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carvedwords · Nov 16th, 2007, 02:27 AM

I've never had a crush on my boss, but on a co-worker. Completely harmless as long as he just stays your eye candy.

karman · Nov 16th, 2007, 01:05 PM

I am sexually attracted to my boss too...who also happens to be my boyfriend, lol. BUT he got promoted long after we started dating and he's no millionaire

Like the ladies said, no harm done as long he's just "eye candy"!

lm040523 · Nov 16th, 2007, 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by HubbaWubba

Got a pic?

hahaha HubbaWubba, that was exactly what i was thinking! lol. Your name suits this thread well lol.

Does your boss show any signs that he's interested in you? Sorry if someone already asked, i didn't read all the responses.

That sounds like a catch lol, you better catch him before someone does!

caxe · Nov 16th, 2007, 05:32 PM

Does he like you back?

PurseNut911 · Nov 17th, 2007, 02:00 AM

Hmmm....eye candy that is right there for the taking, huh? LOL

Well --- seriously, I think this is what you ought to do:
1) End the current bad relationship if it is not salvageable and the love is no longer there.
2) Focus on getting time for yourself for your new life.
3) Check if hunky boss is interested.
4) If interested, go out with eye candy and take things slowly.

On the bright side - even if you're miserable right now being attracted to your boss and you are in a bad relationship, the sight of his gorgeous self does provide you with a little slice of heavenly excitement. Good luck!!

Highmaintenance · Nov 17th, 2007, 09:00 AM

Originally Posted by PurseNut911

On the bright side - even if you're miserable right now being attracted to your boss and you are in a bad relationship, the sight of his gorgeous self does provide you with a little slice of heavenly excitement. Good luck!!

Amen

fiatflux · Nov 17th, 2007, 09:48 AM

^^hmmm....well if that's your only response to everything that's been posted, then it looks like you want to stay in the fantasy and not face the hard stuff. Takes one to know one (avoidance is my middle name).

D & G rockstar · Nov 17th, 2007, 11:40 AM

I think he might sense you're attracted to him already. its the way energy works..... I have had little crushes here and there and I felt it was mutual but unsaid. crushes come and go. You're probably just a vunerable point because of your current relationship

Pursegrrl · Nov 17th, 2007, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by minami

^^ As others mentioned here, it could be a huge problem for your career but maybe it's just a harmless little crush and it will pass, I dont think Im a good 'advisor' but I guess it might be more beneficial for you if you try to sort out your own relationship first?

But, you don't have to feel bad about yourself since you didn't do anything?!

So true!!! It's perfectly normal to be attracted to people throughout our lives whether we're in a committed relationship or not. Doesn't mean you have to (or should!) act on it.

Pursegrrl · Nov 17th, 2007, 01:23 PM

And I wasn't going to post this but OK here goes....I've been there myself and yes, I have crossed the line. This was about 9-10 years ago so now that a decade has passed I guess I can post this and not worry too much, LOL!!

My boss wasn't married (twice divorced, no kids) almost 20 years older than I, handsome, great shape, great personality. I had been at the company about 4 years before he started so he was a newbie and I was one of the people responsible for getting him introduced and acclimated on his first few days as HIS boss was out of town on business.

OK, fast forward, he took me out to dinner a few times (we're in a pretty big city so I wasn't TOO worried about a co-worker spotting us out together but it WAS a risk), he came over to my place and we cooked together, just hung out, etc. Yes, we did sleep together a couple times. I know what I did could have severely tarnished my professional reputation and I don't recommend it but I DO understand how the attraction can be so intense.

In my case, I never got super emotionally involved. It was a deep friendship, very hard to explain, but I knew that nothing would come of things. In the end, fate stepped in hard and he moved to another part of the state about 4 months after starting at our company. We did keep in touch via phone and email for about a year after that believe it or not. Never all this "oh I miss you, oh baby baby". Just more of a warm hearted Hi How are Ya.

I've never experienced anything like it. And I DON'T make a point of dating people I work with.

