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spoiled_brat · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by Myblackbag

So I finally let the guy come over to my place yesterday. I met him at the beach after work, then he came over later last night.

I cooked, we ate and watched tv. He tried to get touchy (which I am sure was part of why he was so eager to come over), so I had to nip that in the bud. But overall it was a nice evening.

He gets off work early today for the holiday and is going out of town after that. My problem is this, if you are as interested in me as you say you are then why do you leave every weekend?

I know you have a sick friend that is recovering from an accident, but you don't have to be with him every weekend.

We only went out one day this week due to a breakdown in communication and the fact that he has a very demanding job. So to me, I would think that since he finally has a little downtime that he would want to do something with me over the holiday. Oh well, in the words of Gwen Stefani "I'm just a girl", what do I know about these things.

I don't really think that he is seeing someone else when he leaves, but it does strike me as odd. I think that I will ask him about this later today when he calls.

Thats my mini update. Hope you ladies are doing well.

Hm-m... yes, do ask what's up with him leaving every weekend. Let us know what he says.

So he tried to get touchy huh

Good for you for "nipping it at the bud"!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:07 PM

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

^ what a persistent little bugger

now he's e-mailing wanting to know what turned me so cold.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:08 PM

OMG and he just called me from his office phone so I'd pick up! but I didn't. shit!

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:13 PM

^^^LOL go on and talk to him, let him speak and just listen and don't give him any info

Kansashalo · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:23 PM

spoiled_brat - glad you had a good time with your date. Now you're in that "giddy stage" too!

Zophie - Stay strong! You know what the REAL deal is with him and it sounds like he is just wants to know what YOU know so that he can come up with a "logical" explanation....pfftt Plus, any guy that would tell you "I probably told you that because that's what I thought you wanted to hear." is suspect. If you will lie to get me, you will lie to keep me and like others on here, if there is one thing I don't tolerate, it's lying.

Myblackbag - Ok, now I can understand him wanting to see his friend over the weekend however, does he at least contact you while he is gone? I would be a little suspicious if he was completely ghost on weekends too so I don't think asking is such a bad idea. When done correctly, asking not only does it get you the information you need, but it also may cause him to realize that hey - you're interested so he needs to get it together if he is interested in you as well.

Mellecyn - Haha, enjoy this time while you can! It's sometimes good for you to be in control because it helps you to understand what you want/don't want in a guy. I hope you do meet someone that gives you that "spark" soon!

Well here are more hugs to everyone.

The weekend is almost here and I'm happy just for that alone!

Kansashalo · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

^^^LOL go on and talk to him, let him speak and just listen and don't give him any info

I probably would do this just to hear the excuse/reason. Sometimes those alone are quite entertaining because I'm amazed at some of the stuff guys say in the hopes that we will believe it.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

I probably would do this just to hear the excuse/reason. Sometimes those alone are quite entertaining because I'm amazed at some of the stuff guys say in the hopes that we will believe it.

Yeah I know what you mean, i'm hoping that if she answers him and lets him spill his guts he'll leave her alone.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:30 PM

this was his last e-mail:

"I’ll be happy to but for old time’s sake, what exactly did I do? I promise that I won’t contact you again"

to which I replied:

"you deceived me and lied. please don't contact me again."

Wow, this really hurts!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:32 PM

and now he just called me. What the F****!

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:38 PM

He sounds like he REALLY just wants to know how you found out he was up to no good! "for old times sake, what did I do? I promise I won't contact you again" what a jerk!

ver0nique · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:52 PM

Originally Posted by Myblackbag

My problem is this, if you are as interested in me as you say you are then why do you leave every weekend?

It IS weird.

A sick friend? C'mon, every weekend? You should talk to him about this and see what he has to say.

spoiled_brat · Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:58 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

and now he just called me. What the F****!

Zophie, maybe just talk to him? I know you don't want to but he is going to keep persisting.

Maybe the sooner you do the sooner you can truly get over it... you know? *hug*

spoiled_brat · Jul 2nd, 2009, 02:01 PM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

spoiled_brat - glad you had a good time with your date. Now you're in that "giddy stage" too!

Kansashalo, I am trying not to be. I refuse to feel happy and get my hopes up

It's not like I've been badly hurt or burned in the past, I just have no desire for it to happen... so I keep my guard up with everything like there is no tomorrow. Kind of sucks. I never let go.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 02:18 PM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

He sounds like he REALLY just wants to know how you found out he was up to no good! "for old times sake, what did I do? I promise I won't contact you again" what a jerk!

that is EXACTLY it! It's killing him that he doesn't know how he got busted. If he really cared about me he wouldn't keep bugging me about it but be sorry about that he'd hurt me. He left me a voicemail saying that he just wants closure and he knows I'm a good person and I would understand that and maybe I'm seeing another man. Jesus.

Kansashalo · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:15 PM

/\ oh hell to da naw! He tried to flip it on you saying that maybe you're seeing another man?!?!

Seriously, do not entertain this jerkface another minute. If he really wanted closure (and was half a decent man) he would just fess up and move on, chalking this up to him f-ing up.

Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:08 PM	#1548
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	OMG and he just called me from his office phone so I'd pick up! but I didn't. shit!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:13 PM	#1549
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,931	^^^LOL go on and talk to him, let him speak and just listen and don't give him any info
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,931

Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:23 PM	#1550
Kansashalo Memories! Joined: Sep 2006 Location: USA Posts: 3,604	spoiled_brat - glad you had a good time with your date. Now you're in that "giddy stage" too! Zophie - Stay strong! You know what the REAL deal is with him and it sounds like he is just wants to know what YOU know so that he can come up with a "logical" explanation....pfftt Plus, any guy that would tell you "I probably told you that because that's what I thought you wanted to hear." is suspect. If you will lie to get me, you will lie to keep me and like others on here, if there is one thing I don't tolerate, it's lying. Myblackbag - Ok, now I can understand him wanting to see his friend over the weekend however, does he at least contact you while he is gone? I would be a little suspicious if he was completely ghost on weekends too so I don't think asking is such a bad idea. When done correctly, asking not only does it get you the information you need, but it also may cause him to realize that hey - you're interested so he needs to get it together if he is interested in you as well. Mellecyn - Haha, enjoy this time while you can! It's sometimes good for you to be in control because it helps you to understand what you want/don't want in a guy. I hope you do meet someone that gives you that "spark" soon! Well here are more hugs to everyone. The weekend is almost here and I'm happy just for that alone!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:30 PM	#1553
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	this was his last e-mail: "I’ll be happy to but for old time’s sake, what exactly did I do? I promise that I won’t contact you again" to which I replied: "you deceived me and lied. please don't contact me again." Wow, this really hurts!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:32 PM	#1554
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,491	and now he just called me. What the F****!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 01:38 PM	#1555
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,931	He sounds like he REALLY just wants to know how you found out he was up to no good! "for old times sake, what did I do? I promise I won't contact you again" what a jerk!
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,931

Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:15 PM	#1560
Kansashalo Memories! Joined: Sep 2006 Location: USA Posts: 3,604	/\ oh hell to da naw! He tried to flip it on you saying that maybe you're seeing another man?!?! Seriously, do not entertain this jerkface another minute. If he really wanted closure (and was half a decent man) he would just fess up and move on, chalking this up to him f-ing up.
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