Shocking Secret Revealed

PrincessMe · Jul 14th, 2008, 11:45 PM

Thanks so much buttercup,laureen, sweetdreamer & Dallas

you have no idea how much ur words mean to me. Ashley, your advise has helped me 1000% percent. I have to get that Laura Day book, its so true what you wrote

its me holding on to her & the past. Ive wanted to call her so much, idk why but i see its me. i have to let go, i have to stop letting people abuse me. i have to move on.
im going to have to control myself and not call her or think about her. and force myself to stay positive and away from negative people & situations.

i mean one thing that happened last time i saw her, everyone knows who knows me knows of my business and they know that its a popular place, even strangers are happy for me and on top of everything else...the last time i saw her she's says laughing " ur bag is fake! mine is $300 and its small so urs is cant be real" ( bc its was big)"

she just talks to me like im this loser and im like hello why would i have a fake bag? why do you keep acting like im this loser & u and ur friends our all so much better than me, more successful, more everything? and its just maddening bc these girls, like i said before, they're disgusting, filthy looking, not in anyway hot stripper or escort types...one time her friend bragged to me "i had sex with this guy and he took me on a shopping spree to forever21" and im just thinking omg you are seriously insane!

its like WTF on top of everything else..the lies, the plotting, the extremely nasty comments..she acts like im this loser??? so really i just need to stay away and im going to.

Sincerely, Thank you all so much

VPT · Jul 15th, 2008, 02:27 AM

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Originally Posted by PrincessMe

its like WTF on top of everything else..the lies, the plotting, the extremely nasty comments..she acts like im this loser??? so really i just need to stay away and im going to.

She's probably dissatisfied with her own life she feels the compulsion to make another person unhappy and you just fit her bill. Naive, successful, happy, unsuspecting, tolerant. Be the opposite and get her out of your life. Being related is no reason to keep in touch with acidic folks.

Jahpson · Jul 15th, 2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by VPT

She's probably dissatisfied with her own life she feels the compulsion to make another person unhappy and you just fit her bill. Naive, successful, happy, unsuspecting, tolerant. Be the opposite and get her out of your life. Being related is no reason to keep in touch with acidic folks.

Jealousy could also be in the equation

oneglance · Jul 16th, 2008, 01:20 AM

seems like she envies you a lot :\ to make herself seem like a 'cooler' person than you...
getting happiness like that is just sad ><;;; plus those are just materialistic items :\
i don't need to be rich but i want a stable job ^^

natalie1885 · Jul 20th, 2008, 09:21 PM

wow, i just came across this thread and it was very interesting to read.
ash, i LUV dr. laura too of course! but i know u know that already heehee, didja know that her latest book is 50% off at barnes & noble? i think it was a mistake in barnes' part, but oh well, i was happy to see it on sale for the first time ever

back to topic: isn't it funny though how many haters we come across in our lifetime, be it our best girlfriends, cousins, sisters, coworkers, strangers or even aunts?
i could start a whole new thread on this of course, because it seems to be a constant & familiar topic and quite frankly i'm SICK of all the jealous haters. yes we're women and yes it's human nature to feel tinges of jealousy; but we also have the human ability to control it and understand it is wrong, therefore not act out of it, but understand that every woman no matter how rich, poor, successful, gorgeous, talented or not so talented or whatever has her own story and had her own walk through lifes ups & downs and whatever we or others gain through success-we should just look to that as inspiration and goal ourselves to reach higher...

i'm just tired of jealous people. seems like there are a lot of them and in reading the starter post from princessme, i felt so bad because it sounds like you are just a sweet, helpful, loving & warm person who really likes to extend the fruit of your successes to the ones you truly love & care for-and what do you get in return? a jealous hater who is so disrespectful instead of being thankful she treats you like the trash (she probably feels she is)...but it's NOT right at all. i mean, how dare her treat you like that? after all that you've done. your story touches a part of me too because i think in a way most of us probably have had similar experiences with a "like" story and it's so sad & really unacceptable. i hope you found it in yourself to pick up & move on bcuz no matter how long you've known this relative of yours, she's not worth all the drama.
i've had to cut one of my aunts out of my life bcuz she's a jealous hater and at first i thought she was only like that with me. as i got older and started flipping through my mom's old albums it was funny to see all the old pics with my aunt in it looking rather grumpy (unhappy) in all the shots! i thought-wow-i was just a tiny baby in those pics & she was a hater way back then too! but she did so many things to my other cousins near my age group too that i found out about & i just couldn't be a part of someone like that. it's hard for the fact that i have to see her at family functions, but i keep it very civil when i do see her and stay in another area of the party (usually w/all my other girl relatives that have had similar experiences w/her too).
the way we figure it, our aunt didn't get the experiences we were able to acquire through life, she got married 3x before age 32 and her husband treats her like crap in front of us and so she treats us crappy bcuz she's miserable of her own choices: not our fault. but since then, my eyes have been more open to recognizing jealous girls.

girls that get easily intimidated & jealous of others things, talents, successes, stories-or whatever needs to just stop, reevaluate themselves, and instead of being so jealous that they have to resort to cattiness, should really take a "be nice and friendly chill pill", or go see a psychologist to work out their jealousy/anger issues because it's people like that who make this world a gloomy place to live in.
princessme-it's obvious that you're on top of your life and yourself, so obviously the person you were referring to just wishes she were the one walking in your shoes.
have you heard fergie's song? sheesh, i forgot the title but i had to use the track last yr for my class:
i remember verse:
who are you/and what do you do/
to make me feel like you're above me/but have you walked in my shoes/
the pedestal you put yourself on/well you think you're above me but....

