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dearmissie · Oct 24th, 2007, 04:03 AM

(continued!)

so then i slave in the kitchen making two different spagettis (one with meat for everyone, and one organic vegiterian for my mom. everyone knows me for my spagetti, its like my all star dish!) i cooked for 2 1/2 hours, and i asked if he wanted some.. he looked at it all nasty, and was like, "i dont eat food like..." my gma yelled at him, "food like what, huh?!!!!" i know bc hes so into his body, he was talking about food with so many carbs in it. the way he looked at the food (which was sooo good and good looking not to toot my own horn, but TOOT!) was like i was trying to feed him poop on a plate or something! i wanted to just yell at him and tell him he should be thankful im feeding him. that my family took him in. the reason why hes not in san diego is because both my aunts will be leaving with their bfs and their families. my gpa will join one of my aunts. but my uncle cant. because they dont wanna over welcome their stay, and be kicke dout bc of his rude behavior. he needs to be thankful my mom does so much for him and his family. he has no idea, my mom pays for everyones bills because my grandmas donut shop brings in zero money. my mom supports everyone. anyways, he starred at the food for 2 minutes and took a tiny tiny bite.. then was like, "oh wow, this is actually pretty good. best spagetti i ever tried." and my gma goes mouthing off at him and what a dumb a$$ he is. she said it was good, he should have just listened. he only ate 1/3 of what my gma ate (she even had seconds!!) and she finished eating in about 30 minutes. (fast old lady!) but he took 1 1/ hours! hes soooo into his looks, even when he eats! he was like nibbling his food. he commented so many times how its good but sooo messy. (my fam eats everything with chopsticks, even noodles.) but my gma told him he might splash on our $500 table cloth, so to use a fork. he only used it bc he didnt wanna splash on his girly a$$ tight clothes. so he nibbled everything. using his fingers to wipe his lips every bite. he was sooo self concisous while eating it was pissing me off!! at the end, he didnt even finish the damn plate! then so then from the kindess of my (evil) sweet heart, i ask him once's he's up here if theres anything he'd like to do. (like touristy crap.. you know, SF golden gate bridge) and hes like, "well no, i didnt have enough time to really pack because it was all last minute, so i dont have nice jeans." WTF?! i looked at myself. i picked them up IN PUBLIC wearing some pink and white stripped pj pants, and a brown tank top, WITH NO BRA! i said, "well look what im wearing! you dont need to get dressed up!!" and my mom was like, "is it odd for you? not being home, near ur usual things?" (hes never left home, except once for my uncle puma's wedding. he does not travel!!) and hes like, "well, its okay, i dont have to go to school" and i added, "and u dont have to go to the donut shop ether! (my gparents own a donut shop and he works for them! and lives with them, and has no freaking life! still in college, and repeats the SAME classes, even though he passed with an A!!) i said at the end, "its like a little vacation!" (he said before he wanted to come up here earlier this year as a vacation, i said why?! LMAO. no one wants him here.) then when my mom asked him why he said he didnt wanna come up here earlier in the day when they were contimplating whether or not to dly up here (my gma told him, everyone else in the fam did too) he was like, "no.. i didnt.. its not that i didnt want to.... its bc i have school." and i was like "no you dont. we just read that all the colleges are closed for the rest of the week!" (we really did just read it online! and he even told me he hasnt had school yet either!) then he asks me about my ex boyfriend and compares the height of my ex to my fiance. why does it matter? your not dating them! but of course, its looks so he cares! my family gets really offended and embarressed because thankfully my fiance wasnt home to hear it. even if he was, my uncle would say it in front of my fiance. he has to respect. and in my opinion its just wrong and rude to talk about someone's ex, esp. in front of their new SO. and i dont get it. my uncle actually likes my fiance. and my fiance has no problem with him. hes the only person in the family who doesnt wanna choke my uncle. and for my uncle to pull this?? come on! my uncle even asked about my fiance right when i picked them up from the airport. then asked really demanding questions and telling me my fiance better bring X and Y over to keep my uncle entertained. thats not my fiances job. its just pathtic. omg this guy.. i swear!!

