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~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by ver0nique

Tell me about it. I don't get it either. I know a friend whom recently found out her long-time (8yrs) boyfriend cheated on her and she appeared nonchalant and told us (on our girls' night out) that it's just a fling, "one-time thing", "the woman was throwing herself at him" and he told her he only loves her so she took him back. I just sat there dumb-founded after what she's said.

I don't get it either! Some women will always blame the other woman and not the man who is supposed to be in a relationship with them, to me they are more responsible than the other woman.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:46 AM

I can't say I don't care how many women a man i'm dating has slept with, but its not something I ask. I mean as long as he is STD free it doesn't really matter much.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

You would think that someone older would have more common sense to NOT do these stupid things...that they would know how to handle their business, but however that isn't the case. Cripes, at least if it was young guys behaving like this, I would chalk it up to immaturity or just getting out there experiencing the world. But umm, if you're over 30 and still conducting your love life as if you're in high school or still a college frat boy, then that's sad. Isn't wisdom supose to come with maturity???

Right!

ver0nique · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:57 AM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

I don't get it either! Some women will always blame the other woman and not the man who is supposed to be in a relationship with them, to me they are more responsible than the other woman.

Precisely. Besides, it takes two to tango.

Kansashalo · Jul 7th, 2009, 09:59 AM

/\ but those types of women think you "seduced" their poor innocent helpless man.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 10:21 AM

Right! Like a grown a$$ man doesn't know any better. Gimmie a break!

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 10:26 AM

So everyone things have been going well with the guy i've been seeing for the last 4 weeks. He wants to see me everyday, we hung out all weekend. He even took me to his family members house and I met his daughter

We were only supposed to be stopping by so I was sitting in the car while he went in and then he comes back with his daughters aunt and his daughter i'm like

its an odd situation he has going on, although he's not with the mother anymore he's still close to her family. It was his exes moms house we stopped by and her sister came out with the little girl so she could meet me. I met his ex later that night when we went by there again. I felt really odd about it, I mean although its no big deal i'm weird about meeting peoples families

Other than that we seem to get a long well and have been having a good time together. He called me his girl on the sly the other day when we were on the phone and I was saying to myself slow it down buddy!

ver0nique · Jul 7th, 2009, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

/\ but those types of women think you "seduced" their poor innocent helpless man.

Yeah right.

purexelegance · Jul 7th, 2009, 10:29 AM

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purexelegance · Jul 7th, 2009, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

hate men

LOL. Join the club. After going four years to a women's college where they teach you to empower yourself and be stronger, I feel like I've evolved beyond the stupid mind games that guys play.

At least I thought I did.

Zophie · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

So everyone things have been going well with the guy i've been seeing for the last 4 weeks. He wants to see me everyday, we hung out all weekend. He even took me to his family members house and I met his daughter

We were only supposed to be stopping by so I was sitting in the car while he went in and then he comes back with his daughters aunt and his daughter i'm like

its an odd situation he has going on, although he's not with the mother anymore he's still close to her family. It was his exes moms house we stopped by and her sister came out with the little girl so she could meet me. I met his ex later that night when we went by there again. I felt really odd about it, I mean although its no big deal i'm weird about meeting peoples families

Other than that we seem to get a long well and have been having a good time together. He called me his girl on the sly the other day when we were on the phone and I was saying to myself slow it down buddy!

sounds like it's going good though!

Zophie · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:24 AM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

/\ but those types of women think you "seduced" their poor innocent helpless man.

yeah, right....

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:24 AM

^^^Yeah it always does in the begining KWIM? I try not to be too guarded but I feel like its necessary at least for the first 3 months.

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:25 AM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

I can't say I don't care how many women a man i'm dating has slept with, but its not something I ask. I mean as long as he is STD free it doesn't really matter much.

I know I'm going to ask a very stupid question now...but...how do you ever know? Obviously, I'm very protective of myself, I've never done anything unsafe. But...well...yeah...do you girls get tested with the guy, or do you trust his word (I would NEVER trust his word)...at one point in your life you're going to do it unsafe, so then how do you know he's STD free? I guess this might not be the right place to ask. In theory, of course I know you get tested. But in real life, how and when do you bring it up in the conversation????