...tell me who you are and what your background is/
tell me who you think can treat me like this(?)

forgot some of the words-OH-the song is called "pedestal" and it's directed at haters.
and see how successful fergie is? she's probably referring to all the jealous haters bashing on her success.
ohkay. sorry i went on & on...but i'm so sick of jealous people! why can't they take a happy pill and keep movin on & movin along!?

PrincessMe · Jul 21st, 2008, 10:17 PM

Thanks so much for your insight Jahpson, One, Natalie & VPT

Ive been staying away and I feel alot happier. Ive been reading the power of now and i see that I kept myself around the past and abusive people bc i was afraid of letting it all go... one line in the book is "who would u be with out ur problems?" and i thought about it and i didnt know..im so used to being around abusive people...it was like i was scared of the unknown..of what life wuld be without my "security blanket" all the negative people ive knowen since i was little

Thanks so much Natalie for all your kind words I really appreciate them

i never thought when i started this thread that there was something wrong with me. i was just so used to all the abuse & drama that it seemed normal..but now what ive learned from this thread, from all of you, has really changed my life forever ..i was so deep in the craziness that i couldnt even see clearly. that i had put myself there for no reason except for that i was what i was used to.
Thanks so much again & again

Lululapell · Jul 22nd, 2008, 12:06 AM

She is an adult and needs to lead her own life. You can only do so much for anyone. And it seems she doesn't want your help or support. If it were me, I would cut down communication with her to a minimum. You don't like the way you feel after talking to her, and this has nothing to do with her profession.

laureenthemean · Jul 22nd, 2008, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by PrincessMe

Thanks so much for your insight Jahpson, One, Natalie & VPT

Ive been staying away and I feel alot happier. Ive been reading the power of now and i see that I kept myself around the past and abusive people bc i was afraid of letting it all go... one line in the book is "who would u be with out ur problems?" and i thought about it and i didnt know..im so used to being around abusive people...it was like i was scared of the unknown..of what life wuld be without my "security blanket" all the negative people ive knowen since i was little

Thanks so much Natalie for all your kind words I really appreciate them

i never thought when i started this thread that there was something wrong with me. i was just so used to all the abuse & drama that it seemed normal..but now what ive learned from this thread, from all of you, has really changed my life forever ..i was so deep in the craziness that i couldnt even see clearly. that i had put myself there for no reason except for that i was what i was used to.
Thanks so much again & again

I am so glad something positive has come out of this. I am truly happy for you, and I hope you know that you did all you could for your cousin, but once the relationship gets abusive, you need to save yourself first. Sounds like that's what you're doing, and I wish you all the best.

Jul 14th, 2008, 11:45 PM	#46
PrincessMe La Fabuleuse Location: In the Fab Lane	Thanks so much buttercup,laureen, sweetdreamer & Dallas you have no idea how much ur words mean to me. Ashley, your advise has helped me 1000% percent. I have to get that Laura Day book, its so true what you wrote its me holding on to her & the past. Ive wanted to call her so much, idk why but i see its me. i have to let go, i have to stop letting people abuse me. i have to move on. im going to have to control myself and not call her or think about her. and force myself to stay positive and away from negative people & situations. i mean one thing that happened last time i saw her, everyone knows who knows me knows of my business and they know that its a popular place, even strangers are happy for me and on top of everything else...the last time i saw her she's says laughing " ur bag is fake! mine is $300 and its small so urs is cant be real" ( bc its was big)" she just talks to me like im this loser and im like hello why would i have a fake bag? why do you keep acting like im this loser & u and ur friends our all so much better than me, more successful, more everything? and its just maddening bc these girls, like i said before, they're disgusting, filthy looking, not in anyway hot stripper or escort types...one time her friend bragged to me "i had sex with this guy and he took me on a shopping spree to forever21" and im just thinking omg you are seriously insane! its like WTF on top of everything else..the lies, the plotting, the extremely nasty comments..she acts like im this loser??? so really i just need to stay away and im going to. Sincerely, Thank you all so much __________________ www.theadventuresofmee.blogspot.com Dream Bag: Mirage Griet

