Need advice - What should I do?

[happygal09]

Hi Ladies,

I'm new on this thread and have read many wonderful stories. Therefore, I thought to get others opinions on this thread.

This year , I met a doctor (gastroenterologist) which my grandma sees as a physician. I was not physically attracted to him, however, I felt that he was so caring for my grandma that I eventually became interested in him. I felt that the couple of times I met him he told me stories to try to relate himself to me. Since I live in CT, he told me that he did his residency in Yale and how cops always let them while speeding. I've noticed that while I was in the emergency room he always sneaked a peak at me. Since I was precccupied with my grandma, I couldn't focus on anything else. Anyhow, nothing happened.

Recently I've been having abdominal pain and decided to go see him. When he walked into the room, he said, "Don't I know you from somewhere"? I then told him that I who I was and he said that I changed so much. As he looked at my chart, he saw my address and occupation. He then told me that he was an analyst once too before deciding to go into medical profession. I felt that he was trying to relate himself to me. He then asked me which type of analyst am I. He also asked me how my family was doing? Am I too sensitive and think too much? Or do you think that he's interested? What do you think I should do? I'm going back for more tests this week and need some advice.

[boxermom]

Maybe he's just being friendly. You don't even know if he's available. IMO, it's unethical for a doctor to have a personal relationship with a patient. Don't build this up in your mind to be more than it is.

[Charles]

Personally, I don't think it's that big of a deal. If he was your Psychiatrist, that's a different story. Whether he's interested, I can't tell. He might be that way with all his patients. I'd just make sure he's aware that you're single and open to going out. When you see him next, steer the convo more to social outings or something along those lines. That way you can talk about what you like doing and he can tell you what he likes doing. If he's interested, I'm sure he'd be able to sneak an invite in there somehow.

[keya]

I wouldn't read too much into it at this point. Doctors often chit-chat with their patients to make them feel comfortable.

[happygal09]

Thank you ladies. I am definitely going to do nothing and drop this cause it's probably in my head.

[kbnkch]

Are YOU interested?

[agart245]

Originally Posted by boxermom

Maybe he's just being friendly. You don't even know if he's available. IMO, it's unethical for a doctor to have a personal relationship with a patient. Don't build this up in your mind to be more than it is.

Agreed. I think he was just making small talk with you. I don't think he's interested and even if he is, it wouldn't be appropriate for him to pursue a relationship with a patient.

[happygal09]

Originally Posted by kbnkch

Are YOU interested?

I'm interested. That's why I was thinking for advice for gals on the net.

I'm not sure if he is dating or involved with anyone, but I know that he didn't have a ring..

[cityivy]

take it from a doctor...we are people too! many of us are also looking for new people to date, etc. if you're really interested...just be upfront and let him know. if the interest is mutual, then switch doctors. in this situation, there is really no way to beat around the bush b/c doctor-patient relationships are a no-no.

[juneping]

i can't say he's interested or not...
but if you are interested in him...then every single little thing he does can be interpreted in so many different level and directions.
just one thing though....if he was interested..he couldn't recognize you later??...

[happygal09]

Originally Posted by juneping

i can't say he's interested or not... but if you are interested in him...then every single little thing he does can be interpreted in so many different level and directions. just one thing though....if he was interested..he couldn't recognize you later??...

I feel silly writing this now, but it's good to hear other people's opinions. I have not seen him for like 5 months. Then, I had pin straight hairs and now I have wavy hair. It's true that if he was interested, why doesn't he recognize me?

I just felt that there was something there. The conversations we had were outside of the office. I just felt that why would he tell me things about himself. I guess that I 've never met a doctor that would try to tell me about themselves. Maybe his personality is different and he was being friendly.

I think that it's just too bold for me to make a comment now after hearing everyone's comments. Thank you.

[Hessefan]

Well, apart from him as your doctor, what do you have to lose? I don't think you would have imagined the vibe completely, and even if you did, so what? You may regret it later. Just ask if he is single and if he is tell him where you often hang out. You can always switch doctors regardless.

[juneping]

Originally Posted by happygal09

I feel silly writing this now, but it's good to hear other people's opinions. I have not seen him for like 5 months. Then, I had pin straight hairs and now I have wavy hair. It's true that if he was interested, why doesn't he recognize me? I just felt that there was something there. The conversations we had were outside of the office. I just felt that why would he tell me things about himself. I guess that I 've never met a doctor that would try to tell me about themselves. Maybe his personality is different and he was being friendly. I think that it's just too bold for me to make a comment now after hearing everyone's comments. Thank you.

don't feel silly at all. i've been there and i think a lot of people been there done that. it's just part of growing up / life.
if you like him....ask him out for a coffee. u have nothing to loss.
he seems like a nice guy...worth trying.

[flashy.stems]

he just sounds like a friendly, caring guy.