he just knocked on my door and said, "arent you done yet?" and i said i was correcting my classmates paper. he then says, "so what? 30 more minutes?" and i reply, "i dont think so, its 6 pages long and they sent it to me last minute to edit". i tell him again hes more than welcome to use my desktop, and he says, "well i dont want to bother you in your room and u should be sleeping." (at least he thought of my sleeping??) but seriously, he shouldnt asking me like that. and i shouldnt have to make up so excuse on why im still onb my laptop. its mines. but whatever. i dont wanna hurt his feelings. i just hope i can still contain my anger and not lash out on him for the next week. i hope things will calm down in SD in time so he can go back in a week.

if i cursed in here, im so sorry. i was just so angry. i tried to proof read this. sorry so long, and that i talk (type) so much. i just need to vent here so i dont take it out on him. its just too much, all the drama and now childish crap. thanks for listening. i hope i can make it a whole week.

dearmissie · Oct 24th, 2007, 04:04 AM

I'm sure there were MANY many MANY typos in that, I just wrote it so fast so late. My apologizes.

Wentworth-Roth · Oct 24th, 2007, 08:45 AM

Lots of hugs! You are a strong and kind woman, and everything you did so far for your family proves that.

sarahcantiik · Oct 24th, 2007, 01:58 PM

Wow, very long, indeed.. I hope you are feeling a lot better now after you let it all out. I know the feeling, sometimes we just want to let it all out in the open coz it felt like it was about to burst inside.
I am sorry for all your family members who are sick. I hope they will get better soon.
I too have an uncle that I don't get along with, so I kinda know the feeling.

Hang in there girl.. hope things get better for you soon (hugs)..

harlem_cutie · Oct 26th, 2007, 02:36 AM

darling you have bigger problems to tend to other than worrying whether your post needs correcting :)

I hope the rant helped you at least a tiny bit

You are a beautiful person for doing all that you do but remember to take care of yourself.

I hope things work out soon for you and your family. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way

dearmissie · Oct 26th, 2007, 03:10 AM

Originally Posted by harlem_cutie

darling you have bigger problems to tend to other than worrying whether your post needs correcting :)

I hope the rant helped you at least a tiny bit

You are a beautiful person for doing all that you do but remember to take care of yourself.

I hope things work out soon for you and your family. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way

thanks so much harlem_cutie. today i took the day after i ran errands for my grandmother, and went to visit my ill great grandmother in the hospital. i ate a meal that i didnt have to cook for once at lunch. and then i took an hour nap. (finally!) and fiance and i went to a friends house and they treated me so great. they guys (yes men in the kitchen!) cooked a delicous meal for me.

and i never had to get up the entire day. i didnt even have to clean up. then we stayed in and watched a movie of my choice. is was really great to finally have a day AWAY from drama.

but tomorrow, its back again. and it'll be even more hectic. my uncle puma from sacramento is coming with his wife and kids. and uncle puma hates uncle chanda. i guess the family fight is coming twice this year. one tomorrow (and the rest of the week both uncles are near each other) and for christmas..

the craps gonna hit the fans tomorrow. ughhh.. until then, im going to savor my night.

p.s.
congrats on the baby!!

RowanOak · Oct 26th, 2007, 03:45 AM

Well, I am soo glad you had a one day reprieve. You definitely deserved one for all you have done. I think that was their way of saying they appreciated you, but in a practical way.

Hope tomorrow (well, today) goes smoother than you anticipate and we sincerely wish you the best with all you are going through.

dearmissie · Oct 26th, 2007, 03:58 AM

Originally Posted by RowanOak

Well, I am soo glad you had a one day reprieve. You definitely deserved one for all you have done. I think that was their way of saying they appreciated you, but in a practical way.

