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Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:48 AM

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

Hi ladies!

Well, I'm back from my "date" with my online guy and it went pretty well! He is exactly what I expected, both looks-wise and personality-wise.

Not going to get my hopes up but he seems like a really nice guy. It was a great way to spend the day. We went for a long walk on the beach and in the park and went for dinner afterwards.

Anyway, yeah, here is my update

sounds good so far!

Myblackbag · Jul 2nd, 2009, 06:55 AM

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

Hugs

to everyone dealing with lonliness, some stupid guy, or who may just need a lift. I'll be home alone for the holiday so I'll be doing a lot of reading and posting on tPF over the 4th!

Won't be hanging out much this weekend, I will be probably be here over the holiday as well.

Myblackbag · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:01 AM

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

I've been avoiding love music for like the last two years since my seperation LOL I need to listen to something I can party to

I avoid love songs too when I am feeling lonely, it makes me sit and reflect, and that can drive me crazy!

I try to listen to upbeat music to keep my spirits up. But there is one exception, I might slip and listen to a Luther tune on my mp3 every now and again (can't help it).

Myblackbag · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:03 AM

Originally Posted by spoiled_brat

Hi ladies!

Well, I'm back from my "date" with my online guy and it went pretty well! He is exactly what I expected, both looks-wise and personality-wise.

Not going to get my hopes up but he seems like a really nice guy. It was a great way to spend the day. We went for a long walk on the beach and in the park and went for dinner afterwards.

Anyway, yeah, here is my update

So glad you had a nice date spoiled_brat! So far so good. Keep us posted.

Myblackbag · Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:20 AM

So I finally let the guy come over to my place yesterday. I met him at the beach after work, then he came over later last night.

I cooked, we ate and watched tv. He tried to get touchy (which I am sure was part of why he was so eager to come over), so I had to nip that in the bud. But overall it was a nice evening.

He gets off work early today for the holiday and is going out of town after that. My problem is this, if you are as interested in me as you say you are then why do you leave every weekend?

I know you have a sick friend that is recovering from an accident, but you don't have to be with him every weekend.

We only went out one day this week due to a breakdown in communication and the fact that he has a very demanding job. So to me, I would think that since he finally has a little downtime that he would want to do something with me over the holiday. Oh well, in the words of Gwen Stefani "I'm just a girl", what do I know about these things.

I don't really think that he is seeing someone else when he leaves, but it does strike me as odd. I think that I will ask him about this later today when he calls.

Thats my mini update. Hope you ladies are doing well.

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:00 AM

Spoiledbrat~ glad to hear you had a nice date!

Myblackbag~ That's very odd, yes you have to ask him about that!

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:10 AM

Originally Posted by Myblackbag

So to me, I would think that since he finally has a little downtime that he would want to do something with me over the holiday. Oh well, in the words of Gwen Stefani "I'm just a girl", what do I know about these things.

Don't doubt yourself.

It seems that we as women always have to wait for a guy to make up his mind. Cater to his needs. Wait for him to have time for us, cause he's too busy. What's up with that? The moment we step up, take charge, call them, we become "annoying", "pushy" and "demanding"....We are always pushed into the role of the passive person. Why?

OK, waaaaaaaay over analyzing things!! lol!!

~Fabulousity~ · Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:13 AM

^^^No you're not I agree with you. Its like that guy I posted about who I ignored on Sunday. Its as if alot of guys think we are supposed to pursue them. Sorry i'm old fashioned in that way, if a guy wants me he needs to pursue me and if i'm interested he will know it because he will get just as much of my attention as he gives me of his. If I don't like a guy they get nada.

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:22 AM

OMG now the fb guy is texting me, calling, said he's coming by to talk to me. He won't just go away! What I'm sure is killing him is he doesn't know where he f-ed up and I won't tell him.

bellapsyd · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:30 AM

^ out of curiousity, why aren't you telling him Zophie?

HappyGrl2008 · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by Zophie

OMG now the fb guy is texting me, calling, said he's coming by to talk to me. He won't just go away! What I'm sure is killing him is he doesn't know where he f-ed up and I won't tell him.

