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sugarjaws · Oct 30th, 2009, 03:59 PM

Originally Posted by natalie78

His dad just grew tired of everything. He was almost 80 and just ready to let go.

Ahhh I'm so sorry. My father died 10 years ago and I'm worried my mom won't fight hard enough and just give up.

natalie78 · Oct 30th, 2009, 04:01 PM

I just lost my dad and the same thing happened to him. He was a fighter, but in the end, he grew tired and let go. Even though it was hard to watch him fade away, my mom and I knew that he was ready.

babieejae1101 · Oct 30th, 2009, 04:07 PM

sending thoughts and prayers to your mom, you and your family. My friend Mike used to work for his uncle's ambulette company in NY. There was a many years that was on dialysis. He would pick him up about 3x a week.

Necromancer · Oct 30th, 2009, 05:26 PM

sugarjaws, I'm not religious, but I'm sending some positive thoughts your way. I do hope you mother does OK on dialysis and it helps her, and that a transplant is a long way away. I do hope you get a chance to go and see her. All the best you, your mother and your family.

MarneeB · Oct 30th, 2009, 05:31 PM

I'm sorry your mom has to face this. Best wishes and positive thoughts for your whole family.

miss_sigh_gone · Oct 30th, 2009, 07:42 PM

*big hug*

I hope everything turns out fine....

ChiChi143 · Oct 30th, 2009, 09:20 PM

Aww, I'm so sorry. Your mom and family will be in my prayers.

madamefifi · Oct 30th, 2009, 10:37 PM

Sugarjaws, I hope your Mom is OK. Is she in end-stage kidney failure? The reason I ask is that if not she may be able to go a little longer without having to start dialysis. Keep in mind as well that there are two kinds of dialysis, hemodialysis, which involves going to a dialysis center 3 times a week for 4-hour sessions on the dialysis machine, and peritoneal dialysis, which a patient can do his- or herself at home. I won't go into details about it here but you should definitely ask her doctor about her options, including transplant. I am a RN and I work on a transplant unit in a hospital, so I would be happy to give you as much general information as I can regarding kidney failure. Feel free to PM me.

shockboogie · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:49 AM

So sorry to hear about your mom, op. My hubby has end stage renal failure and he's only 32. He got diagnosed last June/July and has been on hemodialysis ever since. He goes to the dialysis center 3x a week and spends 3-4 hours there. Thankfully, the dialysis center is only 5 minutes away from our house. We just finished all our tests for his kidney transplant so he can get approved to go on the list. Now he's on the list. Hopefully he can get one soon so all this would be over.

I've been to meetings for kidney patients and their families and one thing I've learned is that you, as a family member, need to try to be as supportive as you can to them. They need all the care you can give them especially when it comes to taking them to doctor's appointments, watching over them during hospital confinements, helping them bathe after a permacath is surgically installed, cooking for them based on the renal diet given to them by their nutritionists, etc. When it comes to their renal diet, there are a ton of limitations depending on their case. My hubby isnt diabetic so we don't worry about sugar but there are so many things to watch for such as potassium, phosphorus, sodium, etc. It seems that you aren't geographically close to your mom but your siblings are. It would be best to talk to them about this too. Just try to give as much care and support to your mom so she won't think of giving up the fight.

I've seen so many dialysis patients at the center (who are seniors) who seem so sad and alone. No one drives them or waits or visits them during dialysis. It would be a good idea to visit them and accompany them during these treatments because it can get very depressing and tedious for them. It helps to pass the time when a loved one is around to cheer them up.

Anyway, don't lose hope. Your mom can fight this as long as you guys are there with her.

