Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP!

Speedy · Dec 17th, 2007, 06:58 PM

My son (he JUST turned 25 yesterday) and his girl are coming to town tomorrow for a late birthday/early Christmas dinner and family time. I'm VERY nervous about meeting her. One, I want her to like me, and two, I hope I don't make her uncomfortable.

I admit I am a little concerned about my son's girlfriends, the first one had a very pushy mother who kept trying to get them to "breed her a grandchild", the second one I've told of before, she was Mormon and also bi-polar (decided to stop taking her medications after she moved in with him) as well as a few other problems we had with her, so I am just not sure of how to act around this new girl. I'm rather... unconvential.

We did buy her a nice Christmas gift, a neat "treasure" box like thing with a resin dragon on the top. My son has always liked dragons, so I assume his girl may at least be into something like that... a regular jewelry box just isn't "me" to give, I always do stuff a tad different.

Any advice on what to say to a 27 year old girl who's stealin... I mean dating my son?

Cheryl · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:00 PM

merika · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:03 PM

Be yerself, Speedy...you're a great mom!

dallas · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:05 PM

Just treat her how you like to be treated. Good luck, I hope she's nice.

candace117 · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:10 PM

you're sweet, Speedy, but she should be worrying about you liking her. Punto Finale.

Archipelago · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:13 PM

^---I agree. She'll probably be a lot more nervous than you. It's more important for her to impress you and that's probably all she'll be focused on. Just enjoy getting to know her and smile a lot!

Speedy · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by candace117

you're sweet, Speedy, but she should be worrying about you liking her. Punto Finale.

I'm sure she is worried about how I'm going to like her too. My son can uh... make people afraid of me before they meet me by telling a few childhood stories he recalls... he tends to regret his "embelishments" if said stories when the person notices I really don't carry around a shotgun or have a knife tucked in my boot....

redney · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:24 PM

Awwww, Speedy, it's so sweet of you to be kinda nervous! I agree, be your wonderful self and I'm sure she'll like you!!

Hopefully, she'll be nice and normal and you'll like her too. Keep us posted!!

You could break the ice by asking her if she knows of the PF!!! LOL!!!

jillybean307 · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:33 PM

Be yourself! I agree with the others, she's just as nervous to meet you.

If you're really worried, maybe find out from your son in advance what her interests are, and ask her a few questions. If you can ask her about things she likes or is interested in, it'll give her a little more confidence in talking to you and will help the conversation flow!

You know, something like, "My son tells me you went to Mexico last year. I've always wanted to go there, any suggestions on what I should see?"

Good luck!

sred2 · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:34 PM

Trust me she'll be more nervous meeting you and wanting you to like her!! When I met my BF's mom for the first time last year I was sooo nervous (not to mention we flew from Seattle to New Jersey to meet her!) but when I met her I was relieved that she treated me like how she treats her son and now she really is like a second mother!

Good luck!

sjc0105 · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:36 PM

wow, I never knew that mothers are also nervous to meet their sons' girlfriend! I always thought that it was only us..

Speedy, I'm sure she will love you! It's extremely thoughtful and sweet that you go your sons' g/f a gift! Hope all goes well!

devoted · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:44 PM

Find out from your son what her favorite foods are, and cook them or buy them...especially her favorite dessert. She will feel really at home and conversations with her will be comfortable.

wordpast · Dec 17th, 2007, 07:52 PM

From reading your posting you seem like a lovely person! I'm sure you'll have no problem coming up with things to say.

BlueGenes · Dec 17th, 2007, 08:11 PM

awwwwwwww Speedy, it is SOOOOO sweet that you're nervous about meeting your son's GF! and even more that you bought her a little gift!! i think that's amazing. as a GF, i was only super nervous at meeting my BF's parents and really wanted them to like me, and it's so sweet that some parents out there are equally nervous to meet GFs like me! :)

i'm sure she'll love you!

Speedy · Dec 17th, 2007, 08:19 PM

Thank you everyone! I'll let you know how it goes!

I have asked him numerous times what she's like, and he's always said told me simple things like where they met (at the casino where he works) and where she lives (same area where she is now) and really all I know about her is she loves her mom alot and she's 27. I do have a small picture of her and my son I keep on the lamp by my daybed... do you think that'd impress her knowing I like this picture of them that much?

And yes, the parents DO worry about how they'll come off to their kid's SO's, but there's a law that says we can't let that show.

