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Zophie · Jul 5th, 2009, 07:14 PM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

hate men

sorry, but this simple post made me LMAO!

I know what you mean.

pisdapisda79 · Jul 5th, 2009, 08:18 PM

Just looking for some advice, been on 3 dates with a guy, very nice but just boring. He definetely likes me but I just don't feel I should go on any more dates (plus running out of things to talk about) how do I tell him I don't want to see him anymore without being mean?

ver0nique · Jul 5th, 2009, 09:32 PM

Originally Posted by pisdapisda79

Just looking for some advice, been on 3 dates with a guy, very nice but just boring. He definetely likes me but I just don't feel I should go on any more dates (plus running out of things to talk about) how do I tell him I don't want to see him anymore without being mean?

Well, you don't have to tell him that outright. The next time he asks you out, you could say you're really busy. After a while, he will get the message and back off.

sheishollywood · Jul 6th, 2009, 02:39 AM

Well, i'm back... it's been awhile since I've contributed to tPF... it's been a busy few months. The last little while I was really embracing my single life. It was REALLY great... my best girl friends (4 of us in a group) are not in relationships and it's just a lot of fun for all of us to go out and just have a good time. But I've gone on a few dates here and there that haven't really gone anywhere. Most of the time I just wasn't feeling it from the guy or there was just no common interest. The last guy that I found really interesting (although flirted with me quite a bit), I found out a few weeks later that he had a girlfriend. So I obviously backed off because I really just don't want to be a part of that. Then recently, I met a guy through some friends and we really hit it off. We went out a few times in groups and we just, literally, danced the whole night away. And I don't mean just a few songs either. I mean... hours on the dance floor, we just never moved. Well, I found out yesterday that he also had a girlfriend (which in my defense... he definitely didn't act like he did). Anyways, I know that guys like that are definitely not the type of guys who deserve my energy but why the heck do I always go towards someone who is already involved? and those who aren't, I just don't connect with?

Like Jahpson said, hate men...

spoiled_brat · Jul 6th, 2009, 02:45 AM

Waaah, I hate this whole dating thing!

I've been out of the game for a while and it just makes me so uncomfortable. Like when the guy hugs you or takes your hand or something like that for the first time?

I went on a second date today with the guy and he walked he home. So then we are standing there and I'm like, crap, what do we do now? Do we hug or are we supposed to kiss because it's the second date? Anyway, he kind of kissed me and I just said, AWKWARD

and sort of ran off into my building. I feel like I messed up the whole date

I also feel like I'm about 15 years old!

spoiled_brat · Jul 6th, 2009, 02:48 AM

Originally Posted by sheishollywood

Well, i'm back... it's been awhile since I've contributed to tPF... it's been a busy few months. The last little while I was really embracing my single life. It was REALLY great... my best girl friends (4 of us in a group) are not in relationships and it's just a lot of fun for all of us to go out and just have a good time. But I've gone on a few dates here and there that haven't really gone anywhere. Most of the time I just wasn't feeling it from the guy or there was just no common interest. The last guy that I found really interesting (although flirted with me quite a bit), I found out a few weeks later that he had a girlfriend. So I obviously backed off because I really just don't want to be a part of that. Then recently, I met a guy through some friends and we really hit it off. We went out a few times in groups and we just, literally, danced the whole night away. And I don't mean just a few songs either. I mean... hours on the dance floor, we just never moved. Well, I found out yesterday that he also had a girlfriend (which in my defense... he definitely didn't act like he did). Anyways, I know that guys like that are definitely not the type of guys who deserve my energy but why the heck do I always go towards someone who is already involved? and those who aren't, I just don't connect with?

Like Jahpson said, hate men...

Well, this sucks but you know it's not your fault for being attracted to somebody who is already involved! It's not like you know it going in... and these guys just sound like jerks for acting that way when they are actually dating somebody!

You are right, they do NOT deserve your energy. I'm sure you will meet somebody deserving

ver0nique · Jul 6th, 2009, 07:56 AM

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

Waaah, I hate this whole dating thing!

I've been out of the game for a while and it just makes me so uncomfortable. Like when the guy hugs you or takes your hand or something like that for the first time?

I went on a second date today with the guy and he walked he home. So then we are standing there and I'm like, crap, what do we do now? Do we hug or are we supposed to kiss because it's the second date? Anyway, he kind of kissed me and I just said, AWKWARD

and sort of ran off into my building. I feel like I messed up the whole date

I also feel like I'm about 15 years old!

LOL. How was the date? Did you have fun?