Feel free to PM me if you've got questions or need advice or whatever. I'm still learning so many things about this everyday. I may not be an expert but I've been living it hands on. I decided not to get a day job and run my business from home until my hubby gets the transplant so I can care for him and be there for him every step of the way. It's tough but I'd rather go through this with him than live life without him.

dallas · Oct 31st, 2009, 02:19 AM

Your dear mum is in my prayers. Have faith.
Hugs.

sugarjaws · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:53 PM

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers - I greatly appreciate it. Sorry I wasn't online last night as I fell asleep on the couch. My sister called last night and said that her kidneys were starting to produce urine on their own and that her electrolyte levels are on their way to normal. They won't know anything for a while but it's wait and see for now. She was on dialysis last night for 3 hours. They did say her kidneys completely shut down. She got the flu and was vomiting with diarrhea and that is when her kidneys shut down.

Shockboogie, I'm so sorry for your husband having to go through all that, especially at 32. Thank God my sister and brother are right there. They have been her caregivers for a long time. I wish I was closer too and will be going home as much as possible. Right now we'll just wait and see how bad her kidneys are. All of us are willing to give up a kidney.

Thanks again to everyone. You guys are great and what wonderful support!!!

sugarjaws · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by madamefifi

Sugarjaws, I hope your Mom is OK. Is she in end-stage kidney failure? The reason I ask is that if not she may be able to go a little longer without having to start dialysis. Keep in mind as well that there are two kinds of dialysis, hemodialysis, which involves going to a dialysis center 3 times a week for 4-hour sessions on the dialysis machine, and peritoneal dialysis, which a patient can do his- or herself at home. I won't go into details about it here but you should definitely ask her doctor about her options, including transplant. I am a RN and I work on a transplant unit in a hospital, so I would be happy to give you as much general information as I can regarding kidney failure. Feel free to PM me.

I forgot to add that my mom also had a really bad infection on her pancreas, which I believe they are working on clearing up. She was on dialysis last night at the hospital, but I'm not sure what kinds of dialysis she might have to be on later. I will talk to my sister and make sure she considers all options.

Thanks for the offer - I might just take you up on it as we find out more about her issues!

sugarjaws · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by dallas

Your dear mum is in my prayers. Have faith.
Hugs.

Thank you so much Dallas!!! Your avatar always makes me smile!

sugarjaws · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by natalie78

I just lost my dad and the same thing happened to him. He was a fighter, but in the end, he grew tired and let go. Even though it was hard to watch him fade away, my mom and I knew that he was ready.

We went through that with our dad as well. He had mesothelioma (asbestos related cancer). We knew my dad was ready as well.

sugarjaws · Oct 31st, 2009, 01:58 PM

Originally Posted by babieejae1101

sending thoughts and prayers to your mom, you and your family. My friend Mike used to work for his uncle's ambulette company in NY. There was a many years that was on dialysis. He would pick him up about 3x a week.

Thank you babieejae1101! I did a lot of reading about this online. I'm learning a lot!!

Oct 30th, 2009, 04:01 PM	#17
natalie78 Dave's not here Joined: May 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 1,669	I just lost my dad and the same thing happened to him. He was a fighter, but in the end, he grew tired and let go. Even though it was hard to watch him fade away, my mom and I knew that he was ready.
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Oct 30th, 2009, 05:31 PM	#20
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Oct 30th, 2009, 07:42 PM	#21
miss_sigh_gone Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 144	big hug I hope everything turns out fine....
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Oct 30th, 2009, 09:20 PM	#22
ChiChi143 ♥ Happily Engaged ♥ Joined: Jun 2007 Location: New York Posts: 8,266	Aww, I'm so sorry. Your mom and family will be in my prayers.
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Oct 30th, 2009, 10:37 PM	#23
madamefifi cat hoarder Joined: Aug 2006 Location: virginia Posts: 4,020	Sugarjaws, I hope your Mom is OK. Is she in end-stage kidney failure? The reason I ask is that if not she may be able to go a little longer without having to start dialysis. Keep in mind as well that there are two kinds of dialysis, hemodialysis, which involves going to a dialysis center 3 times a week for 4-hour sessions on the dialysis machine, and peritoneal dialysis, which a patient can do his- or herself at home. I won't go into details about it here but you should definitely ask her doctor about her options, including transplant. I am a RN and I work on a transplant unit in a hospital, so I would be happy to give you as much general information as I can regarding kidney failure. Feel free to PM me.
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Oct 30th, 2009, 04:07 PM	#18
babieejae1101 Banned from shopping Joined: Nov 2006 Location: The middle of the desert, AZ Posts: 1,012	sending thoughts and prayers to your mom, you and your family. My friend Mike used to work for his uncle's ambulette company in NY. There was a many years that was on dialysis. He would pick him up about 3x a week.

