people who are nosy with my finances...

[sparklythings]

Last week, I had a friend who was lecturing me about how I spend "mommy and daddy's" money and how I wastefully spend it (when I told her that I wanted to invest in a hobby). Mind you, 90% of the time of the things that I buy are greatly discounted or on sale. I don't go out often, always cook at home, try to buy groceries that are on sale and work my meals around it, etc...

My friend shouldn't be the one that is lecturing me because she barely works 30 hours/week in retail at minimum wage and she spends MORE than I do! She doesn't know how to cook and eats out every single night. She then brags about the things that she buys and how much they are (I don't even do this. If people ask how much my items are, I generally tell them that I don't remember).

She didn't work last year and went on crazy shopping sprees, ate out every single day, and had sushi for dinner every week. Where does she get the money? Her parents, but she refuses to let people know and tries to tell people that she never takes money from her parents. I used to work in retail for a short time (for clothing discounts) and I would never be able to afford that kind of lifestyle with that salary, even if I saved.


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I know I shouldn't get into her business, but shes calling me out when she should be taking her own advice. I'm still a student, so its not like I can work full time. My parents are supporting me now and I will support them when I'm older and with a career.

Thanks for letting me rant!

[Kansashalo]

Rant away! :~) But seriously, ignore your friend because it's really none of her business. I can understand if she was coming from a standpoint of true concern but it doesn't sound like it.

I'm a grown, working adult and people still feel the need to comment on my finances (ex. how do you afford LV bags? etc. ) - I just ignore them as you should too.

[sparklythings]

Originally Posted by Kansashalo

Rant away! :~) But seriously, ignore your friend because it's really none of her business. I can understand if she was coming from a standpoint of true concern but it doesn't sound like it. I'm a grown, working adult and people still feel the need to comment on my finances (ex. how do you afford LV bags? etc. ) - I just ignore them as you should too.

Thank you for listening to me! I can't believe that people will still grill mature adults on their expenses...

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[Nieners]

Even if you do spend your "mommy and daddy's" money, it's not something she should give you a lecture about (and this counts for everything imho). Plus, I don't see why she would care.

Did you say something about it to her? I would let her know it's none of her business.

[Immi]

She's probably realised that her spending habits aren't sensible and she's taking it out on you. She should enjoy the time she has with her friend not pick you apart.

It is totally none of her business, and it sounds like she's lecturing to make herself feel better more than for your benefit. Next time she asks you why you're so wasteful, ask her why she's so wasteful of the time she has with you, lecturing you instead of enjoying your company. If something happened to my best friend today I'd feel slightly remorseful if I'd spent our last hours together lecturing him on something he didn't need/want advice with.

[_soho]

I had a friend like that (a very close one), in fact we're still friends, because I told her to keep out. It worked for me, she was a bit taken aback, but it probably made her see it from my point of view.

Also I think it's not fair of her to bring your parents into this. Like you said, you're still a student and what your parents do or do not pay for you isn't anyone's business.

[natalie78]

Why are you two still friends? Next time she says something, tell her to mind her own business. If she does it again, call her on it.

[krisluvspurses]

I'd totally call her out on it! Next time she starts giving you crap, remind her how much SHE spent on something. I'm sure this will shut her up. Or simply tell her that your finances are none of her business.

[JSH812]

Remind her that it's not very classy to always be counting other peoples money.

[Angelfangs]

She's jealous........I'm a 3rd generation trust fund baby and have heard crap like that all my life... Don't let her insecurities drag you down......PS: I love how others like to define "wasteful" when it comes to what other people buy....

[chantal1922]

I agree with everyone. It is none of her business how you spend your money! Next time she give you the lecture call her out! It seems like she is lecturing you to make her self feel better.

[sparkle7]

She sound jealous and probably accumulated a lot of dept

[Gimmethebag]

She's bitter and she is taking it out on you.

I wish people would realize that they can use jealousy as a tool: to make you realize what you want and then as a motivator to work hard and achieve it. If she is jealous of the things you have, she needs to realize that it is not completely out of reach. Retail skills are not a dead-end, she can either use her flexible schedule to take on a second job (that may pay more, but will never offer full-time hours) or she could try and get a better position with benefits elsewhere. It may take creativity to live fabulously, but it can be done. (I know, I work retail and I have a very nice lifestyle with no credit card debt though I am paying back student loans and car payments).

And if she's so intent on keeping track of YOUR finances, suggest she become a financial advisor as a career change. She can work her hobby into a career!

[MarneeB]

Doesn't sound like much of friend to me. I often have certain people asking what my purchases (large or small) cost me. Drives me nuts so I try to keep from letting them know I bought anything new.

[redney]

Ignore her and if/when she brings up her comments about your finances again, immediately change the subject.