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lovebug · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:26 PM

I have been good friends with this guy for many years. Recently his gf started texting me to stay away and back off. Any ideas on what to do?

Irishgal · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:29 PM

Did you tell your guy friend?

Ellie Mae · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:32 PM

She's acting WAY jealous. Advise her kindly that HE was your friend b4 she was his GF.. and not only do you intend to remain HIS FRIEND, but you'd like to be HERS also. Maybe when she grows up, she can comprehend that there ARE females in the world who love guys strictly as friends... *sigh*....

I'm sorry.. little jealous girls like this wear me out.

shy*violet · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:35 PM

Hmmmm

I would meet up with him for lunch & talk to him.

If I was feeling fiesty I might even show him the texts

JNH14 · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:45 PM

I would tell him and text her that if he wanted you to back-off he'd let you know. Her insecurity is showing!

juneping · Sep 12th, 2009, 10:48 PM

I would show her txt to the bf and tell him you don't appreciate it. Let him deal with her.

lovebug · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:05 PM

I can't show him because he doesn't live near me. I did see him recently and perhaphs this is where its coming from. After the first 5 or so I sent a text back to mess with her. He then called me and I told him about her texts, oh they are coming from his phone. Then I received like 6 more saying are sorts of things about me. I tried calling him but no respons, because I'm sure he is with her. I have no idea what to do. I just want her to stop.

dallas · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:26 PM

Originally Posted by lovebug

I can't show him because he doesn't live near me. I did see him recently and perhaphs this is where its coming from. After the first 5 or so I sent a text back to mess with her. He then called me and I told him about her texts, oh they are coming from his phone. Then I received like 6 more saying are sorts of things about me. I tried calling him but no respons, because I'm sure he is with her. I have no idea what to do. I just want her to stop.

Then don't respond.

A question, why send a text back "to mess with her"? Do you really want her to stop?

Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:28 PM

Originally Posted by lovebug

I can't show him because he doesn't live near me. I did see him recently and perhaphs this is where its coming from. After the first 5 or so I sent a text back to mess with her. He then called me and I told him about her texts, oh they are coming from his phone. Then I received like 6 more saying are sorts of things about me. I tried calling him but no respons, because I'm sure he is with her. I have no idea what to do. I just want her to stop.

I feel that you shouldn't be instigating by answering to her messages. Leave it alone and just tell guy friend to deal with it.

Does he have a land line? If so, give him a call there and ask him to address this with GF. If he doesn't have a land line, then e-mail him the texts and ask him to have a talk with her about it.

Her insecurities are her problem and you should not have to deal with that

nooch · Sep 12th, 2009, 11:56 PM

Originally Posted by lovebug

I can't show him because he doesn't live near me. I did see him recently and perhaphs this is where its coming from. After the first 5 or so I sent a text back to mess with her. He then called me and I told him about her texts, oh they are coming from his phone. Then I received like 6 more saying are sorts of things about me. I tried calling him but no respons, because I'm sure he is with her. I have no idea what to do. I just want her to stop.

I was with you until the second I read that.

Bella · Sep 13th, 2009, 12:11 AM

Originally Posted by dallas

Then don't respond.

A question, why send a text back "to mess with her"? Do you really want her to stop?

Yep. You just added fuel to the fire. I'm sure you're friend doesn't appreciate that. If a male friend's gf was ever insecure about me, I'd want to do anything I could to change that as the last thing I'd want to do is lose my friend... because I guarantee, he'll choose the gf.

simplygm819 · Sep 13th, 2009, 02:15 AM

Originally Posted by Bella

Yep. You just added fuel to the fire. I'm sure you're friend doesn't appreciate that. If a male friend's gf was ever insecure about me, I'd want to do anything I could to change that as the last thing I'd want to do is lose my friend... because I guarantee, he'll choose the gf.

This is VERY TRUE. I don't know one single guy who wouldn't pick his gf over any friend, even if it's a friend he's known for years! I wouldn't have added fuel to the fire by doing anything that would piss his gf off even more!

Bella · Sep 13th, 2009, 02:56 AM

^ I've known some people who have chosen the friends over the partners, but that's usually because the behavior of the bf or gf is unreasonable. That's why I say to the OP or anyone else, you should be the bigger person if you value your friendship.

Sternchen · Sep 13th, 2009, 04:55 AM

Don't respond and let your guy friend know about her actions. He more than likely won't be too happy with her.

turboflgrl · Sep 13th, 2009, 05:24 AM

Originally Posted by simplygm819

This is VERY TRUE. I don't know one single guy who wouldn't pick his gf over any friend, even if it's a friend he's known for years! I wouldn't have added fuel to the fire by doing anything that would piss his gf off even more!

I think it's usually that guys will pick the gf over a female friend but if it were a male friend, no way. Their male friends are their "boys". Ever heard the saying "bros before hos"?

To the OP, let your friend handle the situation because getting involved is making you look just as immature as his girlfriend. If he's man enough to stick up for you, then he's man enough to continue being your friend. If not, he wasn't your friend in the first place.

Sep 12th, 2009, 10:26 PM	#1
lovebug OP Member Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 55	My Guy Friends' Gf is Texting Me I have been good friends with this guy for many years. Recently his gf started texting me to stay away and back off. Any ideas on what to do?
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Sep 12th, 2009, 10:29 PM	#2
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Sep 12th, 2009, 10:32 PM	#3
Ellie Mae KIABCRS Joined: May 2008 Posts: 8,326	She's acting WAY jealous. Advise her kindly that HE was your friend b4 she was his GF.. and not only do you intend to remain HIS FRIEND, but you'd like to be HERS also. Maybe when she grows up, she can comprehend that there ARE females in the world who love guys strictly as friends... sigh.... I'm sorry.. little jealous girls like this wear me out.
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Sep 12th, 2009, 10:35 PM	#4
shy*violet I heart PINK! Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,287	Hmmmm I would meet up with him for lunch & talk to him. If I was feeling fiesty I might even show him the texts
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Sep 12th, 2009, 10:45 PM	#5
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Sep 12th, 2009, 10:48 PM	#6
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Sep 12th, 2009, 11:05 PM	#7
lovebug OP Member Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 55	I can't show him because he doesn't live near me. I did see him recently and perhaphs this is where its coming from. After the first 5 or so I sent a text back to mess with her. He then called me and I told him about her texts, oh they are coming from his phone. Then I received like 6 more saying are sorts of things about me. I tried calling him but no respons, because I'm sure he is with her. I have no idea what to do. I just want her to stop.
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Sep 13th, 2009, 02:56 AM	#13
Bella Earth to Bella Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 4,348	^ I've known some people who have chosen the friends over the partners, but that's usually because the behavior of the bf or gf is unreasonable. That's why I say to the OP or anyone else, you should be the bigger person if you value your friendship.
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Sep 13th, 2009, 04:55 AM	#14
Sternchen Proud mama of 3! Joined: May 2006 Location: Bavaria, Germany Posts: 13,954	Don't respond and let your guy friend know about her actions. He more than likely won't be too happy with her.
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