Mr. Left Brain

invisicat · Dec 31st, 2007, 02:03 AM

My boyfriend of 3 months is totally Mr. Left Brain scientist (psychologist), and I am right-brained, love literature, write poetry. Is this kind of relationship even possible?

invisicat · Dec 31st, 2007, 02:26 AM

Sorry, this won't let me edit my first post. I realized I sounded kind of vague. I just wonder if he and I will ultimately turn out to be incompatible. What kinds of experiences do you all have?

devoted · Dec 31st, 2007, 02:44 AM

there has to be more than just a right/left brain difference....any more details? There are so many threads discussing whether opposites attract, is that what you're asking about?

Charles · Dec 31st, 2007, 03:19 AM

How bout you tell us if you think it's gonna last.

Oh, and stop thinking so much!

lv_forever · Dec 31st, 2007, 05:37 AM

My bf and I exactly like you and your bf. He is a software engineer, so he loves science and technology, zero to little knowledge on literature and poetry. I'm the poet of the two. I really don't think it's an issue. At least not for us. In fact, it has kept our relationship interesting because we were so fascinated by each other's interests. I love that we have different things to share. He loves it when I tell him bits of poetry and I find him so sexy working on some kind of computer diagram (? I don't know, he draws bunch of lines and squares and adds numbers on them, lol).

merika · Dec 31st, 2007, 09:26 AM

LOL!! Well, SO is a software engineer and I'm a physics person so we are both left brained...probably the most left brained of the left brained lot.

hasn't stopped the arguments though!!

Traci · Dec 31st, 2007, 02:23 PM

My husband and I are like this. I am the "left-brained" one and he is the one who is full of creativity.

I don't have a creative bone in my body. But, we get along great and it works because we each compensate for the others shortcomings.

Of course, I will say that "creative" people are a little harder to live with because they focus all their energy on being creative and not....picking up after themselves, or remembering what you said, or leaving dirty towels on the floor.....or is that just men???? LOL!!!!!

Just kidding guys.....don't flip out! LOL!

Elara · Dec 31st, 2007, 03:09 PM

My husband and I are like this- he's a Database Admin/Software Developer- he actually majored in English because Math was too easy for him and he wanted to try something new. I'm a creative- I write for a living. I majored in English because that's what I love. I'm currently taking programming classes, both to learn something new and to try and understand what he does.

We are completely opposite in how we do things, thought- he's much more analytical, and I'm much more inclined to do things emotionally. And Traci is right- my husband is MUCH neater than I am, and much more concerned with everything being in the right place- I am a little scatterbrained in the cleaning department. Thank goodness for housekeepers! But we've made this work for 11 years now.

Don't know if that kinda answers your question at all...but I have to admint, if you're asking the question to begin with, you sound like you may be having doubts. Did something happen to bring this concern on?

Irishgal · Dec 31st, 2007, 03:15 PM

Charles is right..stop worrying about it. Yes, relationships like this can work and often do.

Pursegrrl · Dec 31st, 2007, 05:46 PM

Oh I don't see that as a deal breaker at all! Rather, you each can learn from the other and help eachother out in the areas you are strong in and where you are not. My SIL is a creative dreamer type and my brother is a total realist. They are a great couple...10 years married and 3 wonderful kids! They know how to make it work and appreciate eachother's qualities.

Speedy · Dec 31st, 2007, 11:02 PM

Yup, they work and just fine. I'm the artist in the family, and he's the grounded one. We've been in love for almost 20 years.

Actuallly, I find people who are total opposites intellicutally often get along great because they base their attractions on something other than brain power. We manage to turn every time together into something we both enjoy. Say we want to go to the lake. I'll take a book, he'll take his fishing gear.

