Mother in laws & other in laws stories - Rant away!!!

[ChanelMommy]

On my wedding day, my MIL wore a white lacey dress.

[teinna]

^^ ChanelMommy, that is kinda disturbing in a way...did she subconsciously want to be the bride at her son's wedding? There are other ways to piss you off at your wedding, but wearing white...

Oh, and (to continue from my last post) I forgot one of the biggest insults, was that MIL & FIL thought I would wrangle every cent out of my bf coz I'm a money-grubbing witch. Years ago, they had bought a house each under the names of their 2 sons. It was an investment and only under the sons' names for tax benefits. They do intend to give the house to the sons later on, but we all fully understood it's still the parent's houses. But the in-laws were so scared I'll manipulate bf into giving the house to me, that they spent $10k to change the deed of the house to MIL's name.

Bf didn't understand why that was so insulting at first. He thought it made no difference since it wasn't his house anyway. But I was extremely hurt and insulted. I would never EVER even think of stealing their house away from them. It wasn't mine, it wasn't even bf's house. We all know that and I'm not someone who does that kind of thing. But they were so sure of my character that they would spend a huge load of money to stop me from doing that. The MIL has watched me grow up, taught me Chinese, and she knows that I'm a good, hardworking girl. Yet as soon as I got involved with their son, she viewed me like I was Anna Nicole Smith.

[nooch]

I usually get along great with my MIL... but this one really took the cake. I already told this story in my WL thread but for everyone who didn't see it...

I used to weigh 330 pounds, over the past few months I've gotten down to 285. Obviously, I have a long way to go but the point is, I've lost 45 pounds. So we're talking and she mentioned having lost 5 pounds (she is about 5'4" and weighs about 160, she weighed 100-105 pretty much her whole life until about seven years ago then she got up to 170, back down to 103, then back up to 165 and now down to 160) and how she fit into pants she hadn't fit into in awhile. I congratulated her and she said...

"You're so lucky, you're doing so well! I wish I could have it fall off as easily as you do! You just have it fall right off! It just happens for you!"

I could have killed her. Honestly, I really could have just killed her right there - the rage was blinding. I know she is not all there and has a lot of issues - we are talking about a woman who brags that she lost her baby weight (her "babies" are 33 - BIL - and 26 - my husband) with coke and starvation - but come on.

We usually get along great, but I didn't know what the hell to say to that. And FIL said she hasn't eaten much recently, this better not be some half assed attempt to beat me at losing weight.

[robyn]

Originally Posted by ChanelMommy

On my wedding day, my MIL wore a white lacey dress.

My mother must have a very large collection of white lace suits, suitable for an older woman to wear to a second wedding -- she has now worn [a different] one to all of my brothers' and my son's weddings.

I wonder how much of a coincidence it is that every single wedding that she has attended, the marriage has ended in divorce?

[ηαя¢ιςςα]

Wow.
My grandparents are angels.
Seriously, I'm so lucky

[wordbox]

My MIL can just be really negative. That's really the only complaint I've had, but it can be tiring when she's Debby Downer about almost everything!

[Nieners]

I usually like my MIL, it's my FIL that I don't really like.
He is always very moody/cranky and I haven't been around too much because of that.
It's just so damn annoying to walk into a house and have someone looking angry at you.

Today they had dinner with SO, his brother and his GF + her parents.. they didn't invite me and never even had dinner with my parents. Mind you - we've been together for 4.5 years and BIL and SIL for about 1 year. I don't get it.

It's like they don't like my parents while my mother is trying.. she calls from time to time but most of the time no one picks up,
or they don't accept the invitation to come over for some coffee or whatever.
I guess they prefer socializing with people that cuss all the time

[*cammie*]

I had been dating my fiance for about a year. Within that year, his mom would call all the time telling him to go home to eat dinner or it was getting late to go home and sleep; and on Sundays, to remind him to go to church. He was 22 years old! (He lived at home) I thought it was ridiculous!! It got to the point that when he was with me, he would either turn his phone off or set it on silent to avoid hearing his mom call. So one night, he came home and his room was a mess! His mom went bat crazy in there. She tore up all his posters, threw things everywhere, took his bedsheets, pillow, blanket, his game console and games and hid them somewhere in the house. Can I say psycho mom? All because he was spending too much time w/ me and stop answering her calls. This is just the beginning... unfortunately, I have more to share.

[*cammie*]

^His dad's turn. He sat me down when I was over and along with my fiance (then bf), before his mom went crazy, she was sitting there too. He lectured me about how I am too young to be dating, that I should stay home and help my mom take care of my siblings (I have 4 younger siblings). He said, my family might sue my fiance because because I was 17 and he was 22. Right! My fiance of course, reassured me to ignore his dad and we continued dating anyway. I am actually amazed that I put up with his parents and am engaged to him now.