Hope tomorrow (well, today) goes smoother than you anticipate and we sincerely wish you the best with all you are going through.

thank you so much for all the best wishes. i appreciate it.

my family actually didn't "give" me the day. my mother was at work, and my grandmother wanted to see my great grandma at the hospital, so i drove here there with my family. everyone except mom (work) and uncles (pathetic excuse, what kind of person doesn't want to see their family when theyre about to pass? plus he hasnt seen her in about 6 years.) so because my uncle didnt go, he wanted to stay at me house, and i didnt want to be there alone with him. he might go crazy on me and hurt me. i told my grandma how i felt and that i didnt want to be home alone with him, and she said it was a good idea not to stay home alone with him. thankfully i said that, because i just avoided a day of head aches and got some free time to NAAAAAP for an hour! best hour ever man.

i too am crossing my fingers that it goes pretty good. im trying to go home as close to the time as my uncle and his family will arrive. so i basically get another full day to relax. im probably going to catch up on sleep and do school work. then when my uncle is near my house, ill leave and head home to chaos.. but a good thing is, because i wont be home all day ill be avoiding crap, and because my uncle is arriving late, they wont have THAT long to fight. they've got to go to be sometime!!! ha! (i hope.)

lilflobowl · Oct 26th, 2007, 10:51 PM

eeks! your uncle c is just icky & horrid. if i were you he'd be on my ignore list & wouldn't even get any acknowledgment from me!

i hope your great grandma gets well soon!

take care & be strong!

dearmissie · Oct 29th, 2007, 02:10 AM

a couple of days have passed, and hell has still prevailed. at our place, our restroom is a toilet (1/2 restroom) that has a door that opens to a bathtub, that then links to another door which opens to another toilet. so the restrooms are seperate but connected with a tub. so anyways, he locked ALL BATHROOMS and stayed in for 2 hours!! what on earth does he do in there?? he is so wasteful! he uses about 1 1/2 rolls of toliet paper in ONE DAY. its all there, sitting in the waste basket! and TONS of USED q-tips in the waste basket and all over my bathroom counter and floor. he does not clean up after himself, and wont take the trash out. and i refuse to touch his nasty waste. he leaves water running for HOURS in the restroom. i found out the reason he was washing his face in the sink was because he does not let water touch his face in the shower. WHY?!?! omg..

just now i held my pee for 3 hours while is was in the restroom. i knocked on my restroom door, and he said he was busy and wanted me to go through my moms restroom to unlock the door to the shower because he wanted to shower (its 11pm and people are sleeping!!) i told him my moms door was locked, and i thought she was asleep. he then said she was probably watching a movie, but to wake her up so he can shower. i did. and boy oh boy did my mom have a fit at him. telling him how rude and inconsiderate he was to tell me to wake her up. and that he has no respect for people in our home trying to shower this late. plus he already showered today and he didnt even LEAVE THE HOUSE! he said it was a habit, and my mom said he needs to break his crazy habits. for him to think of how wasteful he is. some people dont even have water like we do. blah blah. HE STILL DIDNT OPEN THE DOOR FOR ME TO PEE! bastard (excuse my language.) i went pee in my moms restroom. and she told me not to unlock the bathtub door. he wasnt going to waste more water..

a million more things happened, him coming into my room when im not home, and eating in my room making a mess, leaving crumbs and left overs everywhere! he got me a virus on my desktop, and got mad when i told him he could not use my laptop which is strictly for school. he even asked me to borrow my car.. i said no. hes so irresponsible, if i gave him my car, its like giving it to a 5 year old! plus my neighborhood is confusing. one way streets and things like that. its like a mini SF with less hills. too much drama to type about. its so overwhelming.

my great grandma's cancer is fully blown. at the hospital when the nurse was in, we saw she was bleeding from her private areas. tomorrow she goes into radiation treatment. hopefully all goes well and its not too hard on her. bless her, i love her.

lilflobowl · Oct 29th, 2007, 07:34 AM

Oh dear.. my prayers for your great grandma...

Also, about the toilet rolls/tissue paper/q-tips, can you guys keep the extras in your rooms? & leave maybe like a little bit of a roll in the toilet at all times? Your uncle's a guy - he doesn't need more than one square piece of the toilet roll to clean himself after a pee, and a few more squares after taking a dump.

