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turboflgrl · Oct 30th, 2009, 02:49 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Oh, as for his maturity and throwing paper balls. I'm 34 and throw paper balls at my gf all the time. Maturity has nothing to do with being a person who likes to jokes around.

Agree! It would be one thing if you told him to stop and he kept doing it simply to annoy and piss you off. While I'm studying, doing housework, or whatever, my boyfriend will sometimes come and do silly stuff like that. It breaks up the monotony. No harm in that

nooch · Oct 30th, 2009, 03:40 PM

I am generally not a fan of people who only date one specific ethnicity because they have deluded ass fantasies and racialized stereotypical fantasies.

~Fabulousity~ · Oct 30th, 2009, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by natalie78

He's 25 and he throws paper balls? Come on now. He's past the age where frat boy behavior is cute. Sounds like a lost cause. Move on.

Lol yeah tha killed it for me.

~Fabulousity~ · Oct 30th, 2009, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Uh...so wait. He's asked you out multiple times and each time you've rejected him, then you get mad cause he asks you to set him up with your friends?

Why would there be any doubt as to if he liked you. It seems rather obvious that he did. However, you rejected him, so now he's moving on. He assumes you're not interested, and if I were him, I would too.

If you like the guy, hang out with him. It's not that complicated. Stop playing games.

Oh, as for his maturity and throwing paper balls. I'm 34 and throw paper balls at my gf all the time. Maturity has nothing to do with being a person who likes to jokes around.

Yes Charles but she's your g/f its kinda odd to be an adult acting that way in public with people you arent very close to Lol

Allisonfaye · Oct 30th, 2009, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by miss_sigh_gone

BUT There was this one incident when his friend and I were going home and I met one of my university friends...his friend went and told him that and from then on for a while he would come to me and jokingly (was he?) ask me to hook him up with my hot "asian" friends since he's got a thing for asian girls---he requested me to make a get-together with only my hot asian girls (who are not midgets...since he's really really tall) and introduce him to them. Is he serious?

I have no idea what you are even saying here. Who wants to get fixed up with Asian friends? The guy or his friend?

lolitakali · Oct 30th, 2009, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Uh...so wait. He's asked you out multiple times and each time you've rejected him, then you get mad cause he asks you to set him up with your friends?

Why would there be any doubt as to if he liked you. It seems rather obvious that he did. However, you rejected him, so now he's moving on. He assumes you're not interested, and if I were him, I would too.

If you like the guy, hang out with him. It's not that complicated. Stop playing games.

Oh, as for his maturity and throwing paper balls. I'm 34 and throw paper balls at my gf all the time. Maturity has nothing to do with being a person who likes to jokes around.

Totally agree with Charles on this one.

P.S. And seriously, whats wrong in being outright honest??? Honesty is really a lacking virtue in many a relationships today that caused their failure!

miss_sigh_gone · Nov 1st, 2009, 05:02 PM

Haha.
Thanks for the feedback everyone..although I'm still confused....your posts are just like what my friends tell me. Basically there's no consensus.
For instance, my westernized friends tell me to just be honest with him or to move on since its obvious he doesn't really like me--true, but these are also the people who've been in relationships (if you can even call it that) for about a month, cheated on their boy/girlfriends, etc.
And again, my OTHER friend who has been in a blissful relationship for 7 years tells me to be patient and WAIT for him to come forward.

juneping · Nov 1st, 2009, 05:06 PM

^^well...don't put all your eggs in one basket...you are still very young...meet more people while you wait for his move...no one know how long it's gonna take if he will make a move..KWIM??
enjoy your youth!!

miss_sigh_gone · Nov 1st, 2009, 05:31 PM

Lol...I just re-read my original post and it seems like I can't write proper English.
To clarify things to Charles..he wants to hang out with me more NOW, but before (during Summertime) he asked me to hook him up with my "hot asian friends".

His friend (let's call him E) met my Uni friend and told him that she was hot, but the guy in question (let's call him D) hasn't met any of my outside friends.

miss_sigh_gone · Nov 1st, 2009, 05:36 PM

Either way, I'm just going to take into consideration what you guys have told me and just basically avoid/treat him like a borderline friend--I HATE people who play games.

I was not happy with him since he started with the whole "asian" thing, and even more so annoyed when he would CONSTANTLY tell me how awesome he is (i.e. his perfect marks, his athletic ability, etc etc).

Charles · Nov 1st, 2009, 06:09 PM

OK, so to be sure I understand...when you and he first me, you were friends. No romance, just hung out at school? During that time, he asked you to set him up with one of your friends. Evidently, you didn't, and now, a few months after his request, he seems to be flirting with you and asking you to hang, but you're refusing? Yes?