[ChanelMommy]

Originally Posted by teinna

^^ ChanelMommy, that is kinda disturbing in a way...did she subconsciously want to be the bride at her son's wedding? There are other ways to piss you off at your wedding, but wearing white...

Disturbing, but true. It was a cute dress, but she should have chose another color, kwim ?!

[ChanelMommy]

Originally Posted by robyn

My mother must have a very large collection of white lace suits, suitable for an older woman to wear to a second wedding -- she has now worn [a different] one to all of my brothers' and my son's weddings. I wonder how much of a coincidence it is that every single wedding that she has attended, the marriage has ended in divorce?

^Oh no

[ShopGirl647]

Haven't contributed to this thread for a while now but here's a few more random rants for reading pleasure!!!

I've learned to be more evasive BUT polite whenever I am around any of DH's family members. So far it's working and it drives them nuts!!!

This month, MIL invited us to her dinner party. SIL#3 and her hubby plus us were the only one who didn't know it was her bday party but DH's three other siblings knew. SIL#1 & BIL#2/SIL#2-married to the family just like me (the 3 evil ones) even arranged for a bday cake. Why is it "always" the same 3 that have tricks up their sleeves all the time??? Boy, did they "try" to make us feel embarrassed. Apparently with so much stuff going on this year with new baby and all, DH "forgot" his own mother's birthday however it was soooo "nice" of two of DH's siblings to call us the night before and still asked whether we were coming or not yet "still" didn't bother to mention it was MIL's bday. We even asked them on the phone whether the party was a special occassion. Didn't get a proper answer. I guess they were hoping we would not show up so they can "create" a gossip out of nothing. We made sure we showed up cuz we smelled something fishy from the phone call ... hehe.

Then after dinner, they wanted to have a family group shot and looked over my way to see if I brought my camera. Strange enough, this time around I REALLY didn't bring it along. Usually I am the one who go crazy at every kids party or gathering snapping away. I told them upfront I don't have it with me. Total silence for several minutes, then SIL#5 jumps in a say "oh, I can use my iphone for this instead, no worries!!!" Then, BIL#2 & SIL#2 mentions they have a camera and decided to prop it on the tripod they brought along. Hmmmm, talk about a strange strange evening. Surprisingly, it only bothered me talking about it but not enough to make my blood boil compared to other situations. I finally came around and realized it doesn't matter anymore, you can't run away from family members and they are usually the ones who gets away with everything and at the end of the day, you STILL have to see them!!! At the end of the day, I don't have to live with any guilts on how one behaves. Personally, I don't think they even have any guilts. They know how to use the phrase "what goes around comes around" but when it does, hell usually breaks loose. LOL ... I just sit back and watch, sometimes even trying to stay one step ahead of them to avoid the "possible" scenerios that can happen.

Beginning of this year DH kind of pissed MIL off because she was relying on him too much even tho there are 4 other siblings available to answer her needs. With the new baby addition to our family, DH was less attentive to his own mother's needs. Which was fine to us, that seems reasonable but to MIL, nothing is ever reasonable UNLESS it is about HERSELF!!! DH was ALWAYS the "go to" person whenever MIL can't do this or that or needs him to do this or that. So in March 2009, I asked MIL if she "wants" to take care of DS#1 & DS#2 twice a week starting May 2009 so I can focus on my association exams plus any seminars/workshops I need to attend (have to do it even during my mat leave!!!). Didn't get a definite answer. So I asked her again one month later...it was uhmmm this uhmmm that, I don't know this, ask DH that, ton load of lame excuses. Okay, I am pretty serious, need someone "reliable" and I need an answer no later than end of April. Still, no answer from her.

I went ahead and scambled to find someone and even had to interview more than 5 people. I was lucky enough that summer holidays were approaching so a lot of parents usually take their kids off from daycare, thus freeing up more spots. I found a wonderful daycare provider that was convenient to where I live and who was willing to take in both of my kids 2 days a week so it worked out perfectly. Guess what? MIL is soooooo offended now and she STILL IS. Oh well, I certainly don't feel guilty at all. I did ask her first before going to someone else. The best part of this whole situation is even tho she is extremely upset at us, at the same time, she is extremely "nice" to me now at every family gathering. She even "tried" to cause trouble on my son's birthday party but the look I gave her was enough for her to hold back big time. What a turn around!!! She's trying to be extra nice to me cuz she knows I need someone to look after my kids when I return back to work full time. After this scenerio, my kids will be going to the daycare provider I found. I already reserve two spots.

okay, rant over. Dreading the family Christmas gatherings now ...

[mirdc]

we lost a child 2 yrs ago to placental abruption & it has been incredibly hard. My SIL was over last night and we skyped MIL and told her that I was finally pregnant again & she responds "oh no, now we have to worry again for months", my SIL piped in, "no mom, now we have something to look forward to. be positive!".

the woman irritates me.