& I'm sure you guys have the key to your restroom right? Arm yourself with the key & the next time he takes anything more than half an hour to bathe/poop/pee (or whenever you need to do any of them & he's hogging the restroom) just open the doors & kick him out.

He's really taking all of you for granted & I'm amazed at how your mom can still tolerate him under her roof! Is there any way that you guys could house him somewhere cheap?

dearmissie · Oct 29th, 2007, 03:10 PM

Originally Posted by lilflobowl

Oh dear.. my prayers for your great grandma...

Also, about the toilet rolls/tissue paper/q-tips, can you guys keep the extras in your rooms? & leave maybe like a little bit of a roll in the toilet at all times? Your uncle's a guy - he doesn't need more than one square piece of the toilet roll to clean himself after a pee, and a few more squares after taking a dump.

& I'm sure you guys have the key to your restroom right? Arm yourself with the key & the next time he takes anything more than half an hour to bathe/poop/pee (or whenever you need to do any of them & he's hogging the restroom) just open the doors & kick him out.

He's really taking all of you for granted & I'm amazed at how your mom can still tolerate him under her roof! Is there any way that you guys could house him somewhere cheap?

its still early in the day so i havent heard word on my great grandmothers radiation treatment. thank you for your kind words.

we do store extra bathroom assessories in the bathroom closet that is outside the restroom. but he went out with my moms car to buy his own stash. he filled up my wastebasket with his qtips and toilet paper, and he wont throw it away, so this morning when using my moms restroom (because he was in mine again) i saw he was filling up my moms wastebasket also. not only that but he has contaminated his nose hair clippings in her restroom as well as mine. yes, he used OUR KITCHEN SISSORS to cut his nose hairs!! nasty! im throwing those away!! he leaves his clippings on the counter, sink, floor, rug, and all over the wastebasket. its really digusting. i refuse to take out the wastebasket, im waiting for him to have no where to put it and just see where he tosses his trash. last night at 2 am my fiance went to the restroom and said someone left dirty brown underwear on my toilet. that jerk (uncle) cant even put his own dirty underwear away!! last night when i went to get a drink in the kitchen, he was sitting at my dining table and asked, "did u eat yet?" and i replied, "no" and he said, "u should eat soon" and i said i would. i KNEW he was waiting for me to cook, because the night before my family and i came home from visiting my great grandma (we ate there, but he didnt go because hes a social mess) and when we came home, he demanded me to set the table so we could eat. (my mom cooked earlier, all i had to do was hear it up) i said, "no, we already ate" and i didnt prepare crap. he had to get his own food ready. an stupid him, ate all the food my mom made and didnt even know how to warm it up because hes to dumb/lazy to work a microwave!

does anyone else have to deal with such an idiot?! HOW DO YOU DO IT?! i seriously lock myself in my room all day. i dont even want to go and pee. last night i ate dinner in my room, and was too scared to go out to the kitchen to get a drink for myself and soysauce for my noodles. im thinking of taking a bottle and pee'ing in it. then throwing it out the window for my plants. HA. nasty!!

chinadoll724 · Oct 30th, 2007, 12:00 PM

Why's he still staying with you guys? Is his area still under mandatory evacutation? If not, let him know he's being an inconvenience and that he'd more comfortable in his own home.

Here's a listing of that status of evacuations in the SD area:
http://www.sdcountyemergency.com/evacuation_orders.html

dearmissie · Oct 31st, 2007, 02:18 AM

Originally Posted by chinadoll724

Why's he still staying with you guys? Is his area still under mandatory evacutation? If not, let him know he's being an inconvenience and that he'd more comfortable in his own home.

