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bellapsyd · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:47 AM

^ LOL. good for you Zophie.

ver0nique · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:47 AM

Zophie, he thinks you're fool. Be strong. We're here for you.

mellecyn · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by Zophie

well, I did text him back "your pursuit of pu$$y controls you to the point of hurting everyone around you." I do for a fact know this is true. He denied it and said, "Please tell me what you are talking about. I have never been more satisfied, you are everything I could need or want." I see no point in telling him what I know so he can simply figure a way to come up with a story to deny it. This man is sick. I looked up narcissistic personality disorder, and I think that might be what he has. I really do feel very sad about this. I really liked this guy and it's so hard to believe he's done this to me.

I can´t believe it either, still in shock you had to come across such a piece of

BUT I know there are good men out there, too bad the assh*les tarnish the rest of the specie, and I know you deserve a good man as well....why oh why....

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:56 AM

Zophie~ Again i'm really sorry he turned out to be this way, and I agree what's eating him is the fact he can't figure out how you found out what he was up to.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:10 AM

Now he's emailing me. This is the latest one:

"I can’t concentrate on my work. This is crazy. Why can’t you trust me? When I first met you I wasn’t a priest. I dumped her for you! Why do you think I’m seeing other women? I don’t even want to go to strip clubs. I think you are amazing and you should know that. Do you really think that I can get excited the way that I do with you with any girl? You have no idea. You are all that I need and want. Being at the beach you were the best looking woman in Florida and Alabama! "

What is fucking ridiculous is just this past weekend I told him I liked going to strip clubs and said I wished he liked strippers and he goes, "What do you mean I don't like strippers? I love strippers." I told him that he told me they didn't do anything for him, and he goes, "I probably told you that because that's what I thought you wanted to hear." And now he's saying again he doesn't even like strippers. He lies so much he can't keep his lies straight.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:12 AM

^^^That's crazy if its one thing I can't stand its a liar!

Jahpson · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:12 AM

Originally Posted by mellecyn

I completely agree !!!! I was saying the same to a friend.
Lately I have been dating a lot and have been in the position of "rejecting" guys (well, except one), it´s such a change !! I am feeling confused and bad and uncomfortable when I have to say I am not interested....but yes, such a reverse of positions...
I had a few guys telling me they didn´t want to see again the girl because they felt no spark....so they were focused on what they wanted themselves whereas I was more like what does HE think of me, and then I´d see....But this is changing right now. I am becoming more confident, more selfish ?
Yes it´s like guys never feel the urge to see us...they make time in their schedule , that´s all.

Zophie : I am wondering the same ? to make him "suffer" ? but I am not sure he can have a heart....

thats funny, because I was called selfish just because I know what I want and don't want. Keep doing what your doing!! Being passive is the same thing as letting anybody into your life instead of who you really want.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:14 AM

^^^I agree with you Japh I had a guy call me selfish once for the same reason, I just laughed at him.

mellecyn · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:14 AM

mmm it´s working, he is getting crazy...well done Zophie.
Let him go crazy.....let him not concentrate on his job....

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:17 AM

Originally Posted by mellecyn

mmm it´s working, he is getting crazy...well done Zophie.
Let him go crazy.....let him not concentrate on his job....

hope he doesn't have to be in court today....

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:22 AM

Well Zophie, I don't know the details of course, but from reading his e-mail I get the idea that it's all about looks, pretty women and sex for him. You deserve way better than that! You are not someone's toy to play with. I would ignore him completely now. Big hug.

To me, men that mention something about my looks very early on are a complete turn off for me. (depending maybe on how it's being said). I know I'm "pretty" and I think for a lot of guys that makes me a challange, yet they are never capable of hiding that from me. Also, when it comes to sex, they have to be very patient. Not because I don't want to, I just don't want to be with a jerk that just wants to score me.

It doesn't make anything any easier.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Well Zophie, I don't know the details of course, but from reading his e-mail I get the idea that it's all about looks, pretty women and sex for him. You deserve way better than that! You are not someone's toy to play with. I would ignore him completely now. Big hug.

To me, men that mention something about my looks very early on are a complete turn off for me. (depending maybe on how it's being said). I know I'm "pretty" and I think for a lot of guys that makes me a challange, yet they are never capable of hiding that from me. Also, when it comes to sex, they have to be very patient. Not because I don't want to, I just don't want to be with a jerk that just wants to score me.

It doesn't make anything any easier.

you're right. I totally fell for it. I don't even really feel like dating anyone for a while.

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:18 PM

Originally Posted by Zophie

you're right. I totally fell for it. I don't even really feel like dating anyone for a while.

Noooooo, Zophie, please don't feel bad!! I would have fallen for it too! We all fell for it when you told us your stories, even when you told us about your doubts. You knew that something was off, you kept your eyes open. And you were right. You can be proud of yourself!! Stay strong!!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:25 PM

Lord have mercy, now he's calling me.

spoiled_brat · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:38 PM

^ what a persistent little bugger

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Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:56 AM	#1534
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	Zophie~ Again i'm really sorry he turned out to be this way, and I agree what's eating him is the fact he can't figure out how you found out what he was up to.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:10 AM	#1535
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,490	Now he's emailing me. This is the latest one: "I can’t concentrate on my work. This is crazy. Why can’t you trust me? When I first met you I wasn’t a priest. I dumped her for you! Why do you think I’m seeing other women? I don’t even want to go to strip clubs. I think you are amazing and you should know that. Do you really think that I can get excited the way that I do with you with any girl? You have no idea. You are all that I need and want. Being at the beach you were the best looking woman in Florida and Alabama! " What is fucking ridiculous is just this past weekend I told him I liked going to strip clubs and said I wished he liked strippers and he goes, "What do you mean I don't like strippers? I love strippers." I told him that he told me they didn't do anything for him, and he goes, "I probably told you that because that's what I thought you wanted to hear." And now he's saying again he doesn't even like strippers. He lies so much he can't keep his lies straight.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:12 AM	#1536
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	^^^That's crazy if its one thing I can't stand its a liar!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:14 AM	#1538
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	^^^I agree with you Japh I had a guy call me selfish once for the same reason, I just laughed at him.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:14 AM	#1539
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,110	mmm it´s working, he is getting crazy...well done Zophie. Let him go crazy.....let him not concentrate on his job....
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 10:22 AM	#1541
HappyGrl2008 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 272	Well Zophie, I don't know the details of course, but from reading his e-mail I get the idea that it's all about looks, pretty women and sex for him. You deserve way better than that! You are not someone's toy to play with. I would ignore him completely now. Big hug. To me, men that mention something about my looks very early on are a complete turn off for me. (depending maybe on how it's being said). I know I'm "pretty" and I think for a lot of guys that makes me a challange, yet they are never capable of hiding that from me. Also, when it comes to sex, they have to be very patient. Not because I don't want to, I just don't want to be with a jerk that just wants to score me. It doesn't make anything any easier.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:25 PM	#1544
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,490	Lord have mercy, now he's calling me.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:38 PM	#1545
spoiled_brat not spoiled enough Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 2,182	^ what a persistent little bugger

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