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Originally Posted by Charles
Well, when he's sitting at your table, does he even look at you? I mean, I'd hate for you to make a move on a guy who has no interest in you at all. A guy can be shy, but he'll still act like he's interested in some way..usually by staring from afar. Does he do this? Does he smile at you at all? Tell us a bit more about his behavior when you're around him.
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Exactly! I would feel sooo stupid if I approached him and put us both in a uncomfortable situation.
Okay, let me give a timeline.
I've only been here on site about 4 weeks and he was away on a buisness trip for two of those weeks. So we've only "known" each other for about 2 weeks now.
My friends and I normally sit at a shorter table so it's just us but recently we started sitting at the longer tables and that's when he started sitting to the end with his friend. We've changed locations a couple times and if the end of our table isn't taken, he'll sit there with his friend.
He doesn't really look our way, but I can tell he is listening to what we're saying cause sometimes he'll crack a smile when some funny banter passes among us. He walks with his head down and seems to be avoiding interaction with anyone when he is by himself. We have a lock on our office door, so you have to knock for entrance and I sit by the door, so the few times he's been let in (by someone else) he's glanced my way and looked away. No smile, no head nod, nothing. But he also didn't greet the entire office the way that most people do when they come in. Once I opened the door to let a couple folks in and he was leaving at the same time. Instead of waiting for them to make up thier minds whether they were coming or going, he approached, made eye contact for the briefest moment, looked down and squeezed past me. WHT! No "thank you", "good day", said absolutely nada. I thought he was shy, now that I think on it maybe he's just rude.
Now the office visits also happened after an incident I am about to describe:
He overheard my conversation one day as I was complaining about the "Crazies" as I call them. I was lamenting that I didn't really want to get harrassed and that I was trying to avoid the stalkers that proliferate our compound. And that I was just going to stay in my room or at work and avoid the gym and pool so as to not give them any opportunity to approach. (I am working outside the US for what was supposed to be 2 mos, but just got turned into 9mos a couple days ago. It's predominantly males, so any new females become subjected to attention. There are a few known ones who had already approached me within the first week of me being there, so I was getting teased by my friends about it).
So now I don't know if that has him scared to say anything to me. And coming to think of it, he hasn't sat at our table since then! I assumed it was because of the holidays scheule we were on, but it might be because he overheard that rant.
But I have always believed that a man says and does what he means. There is rarely any hidden meaning or need to analyze. So maybe the fact that he doesn't even smile at me or maintain eye contact might mean he is really not interested.
Need a pickup line :)
. So how do I approach him? Remember I am REALLY REALLY SHY, and my fear of rejection totally outweighs my hope for success.
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so now he's going out of his way to not appear stalkerish...
LOL!
hey, that could have scared him off too, thinking that you already have a lot of potential suitors....hmmm