Here's a listing of that status of evacuations in the SD area:
http://www.sdcountyemergency.com/evacuation_orders.html

we flew him and my grandmother up here (bay area, ca) because they were being evacuated and because of the bad air quality. my grandma used to live in sacramento but couldnt breathe because of the bad air, and the bad air in san diego she was getting ill.

thank you for the evaucation list.

i actually had a talk with him last night and i expressed my feelings towards him and his sickness. i dropped him off at the airport today. im on medication now, this week i went to the doctors because of all the stress. im breaking out, my hair is falling out, my skin is bad, and ive been restless. sleeping just an hour or two a night for the past week.

lilflobowl · Oct 31st, 2007, 06:44 AM

well babe, it's almost all over! now that your uncle's left please please get more rest, drink more water & just don't think about this episode anymore...

i'm so glad that at least a daily issue is out of the picture for now.. till the next family gathering so to speak.

*fingers still crossed for your ggm*

Oct 24th, 2007, 04:03 AM	#16
dearmissie OP formerly oo0ehxtahcee0oo Joined: Aug 2007 Location: After a much needed break, I'M BACK!! Posts: 7,269	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) (continued!) so then i slave in the kitchen making two different spagettis (one with meat for everyone, and one organic vegiterian for my mom. everyone knows me for my spagetti, its like my all star dish!) i cooked for 2 1/2 hours, and i asked if he wanted some.. he looked at it all nasty, and was like, "i dont eat food like..." my gma yelled at him, "food like what, huh?!!!!" i know bc hes so into his body, he was talking about food with so many carbs in it. the way he looked at the food (which was sooo good and good looking not to toot my own horn, but TOOT!) was like i was trying to feed him poop on a plate or something! i wanted to just yell at him and tell him he should be thankful im feeding him. that my family took him in. the reason why hes not in san diego is because both my aunts will be leaving with their bfs and their families. my gpa will join one of my aunts. but my uncle cant. because they dont wanna over welcome their stay, and be kicke dout bc of his rude behavior. he needs to be thankful my mom does so much for him and his family. he has no idea, my mom pays for everyones bills because my grandmas donut shop brings in zero money. my mom supports everyone. anyways, he starred at the food for 2 minutes and took a tiny tiny bite.. then was like, "oh wow, this is actually pretty good. best spagetti i ever tried." and my gma goes mouthing off at him and what a dumb a$$ he is. she said it was good, he should have just listened. he only ate 1/3 of what my gma ate (she even had seconds!!) and she finished eating in about 30 minutes. (fast old lady!) but he took 1 1/ hours! hes soooo into his looks, even when he eats! he was like nibbling his food. he commented so many times how its good but sooo messy. (my fam eats everything with chopsticks, even noodles.) but my gma told him he might splash on our $500 table cloth, so to use a fork. he only used it bc he didnt wanna splash on his girly a$$ tight clothes. so he nibbled everything. using his fingers to wipe his lips every bite. he was sooo self concisous while eating it was pissing me off!! at the end, he didnt even finish the damn plate! then so then from the kindess of my (evil) sweet heart, i ask him once's he's up here if theres anything he'd like to do. (like touristy crap.. you know, SF golden gate bridge) and hes like, "well no, i didnt have enough time to really pack because it was all last minute, so i dont have nice jeans." WTF?! i looked at myself. i picked them up IN PUBLIC wearing some pink and white stripped pj pants, and a brown tank top, WITH NO BRA! i said, "well look what im wearing! you dont need to get dressed up!!" and my mom was like, "is it odd for you? not being home, near ur usual things?" (hes never left home, except once for my uncle puma's wedding. he does not travel!!) and hes like, "well, its okay, i dont have to go to school" and i added, "and u dont have to go to the donut shop ether! (my gparents own a donut shop and he works for them! and lives with them, and has no freaking life! still in college, and repeats the SAME classes, even though he passed with an A!!) i said at the end, "its like a little vacation!" (he said before he wanted to come up here earlier this year as a vacation, i said why?! LMAO. no one wants him here.) then when my mom asked him why he said he didnt wanna come up here earlier in the day when they were contimplating whether or not to dly up here (my gma told him, everyone else in the fam did too) he was like, "no.. i didnt.. its not that i didnt want to.... its bc i have school." and i was like "no you dont. we just read that all the colleges are closed for the rest of the week!" (we really did just read it online! and he even told me he hasnt had school yet either!) then he asks me about my ex boyfriend and compares the height of my ex to my fiance. why does it matter? your not dating them! but of course, its looks so he cares! my family gets really offended and embarressed because thankfully my fiance wasnt home to hear it. even if he was, my uncle would say it in front of my fiance. he has to respect. and in my opinion its just wrong and rude to talk about someone's ex, esp. in front of their new SO. and i dont get it. my uncle actually likes my fiance. and my fiance has no problem with him. hes the only person in the family who doesnt wanna choke my uncle. and for my uncle to pull this?? come on! my uncle even asked about my fiance right when i picked them up from the airport. then asked really demanding questions and telling me my fiance better bring X and Y over to keep my uncle entertained. thats not my fiances job. its just pathtic. omg this guy.. i swear!! he just knocked on my door and said, "arent you done yet?" and i said i was correcting my classmates paper. he then says, "so what? 30 more minutes?" and i reply, "i dont think so, its 6 pages long and they sent it to me last minute to edit". i tell him again hes more than welcome to use my desktop, and he says, "well i dont want to bother you in your room and u should be sleeping." (at least he thought of my sleeping??) but seriously, he shouldnt asking me like that. and i shouldnt have to make up so excuse on why im still onb my laptop. its mines. but whatever. i dont wanna hurt his feelings. i just hope i can still contain my anger and not lash out on him for the next week. i hope things will calm down in SD in time so he can go back in a week. if i cursed in here, im so sorry. i was just so angry. i tried to proof read this. sorry so long, and that i talk (type) so much. i just need to vent here so i dont take it out on him. its just too much, all the drama and now childish crap. thanks for listening. i hope i can make it a whole week.

