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daphodill84 · Sep 24th, 2009, 04:21 AM

For the past couple of months, I've been ridiculously stressed, with going to school ~20 hours a week, working 50-60 hours a week, and just not paying my boyfriend the attention he deserves. I've had work, friend, and severe family issues going on as well... and through it all, he's been patient and sweet, and has never gotten angry with me for blowing me off. Instead, he's been staying at his family's place to avoid being in my hair (it's about 1-1.5 hours commute away) and does sweet things like drives out just to take me home (and then leaves so I can study); drives here, cooks me dinner without me even being here, leaves it in my fridge, then goes home; comes out just to spend a little time with me when i'm stressed, gives me massages, etc.

I'm so grateful to have him in my life, but I feel like as much as I tell him that, I want to express it to him somehow! But things like buying him stuff he likes, cooking him a nice dinner, taking him out... it just doesn't seem special enough. As we all know in this forum, great guys don't come around often so I want to make sure he knows he's appreciated and loved. Any ideas? Thanks in advance!

Sternchen · Sep 24th, 2009, 04:49 AM

I think what you want to do is really sweet

I say you book a short vacation for the two of you where you can relax, see something new and just spend time together

Charles · Sep 24th, 2009, 09:02 AM

I think if you do something that caters to something he's into, he'd appreciate it.

domlee · Sep 24th, 2009, 09:26 AM

Doing something for him would be great. But be sure to TELL HIM WHY as well. Tell him that you appreciate all that he's done for you. Don't assume he knows why you're doing something nice for him.

sarasmith3269 · Sep 24th, 2009, 10:09 AM

I would do a little mini get-away surprise...

bagaholic85 · Sep 24th, 2009, 10:13 AM

i second the idea of a quick weekend, and like charles said, make it about him. if he likes cars, find a car show, if he likes outfits, buy a cute new one, etc.

p.s. he sounds like a really wonderful guy. lucky girl

spoiled_brat · Sep 24th, 2009, 10:34 PM

Hi D :waves:

Sorry to hear things have been rough for you but you sound so lucky to have your DBF!

(I don't really have any gift ideas, just wanted to say hi

)

daphodill84 · Sep 25th, 2009, 01:42 PM

Thanks guys for the tips! I was thinking actually to take him up to a city / hotel that we went to a couple years back for our anniversary (even though it's not our anniversary yet... it's coming up next month though!) we had a lot of fun last time we went - skiing, shopping, jacuzzi... is that too cheesy / should I save that for anniversary?

and hey sb! how's it going :)

ami kio · Sep 25th, 2009, 05:33 PM

Originally Posted by daphodill84

Thanks guys for the tips! I was thinking actually to take him up to a city / hotel that we went to a couple years back for our anniversary (even though it's not our anniversary yet... it's coming up next month though!) we had a lot of fun last time we went - skiing, shopping, jacuzzi... is that too cheesy / should I save that for anniversary?

Did you plan on doing something that big for your anniversary? If so, save that particular trip for your anniversary, and during your anniversary present him the "I want to thank you for being so awesome" gift.

If budget isn't an issue, I'd do a trip that is centered around something he's always wanted to do (e.g. a course at a stunt driving school).

Sep 24th, 2009, 04:21 AM	#1
daphodill84 OP Member Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,062	Need thank you gift for supportive DBF... For the past couple of months, I've been ridiculously stressed, with going to school ~20 hours a week, working 50-60 hours a week, and just not paying my boyfriend the attention he deserves. I've had work, friend, and severe family issues going on as well... and through it all, he's been patient and sweet, and has never gotten angry with me for blowing me off. Instead, he's been staying at his family's place to avoid being in my hair (it's about 1-1.5 hours commute away) and does sweet things like drives out just to take me home (and then leaves so I can study); drives here, cooks me dinner without me even being here, leaves it in my fridge, then goes home; comes out just to spend a little time with me when i'm stressed, gives me massages, etc. I'm so grateful to have him in my life, but I feel like as much as I tell him that, I want to express it to him somehow! But things like buying him stuff he likes, cooking him a nice dinner, taking him out... it just doesn't seem special enough. As we all know in this forum, great guys don't come around often so I want to make sure he knows he's appreciated and loved. Any ideas? Thanks in advance!
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Sep 24th, 2009, 04:49 AM	#2
Sternchen Proud mama of 3! Joined: May 2006 Location: Bavaria, Germany Posts: 13,940	I think what you want to do is really sweet I say you book a short vacation for the two of you where you can relax, see something new and just spend time together
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Sep 24th, 2009, 09:02 AM	#3
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,182	I think if you do something that caters to something he's into, he'd appreciate it.
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Sep 24th, 2009, 10:09 AM	#5
sarasmith3269 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 684	I would do a little mini get-away surprise...
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Sep 25th, 2009, 01:42 PM	#8
daphodill84 OP Member Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,062	Thanks guys for the tips! I was thinking actually to take him up to a city / hotel that we went to a couple years back for our anniversary (even though it's not our anniversary yet... it's coming up next month though!) we had a lot of fun last time we went - skiing, shopping, jacuzzi... is that too cheesy / should I save that for anniversary? and hey sb! how's it going :)
daphodill84 OP Member Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,062	__________________ My Collection (Work in Progress): http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...ng-270617.html

Sep 24th, 2009, 09:26 AM	#4
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 949	Doing something for him would be great. But be sure to TELL HIM WHY as well. Tell him that you appreciate all that he's done for you. Don't assume he knows why you're doing something nice for him.

Sep 24th, 2009, 10:13 AM	#6
bagaholic85 Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: i <3 ny Posts: 5,084	i second the idea of a quick weekend, and like charles said, make it about him. if he likes cars, find a car show, if he likes outfits, buy a cute new one, etc. p.s. he sounds like a really wonderful guy. lucky girl

Sep 24th, 2009, 10:34 PM	#7
spoiled_brat not spoiled enough Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 2,183	Hi D :waves: Sorry to hear things have been rough for you but you sound so lucky to have your DBF! (I don't really have any gift ideas, just wanted to say hi )

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