Opinion about some confusing dumb guy im into!

[miss_sigh_gone]

I liked this guy for MONTHS now.
He seems to be really comfortable being my friend.
Sometimes I get vibes from him that he likes me, for instance:
1) He always seeks me out in class (so far) and comes and talks to me about random things.
2) He wants to spend time with me---I've rejected all the time...
3) He has stalked me to one of my classes and blocked the door like a kid.
4) Stares at me
5) Throws paper-balls at me in class---just basically becomes a clown...sometimes.



He's 25....and really really mature and full of principles, kindness....etc, and treats some of his friends like little brothers i.e. he stays till 11 pm in the library just helping them in homework...(most of his friends are 19 year old range since both of us are taking engineering at university after finishing our B.Sc.)


BUT There was this one incident when his friend and I were going home and I met one of my university friends...his friend went and told him that and from then on for a while he would come to me and jokingly (was he?) ask me to hook him up with my hot "asian" friends since he's got a thing for asian girls---he requested me to make a get-together with only my hot asian girls (who are not midgets...since he's really really tall) and introduce him to them. Is he serious?

I THINK he was joking, because he would only bug me when his friend was there, and his friend who told me that HE doesn't like asian girls "since they can't speak english" ended up liking two of my friends who happened to be asian!


Half of my friends think that he's a jerk and that he was NOT joking about liking asian girls (And as anal as I am, I will never forgive him for that, joke or not, for bothering me like that when It was obvious to any blind person that I was so into him). BUT one of my close friend told me that he's just doing that to bug me....as he's done with many OTHER things just to bug me in the past---he even set his friends up with small pranks in order to get a reaction out of me.

So...the question is: 1. DOES HE REALLY LIKE JUST ASIAN GIRLS?
2. DO I HAVE A CHANCE WITH HIM?

[juneping]

1. DOES HE REALLY LIKE JUST ASIAN GIRLS?
i don't think any of us can tell.

2. DO I HAVE A CHANCE WITH HIM?
honestly....since he is not a shy guy..and he's known you for a while. i tend to say he's not interested.

but can you clarify this

Quote:

2) He wants to spend time with me---I've rejected all the time...

did you mean he wanted to spend time with you but you rejected him? if you like him, why did you reject him? i am confused...

[petitechouchou]

1. DOES HE REALLY LIKE JUST ASIAN GIRLS?
There's no evident for us to say if he is or isn't

2. DO I HAVE A CHANCE WITH HIM?
I'm getting mix signals but from what you said, you rejected him when he asks to spend time with you so I think you may have blown your chance.

OP, I apologize if I sound like a nerd but I don't understand what you mean by "He wants to spend time with me---I've rejected all the time"

Is he asking to hang out as buddies or as a date? Could you please clarify?

[gacats]

I agree, that sentence of yours has me confused as well. Please come back and clarify.

[natalie78]

He's 25 and he throws paper balls? Come on now. He's past the age where frat boy behavior is cute. Sounds like a lost cause. Move on.

[lolitakali]

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

I liked this guy for MONTHS now. He seems to be really comfortable being my friend. Sometimes I get vibes from him that he likes me, for instance: 1) He always seeks me out in class (so far) and comes and talks to me about random things. 2) He wants to spend time with me---I've rejected all the time... 3) He has stalked me to one of my classes and blocked the door like a kid. 4) Stares at me 5) Throws paper-balls at me in class---just basically becomes a clown...sometimes. He's 25....and really really mature and full of principles, kindness....etc, and treats some of his friends like little brothers i.e. he stays till 11 pm in the library just helping them in homework...(most of his friends are 19 year old range since both of us are taking engineering at university after finishing our B.Sc.) BUT There was this one incident when his friend and I were going home and I met one of my university friends...his friend went and told him that and from then on for a while he would come to me and jokingly (was he?) ask me to hook him up with my hot "asian" friends since he's got a thing for asian girls---he requested me to make a get-together with only my hot asian girls (who are not midgets...since he's really really tall) and introduce him to them. Is he serious? I THINK he was joking, because he would only bug me when his friend was there, and his friend who told me that HE doesn't like asian girls "since they can't speak english" ended up liking two of my friends who happened to be asian! Half of my friends think that he's a jerk and that he was NOT joking about liking asian girls (And as anal as I am, I will never forgive him for that, joke or not, for bothering me like that when It was obvious to any blind person that I was so into him). BUT one of my close friend told me that he's just doing that to bug me....as he's done with many OTHER things just to bug me in the past---he even set his friends up with small pranks in order to get a reaction out of me. So...the question is: 1. DOES HE REALLY LIKE JUST ASIAN GIRLS? 2. DO I HAVE A CHANCE WITH HIM?

Errr.. my answer to you will be to get some balls
and tell him that you liked him or something!

#1) Honesty is something a guy always appreciates when it comes to a relationship.

#2) It will save you your time and youth (If its a yes/no you still get your answer and will move on; whats wrong with that right?)

My POV, coming from someone who asked her DH to date her... my DH happens to be a very shy type and I am a goal getter (can't help my character).

