Mother in laws & other in laws stories - Rant away!!!

[wingki]

I hate my MIL. She is the loudest and rudest woman I have ever met. The woman walks around like she owns the world and expects people to take her shit. She once told me to go and die (she said it to me right to my face) out of no where. I confronted her and asked her if there was something that I was doing wrong to make her hate me so much. (i have to keep things pleasant as we live together) While confronting her she actually told me that she likes me!

I dont know about anyone else but when I like someone I certainly do not tell them to die. Gosh, my MIL is on crack! After I got over the whole situation of someone telling me to die, me and my BFF's had a good laugh!

I definately have the MIL from Hell!!!

[coachlover1000]

For the most part I get on with my MIL. However, once when we were staying with her for the week she walked into our room without knocking. Of course me and DH were having sex! She walked out straight away when she saw we were in bed. Later on I went downstairs and asked her to please knock before coming in, as even though my husband is her son, he's still a grown man with a wife. She then asked "What on earth were we doing having sex in the middle of the day anyway? You shouldn't be doing that in the middle of the day!"
OMG, poor Mum, lololol!!!!!

[PurseAddict79]

I'm not married to my ex anymore, but OMG when we were married... holy crap.

Before we got married, she and her husband sat me down and proceeded to tell me why i wasn't fit to be his wife, mainly because I wasn't a virgin. I let that lovely conversation go because I figured after we got married she'd back off... I was wrong.

After we got married, his psychotic mom had a key to our house... and would come in when we weren't home and would rearrange my kitchen cabinets so that it was set up like her kitchen. She'd also rearrange his dresser drawers, and would take his laundry home to do it, even though it was already clean because I had done it. And the best part... she threw all my thongs and lace panties away and replaced them with white briefs... she said it was because I was married and therefore didn't need to wear sexy panties anymore. WTF???

THEN, when I had my son, she was absolutely appalled that I breastfed. She thought it was disgusting. On family outings, she would pitch a fit if I did it anywhere near her (and I was very modest, always covered up with a receiving blanket). And when we were at her house, she'd make me nurse him in the bathroom! I got so pissed one time I was like "No... you don't eat your dinner in the bathroom and neither will he"

Of course hubby did nothing to step in, which pretty much led to the demise of our marriage only 2yrs into it.

[annemerrick]

I have what I think is a pretty horrible MIL story! My DD (7) came home recently and told me that she didn't want to spend the night with grandma because she was talking bad about me. When I asked her what had happened, my DD told me that she was looking at a picture of herslef, and asked grandma, "Don't I look pretty??" Grandma told her, "No you don't. You look just like your Mother and your Mother is ugly!!"
That is the tip of the iceberg, and the most recent. There has been 12 years of similar stories!!

[PurseAddict79]

OMG Anne... I don't think I'd be able to control myself. WTH is her problem? Does DH know???

You have more control than I... cuz dems fighin words... LOL

[annemerrick]

Originally Posted by PurseAddict79

OMG Anne... I don't think I'd be able to control myself. WTH is her problem? Does DH know??? You have more control than I... cuz dems fighin words... LOL

Yes...DH knows. It is a major sore point. I told him after my DD told me, and he called her joking around about it, and she said she never said it. Of course she said it!

[agile]

Originally Posted by tiffanystar

I'm very fortunate to have a lovely MIL. As a mother of boys I know that I may become a MIL myself one day. I think some women should take an honest look at their behavior towards their MIL's. It sometimes seems that MIL's can do no right.

Not all MILs are bad, I agree. I'm sure there are exceptions and you're lucky that you get along with yours.

I agree to some extent that DILs have to take a look at their behaviour, but the same works the other way. It's a 2 way street.

[queenvictoria2]

Originally Posted by annemerrick

Yes...DH knows. It is a major sore point. I told him after my DD told me, and he called her joking around about it, and she said she never said it. Of course she said it!

OMG! I would be pissed at both of them! I am so sorry. Why would he call her joking about it? That is just terrible.

I came to a point in my life where I just had enough. I simply do not associate with anyone, and I do not care if they are blood relatives or not, who causes me or my family heartache. period. I decided life is just too damn short and I just do not have the time or energy for someone to suck the life out of me.

[guccimamma]

everytime i have an especially troublesome visit with my inlaws....i read this:

www.ihatemyinlaws.com

it is like every jerry springer freakshow of inlaw stories, and then i don't feel so bad

[boxermom]

annemerrick, what your mil said to your dd is just plain cruel and evil. I'm so terribly disappointed that your dh didn't immediately stand up for you and comfort your dd and tear a strip off his mother's nasty hide. Inexcusable. I'm so sorry she's in your life and that dh doesn't see the damage she's doing.

Having 2 sons, I was determined to be a better mil than I had. I've made my share of mistakes but have tried very hard to not cross their family boundaries, offer opinions unless asked, and basically keep my mouth shut when I disagree with the way they do things. I'm sure they don't love everything I do either! But I try to remember how I felt as a young wife and mother--- always felt judged and never good enough for my in-laws. I don't ever want my dil's to feel that way. They deserve my respect and support (and I love them, too, which is a real blessing).

[lulup]

I love this thread. I seriously love this thread. I had the in-laws from hell and one day I stood up for myself and said enough is enough.

Four years ago after a horrific fight, I filed a police report and a restraining order against my mother and father-in-law and said to myself, "I will never speak to them again" and to this day I haven't.

[queenvictoria2]

Originally Posted by boxermom

annemerrick, what your mil said to your dd is just plain cruel and evil. I'm so terribly disappointed that your dh didn't immediately stand up for you and comfort your dd and tear a strip off his mother's nasty hide. Inexcusable. I'm so sorry she's in your life and that dh doesn't see the damage she's doing. Having 2 sons, I was determined to be a better mil than I had. I've made my share of mistakes but have tried very hard to not cross their family boundaries, offer opinions unless asked, and basically keep my mouth shut when I disagree with the way they do things. I'm sure they don't love everything I do either! But I try to remember how I felt as a young wife and mother--- always felt judged and never good enough for my in-laws. I don't ever want my dil's to feel that way. They deserve my respect and support (and I love them, too, which is a real blessing).

I think you are a real blessing also

[bnjj]

Gosh, I wish I had MIL from hell stories to tell as that would mean I had a hubby, which I don't. *sigh*

This is a great thread. Some of the posts had me chuckling and some had me fuming.

[vanasty]

I admit I will hold a grudge, I am that type, but I know I am also very trusting and open and will talk to anyone about anything. My SIL hates my guts because she measures worth by SOs, so when her brother is in a happy 3 year relationship and she is still a hot mess it get her pissed, and in the meanwhile her MIL is saying things I told her in confidence to SIL to gossip, and she enables her abhorrent behaviour. I just dont really want anything to do with them.

I come from a broken family, adultery, drugs, debt, divorces- They come from a tight knit family with alot of love and very different from what i had, but they still find the need to start up reasons to gossip and put down family and be victims. Its absolutley disgusting, and when it shifts to me I have no tolerance for it.

[Bagluvluv]

My MIL and SIL is totally superfical and queens of drama....they love attention and lie and make a fuss to get every ounce of interest out of everyone they meet....its exhausting to even watch let alone be around......

Thats why they both dont have any friends...and Im not exaggerating either...they have aquaintences but not one friend....so they are always relying on each other and have nothing but time to bad mouth everyone....its insane!!!

I have learned to confront them with important issues to me but keep a far distance to not let their poison run on my life......its pretty sad really.....sigh.....