Oct 24th, 2007, 04:04 AM	#17
dearmissie OP formerly oo0ehxtahcee0oo Joined: Aug 2007 Location: After a much needed break, I'M BACK!! Posts: 7,269	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) I'm sure there were MANY many MANY typos in that, I just wrote it so fast so late. My apologizes.

Oct 24th, 2007, 08:45 AM	#18
Wentworth-Roth Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,820	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) Lots of hugs! You are a strong and kind woman, and everything you did so far for your family proves that.
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Oct 24th, 2007, 01:58 PM	#19
sarahcantiik Which bag to buy today? Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 2,263	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) Wow, very long, indeed.. I hope you are feeling a lot better now after you let it all out. I know the feeling, sometimes we just want to let it all out in the open coz it felt like it was about to burst inside. I am sorry for all your family members who are sick. I hope they will get better soon. I too have an uncle that I don't get along with, so I kinda know the feeling. Hang in there girl.. hope things get better for you soon (hugs)..

Oct 26th, 2007, 02:36 AM	#20
harlem_cutie Go Yankees! Joined: Apr 2006 Location: stimulating the economy in NYC! Posts: 2,530	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) darling you have bigger problems to tend to other than worrying whether your post needs correcting :) I hope the rant helped you at least a tiny bit You are a beautiful person for doing all that you do but remember to take care of yourself. I hope things work out soon for you and your family. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way
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Oct 26th, 2007, 03:45 AM	#22
RowanOak Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Deep South Posts: 1,333	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) Well, I am soo glad you had a one day reprieve. You definitely deserved one for all you have done. I think that was their way of saying they appreciated you, but in a practical way. Hope tomorrow (well, today) goes smoother than you anticipate and we sincerely wish you the best with all you are going through.
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Oct 26th, 2007, 10:51 PM	#24
lilflobowl V Joined: Jul 2007 Location: Singapore Posts: 2,245	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) eeks! your uncle c is just icky & horrid. if i were you he'd be on my ignore list & wouldn't even get any acknowledgment from me! i hope your great grandma gets well soon! take care & be strong!