P.S. My DH is the only ever man I asked out; past dates all asked me out but I never treasure any of them like I dote on my DH... I know in my gut he is very special.

[keya]

First of all, I question the maturity of a 25-year-old who throws paper balls, secondly; if he's so outgoing and confident, why hasn't he asked you out already? Or has he, and you've said no? (why would you if you like him? I'm confused) From his 'hook me up with your Asian friends' comment, I'd say he's probably not into you, but on the other hand, if he's asked you out and you've said no, maybe he's just trying to get back at you (again, not very mature) I don't really know what to tell you, other than to not say no the next time he wants to hang out, and take it from there.

[gina2328]

I question a guy that has not asked you out on a date after MONTHS. He does not sound serious to me. If a guy likes you he does not want to risk making you jealous by making comments about wanting to "hook up with your hot asian friends". When you are single don't put all your eggs in one basket. I would say he is not interested and there are plenty of fish in the sea that would be interested in dating you and being your BF.

[lolitakali]

My DH never asked me out for 3 mths after we met, I ended up asking him out (he is shy but does not mean he is a bad guy for lacking some confidence in the women's department; actually all his past dates asked him out... that is how great a guy my DH is).

The thing is if you don't ask, you will never get an answer.

Plus it is not fair for people to be so quick to judge what kind of guy he is through but only a brief description with only a few lines about this guy... a guy throwing crushed paper balls may be immature in someone eyes but to me, a guy who is into drugs of the same age will be more immature than one just throwing paper balls...

People do immature things all the time, no matter how old they may be. We are humans and we all have flaws somewhere!

[miss_sigh_gone]

Yeah, he's asked me to hang out as friends...God, that's really annoying. If he's not into me, he shouldn't ask me to hook him up with my asian friends to hint me that he's not into me.
Btw, he didn't meet any of my asian friends, his friend met one and told him that she was hot.

[miss_sigh_gone]

Thanks for your replies guys...

[lolitakali]

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

Yeah, he's asked me to hang out as friends...

So, how many people have used the line the best love is one developed through friendship?

Like I said, why don't you just ask him straight out and settle it once and for all if you still have mixed messages from him???

At least if he says no, you have every right then to prove him a "jerk" that plays around your heartstrings...

BUT

Give him the chance to prove himself "maybe" other-wise?

You'll still never know until you have asked and got the answer from him for sure... unless you have already have the answer (from him) but had just blindside yourself and denied a fact?

See, the interest in your supposedly Asian friend IS a double edge sword..

Read one way, he may try to provoke some spark of interest in you (since he have never met that friend of yours and could very well be trying to get some reaction from you).

Read another way... he may also be telling you in a very gentle way he has never been interested in you??? Maybe you have given some past signal that provoke him to do that???

See, I won't know, the TPFers won't know... BUT you would have more insight than any of us here. And if you want a "certain" definite, answer final, ask the owner to those answers... HIM.

[nhung]

IMHO, he likes you.

Why he asked you to hook him up w/ your hot friends? He is testing your feeling. Yes, they still play that game. If he asked you to hang out with him, why not?

[vintageromance]

Originally Posted by gina2328

I question a guy that has not asked you out on a date after MONTHS. He does not sound serious to me. If a guy likes you he does not want to risk making you jealous by making comments about wanting to "hook up with your hot asian friends". When you are single don't put all your eggs in one basket. I would say he is not interested and there are plenty of fish in the sea that would be interested in dating you and being your BF.

I disagree. My BF of 5 years did pretty much the same thing to me. He seemed very interested in me, but also acted pretty childish at the time - broke one of my art pottery assignments "on accident", would block doors I would be trying to go through just to get close to me, would act like a jerk, etc. etc. and he did pretend to be interested in a friend of mine, just to see if I would be jealous to gauge if I liked him or not. Which, I was, and once he saw I was jealous it gave him the extra "push" to ask me out.

It's not very mature, but in some ways a lot of guys never act their age when it comes to liking a girl. I don't want to bring up the whole "if he's acting like a jerk it's because he likes you" argument (reminds me of the opening scene in He's Just Not That Into You), but sometimes, that's exactly how they think...

[Charles]

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

2) He wants to spend time with me---I've rejected all the time...

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

BUT There was this one incident when his friend and I were going home and I met one of my university friends...his friend went and told him that and from then on for a while he would come to me and jokingly (was he?) ask me to hook him up with my hot "asian" friends since he's got a thing for asian girls---he requested me to make a get-together with only my hot asian girls (who are not midgets...since he's really really tall) and introduce him to them. Is he serious?

Uh...so wait. He's asked you out multiple times and each time you've rejected him, then you get mad cause he asks you to set him up with your friends?

Why would there be any doubt as to if he liked you. It seems rather obvious that he did. However, you rejected him, so now he's moving on. He assumes you're not interested, and if I were him, I would too.

If you like the guy, hang out with him. It's not that complicated. Stop playing games.

Oh, as for his maturity and throwing paper balls. I'm 34 and throw paper balls at my gf all the time. Maturity has nothing to do with being a person who likes to jokes around.