Moving in with my SO

[ally24k]

thanks this is great advice! I might also move in w the SO next year.

[Maryanne007]

Living together is definitely a BIG change. Things arent always romantic and the excited feeling does die down, so what do you have to do? Work at it. I cannot stress getting a housekeeper enough, if you can afford it, it is a lifesaver! everyone is much happier!! lol. aside from that having space in your apartment is important too. one big mistake i made was always waiting for him (after work) to see what he was up to, and he would do the same, and then if he went and did something else, id get annoyed for having waited when i should have made plans in the first place. its important to be separate ppl who hang out with other ppl separately too. all in all, even through all the fights (which we didnt have before moving in), i think it made us realize, that the good outweighed the bad, and we are thinking about living together again. :) (the first time was just for 5 months because I was doing work in that city)

[sred2]

Congrats on taking such a huge step together! My BF and I moved in together after dating for only 3 months (we had both JUST turned 21) and we got crap from EVERYONE. but now after living together for 1 year 4 months people have shut up haha!

My suggestions are to just ENJOY yourself as much as possible.. sure little things will bother you but the reason that you're moving in together is to spend more time together and because you love each other... so remember that when things get a bit tense.

Also, try not to keep track of every little detail.. if you try and split things down the middle (chores and what not) then it'll only get frustrating for both of you. My boyfriend and I are both busy (we both work full time and go to school full time! ugh!) but when one of us is free and the other is not then the free person does the dishes/laundry/cleans the bathroom etc and in that way things get down without one person haveing to pester the other...

I can't stress enough though to just relax and have fun!!!

[Speedy]

Have two things... your own TV and a good set of headphones. The rest is cream cheese.

For about four years, it was me, my hubby, and my two grown brothers... talk about the toliet seat NEVER being down! Now, hubby was easy to train in this respect, but not my brothers! I finally posted a note over the toliet, telling them that if they truly respected me, they would put the seat down. Never had a problem since, and it also made the boys go look for their own place a LOT quicker!

[fatefullotus]

So excited for you!

BF and I moved in together over the summer. I've been living alone since I was 21 so we spent a lot of time looking for an apt with extra bedrooms, so that each of us can have our own space. It took about 5 months to finally find a place. Patience is something I'm not terribly familiar with but in this case, it was well worth it.

So far, I would say that it's possibly the best decision we ever made.

Of course, I have some gripes (he leaves socks EVERYWHERE because "they'll stink up the hamper"... of DIRTY CLOTHES! I stopped trying to understand!) and he does too, but never, ever forget the big picture!

[halona]

That's really exciting! I used to have roommates in college the kind where it was 6 girls in a suite w/ 1 bathroom. It was fun but LOTS of drama as you can imagine. Last year in college BF and I decided to move in together and it was and still is great! No more roommate drama and saved lots on rent! We've been living together 3 years now!

Best advice I have is to have two TVs and two computers! haha. even as I type he is in the other room on his own computer We just watched a movie together on the couch and went our separate ways! hehe
GoodLuck!

[wordbox]

Originally Posted by Speedy

Have two things... your own TV and a good set of headphones. The rest is cream cheese.

So true! Well, for us it's the TV part. We're both pretty good about trying to let the other watch what they want, but sometimes I just don't want to watch 8 hours of football, and I'm so thankful he can go in our basement and watch it there! It helps when we both have a (different) show we want to watch at the same time.

[Jahpson]

talk about cleaning arrangements, money and going out with pals. those topics are bound to come up...whether in action or speaking

[Speedy]

Originally Posted by wordbox

So true! Well, for us it's the TV part. We're both pretty good about trying to let the other watch what they want, but sometimes I just don't want to watch 8 hours of football, and I'm so thankful he can go in our basement and watch it there! It helps when we both have a (different) show we want to watch at the same time.

Having two TV's saved my marriage. It's our "down" time, and actually gives us something to talk about. He's into "guy" shows, I tend to watch the news alot.

I mention headphones only because he also enjoys playing country music on his computer and it gets annoying when I'm trying to relax. I bought him a nice set, and now I can watch TV, work on the comp, whatever I want without some country western singer complaining his wife left him. (He probably watched way too much football on TV.)

And yes, having your own computer helps too. ;-)

[vivi24]

This is a great thread, as I am soon going to move in with my SO too!!

[ProfNot]

Back out now!

If he is not emotionally comitted enough to marry you - do NOT live with him.