But if you are too far apart, say he likes to party and you are a homebody, then no, it won't work. I know for a fact though, if he were an artist, I'd be competing with him too much to love him. I'd also get p**sed because he'd probably leave towels on the bathroom floor like I do. ;-)

chipmunk-pnw · Jan 2nd, 2008, 05:17 AM

It is possible. My husband is totally opposite of me but we share the same life goals and interests. Our differences complement, where I lack he is strong, and vice versa. I'm messy, he's tidy, etc. Not every opposite couple relationship works. You need to share the same goals, aspirations, have same wavelength, etc, and decide on who wears the pants in the relationship. 2 people cannot wear it at the same time. Anyway 3 months is way too short to decide if you two are compatible for life. Give it 1 more year or 2 to be certain. At this early stage, we normally put on our best facade and true colors don't really show till much much later.

invisicat · Jan 2nd, 2008, 10:25 PM

I do overanalyze. Everything. *grin* I just wondered. Fact is, he was out of the country visiting his family for two weeks, and he doesn't keep if contact much due to the expense of calling, and lack of readily available Internet service. So, I was lonely. I asked him to send me a postcard, and he said, no, there was no point, because he would get back before the postcard arrived. Thank you, Mr. Logic: that's not the point! The point is he should show me he's thinking about me!!! Argh! Lol!

rainrowan · Jan 3rd, 2008, 01:48 AM

Oh my kind of thread :)

I'm right and left brain 50%-50% every time I take those tests. I drive everyone around me including myself crazy. I'll be spontaneous one minute, and the next minute I reign myself in and v.v.

You and your SO can take a personality compatibility test based on Carl Jung's Personality Types for fun:
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
Once you each get your personality type, plug it into the compatibility link.

It's fascinating subject for me and it's actually a serious subject, some companies use the personality type test to hire people compatible with the rest of the staff/company.

I happen to be an INFJ (introvert, intuitive, feeling, judging) type. My dh is the "counterpart" to me LOL

invisicat · Jan 3rd, 2008, 02:15 AM

That was interesting, although it didn't recognize my tendency to procrastinate. :)

Dec 31st, 2007, 02:03 AM	#1
invisicat Member	Mr. Left Brain My boyfriend of 3 months is totally Mr. Left Brain scientist (psychologist), and I am right-brained, love literature, write poetry. Is this kind of relationship even possible? __________________ Bad Ass Bag Carrying Woman

Dec 31st, 2007, 02:26 AM	#2
invisicat Member	Re: Mr. Left Brain Sorry, this won't let me edit my first post. I realized I sounded kind of vague. I just wonder if he and I will ultimately turn out to be incompatible. What kinds of experiences do you all have? __________________ Bad Ass Bag Carrying Woman

Dec 31st, 2007, 02:44 AM	#3
devoted Member	Re: Mr. Left Brain there has to be more than just a right/left brain difference....any more details? There are so many threads discussing whether opposites attract, is that what you're asking about?

Dec 31st, 2007, 03:19 AM	#4
Charles Sucks at budgeting Location: Jacksonville, Fl	Re: Mr. Left Brain How bout you tell us if you think it's gonna last. Oh, and stop thinking so much!

Dec 31st, 2007, 05:37 AM	#5
lv_forever Member	Re: Mr. Left Brain My bf and I exactly like you and your bf. He is a software engineer, so he loves science and technology, zero to little knowledge on literature and poetry. I'm the poet of the two. I really don't think it's an issue. At least not for us. In fact, it has kept our relationship interesting because we were so fascinated by each other's interests. I love that we have different things to share. He loves it when I tell him bits of poetry and I find him so sexy working on some kind of computer diagram (? I don't know, he draws bunch of lines and squares and adds numbers on them, lol).

Dec 31st, 2007, 09:26 AM	#6
merika Just me Location: In front of a computer	Re: Mr. Left Brain LOL!! Well, SO is a software engineer and I'm a physics person so we are both left brained...probably the most left brained of the left brained lot. hasn't stopped the arguments though!! __________________ I will also gladly authenticate your chocolates for you.

Dec 31st, 2007, 02:23 PM	#7
Traci MOD - tastic!	Re: Mr. Left Brain My husband and I are like this. I am the "left-brained" one and he is the one who is full of creativity. I don't have a creative bone in my body. But, we get along great and it works because we each compensate for the others shortcomings. Of course, I will say that "creative" people are a little harder to live with because they focus all their energy on being creative and not....picking up after themselves, or remembering what you said, or leaving dirty towels on the floor.....or is that just men???? LOL!!!!! Just kidding guys.....don't flip out! LOL! __________________ The blog is back! http://www.tra-world.blogspot.com/