Dec 17th, 2007, 06:58 PM	#1
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! My son (he JUST turned 25 yesterday) and his girl are coming to town tomorrow for a late birthday/early Christmas dinner and family time. I'm VERY nervous about meeting her. One, I want her to like me, and two, I hope I don't make her uncomfortable. I admit I am a little concerned about my son's girlfriends, the first one had a very pushy mother who kept trying to get them to "breed her a grandchild", the second one I've told of before, she was Mormon and also bi-polar (decided to stop taking her medications after she moved in with him) as well as a few other problems we had with her, so I am just not sure of how to act around this new girl. I'm rather... unconvential. We did buy her a nice Christmas gift, a neat "treasure" box like thing with a resin dragon on the top. My son has always liked dragons, so I assume his girl may at least be into something like that... a regular jewelry box just isn't "me" to give, I always do stuff a tad different. Any advice on what to say to a 27 year old girl who's stealin... I mean dating my son?

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:00 PM	#2
Cheryl Obsessed Location: Florida	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! LoL, __________________ Cheryl

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:03 PM	#3
merika Just me Location: In front of a computer	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Be yerself, Speedy...you're a great mom! __________________ I will also gladly authenticate your chocolates for you.

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:05 PM	#4
dallas Ya anno	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Just treat her how you like to be treated. Good luck, I hope she's nice. __________________ A good deed is never lost: he who sows courtesy reaps friendship; and he who plants kindness gathers love.

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:10 PM	#5
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! you're sweet, Speedy, but she should be worrying about you liking her. Punto Finale. __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:13 PM	#6
Archipelago Member Location: San Francisco	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! ^---I agree. She'll probably be a lot more nervous than you. It's more important for her to impress you and that's probably all she'll be focused on. Just enjoy getting to know her and smile a lot!

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:24 PM	#8
redney Lovin' Life!	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Awwww, Speedy, it's so sweet of you to be kinda nervous! I agree, be your wonderful self and I'm sure she'll like you!! Hopefully, she'll be nice and normal and you'll like her too. Keep us posted!! You could break the ice by asking her if she knows of the PF!!! LOL!!!

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:33 PM	#9
jillybean307 Wanderlust Location: Charlottesville, VA	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Be yourself! I agree with the others, she's just as nervous to meet you. If you're really worried, maybe find out from your son in advance what her interests are, and ask her a few questions. If you can ask her about things she likes or is interested in, it'll give her a little more confidence in talking to you and will help the conversation flow! You know, something like, "My son tells me you went to Mexico last year. I've always wanted to go there, any suggestions on what I should see?" Good luck! __________________ You say "handbag addiction" like it's a bad thing. "The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." -Albert Einstein http://www.savedarfur.org

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:34 PM	#10
sred2 Member Location: Seattle <3	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Trust me she'll be more nervous meeting you and wanting you to like her!! When I met my BF's mom for the first time last year I was sooo nervous (not to mention we flew from Seattle to New Jersey to meet her!) but when I met her I was relieved that she treated me like how she treats her son and now she really is like a second mother! Good luck! __________________

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:36 PM	#11
sjc0105 Member	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! wow, I never knew that mothers are also nervous to meet their sons' girlfriend! I always thought that it was only us.. Speedy, I'm sure she will love you! It's extremely thoughtful and sweet that you go your sons' g/f a gift! Hope all goes well!

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:44 PM	#12
devoted Member	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Find out from your son what her favorite foods are, and cook them or buy them...especially her favorite dessert. She will feel really at home and conversations with her will be comfortable.

Dec 17th, 2007, 07:52 PM	#13
wordpast Member Location: Never Never Land	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! From reading your posting you seem like a lovely person! I'm sure you'll have no problem coming up with things to say. __________________

Dec 17th, 2007, 08:11 PM	#14
BlueGenes Member	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! awwwwwwww Speedy, it is SOOOOO sweet that you're nervous about meeting your son's GF! and even more that you bought her a little gift!! i think that's amazing. as a GF, i was only super nervous at meeting my BF's parents and really wanted them to like me, and it's so sweet that some parents out there are equally nervous to meet GFs like me! :) i'm sure she'll love you!

Dec 17th, 2007, 08:19 PM	#15
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Meeting my son's new girlfriend tomorrow. HELP! Thank you everyone! I'll let you know how it goes! I have asked him numerous times what she's like, and he's always said told me simple things like where they met (at the casino where he works) and where she lives (same area where she is now) and really all I know about her is she loves her mom alot and she's 27. I do have a small picture of her and my son I keep on the lamp by my daybed... do you think that'd impress her knowing I like this picture of them that much? And yes, the parents DO worry about how they'll come off to their kid's SO's, but there's a law that says we can't let that show.