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Jahpson · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:27 PM

what a dirtbag!

i hate when they turn the tables on you

juneping · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:33 PM

Originally Posted by Myblackbag

So I finally let the guy come over to my place yesterday. I met him at the beach after work, then he came over later last night.

I cooked, we ate and watched tv. He tried to get touchy (which I am sure was part of why he was so eager to come over), so I had to nip that in the bud. But overall it was a nice evening.

He gets off work early today for the holiday and is going out of town after that. My problem is this, if you are as interested in me as you say you are then why do you leave every weekend?

I know you have a sick friend that is recovering from an accident, but you don't have to be with him every weekend.

We only went out one day this week due to a breakdown in communication and the fact that he has a very demanding job. So to me, I would think that since he finally has a little downtime that he would want to do something with me over the holiday. Oh well, in the words of Gwen Stefani "I'm just a girl", what do I know about these things.

I don't really think that he is seeing someone else when he leaves, but it does strike me as odd. I think that I will ask him about this later today when he calls.

Thats my mini update. Hope you ladies are doing well.

this reminds me of a guy i was seeing few years back. right after we met, his mom died and his father moved to live with him so he could take care of his dad. so i never got invited to his place.
and funny was every time i tried to set up a date on the weekend....magically something always went wrong in his life..either his car, his business, his mom or his whatever...
this is really something fishy that i would be very careful of.

juneping · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:35 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

that is EXACTLY it! It's killing him that he doesn't know how he got busted. If he really cared about me he wouldn't keep bugging me about it but be sorry about that he'd hurt me. He left me a voicemail saying that he just wants closure and he knows I'm a good person and I would understand that and maybe I'm seeing another man. Jesus.

i would not reveal how he got busted...bc you don't want to teach him to be smarter than he already was.
ugh....this guy is really an a**.
it must be very difficult for you right now.....hang in there. we are here for you.

ver0nique · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:37 PM

double post

ver0nique · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by Jahpson

what a dirtbag!

i hate when they turn the tables on you

^^I think he was trying to cover his ass.

sonya · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

that is EXACTLY it! It's killing him that he doesn't know how he got busted. If he really cared about me he wouldn't keep bugging me about it but be sorry about that he'd hurt me. He left me a voicemail saying that he just wants closure and he knows I'm a good person and I would understand that and maybe I'm seeing another man. Jesus.

Wow. Too bad this happened to you. :( But I am so proud that you are clear-headed and staying strong!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 05:17 PM

now he texted me that he's so f-ing distracted he almost got hit by a streetcar. why the hell does he care? game over.

juneping · Jul 2nd, 2009, 05:20 PM

now he just sounds so pathetic.
you should tell him...if he wants to play the game be ready to loss. slimy bastard.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by juneping

now he just sounds so pathetic.
you should tell him...if he wants to play the game be ready to loss. slimy bastard.

he's trying to break me down. He's not going to be happy if he sees me in person. I do not have time to deal with this, I have a shit load of work to do and he's going to get ripped a new asshole.

lostnexposed · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:47 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

Now he's emailing me. This is the latest one:

"I can’t concentrate on my work. This is crazy. Why can’t you trust me? When I first met you I wasn’t a priest. I dumped her for you! Why do you think I’m seeing other women? I don’t even want to go to strip clubs. I think you are amazing and you should know that. Do you really think that I can get excited the way that I do with you with any girl? You have no idea. You are all that I need and want. Being at the beach you were the best looking woman in Florida and Alabama! "

What is fucking ridiculous is just this past weekend I told him I liked going to strip clubs and said I wished he liked strippers and he goes, "What do you mean I don't like strippers? I love strippers." I told him that he told me they didn't do anything for him, and he goes, "I probably told you that because that's what I thought you wanted to hear." And now he's saying again he doesn't even like strippers. He lies so much he can't keep his lies straight.

wow! what a liar!

lostnexposed · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Noooooo, Zophie, please don't feel bad!! I would have fallen for it too! We all fell for it when you told us your stories, even when you told us about your doubts. You knew that something was off, you kept your eyes open. And you were right. You can be proud of yourself!! Stay strong!!

I know! I feel kinda bad for encouraging you to give him a chance when you had your doubts about him!

lostnexposed · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:51 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

that is EXACTLY it! It's killing him that he doesn't know how he got busted. If he really cared about me he wouldn't keep bugging me about it but be sorry about that he'd hurt me. He left me a voicemail saying that he just wants closure and he knows I'm a good person and I would understand that and maybe I'm seeing another man. Jesus.

pick up the phone next time he calls but just stay silent. when he's done talking say "i've listened to what you've had to say so now please don't contact me again"

lostnexposed · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:55 PM

Originally Posted by juneping

this reminds me of a guy i was seeing few years back. right after we met, his mom died and his father moved to live with him so he could take care of his dad. so i never got invited to his place.
and funny was every time i tried to set up a date on the weekend....magically something always went wrong in his life..either his car, his business, his mom or his whatever...
this is really something fishy that i would be very careful of.

I'd be careful too! My friend once 'dated' this guy from NYC...but every weekend he would go to Connecticut. He said that it was because his dad is sick! turns out the dude was effing married, has 3 kids. he works in the city and spends his weekends with his family. Lord only knows how many other women he had in the city!

I'm sure not all guys are like that but I'd be very wary

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:08 PM

well, I finally agreed to talk to him tomorrow. I don't know why, but he was just so damned annoying and persistent. He's all saying he wants to only be with me, blah, blah, blah, he never wants to hurt me. I just don't understand why someone would go to all this trouble. I've met players but never anything like this. Usually they just f-off.

juneping · Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:12 PM

oh...let him do most of the talking.
don't let him know how you find out his other women....i'd be curious too.

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Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:08 PM	#1574
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	well, I finally agreed to talk to him tomorrow. I don't know why, but he was just so damned annoying and persistent. He's all saying he wants to only be with me, blah, blah, blah, he never wants to hurt me. I just don't understand why someone would go to all this trouble. I've met players but never anything like this. Usually they just f-off.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:12 PM	#1575
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,345	oh...let him do most of the talking. don't let him know how you find out his other women....i'd be curious too.
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