Jul 20th, 2008, 09:21 PM	#50
natalie1885 ♥'s her sunshine bag Location: ♥ Cloud9 ♥	wow, i just came across this thread and it was very interesting to read. ash, i LUV dr. laura too of course! but i know u know that already heehee, didja know that her latest book is 50% off at barnes & noble? i think it was a mistake in barnes' part, but oh well, i was happy to see it on sale for the first time ever back to topic: isn't it funny though how many haters we come across in our lifetime, be it our best girlfriends, cousins, sisters, coworkers, strangers or even aunts? i could start a whole new thread on this of course, because it seems to be a constant & familiar topic and quite frankly i'm SICK of all the jealous haters. yes we're women and yes it's human nature to feel tinges of jealousy; but we also have the human ability to control it and understand it is wrong, therefore not act out of it, but understand that every woman no matter how rich, poor, successful, gorgeous, talented or not so talented or whatever has her own story and had her own walk through lifes ups & downs and whatever we or others gain through success-we should just look to that as inspiration and goal ourselves to reach higher... i'm just tired of jealous people. seems like there are a lot of them and in reading the starter post from princessme, i felt so bad because it sounds like you are just a sweet, helpful, loving & warm person who really likes to extend the fruit of your successes to the ones you truly love & care for-and what do you get in return? a jealous hater who is so disrespectful instead of being thankful she treats you like the trash (she probably feels she is)...but it's NOT right at all. i mean, how dare her treat you like that? after all that you've done. your story touches a part of me too because i think in a way most of us probably have had similar experiences with a "like" story and it's so sad & really unacceptable. i hope you found it in yourself to pick up & move on bcuz no matter how long you've known this relative of yours, she's not worth all the drama. i've had to cut one of my aunts out of my life bcuz she's a jealous hater and at first i thought she was only like that with me. as i got older and started flipping through my mom's old albums it was funny to see all the old pics with my aunt in it looking rather grumpy (unhappy) in all the shots! i thought-wow-i was just a tiny baby in those pics & she was a hater way back then too! but she did so many things to my other cousins near my age group too that i found out about & i just couldn't be a part of someone like that. it's hard for the fact that i have to see her at family functions, but i keep it very civil when i do see her and stay in another area of the party (usually w/all my other girl relatives that have had similar experiences w/her too). the way we figure it, our aunt didn't get the experiences we were able to acquire through life, she got married 3x before age 32 and her husband treats her like crap in front of us and so she treats us crappy bcuz she's miserable of her own choices: not our fault. but since then, my eyes have been more open to recognizing jealous girls. girls that get easily intimidated & jealous of others things, talents, successes, stories-or whatever needs to just stop, reevaluate themselves, and instead of being so jealous that they have to resort to cattiness, should really take a "be nice and friendly chill pill", or go see a psychologist to work out their jealousy/anger issues because it's people like that who make this world a gloomy place to live in. princessme-it's obvious that you're on top of your life and yourself, so obviously the person you were referring to just wishes she were the one walking in your shoes. have you heard fergie's song? sheesh, i forgot the title but i had to use the track last yr for my class: i remember verse: who are you/and what do you do/ to make me feel like you're above me/but have you walked in my shoes/ the pedestal you put yourself on/well you think you're above me but.... ...tell me who you are and what your background is/ tell me who you think can treat me like this(?) forgot some of the words-OH-the song is called "pedestal" and it's directed at haters. and see how successful fergie is? she's probably referring to all the jealous haters bashing on her success. ohkay. sorry i went on & on...but i'm so sick of jealous people! why can't they take a happy pill and keep movin on & movin along!? __________________ lv mulTiColor speedy 30, have one? want one? join the club here. nat's: albums here (under construction) bl♥g here Last edited by natalie1885; Jul 20th, 2008 at 09:25 PM.

Jul 21st, 2008, 10:17 PM	#51
PrincessMe La Fabuleuse Location: In the Fab Lane	Thanks so much for your insight Jahpson, One, Natalie & VPT Ive been staying away and I feel alot happier. Ive been reading the power of now and i see that I kept myself around the past and abusive people bc i was afraid of letting it all go... one line in the book is "who would u be with out ur problems?" and i thought about it and i didnt know..im so used to being around abusive people...it was like i was scared of the unknown..of what life wuld be without my "security blanket" all the negative people ive knowen since i was little Thanks so much Natalie for all your kind words I really appreciate them i never thought when i started this thread that there was something wrong with me. i was just so used to all the abuse & drama that it seemed normal..but now what ive learned from this thread, from all of you, has really changed my life forever ..i was so deep in the craziness that i couldnt even see clearly. that i had put myself there for no reason except for that i was what i was used to. Thanks so much again & again __________________ www.theadventuresofmee.blogspot.com Dream Bag: Mirage Griet

Jul 16th, 2008, 01:20 AM	#49
oneglance Member	seems like she envies you a lot :\ to make herself seem like a 'cooler' person than you... getting happiness like that is just sad ><;;; plus those are just materialistic items :\ i don't need to be rich but i want a stable job ^^

Jul 22nd, 2008, 12:06 AM	#52
Lululapell Member Location: Utopia	She is an adult and needs to lead her own life. You can only do so much for anyone. And it seems she doesn't want your help or support. If it were me, I would cut down communication with her to a minimum. You don't like the way you feel after talking to her, and this has nothing to do with her profession.