***Sigh*** thanks for reading pursegrrl's memoir excerpt from 1997, LOL!!!

Label Addict · Nov 17th, 2007, 09:52 PM

Ok I'll share too (thanks pursegrrl for getting the ball rolling)

opening night and my first night at my new job this totally hot guy walks in just my type. I did a little digging and found out he was the owner and had a girlfriend those two facts ruled him out straight away.

forward 1 year we've been chatting he's asked my advice on a number of topics he left his grlfriend we hung out quite a lot went out for coffee etc he asked me to teach him things in the business "in case of emergency" which I did thinking nothing of it eventually we realised that what we wanted was each other we've been together approx 7 years or so and although it's a taboo it the best decision I ever made although not one to be taken lightly we had numerous people complaining about our relationship

I was never favoured but people always assume you were, think long and hard if you want to pursue this

Jahpson · Nov 17th, 2007, 10:23 PM

having a relationship with a co-worker is bound to explode and fail! dont do it!

1. its unprofessional

2. he is married for goodness sakes!

i think women who go after married men are homewreckers

so take a cold shower, and get back to work!! lol dont do anything stupid

lulilu · Nov 17th, 2007, 10:35 PM

Originally Posted by JahpsonLoveYou

having a relationship with a co-worker is bound to explode and fail! dont do it!

1. its unprofessional

2. he is married for goodness sakes!

i think women who go after married men are homewreckers

so take a cold shower, and get back to work!! lol dont do anything stupid

I believe the OP said he was NOT married. She is.

Jahpson · Nov 17th, 2007, 10:36 PM

Originally Posted by lulilu

I believe the OP said he was NOT married. She is.

even worse!!!!!

Pursegrrl · Nov 17th, 2007, 10:40 PM

[quote=Highmaintenance;4402446]He is not married, I'm!!!

<---I'm stuck in a very UNHAPPY relationship. Long story. I don't want to talk about it...I'm so sad!!!

=quote]

Yes, this is OP's post.

Nov 16th, 2007, 02:27 AM	#31
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Nov 16th, 2007, 05:32 PM	#34
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Nov 17th, 2007, 02:00 AM	#35
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Nov 17th, 2007, 09:48 AM	#37
fiatflux Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,319	Re: Sexually Attracted to my Boss! I'm Miserable... ^^hmmm....well if that's your only response to everything that's been posted, then it looks like you want to stay in the fantasy and not face the hard stuff. Takes one to know one (avoidance is my middle name).
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Nov 17th, 2007, 11:40 AM	#38
D & G rockstar I'm a BAL-ler now Joined: May 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 3,941	Re: Sexually Attracted to my Boss! I'm Miserable... I think he might sense you're attracted to him already. its the way energy works..... I have had little crushes here and there and I felt it was mutual but unsaid. crushes come and go. You're probably just a vunerable point because of your current relationship

Nov 17th, 2007, 01:23 PM	#40
Pursegrrl Oh no she di-int!! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 19,304	Re: Sexually Attracted to my Boss! I'm Miserable... And I wasn't going to post this but OK here goes....I've been there myself and yes, I have crossed the line. This was about 9-10 years ago so now that a decade has passed I guess I can post this and not worry too much, LOL!! My boss wasn't married (twice divorced, no kids) almost 20 years older than I, handsome, great shape, great personality. I had been at the company about 4 years before he started so he was a newbie and I was one of the people responsible for getting him introduced and acclimated on his first few days as HIS boss was out of town on business. OK, fast forward, he took me out to dinner a few times (we're in a pretty big city so I wasn't TOO worried about a co-worker spotting us out together but it WAS a risk), he came over to my place and we cooked together, just hung out, etc. Yes, we did sleep together a couple times. I know what I did could have severely tarnished my professional reputation and I don't recommend it but I DO understand how the attraction can be so intense. In my case, I never got super emotionally involved. It was a deep friendship, very hard to explain, but I knew that nothing would come of things. In the end, fate stepped in hard and he moved to another part of the state about 4 months after starting at our company. We did keep in touch via phone and email for about a year after that believe it or not. Never all this "oh I miss you, oh baby baby". Just more of a warm hearted Hi How are Ya. I've never experienced anything like it. And I DON'T make a point of dating people I work with. *Sigh* thanks for reading pursegrrl's memoir excerpt from 1997, LOL!!!
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Nov 17th, 2007, 09:52 PM	#41
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Nov 17th, 2007, 10:23 PM	#42
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Nov 17th, 2007, 10:40 PM	#45
Pursegrrl Oh no she di-int!! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 19,304	Re: Sexually Attracted to my Boss! I'm Miserable... [quote=Highmaintenance;4402446]He is not married, I'm!!! <---I'm stuck in a very UNHAPPY relationship. Long story. I don't want to talk about it...I'm so sad!!! =quote] Yes, this is OP's post.
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