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:41 AM

Well, so today I met a guy in the train. Of course it wasn't a guy from my country, he was from Georgia (the country, not the state!). He was ok looking. From the second he sat down I knew he wanted something from me. He told me that he was a sculpter (sp?) and that he thought I had the prettiest eyes he had ever seen, yada yada yada....he said that he would use it as an inspiration

Anyway he kept talking. Turned out that he wasn't really a sculpter, that was just a hobby, but alright. Then he said that he didn't like most girls here in my country because he thought they were too fat...

but he thought that I was perfectly shaped... so big fat red flag. He wanted to know if I wanted his number. I accepted thinking I'm not going to call you anyway...

So...you know, it's always these type of men. Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy can I not be with someone that I like? The cutie guys that I think are nice, why can't they be interested in me?? Why, why, why, why, why???? Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on the street and every man is looking and staring at me. Every bloke is flirting, but the guys that I think are cute and fun, they just don't care...It makes me so, so, so sad

, you have no idea (well, you girls do...you know how I feel!!)

I just don't know what to do anymore...I don't know if I should just give up hope, or keep having faith...

Why didn't that cutie guy that I met a while back like me? What's wrong with these guys?

End of rant. Thanks for reading.

Jul 7th, 2009, 08:46 AM	#1622
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	I can't say I don't care how many women a man i'm dating has slept with, but its not something I ask. I mean as long as he is STD free it doesn't really matter much.
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 7th, 2009, 09:59 AM	#1625
Kansashalo Memories! Joined: Sep 2006 Location: USA Posts: 3,604	/\ but those types of women think you "seduced" their poor innocent helpless man.
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Jul 7th, 2009, 10:21 AM	#1626
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	Right! Like a grown a$$ man doesn't know any better. Gimmie a break!
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 7th, 2009, 10:26 AM	#1627
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	So everyone things have been going well with the guy i've been seeing for the last 4 weeks. He wants to see me everyday, we hung out all weekend. He even took me to his family members house and I met his daughter We were only supposed to be stopping by so I was sitting in the car while he went in and then he comes back with his daughters aunt and his daughter i'm like its an odd situation he has going on, although he's not with the mother anymore he's still close to her family. It was his exes moms house we stopped by and her sister came out with the little girl so she could meet me. I met his ex later that night when we went by there again. I felt really odd about it, I mean although its no big deal i'm weird about meeting peoples families Other than that we seem to get a long well and have been having a good time together. He called me his girl on the sly the other day when we were on the phone and I was saying to myself slow it down buddy!
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 7th, 2009, 10:29 AM	#1629
purexelegance in the fast lane. Joined: Jun 2006 Location: harajuku/nyc. Posts: 1,026	Hi ladies! I just wanted to say hi... I ventured out to this part of the forum! All the single ladies, HOLLERRR.
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Jul 7th, 2009, 11:24 AM	#1633
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	^^^Yeah it always does in the begining KWIM? I try not to be too guarded but I feel like its necessary at least for the first 3 months.
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 7th, 2009, 11:41 AM	#1635
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272	Well, so today I met a guy in the train. Of course it wasn't a guy from my country, he was from Georgia (the country, not the state!). He was ok looking. From the second he sat down I knew he wanted something from me. He told me that he was a sculpter (sp?) and that he thought I had the prettiest eyes he had ever seen, yada yada yada....he said that he would use it as an inspiration Anyway he kept talking. Turned out that he wasn't really a sculpter, that was just a hobby, but alright. Then he said that he didn't like most girls here in my country because he thought they were too fat... but he thought that I was perfectly shaped... so big fat red flag. He wanted to know if I wanted his number. I accepted thinking I'm not going to call you anyway... So...you know, it's always these type of men. Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy can I not be with someone that I like? The cutie guys that I think are nice, why can't they be interested in me?? Why, why, why, why, why???? Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on the street and every man is looking and staring at me. Every bloke is flirting, but the guys that I think are cute and fun, they just don't care...It makes me so, so, so sad , you have no idea (well, you girls do...you know how I feel!!) I just don't know what to do anymore...I don't know if I should just give up hope, or keep having faith... Why didn't that cutie guy that I met a while back like me? What's wrong with these guys? End of rant. Thanks for reading.
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272

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