Jahpson · Jul 6th, 2009, 08:45 AM

that pisses me off when guys have girlfriends and look to hook up with other girls. Just disgusting. Its like if your not happy with your girlfriend then why don't you two break up and then look? Doesn't make sense to me.

Kansashalo · Jul 6th, 2009, 08:58 AM

/\ It's the whole "is the grass greener" thing. Instead of having the balls of ending it with their current gf, they was to date around and see if they can find someone better - if not, they will just stick with their current gf.

I've ran across my share of a$$hats like that.

Zophie · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:08 AM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

/\ It's the whole "is the grass greener" thing. Instead of having the balls of ending it with their current gf, they was to date around and see if they can find someone better - if not, they will just stick with their current gf.

I've ran across my share of a$$hats like that.

yep, sounds like the jackass I'm seeing (or trying not to see maybe). I found out when he first started seeing me he had a girl he was seeing. He claims he was "just not that into" her, but still, I felt really deceived about it. And now I see the he might do the same thing to me, but yet he begs me to tell him what I want, swears I'm the only one he wants....and then goes on the internet on dating websites. Go figure. Men are idiots.

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:08 AM

^ it's like they are testing for themselves if they are still wanted by the opposite sex... I've had this too. Got back in touch with an old flame and we're writing each other back and forth bout how it's going. He told me all this stuff about how he had moved to a different city, studying for his master degree, yada yada yada....2 days b4 we meet up he tells me he's living with his gf...WTF? I guess he figured I would meet her too, so he had to tell me at the last minute. Once I see him again and after meeting the gf, the two of us go out for a drink he tells me he's going to marry her...as if it's just a tiny detail...weird. And I swear that in our conversation prior to meeting up again he was flirting with me. Just checking if I would still want him...it's an ego thing. Jerks. I'm glad I didn't end up with him, I can do so much better!

Jahpson · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:12 AM

^ it will never work. I hope the girlfriend finds out what he is up to and dumps him!

mellecyn · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:28 AM

^I know !!! Of course if a girlfriend thinks a guy friend of mine is hot, I´ll tell him "so and so thought you were hot" as a compliment and he´ll reply "yes I still have it !!" and that´s that. Like us women like compliments even when we´re married. But maybe because men don´t get compliemnts from random women they need to push it to the flirt level to get the "I still have it" feeling ??? pppfff male ego.....go figure....
After a fried told me a guy she knows proposed to his gf, then 2 months later meets someone else, while the wedding is still on !! How, as a woman, can you know you´re about to marry a pig ??

Zophie · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:41 AM

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

^ it's like they are testing for themselves if they are still wanted by the opposite sex... I've had this too. Got back in touch with an old flame and we're writing each other back and forth bout how it's going. He told me all this stuff about how he had moved to a different city, studying for his master degree, yada yada yada....2 days b4 we meet up he tells me he's living with his gf...WTF? I guess he figured I would meet her too, so he had to tell me at the last minute. Once I see him again and after meeting the gf, the two of us go out for a drink he tells me he's going to marry her...as if it's just a tiny detail...weird. And I swear that in our conversation prior to meeting up again he was flirting with me. Just checking if I would still want him...it's an ego thing. Jerks. I'm glad I didn't end up with him, I can do so much better!

that's exaclty it. What a guy pointed out to me too is that this guy I'm seeing may be in the middle of some kind of mid-life crisis, and he's got to prove to himself that women still find him attractive. He works out a lot and can be almost like a girl about his body. I've seen pictures of him from when he was 30 and he was always good looking. He'll say things like, "I think I look just like I did when I was 30." I think he looks good, but I'm sure anyone that sees him would put him right at about 50, not anywhere near 30.

mellecyn · Jul 6th, 2009, 09:54 AM

^you´d think at 50 he´s over that...but anyways he scored YOU, a much younger and attractive woman, that should have been enough to boost his ego. Yes he´s a sick egocentric b*st*rd....I beware of men who talk too much of their appearance. It´s hard to age, for everybody, but that shouldn´t justify any manipulative cheating game.
....and to old pigs, go and play in your own pond please. It was lovely...NOT, last night to have the alcoholic 70 year old man from the next table , red face with strawberry nose, coming on to me and my friends, taking our hands to tell how beautiful girls we were....eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.....:yuc ky:

