[aliburke84]

I would personally contact Amy first. Tell her that Tim told you this and you know he isn't a reliable source but that you really love your brother and his interests come first. Tell her that you wanted to check with her before telling your brother but let her know that you are very serious about this and that she needs to come clean if its true.

[Laurie8504]

Originally Posted by Charles

Def confront Amy first. Don't be accusatory, just come at it like you want to prove Tim wrong. Judge her reactions. If you truly think she cheated, then tell her that either she tells your bro, or you will.
IS there anyway you can confirm from a less biased party??

I agree. If you just tell her "Hey, Tim is telling people you've slept with Rick...just thought you should know", it should be pretty easy to tell if it's the truth or not.

[Jahpson]

what a skank! its always the good guys who get burned. what a tragedy!

call her and tell her the information you got (dont tell her the source) and recommend that she confront your brother (and threaten that you will but dont really do it)

you have seen your brother hurt once before, and as a sister who also has two brothers who I love dearly, I wouldnt let this slide.

Its her job to spill on what she was doing.

[ILuvShopping]

it seems like you are pretty close to her so i think you should talk to her first. just tell her you need to talk to her about something you heard and need to get it figured out. don't accuse her of it. and really i woudln't even tell her who told you otherwise she might use the excuse that he's just trying to cause trouble.

[keodi]

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

I wouldn't trust your psycho ex as far as I could throw him. Why do you?
I would go straight to Amy and tell her what Tim told you. If he's lying then its up to her to kick his ass. But I would under no circumstances tell your brother. Its only heresay and from a lowlife, psycho ex bf who has an addiction problem. There is a saying about addicts, "how do you know when an addict is lying? his lips are moving." It sounds to me like this bonehead is just trying to start trouble. Since it is Amy that is being slandered here, you need to tell her and let her handle it. If its true, then it will be her responsibility to deal with it. I know you care about your brother but if you do not want to be seen as a nosy busy body, then you need to stay out of his affairs with his gf. They are grown ups. They will deal with whatever they need to deal with.

this is so right on bagnshoo is right I think you should go to Amy with this and let her handle the situation from there..

[lovinalotofbags]

Tact. Tact went out the door if she did sleep with him. IMO, what I would do is say to her, so and so messaged me and said you slept with his brother. Then go from there.

Life is tough. Relationships take work. If she cheated on him, he deserves better. He will eventually get over it. So sorry for your brother.

[aklein]

I must say I am a little surprised that people are so quick to believe something that came out of the mouth of the OP's problematic ex. Now I don't know what exactly has been going on with her ex, but having dealt with a persistent and crazy ex myself, I would probably not believe him if he came to me saying something like this. Maybe it is best you talk to Amy like some of the others have suggested. And then block your ex. I found out that you can block text messages and mobile IMs from just about anyone. It is a great little feature and it sounds like you could benefit from it. I really am sorry that you are going through this, but my gut is telling me that somehting is off here. It sounds like your ex is trying to stir the pot to me.

[BalenciagaLove]

I totally agree with bagsnshoo. Why even believe this guy? What has he done to have more credibility than Amy's reputation? To me, he sounds like a loser who is trying to screw with you. That said, I agree that it's Amy's beef with your ex. Tell her what he texted and yeah, if it's not true, she should kick his ASS!!

I was confronted by this psycho girl once who did this about my bf. It literally ruined my relationship for a long time because trust was in question. I will never know if it's true or not. Without verifiable evidence, that's the way it is. Unless you have something more concrete, I wouldn't go spilling this to your brother. I would tell Amy what is being said about her. If she's a cheater, she'll do it again and it'll come out and the natural courses of events will occur.