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[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

^ it will never work. I hope the girlfriend finds out what he is up to and dumps him!

Sadly, some girlfriends take back the boyfriend after they found out.

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

^ it will never work. I hope the girlfriend finds out what he is up to and dumps him!

Yeah...well...I was thinking about this too. If she knew what he had done to me (the way he "dumped" me, that he was "flirting" with me in the e-mails, and how he told me about having a gf and getting married) would she still want him? Also, while he and I were having a drink together he said something like "yeah...and I still have all these girls wanting me, but I can't do anything anymore cause I'm no longer single..." I was like "what????" How can you say that? Besides, I think he was lying to me, cause he wasn't really that handsome...not a great catch at all (I know that sounds awful of me to say) so I couldn't imagine that he had all these girls wanting him.

I hope that if I ever find someone, that he'll be climbing on a roof top and shout it to the world that he's marrying me.

Gosh...the jerk didn't even get her an engagement ring yet.

Then again I thought she was a bit fake too...she told me to call her if I were to have a problem or something, but she "forgot" to give me her number...

Gosh...and to think that I thought he was the warmest sweetest person I had ever met when he was with me...the moment he left me he turned into a big jerk. I really did not deserve that. I hope they break up.

[Jahpson]

Originally Posted by ver0nique

Sadly, some girlfriends take back the boyfriend after they found out.

but does it ever last? I know a couple of friends who did that and they had done either one or both:

1. Beat off every girl that he becomes in volved with

2. establish an emotionally draining Hot and cold relationship

thats too much headache if you ask me.

[Jahpson]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Yeah...well...I was thinking about this too. If she knew what he had done to me (the way he "dumped" me, that he was "flirting" with me in the e-mails, and how he told me about having a gf and getting married) would she still want him? Also, while he and I were having a drink together he said something like "yeah...and I still have all these girls wanting me, but I can't do anything anymore cause I'm no longer single..." I was like "what????" How can you say that? Besides, I think he was lying to me, cause he wasn't really that handsome...not a great catch at all (I know that sounds awful of me to say) so I couldn't imagine that he had all these girls wanting him. I hope that if I ever find someone, that he'll be climbing on a roof top and shout it to the world that he's marrying me. Gosh...the jerk didn't even get her an engagement ring yet. Then again I thought she was a bit fake too...she told me to call her if I were to have a problem or something, but she "forgot" to give me her number... Gosh...and to think that I thought he was the warmest sweetest person I had ever met when he was with me...the moment he left me he turned into a big jerk. I really did not deserve that. I hope they break up.

a problem with what? him?

Trust me hun, he probably will do that to other girls over and over and over. This sounds like a blessing in disguise. Would you want to be in his girlfriends shoes? You guys are together yet he is bedding every Tash, Diedra and Heather?

[Jahpson]

Originally Posted by Zophie

that's exaclty it. What a guy pointed out to me too is that this guy I'm seeing may be in the middle of some kind of mid-life crisis, and he's got to prove to himself that women still find him attractive. He works out a lot and can be almost like a girl about his body. I've seen pictures of him from when he was 30 and he was always good looking. He'll say things like, "I think I look just like I did when I was 30." I think he looks good, but I'm sure anyone that sees him would put him right at about 50, not anywhere near 30.

but its still a grave and careless mistake to play around with people's feelings. You would think at that age he would know better...

[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

but does it ever last? I know a couple of friends who did that and they had done either one or both: 1. Beat off every girl that he becomes in volved with 2. establish an emotionally draining Hot and cold relationship thats too much headache if you ask me.

Tell me about it. I don't get it either. I know a friend whom recently found out her long-time (8yrs) boyfriend cheated on her and she appeared nonchalant and told us (on our girls' night out) that it's just a fling, "one-time thing", "the woman was throwing herself at him" and he told her he only loves her so she took him back. I just sat there dumb-founded after what she's said.

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

a problem with what? him? Trust me hun, he probably will do that to other girls over and over and over. This sounds like a blessing in disguise. Would you want to be in his girlfriends shoes? You guys are together yet he is bedding every Tash, Diedra and Heather?

No, not a problem with him, lol! I was about to travel to this city and she told me she had friends living there. So if I would have a problem of some sort, I could call her, etc. But she didn't give me her number...so why say something like that?? I can't stand fake people. They deserve each other.

Also, when we were writing each other prior to meeting again I asked him if it wouldn't be uncomfortable for him for us to meet up again. He said "no, of course not! why would that be uncomfortable?" and I thought "well, because I'm going to kick your behind really, really hard!" lol! I should have told him that instead of thinking it.

Oh well, I'm glad I'm finally done with him. It took a long time to get over it, believe it or not.

[ver0nique]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Yeah...well...I was thinking about this too. If she knew what he had done to me (the way he "dumped" me, that he was "flirting" with me in the e-mails, and how he told me about having a gf and getting married) would she still want him? Also, while he and I were having a drink together he said something like "yeah...and I still have all these girls wanting me, but I can't do anything anymore cause I'm no longer single..." I was like "what????" How can you say that? Besides, I think he was lying to me, cause he wasn't really that handsome...not a great catch at all (I know that sounds awful of me to say) so I couldn't imagine that he had all these girls wanting him.

This guy is unbelievable.

[HappyGrl2008]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

but its still a grave and careless mistake to play around with people's feelings. You would think at that age he would know better...

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!

oops, sorry, I just had to do that!

[Kansashalo]

You would think that someone older would have more common sense to NOT do these stupid things...that they would know how to handle their business, but however that isn't the case. Cripes, at least if it was young guys behaving like this, I would chalk it up to immaturity or just getting out there experiencing the world. But umm, if you're over 30 and still conducting your love life as if you're in high school or still a college frat boy, then that's sad. Isn't wisdom supose to come with maturity???

[sheishollywood]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets wound up with these type of guys... honestly, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. IS it so hard to just be honest with yourself? I've been in a relationship with the guy always having his eyes opened "just in case" and it is a horrible feeling. If you're not completely 100% happy and want to "play the field" I suggest doing that with no strings attach. Then again, these aren't men we are talking about... they are just boys.

[mellecyn]

Question : do you care about how many girls your new guy has been with before ???

I find I am getting surprisingly very cool about it...my ex had only been with me, and 2-3 one night stands during a break. The guy I am seing has had a few LT relationships which for me is a "must-have" at our age, and apparently many many 1 night stands in between...hum. I know that in this country ppl have sex just because of alcohol and I am fine with it....what I think is "at least he´s been around and knows what he wants now" (you know guys and their need for hunt/conquests) and also "at least he knows how to please a woman during..." lol !!! Is that weird ??

[Kansashalo]

I don't care persay...now if he was a former porn star, that's another matter. lol But in general and on average, I don't care, but I am 34. I'm imagine that most people my age have some experience. I'd be more concerned in he typically engaged in insafe sex practices (no condoms, drug use sex, etc.).

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

/\ oh hell to da naw! He tried to flip it on you saying that maybe you're seeing another man?!?! Seriously, do not entertain this jerkface another minute. If he really wanted closure (and was half a decent man) he would just fess up and move on, chalking this up to him f-ing up.

I'm late but I agree, tell him to go to hell with that BS!

[Jahpson]

Really depends. because there could be a trend that needs figuring out.

If I find a guy has been with 100+ girls. Then i know that I really need to get to know him completely and fully before I establish a relationship with him (which can take months), because I don't want to foolishly believe that I could be the one. Im sure the other girls felt that way, and he might treat them like they are. If he tries to jump my bones early on, then I know where his head is at, and I don't need to be another notch on his belt...