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[Zophie]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

I know I'm going to ask a very stupid question now...but...how do you ever know? Obviously, I'm very protective of myself, I've never done anything unsafe. But...well...yeah...do you girls get tested with the guy, or do you trust his word (I would NEVER trust his word)...at one point in your life you're going to do it unsafe, so then how do you know he's STD free? I guess this might not be the right place to ask. In theory, of course I know you get tested. But in real life, how and when do you bring it up in the conversation????

well, I think you have to bring it up BEFORE you ever sleep with him. Of course you can't know 100% if a man is being honest though, but hopefully even the biggest manwhore thinks enough of himself to keep his health in check.

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by Zophie

well, I think you have to bring it up BEFORE you ever sleep with him. Of course you can't know 100% if a man is being honest though, but hopefully even the biggest manwhore thinks enough of himself to keep his health in check.

Hmmm...well...ok let me start with that I haven't had a lot of guys (that being an understatement). They only thing I discussed was if he had protection, but I always have it with me too. I figure asking him if he has an STD won't give me a satisfying answer anyway. It's either "no" and I wouldn't trust him, or "yes" and well....that's a deal breaker.

Still, I could never trust someone on this. He can have something without knowing. I guess if it would get to this point I would have to drag kim and myself to a clinic to get tested. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if he would know what he can get in return! As Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman "I'm a safety girl".

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

I know I'm going to ask a very stupid question now...but...how do you ever know? Obviously, I'm very protective of myself, I've never done anything unsafe. But...well...yeah...do you girls get tested with the guy, or do you trust his word (I would NEVER trust his word)...at one point in your life you're going to do it unsafe, so then how do you know he's STD free? I guess this might not be the right place to ask. In theory, of course I know you get tested. But in real life, how and when do you bring it up in the conversation????

I just had this conversation with my new friend over the weekend. I just out and asked him when he was last tested and said we should go and get tested together, he said he was fine with doing that. When I was younger I wouldn't ask, I've been lucky.

[lostnexposed]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

/\ It's the whole "is the grass greener" thing. Instead of having the balls of ending it with their current gf, they was to date around and see if they can find someone better - if not, they will just stick with their current gf. I've ran across my share of a$$hats like that.

I hate that!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Well, so today I met a guy in the train. Of course it wasn't a guy from my country, he was from Georgia (the country, not the state!). He was ok looking. From the second he sat down I knew he wanted something from me. He told me that he was a sculpter (sp?) and that he thought I had the prettiest eyes he had ever seen, yada yada yada....he said that he would use it as an inspiration Anyway he kept talking. Turned out that he wasn't really a sculpter, that was just a hobby, but alright. Then he said that he didn't like most girls here in my country because he thought they were too fat... but he thought that I was perfectly shaped... so big fat red flag. He wanted to know if I wanted his number. I accepted thinking I'm not going to call you anyway... So...you know, it's always these type of men. Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy can I not be with someone that I like? The cutie guys that I think are nice, why can't they be interested in me?? Why, why, why, why, why???? Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on the street and every man is looking and staring at me. Every bloke is flirting, but the guys that I think are cute and fun, they just don't care...It makes me so, so, so sad , you have no idea (well, you girls do...you know how I feel!!) I just don't know what to do anymore...I don't know if I should just give up hope, or keep having faith... Why didn't that cutie guy that I met a while back like me? What's wrong with these guys? End of rant. Thanks for reading.

I've felt like this ALL the time, its like the guys that have bee interested in me up until this point I wasnt so interested in. The guy i'm seeing now I actually like a lot, and its not just a physical attraction there's much more to him than just his looks which is what I've been wanting. He does have some issues but who doesnt, I know I have mine.

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

I just had this conversation with my new friend over the weekend. I just out and asked him when he was last tested and said we should go and get tested together, he said he was fine with doing that. When I was younger I wouldn't ask, I've been lucky.

Getting tested together, I think that's the way to go. Your new guy sounds nice, I hope he gives you some happiness.