Dec 31st, 2007, 03:09 PM	#8
Elara Member Location: Richmond, VA	Re: Mr. Left Brain My husband and I are like this- he's a Database Admin/Software Developer- he actually majored in English because Math was too easy for him and he wanted to try something new. I'm a creative- I write for a living. I majored in English because that's what I love. I'm currently taking programming classes, both to learn something new and to try and understand what he does. We are completely opposite in how we do things, thought- he's much more analytical, and I'm much more inclined to do things emotionally. And Traci is right- my husband is MUCH neater than I am, and much more concerned with everything being in the right place- I am a little scatterbrained in the cleaning department. Thank goodness for housekeepers! But we've made this work for 11 years now. Don't know if that kinda answers your question at all...but I have to admint, if you're asking the question to begin with, you sound like you may be having doubts. Did something happen to bring this concern on?

Dec 31st, 2007, 03:15 PM	#9
Irishgal I run with scissors Location: In a Bell Jet Ranger	Re: Mr. Left Brain Charles is right..stop worrying about it. Yes, relationships like this can work and often do. __________________ Ten thousand blessings to all of our furry friends who are in need of prayers. May they be comfortable, healthy, and blessed with joy and companionship. May their eyes shine brightly and may they know that they are loved.

Dec 31st, 2007, 05:46 PM	#10
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	Re: Mr. Left Brain Oh I don't see that as a deal breaker at all! Rather, you each can learn from the other and help eachother out in the areas you are strong in and where you are not. My SIL is a creative dreamer type and my brother is a total realist. They are a great couple...10 years married and 3 wonderful kids! They know how to make it work and appreciate eachother's qualities. __________________

Dec 31st, 2007, 11:02 PM	#11
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Mr. Left Brain Yup, they work and just fine. I'm the artist in the family, and he's the grounded one. We've been in love for almost 20 years. Actuallly, I find people who are total opposites intellicutally often get along great because they base their attractions on something other than brain power. We manage to turn every time together into something we both enjoy. Say we want to go to the lake. I'll take a book, he'll take his fishing gear. But if you are too far apart, say he likes to party and you are a homebody, then no, it won't work. I know for a fact though, if he were an artist, I'd be competing with him too much to love him. I'd also get p**sed because he'd probably leave towels on the bathroom floor like I do. ;-)

Jan 2nd, 2008, 05:17 AM	#12
chipmunk-pnw ^.^ Location: USA	Re: Mr. Left Brain It is possible. My husband is totally opposite of me but we share the same life goals and interests. Our differences complement, where I lack he is strong, and vice versa. I'm messy, he's tidy, etc. Not every opposite couple relationship works. You need to share the same goals, aspirations, have same wavelength, etc, and decide on who wears the pants in the relationship. 2 people cannot wear it at the same time. Anyway 3 months is way too short to decide if you two are compatible for life. Give it 1 more year or 2 to be certain. At this early stage, we normally put on our best facade and true colors don't really show till much much later.

Jan 2nd, 2008, 10:25 PM	#13
invisicat Member	Re: Mr. Left Brain I do overanalyze. Everything. grin I just wondered. Fact is, he was out of the country visiting his family for two weeks, and he doesn't keep if contact much due to the expense of calling, and lack of readily available Internet service. So, I was lonely. I asked him to send me a postcard, and he said, no, there was no point, because he would get back before the postcard arrived. Thank you, Mr. Logic: that's not the point! The point is he should show me he's thinking about me!!! Argh! Lol! __________________ Bad Ass Bag Carrying Woman

Jan 3rd, 2008, 01:48 AM	#14
rainrowan INFJ	Re: Mr. Left Brain Oh my kind of thread :) I'm right and left brain 50%-50% every time I take those tests. I drive everyone around me including myself crazy. I'll be spontaneous one minute, and the next minute I reign myself in and v.v. You and your SO can take a personality compatibility test based on Carl Jung's Personality Types for fun: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp Once you each get your personality type, plug it into the compatibility link. It's fascinating subject for me and it's actually a serious subject, some companies use the personality type test to hire people compatible with the rest of the staff/company. I happen to be an INFJ (introvert, intuitive, feeling, judging) type. My dh is the "counterpart" to me LOL

Jan 3rd, 2008, 02:15 AM	#15
invisicat Member	Re: Mr. Left Brain That was interesting, although it didn't recognize my tendency to procrastinate. :) __________________ Bad Ass Bag Carrying Woman