Oct 30th, 2009, 05:26 PM	#19
Necromancer Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 3,469	sugarjaws, I'm not religious, but I'm sending some positive thoughts your way. I do hope you mother does OK on dialysis and it helps her, and that a transplant is a long way away. I do hope you get a chance to go and see her. All the best you, your mother and your family.

Oct 31st, 2009, 01:49 AM	#24
shockboogie Member Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Manila/Michigan Posts: 2,013	So sorry to hear about your mom, op. My hubby has end stage renal failure and he's only 32. He got diagnosed last June/July and has been on hemodialysis ever since. He goes to the dialysis center 3x a week and spends 3-4 hours there. Thankfully, the dialysis center is only 5 minutes away from our house. We just finished all our tests for his kidney transplant so he can get approved to go on the list. Now he's on the list. Hopefully he can get one soon so all this would be over. I've been to meetings for kidney patients and their families and one thing I've learned is that you, as a family member, need to try to be as supportive as you can to them. They need all the care you can give them especially when it comes to taking them to doctor's appointments, watching over them during hospital confinements, helping them bathe after a permacath is surgically installed, cooking for them based on the renal diet given to them by their nutritionists, etc. When it comes to their renal diet, there are a ton of limitations depending on their case. My hubby isnt diabetic so we don't worry about sugar but there are so many things to watch for such as potassium, phosphorus, sodium, etc. It seems that you aren't geographically close to your mom but your siblings are. It would be best to talk to them about this too. Just try to give as much care and support to your mom so she won't think of giving up the fight. I've seen so many dialysis patients at the center (who are seniors) who seem so sad and alone. No one drives them or waits or visits them during dialysis. It would be a good idea to visit them and accompany them during these treatments because it can get very depressing and tedious for them. It helps to pass the time when a loved one is around to cheer them up. Anyway, don't lose hope. Your mom can fight this as long as you guys are there with her. Feel free to PM me if you've got questions or need advice or whatever. I'm still learning so many things about this everyday. I may not be an expert but I've been living it hands on. I decided not to get a day job and run my business from home until my hubby gets the transplant so I can care for him and be there for him every step of the way. It's tough but I'd rather go through this with him than live life without him.
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Oct 31st, 2009, 02:19 AM	#25
dallas Yeah ano Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,272	Your dear mum is in my prayers. Have faith. Hugs.
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Oct 31st, 2009, 01:53 PM	#26
sugarjaws OP Makeup Junkie Queen Joined: May 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 193	Thank you all for your kind words and prayers - I greatly appreciate it. Sorry I wasn't online last night as I fell asleep on the couch. My sister called last night and said that her kidneys were starting to produce urine on their own and that her electrolyte levels are on their way to normal. They won't know anything for a while but it's wait and see for now. She was on dialysis last night for 3 hours. They did say her kidneys completely shut down. She got the flu and was vomiting with diarrhea and that is when her kidneys shut down. Shockboogie, I'm so sorry for your husband having to go through all that, especially at 32. Thank God my sister and brother are right there. They have been her caregivers for a long time. I wish I was closer too and will be going home as much as possible. Right now we'll just wait and see how bad her kidneys are. All of us are willing to give up a kidney. Thanks again to everyone. You guys are great and what wonderful support!!!

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