I forgot to add, the guy I met today in the train wanted to know how old I was. He said "I know I'm not supposed to ask a lady..." haha, so I refused to tell him just to toy around a bit. He told me he was 24 and he said that I looked younger than him....hahahaha...I'll be 29 next month, but I kept my mouth shut. That made my day.

Maybe that's my problem. I fall for guys that are at least 5 years older than me, but I look 5 years younger than I am...maybe that turns them off...

[lostnexposed]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

You would think that someone older would have more common sense to NOT do these stupid things...that they would know how to handle their business, but however that isn't the case. Cripes, at least if it was young guys behaving like this, I would chalk it up to immaturity or just getting out there experiencing the world. But umm, if you're over 30 and still conducting your love life as if you're in high school or still a college frat boy, then that's sad. Isn't wisdom supose to come with maturity???

speaking of older guys, I sort of got hit on by this older guy...I'd say he's around late 40's, early 50's..definitely ard my parents age. Anyway, he was hitting on my big time, on the beach, with his effing family right there..I dunno how to describe it, but his family was sitting facing the water, and he was sitting facing the sun(which is behind the family), and we were sitting behind his family. he was winking at me, staring at me, and when his family went in the water, he came up to talk to me, telling me I was beautiful and he wanted to take me to dinner sometime. WTF!!!
obviously, me and my friend changed our spot after that..

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Getting tested together, I think that's the way to go. Your new guy sounds nice, I hope he gives you some happiness. I forgot to add, the guy I met today in the train wanted to know how old I was. He said "I know I'm not supposed to ask a lady..." haha, so I refused to tell him just to toy around a bit. He told me he was 24 and he said that I looked younger than him....hahahaha...I'll be 29 next month, but I kept my mouth shut. That made my day. Maybe that's my problem. I fall for guys that are at least 5 years older than me, but I look 5 years younger than I am...maybe that turns them off...

same here! I like older guys but seems that I always get hit on by younger guys who tell me they know I'm no older than 25-26 I'm 29.

[lostnexposed]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

same here! I like older guys but seems that I always get hit on by younger guys who tell me they know I'm no older than 25-26 I'm 29.

I prefer older guys too..nothing more than 10 years my age though, but I always get hit on by the younger ones, probably because I look younger than my age

[~Fabulousity~]

^^^same here, I won't go older than 10, and now I say I wont go younger than 5 since they seem to love me so much

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by lostnexposed

speaking of older guys, I sort of got hit on by this older guy...I'd say he's around late 40's, early 50's..definitely ard my parents age. Anyway, he was hitting on my big time, on the beach, with his effing family right there..I dunno how to describe it, but his family was sitting facing the water, and he was sitting facing the sun(which is behind the family), and we were sitting behind his family. he was winking at me, staring at me, and when his family went in the water, he came up to talk to me, telling me I was beautiful and he wanted to take me to dinner sometime. WTF!!! obviously, me and my friend changed our spot after that..

that wasn't by any chance in Perdido, was it?

[spoiled_brat]

Originally Posted by mellecyn

Question : do you care about how many girls your new guy has been with before ???

No, I don't really care. I have a don't ask don't tell policy. I figure that whatever number he gives me, I am not going to like it so I just don't discuss it.

[spoiled_brat]

~ Fabulousity ~ Glad to hear things are going well with your guy! I would also feel odd about meeting his daughter... I hate meeting families. On the side note, I found out that the guy I've been kind of seeing doesn't have his parents here... They live way up north so I am happy I won't have to be meeting them... at least any time soon! Is that bad?

purexelegance Welcome!

HappyGrl2008 May I ask where you live? Just sheer curiousity, nothing else. I want to know which country this guy from Georgia thinks has only fat women! Jerk...

lostnexposed That guy on the beach sounds nasty! Sorry you had to go through this!

[lostnexposed]

Originally Posted by Zophie

that wasn't by any chance in Perdido, was it?

LOL..nah...jersey shore.

[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

^^^same here, I won't go older than 10, and now I say I wont go younger than 5 since they seem to love me so much

Generally, we girls are more mature than guys at the same age. There are also guys who are mature. But still, I prefer older guys than younger ones.