Jul 6th, 2009, 02:39 AM	#1594
sheishollywood INDEPENDENTBYCHOICE Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Vancouver Posts: 3,857	Well, i'm back... it's been awhile since I've contributed to tPF... it's been a busy few months. The last little while I was really embracing my single life. It was REALLY great... my best girl friends (4 of us in a group) are not in relationships and it's just a lot of fun for all of us to go out and just have a good time. But I've gone on a few dates here and there that haven't really gone anywhere. Most of the time I just wasn't feeling it from the guy or there was just no common interest. The last guy that I found really interesting (although flirted with me quite a bit), I found out a few weeks later that he had a girlfriend. So I obviously backed off because I really just don't want to be a part of that. Then recently, I met a guy through some friends and we really hit it off. We went out a few times in groups and we just, literally, danced the whole night away. And I don't mean just a few songs either. I mean... hours on the dance floor, we just never moved. Well, I found out yesterday that he also had a girlfriend (which in my defense... he definitely didn't act like he did). Anyways, I know that guys like that are definitely not the type of guys who deserve my energy but why the heck do I always go towards someone who is already involved? and those who aren't, I just don't connect with? Like Jahpson said, hate men...
	__________________ "The best way to predict the future is to invent it"

Jul 6th, 2009, 08:45 AM	#1598
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,348	that pisses me off when guys have girlfriends and look to hook up with other girls. Just disgusting. Its like if your not happy with your girlfriend then why don't you two break up and then look? Doesn't make sense to me.
	__________________ Michael Joseph Jackson 1958-2009

Jul 6th, 2009, 08:58 AM	#1599
Kansashalo Memories! Joined: Sep 2006 Location: USA Posts: 3,604	/\ It's the whole "is the grass greener" thing. Instead of having the balls of ending it with their current gf, they was to date around and see if they can find someone better - if not, they will just stick with their current gf. I've ran across my share of a$$hats like that.
	__________________

Jul 6th, 2009, 09:08 AM	#1601
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272	^ it's like they are testing for themselves if they are still wanted by the opposite sex... I've had this too. Got back in touch with an old flame and we're writing each other back and forth bout how it's going. He told me all this stuff about how he had moved to a different city, studying for his master degree, yada yada yada....2 days b4 we meet up he tells me he's living with his gf...WTF? I guess he figured I would meet her too, so he had to tell me at the last minute. Once I see him again and after meeting the gf, the two of us go out for a drink he tells me he's going to marry her...as if it's just a tiny detail...weird. And I swear that in our conversation prior to meeting up again he was flirting with me. Just checking if I would still want him...it's an ego thing. Jerks. I'm glad I didn't end up with him, I can do so much better!
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272

Jul 6th, 2009, 09:12 AM	#1602
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,348	^ it will never work. I hope the girlfriend finds out what he is up to and dumps him!
	__________________ Michael Joseph Jackson 1958-2009

Jul 5th, 2009, 08:18 PM	#1592
pisdapisda79 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,617	Just looking for some advice, been on 3 dates with a guy, very nice but just boring. He definetely likes me but I just don't feel I should go on any more dates (plus running out of things to talk about) how do I tell him I don't want to see him anymore without being mean?

Jul 6th, 2009, 02:45 AM	#1595
spoiled_brat not spoiled enough Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 2,184	Waaah, I hate this whole dating thing! I've been out of the game for a while and it just makes me so uncomfortable. Like when the guy hugs you or takes your hand or something like that for the first time? I went on a second date today with the guy and he walked he home. So then we are standing there and I'm like, crap, what do we do now? Do we hug or are we supposed to kiss because it's the second date? Anyway, he kind of kissed me and I just said, AWKWARD and sort of ran off into my building. I feel like I messed up the whole date I also feel like I'm about 15 years old!

Jul 6th, 2009, 09:28 AM	#1603
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,110	^I know !!! Of course if a girlfriend thinks a guy friend of mine is hot, I´ll tell him "so and so thought you were hot" as a compliment and he´ll reply "yes I still have it !!" and that´s that. Like us women like compliments even when we´re married. But maybe because men don´t get compliemnts from random women they need to push it to the flirt level to get the "I still have it" feeling ??? pppfff male ego.....go figure.... After a fried told me a guy she knows proposed to his gf, then 2 months later meets someone else, while the wedding is still on !! How, as a woman, can you know you´re about to marry a pig ??
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt

Jul 6th, 2009, 09:54 AM	#1605
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,110	^you´d think at 50 he´s over that...but anyways he scored YOU, a much younger and attractive woman, that should have been enough to boost his ego. Yes he´s a sick egocentric bstrd....I beware of men who talk too much of their appearance. It´s hard to age, for everybody, but that shouldn´t justify any manipulative cheating game. ....and to old pigs, go and play in your own pond please. It was lovely...NOT, last night to have the alcoholic 70 year old man from the next table , red face with strawberry nose, coming on to me and my friends, taking our hands to tell how beautiful girls we were....eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.....:yuc ky:
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt Last edited by mellecyn; Jul 6th, 2009 at 09:58 AM.

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