Zophie, you are a 100% sure he was seeing other women right? If so, I would let him suffer. Stay strong!!!!!!!!!!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by bellapsyd

^ out of curiousity, why aren't you telling him Zophie?

well, I did text him back "your pursuit of pu$$y controls you to the point of hurting everyone around you." I do for a fact know this is true. He denied it and said, "Please tell me what you are talking about. I have never been more satisfied, you are everything I could need or want." I see no point in telling him what I know so he can simply figure a way to come up with a story to deny it. This man is sick. I looked up narcissistic personality disorder, and I think that might be what he has. I really do feel very sad about this. I really liked this guy and it's so hard to believe he's done this to me.

mellecyn · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Don't doubt yourself.

It seems that we as women always have to wait for a guy to make up his mind. Cater to his needs. Wait for him to have time for us, cause he's too busy. What's up with that? The moment we step up, take charge, call them, we become "annoying", "pushy" and "demanding"....We are always pushed into the role of the passive person. Why?

OK, waaaaaaaay over analyzing things!! lol!!

I completely agree !!!! I was saying the same to a friend.
Lately I have been dating a lot and have been in the position of "rejecting" guys (well, except one), it´s such a change !! I am feeling confused and bad and uncomfortable when I have to say I am not interested....but yes, such a reverse of positions...
I had a few guys telling me they didn´t want to see again the girl because they felt no spark....so they were focused on what they wanted themselves whereas I was more like what does HE think of me, and then I´d see....But this is changing right now. I am becoming more confident, more selfish ?
Yes it´s like guys never feel the urge to see us...they make time in their schedule , that´s all.

Zophie : I am wondering the same ? to make him "suffer" ? but I am not sure he can have a heart....

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by happygrl2008

zophie, you are a 100% sure he was seeing other women right? If so, i would let him suffer. Stay strong!!!!!!!!!!

absolutely positive!

Zophie · Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by mellecyn

I completely agree !!!! I was saying the same to a friend.
Lately I have been dating a lot and have been in the position of "rejecting" guys (well, except one), it´s such a change !! I am feeling confused and bad and uncomfortable when I have to say I am not interested....but yes, such a reverse of positions...
I had a few guys telling me they didn´t want to see again the girl because they felt no spark....so they were focused on what they wanted themselves whereas I was more like what does HE think of me, and then I´d see....But this is changing right now. I am becoming more confident, more selfish ?
Yes it´s like guys never feel the urge to see us...they make time in their schedule , that´s all.

Zophie : I am wondering the same ? to make him "suffer" ? but I am not sure he can have a heart....

I think the only reason he's suffering is he can't figure out what I know and where he went wrong. Oh, and maybe he can't get any sex right now....:)

Jul 2nd, 2009, 07:20 AM	#1520
Myblackbag Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 926	So I finally let the guy come over to my place yesterday. I met him at the beach after work, then he came over later last night. I cooked, we ate and watched tv. He tried to get touchy (which I am sure was part of why he was so eager to come over), so I had to nip that in the bud. But overall it was a nice evening. He gets off work early today for the holiday and is going out of town after that. My problem is this, if you are as interested in me as you say you are then why do you leave every weekend? I know you have a sick friend that is recovering from an accident, but you don't have to be with him every weekend. We only went out one day this week due to a breakdown in communication and the fact that he has a very demanding job. So to me, I would think that since he finally has a little downtime that he would want to do something *with me* over the holiday. Oh well, in the words of Gwen Stefani "I'm just a girl", what do I know about these things. I don't really think that he is seeing someone else when he leaves, but it does strike me as odd. I think that I will ask him about this later today when he calls. Thats my mini update. Hope you ladies are doing well.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:00 AM	#1521
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	Spoiledbrat~ glad to hear you had a nice date! Myblackbag~ That's very odd, yes you have to ask him about that!
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 2nd, 2009, 08:13 AM	#1523
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	^^^No you're not I agree with you. Its like that guy I posted about who I ignored on Sunday. Its as if alot of guys think we are supposed to pursue them. Sorry i'm old fashioned in that way, if a guy wants me he needs to pursue me and if i'm interested he will know it because he will get just as much of my attention as he gives me of his. If I don't like a guy they get nada.
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911

Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:22 AM	#1524
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Joined: Feb 2007 Location: New Orleans, LA Posts: 8,490	OMG now the fb guy is texting me, calling, said he's coming by to talk to me. He won't just go away! What I'm sure is killing him is he doesn't know where he f-ed up and I won't tell him.
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 09:30 AM	#1525
bellapsyd Moving 2 LOS ANGELES Joined: Jan 2008 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,668	^ out of curiousity, why aren't you telling him Zophie?
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