Oct 29th, 2007, 02:10 AM	#25
dearmissie OP formerly oo0ehxtahcee0oo Joined: Aug 2007 Location: After a much needed break, I'M BACK!! Posts: 7,269	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) a couple of days have passed, and hell has still prevailed. at our place, our restroom is a toilet (1/2 restroom) that has a door that opens to a bathtub, that then links to another door which opens to another toilet. so the restrooms are seperate but connected with a tub. so anyways, he locked ALL BATHROOMS and stayed in for 2 hours!! what on earth does he do in there?? he is so wasteful! he uses about 1 1/2 rolls of toliet paper in ONE DAY. its all there, sitting in the waste basket! and TONS of USED q-tips in the waste basket and all over my bathroom counter and floor. he does not clean up after himself, and wont take the trash out. and i refuse to touch his nasty waste. he leaves water running for HOURS in the restroom. i found out the reason he was washing his face in the sink was because he does not let water touch his face in the shower. WHY?!?! omg.. just now i held my pee for 3 hours while is was in the restroom. i knocked on my restroom door, and he said he was busy and wanted me to go through my moms restroom to unlock the door to the shower because he wanted to shower (its 11pm and people are sleeping!!) i told him my moms door was locked, and i thought she was asleep. he then said she was probably watching a movie, but to wake her up so he can shower. i did. and boy oh boy did my mom have a fit at him. telling him how rude and inconsiderate he was to tell me to wake her up. and that he has no respect for people in our home trying to shower this late. plus he already showered today and he didnt even LEAVE THE HOUSE! he said it was a habit, and my mom said he needs to break his crazy habits. for him to think of how wasteful he is. some people dont even have water like we do. blah blah. HE STILL DIDNT OPEN THE DOOR FOR ME TO PEE! bastard (excuse my language.) i went pee in my moms restroom. and she told me not to unlock the bathtub door. he wasnt going to waste more water.. a million more things happened, him coming into my room when im not home, and eating in my room making a mess, leaving crumbs and left overs everywhere! he got me a virus on my desktop, and got mad when i told him he could not use my laptop which is strictly for school. he even asked me to borrow my car.. i said no. hes so irresponsible, if i gave him my car, its like giving it to a 5 year old! plus my neighborhood is confusing. one way streets and things like that. its like a mini SF with less hills. too much drama to type about. its so overwhelming. my great grandma's cancer is fully blown. at the hospital when the nurse was in, we saw she was bleeding from her private areas. tomorrow she goes into radiation treatment. hopefully all goes well and its not too hard on her. bless her, i love her.

Oct 29th, 2007, 07:34 AM	#26
lilflobowl V Joined: Jul 2007 Location: Singapore Posts: 2,245	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) Oh dear.. my prayers for your great grandma... Also, about the toilet rolls/tissue paper/q-tips, can you guys keep the extras in your rooms? & leave maybe like a little bit of a roll in the toilet at all times? Your uncle's a guy - he doesn't need more than one square piece of the toilet roll to clean himself after a pee, and a few more squares after taking a dump. & I'm sure you guys have the key to your restroom right? Arm yourself with the key & the next time he takes anything more than half an hour to bathe/poop/pee (or whenever you need to do any of them & he's hogging the restroom) just open the doors & kick him out. He's really taking all of you for granted & I'm amazed at how your mom can still tolerate him under her roof! Is there any way that you guys could house him somewhere cheap?

Oct 30th, 2007, 12:00 PM	#28
chinadoll724 Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,206	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) Why's he still staying with you guys? Is his area still under mandatory evacutation? If not, let him know he's being an inconvenience and that he'd more comfortable in his own home. Here's a listing of that status of evacuations in the SD area: http://www.sdcountyemergency.com/evacuation_orders.html
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Oct 31st, 2007, 06:44 AM	#30
lilflobowl V Joined: Jul 2007 Location: Singapore Posts: 2,245	Re: My family is breaking apart. SoCal fire, cancer, etc. (REALLY LONG) well babe, it's almost all over! now that your uncle's left please please get more rest, drink more water & just don't think about this episode anymore... i'm so glad that at least a daily issue is out of the picture for now.. till the next family gathering so to speak. fingers still crossed for your ggm

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