all couples) in the same small town, doing the same "crazy" stuff as much as having a beer together....I realized I wasn´t gonna meet anyone like that and make myself miserable, everybody here suggested I go venture outside my group of friends.....terrifying but I did it ! And now if I see a lecture somewhere I just go. That´s all. And anyone who wants to join is welcome but I am not gonna have a headache over it.

[Chanel Belle]

Hi ladies...

A guy asked me out again recently, but after checking out his Facebook profile, I noticed that he's always surrounded by girls in various photos. Why on earth does he always take pictures with girls? He's also very charming and has honestly claimed that he has many ex-gfs

He is very extraverted, very touchy with everyone, really knows how to treat a lady. He's a whole load of fun to be with and he's the daredevil sort, you know? Very adventurous and probably has tried everything under the sun.

Is it okay for me to continue seeing him or does he reek of a heartbreak waiting to happen?

My friends are divided into 2 camps..hehe. One camp is strongly against him, claiming he's a player, cannot be trusted etc. Another camp says he's harmless fun and he's cheeky, but there's nothing more to that.

I'm confused!

[juneping]

^^can you find out for yourself?? just guard your heart and you'll be fine.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

Well in his typical fashion, I've gotten the "too busy to call back" ruse from the guy I went out with last week. I shouldn't be surprised because he has done this before and its not until I give him the "if you're not interested, it cool - I'm moving on speech" that he acts right for about a week and then we're back to square one. So I'm done....he doesn't even deserve an "I'm done" speech from me because I don't want it to start all over again. Recess is over and KH is getting off the merry-go-around. So....with that said, I've decided that I'm done with men persay, but I'm not going to sit home moping about it as I would have done. I've decided that at minimum, I will go out to 1-2 social events a week. It will be anything from happy hour/dinner with friends to visiting a bookstore. Basically, anyplace where people congregate, I'm going to go there at leat once a week. I typically get tickets to events via my job and in the past, I would turn them down because I didn't want to attend alone (granted, its actually with a table of company employees that I don't know so technically, not alone). But going forward, I'm going to accept them and go. Screw it - if nothing else, I will have some great conversation and a free meal. And who knows what else..... But I'm not going to get down about it - if anything, I think I'm going to go shopping for some new clothes.lol I'm tired of getting down about being 34 and single. Cripes, there are worse things I could be! Hope everyone else is having a great evening!

I know a guy like this, we never even went out but he would txt and call me we'd have great conversations then when i'd txt him he wouldnt respond. I mentioned it to him he apologized said if he did ignore my txt that was wrong. Well guess what? he did it again about a week later after we'd made plans to meet for dinner the next weekend. When he txt me the morning that we were supposed to meet I ignored him, a week later he txt me again and again I ignored him. I felt like he was playing games and I don't have time for that, he can go play them with someone else.

I think getting out and going to social events is a great idea! Thats what I started doing about a year ago I made up my mind that just because I didn't have a S/O that didnt mean I was gonna sit home and hide from the world. And who knows who you'll meet when you're out and about!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Chanel Belle

Hi ladies... A guy asked me out again recently, but after checking out his Facebook profile, I noticed that he's always surrounded by girls in various photos. Why on earth does he always take pictures with girls? He's also very charming and has honestly claimed that he has many ex-gfs He is very extraverted, very touchy with everyone, really knows how to treat a lady. He's a whole load of fun to be with and he's the daredevil sort, you know? Very adventurous and probably has tried everything under the sun. Is it okay for me to continue seeing him or does he reek of a heartbreak waiting to happen? My friends are divided into 2 camps..hehe. One camp is strongly against him, claiming he's a player, cannot be trusted etc. Another camp says he's harmless fun and he's cheeky, but there's nothing more to that. I'm confused!

I know guys like this they are a lot of fun and usually charming which makes women fall for them. Does that make him a player? No not necessarily BUT you need to ask yourself if you did date him would you be ok with his personality type afterall you can't expect him to change who he is. I already know I couldn't be anything more than friends with this type of guy.