My Guy Friends' Gf is Texting Me

[surferchick2]

Yeah, but how close is it? I can see if they are taking trips together, going out to dinner and movies, and spending quality time together .... yeah, maybe that's a bit much (even if it were a male buddy), but it sounds like she just happens to be a good friend that he keeps in touch with, which to me is reasonable. No one should get upset just because a bf/gf doesn't cut ties completely to any friend that just happens to be of the opposite sex, unless they mutually agree that they can't trust each other to even have a quick chat with them. If that's the case, then he needs to convey that, not the jealous gf.

[Mchelly601]

Originally Posted by nycfashionlvr

OK I may be the only one here who feels this way and may get bashed for this but when you're in a serious relationship I think its completely inappropriate to have close relationships with other females. Female acquaintances sure, no problem but a CLOSE CLOSE friend? No, don't think thats ok and I kind of understand where she's coming from. It could be insecurity thing but for me it would just seem odd...why is my so spending quality time with another female? It just looks and feels weird to me and I don't approve. It definitely was wrong for her to text her that is something she should have taken up with him and instead of adding fuel to the fire by messing around with her I would have just said please take this up with him.

Your not alone, I agree with you 100%! Thank you for having the guts to speak your mind and risking the bash!

[Cheetah7]

Originally Posted by nycfashionlvr

OK I may be the only one here who feels this way and may get bashed for this but when you're in a serious relationship I think its completely inappropriate to have close relationships with other females. Female acquaintances sure, no problem but a CLOSE CLOSE friend? No, don't think thats ok and I kind of understand where she's coming from. It could be insecurity thing but for me it would just seem odd...why is my so spending quality time with another female? It just looks and feels weird to me and I don't approve. It definitely was wrong for her to text her that is something she should have taken up with him and instead of adding fuel to the fire by messing around with her I would have just said please take this up with him.

I tend to agree with this too, especially when the man/woman is spending lots and lots of time with the friend of the opposite sex to the point where it's taking time away from the couple's relationship. In this case, I don't think it has anything to do with insecurity per se but more to do with the friendship interfering with the couple's quality time together. I don't see a problem with acquaintances...both my husband and I have acquaintances of the opposite sex whom we talk to from time to time. Nothing wrong with that.

To the OP, I suggest you discuss this issue with your friend (if you're able to) and try to stay out of it completely. Let your friend and his gf deal with it.

[Jahpson]

if he was friends with the girl before you accepted to be his girlfriend, then there isn't much to dispute you know?

[turboflgrl]

Originally Posted by nycfashionlvr

OK I may be the only one here who feels this way and may get bashed for this but when you're in a serious relationship I think its completely inappropriate to have close relationships with other females. Female acquaintances sure, no problem but a CLOSE CLOSE friend? No, don't think thats ok and I kind of understand where she's coming from. It could be insecurity thing but for me it would just seem odd...why is my so spending quality time with another female? It just looks and feels weird to me and I don't approve. It definitely was wrong for her to text her that is something she should have taken up with him and instead of adding fuel to the fire by messing around with her I would have just said please take this up with him.

I politely disagree though I respect your stance and the fact that you were willing to share it. All things considered, we're all human right? Just because he has a different package downstairs than her doesn't make her quality of friendship any less. I guess I just don't understand it because I tend to not get along with other women. I love cars, I love sports, and I love a lot of other things typically reserved for men. I tend to hang out with other guys because of this and my best friend before I moved to where I am now happened to be male. Does that mean I am going to sleep with him? No, not a chance. Even when I was single, he never tried anything or even alluded to the fact that he wanted to and he is not the shy type if you know what I mean. I guess I'll never get that argument

[frenchtoast]

If it's from his phone wouldn't he already know? especially if she is spam texting you...

[Gimmethebag]

Originally Posted by nycfashionlvr

OK I may be the only one here who feels this way and may get bashed for this but when you're in a serious relationship I think its completely inappropriate to have close relationships with other females. Female acquaintances sure, no problem but a CLOSE CLOSE friend? No, don't think thats ok and I kind of understand where she's coming from. It could be insecurity thing but for me it would just seem odd...why is my so spending quality time with another female? It just looks and feels weird to me and I don't approve. It definitely was wrong for her to text her that is something she should have taken up with him and instead of adding fuel to the fire by messing around with her I would have just said please take this up with him.

I disagree. My best friend is a guy and trust me, I'm not a threat to his girlfriend. If she sees me that way, that's her own issue and one that isn't based on actual behavior or anything like that. If anything, if I like the girl I usually take her side when they ask for advice about their little fights or whatever. I tell them that she's a great chick and to really make her feel special and to quit being such an idiot.

My SO doesn't mind and looks forward to seeing my friend, but gives our friendship some space. My SO doesn't mind when I go out without him but with my male friends... Honestly, most people assume I'm "taken" when we're out and a lot less random guys hit on me. LOL. He knows someone is walking me to my car or that I'm probably safer.

My SO doesn't really have female friends. I've asked him about it, because I wouldn't mind if he did. His reason is that he can only handle so much girl-talk, but he enjoys it with me. Any more outside of "us" would be annoying. He has one friend from law school that's a woman, but all they talk about is law, their families, her dog and law. Nothing to be worried about! If they go to a movie together, I'm not going to be texting hate texts to her... If anything, I'm grateful that he has a "movie date" and that I can stay at home and blast Bravo at whatever volume I want.

[babieejae1101]

Originally Posted by Miss Evy Rocks!

I feel that you shouldn't be instigating by answering to her messages. Leave it alone and just tell guy friend to deal with it. Does he have a land line? If so, give him a call there and ask him to address this with GF. If he doesn't have a land line, then e-mail him the texts and ask him to have a talk with her about it. Her insecurities are her problem and you should not have to deal with that

ITA. Ignore her messages. She most definitely sounds insecure. I would not instigate anything.