If so, I don't see the issue. If he was hitting on you AND asking to be hooked up with your friends, then yeah. Also, why does it bother you he mentioned "Asian"? Perhaps when he was asking about her, he thought if he told you her ethnicity, you'd know who he was talking about?
Like:
"Hey, tell me about your friend"
"Who"
"I don't know, E told me you had a hot Asian friend"

Could that be the reason?

miss_sigh_gone · Nov 1st, 2009, 06:36 PM

Yeah..something like that. Not when him and I first met, we first met around Jan of 09, him hitting on my friend was in May/June. Now he's being all friendly again.

miss_sigh_gone · Nov 1st, 2009, 06:37 PM

He doesn't even know her...and its not even her its just "asian friends" in general. Plus, at school I hang out with asian girls, but he hasn't made a move on any of them.

Charles · Nov 1st, 2009, 08:47 PM

Ok, so I don't see how he's playing any games. If you like the guy and he's asking you to hang out, hang out with him.

ChristyR143 · Nov 1st, 2009, 09:50 PM

I agree with Charles here...if he's asking you to hang out with him, and you like him, why are you rejecting his efforts to hang out? Seems pretty simple to me.

Oct 30th, 2009, 03:40 PM	#17
nooch bubblehead Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 3,888	I am generally not a fan of people who only date one specific ethnicity because they have deluded ass fantasies and racialized stereotypical fantasies.
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Nov 1st, 2009, 05:02 PM	#22
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	Haha. Thanks for the feedback everyone..although I'm still confused....your posts are just like what my friends tell me. Basically there's no consensus. For instance, my westernized friends tell me to just be honest with him or to move on since its obvious he doesn't really like me--true, but these are also the people who've been in relationships (if you can even call it that) for about a month, cheated on their boy/girlfriends, etc. And again, my OTHER friend who has been in a blissful relationship for 7 years tells me to be patient and WAIT for him to come forward.
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143

Nov 1st, 2009, 05:06 PM	#23
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,321	^^well...don't put all your eggs in one basket...you are still very young...meet more people while you wait for his move...no one know how long it's gonna take if he will make a move..KWIM?? enjoy your youth!!
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Nov 1st, 2009, 05:31 PM	#24
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	Lol...I just re-read my original post and it seems like I can't write proper English. To clarify things to Charles..he wants to hang out with me more NOW, but before (during Summertime) he asked me to hook him up with my "hot asian friends". His friend (let's call him E) met my Uni friend and told him that she was hot, but the guy in question (let's call him D) hasn't met any of my outside friends.
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	Last edited by miss_sigh_gone; Nov 1st, 2009 at 05:37 PM.

Nov 1st, 2009, 05:36 PM	#25
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	Either way, I'm just going to take into consideration what you guys have told me and just basically avoid/treat him like a borderline friend--I HATE people who play games. I was not happy with him since he started with the whole "asian" thing, and even more so annoyed when he would CONSTANTLY tell me how awesome he is (i.e. his perfect marks, his athletic ability, etc etc).
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143

Nov 1st, 2009, 06:09 PM	#26
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,182	OK, so to be sure I understand...when you and he first me, you were friends. No romance, just hung out at school? During that time, he asked you to set him up with one of your friends. Evidently, you didn't, and now, a few months after his request, he seems to be flirting with you and asking you to hang, but you're refusing? Yes? If so, I don't see the issue. If he was hitting on you AND asking to be hooked up with your friends, then yeah. Also, why does it bother you he mentioned "Asian"? Perhaps when he was asking about her, he thought if he told you her ethnicity, you'd know who he was talking about? Like: "Hey, tell me about your friend" "Who" "I don't know, E told me you had a hot Asian friend" Could that be the reason?
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Nov 1st, 2009, 06:36 PM	#27
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	Yeah..something like that. Not when him and I first met, we first met around Jan of 09, him hitting on my friend was in May/June. Now he's being all friendly again.
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143

Nov 1st, 2009, 06:37 PM	#28
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143	He doesn't even know her...and its not even her its just "asian friends" in general. Plus, at school I hang out with asian girls, but he hasn't made a move on any of them.
miss_sigh_gone OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 143

Nov 1st, 2009, 08:47 PM	#29
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,182	Ok, so I don't see how he's playing any games. If you like the guy and he's asking you to hang out, hang out with him.
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Nov 1st, 2009, 09:50 PM	#30
ChristyR143 Just me... Joined: Aug 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,103	I agree with Charles here...if he's asking you to hang out with him, and you like him, why are you rejecting his efforts to hang out? Seems pretty simple to me.
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