LV-related moral dilemna

cosmogrl5 · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:37 PM

OK, I am sort of struggling with a problem right now and think this is the best place to ask for advice. I am friends with a guy at work who is happily married with two children. We email each other a few times a day (just chit chat and jokes) for a sanity break. He mentioned that he got his wife some LV bags and she never seemed to really like them. I freaked and told him that I adore LV bags and have been saving up to buy one. He asked which ones I like, and I told him that I would love a Speedy. Anyway, he said that he would give me one of his wife's because she never uses them. I told him that I would not feel right about that, but thank you anyway. So, I came into work this morning, and when I walked into my office, I saw an LV box on my chair with an LV bow around it...and sure enough there was an LV bag inside. After holding it and salivating for awhile, I sent him an email (he was off today) to say thank you, but I could not take his wife's bag. He told me that it was not her bag and that she did not have any Speedy bags, so he bought me one! He said it was a thank you because I helped him pick out her Christmas gift (just offered my opinion on what he already bought). Here I am with this beautiful bag, but I feel weird about taking it. He is a very very sweet guy, and he is happily married, but it still feels odd.

Does anyone have any thoughts on how I should handle this? :(

hebden · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:40 PM

Personally, I'd give the bag back. I'd have doubts about him being "happily married" if he's giving other women LV bags. Also, I wonder if what you see as being a sanity break is something that he thinks is something more.

Sabine · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:41 PM

Wow, i wouldn't accept it. If your don't feel comfortable about it i wouldn't accept it

cosmogrl5 · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:43 PM

That is how I see it too. I am single, and I would NEVER EVER hit on a married man. We definitely have a platonic relationship, but still....something is so weird about this. I don't think I could ever feel comfortable using a bag under these circumstances.

Wentworth-Roth · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:43 PM

Give it back. A Speedy bag is an expensive gift, and it comes from a questionable giver.

Alaska · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:50 PM

such a lame situation!!!!! I'd still give it back though.....

adeener · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:53 PM

Trust your instincts and give it back! For a happliy married man, it's an expensive and inappropriate gift.

cpster · Dec 27th, 2007, 04:56 PM

I agree with the a above...I mean if they guy was a multi-millionaire and gave extravagant gifts to everyone it would be okay, but this situation sounds strange. Trust your instincts. Good luck!

Expy00 · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:03 PM

I'd also give the LV gift back and explain to your co-worker that you're uncomfortable accepting such an extravagant and expensive gift from him. On the other hand, I wonder if his wife knows that he purchased an LV hand bag for some one other than her.

jenniletv · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:04 PM

I'd have to say give it back too, as much as you may want the bag, it just doesn't seem right.

GTOFan · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:14 PM

ITA, give it bag...if you look closely, the bag has strings.

reon · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:17 PM

i would give it back. he doesnt sound too platonic to me.... and i agree with gtofan, that bag has got some serious string issue there....

iluvbags123 · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:19 PM

Definitely give it back. That's too nice of a gift for a "thank you" present. I still wouldn't accept it even if he was single and so was I...

DesigningStyle · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:21 PM

Okay, let me be the odd one here. This man is not happily married and is looking for some action. Well, you said that you have no intention of giving him any action, so what an idiot he is! It is that little glimmer of hope he has. All men do. They all hope that we will have sex with them. By golly, definately keep the bag--either way if you give the bag back or keep it--your work relationship with this guy is going to be weird! Consider it his price for being such a fool!

purse friendly · Dec 27th, 2007, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by cosmogrl5

That is how I see it too. I am single, and I would NEVER EVER hit on a married man. We definitely have a platonic relationship, but still....something is so weird about this. I don't think I could ever feel comfortable using a bag under these circumstances.

You may NEVER EVER hit on a married man but you are not helping matters with the daily emailing. Put it this way, would you stop over his house with the speedy to thank him and his wife for it? If no, then give it back.

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:37 PM	#1
cosmogrl5 Member	LV-related moral dilemna OK, I am sort of struggling with a problem right now and think this is the best place to ask for advice. I am friends with a guy at work who is happily married with two children. We email each other a few times a day (just chit chat and jokes) for a sanity break. He mentioned that he got his wife some LV bags and she never seemed to really like them. I freaked and told him that I adore LV bags and have been saving up to buy one. He asked which ones I like, and I told him that I would love a Speedy. Anyway, he said that he would give me one of his wife's because she never uses them. I told him that I would not feel right about that, but thank you anyway. So, I came into work this morning, and when I walked into my office, I saw an LV box on my chair with an LV bow around it...and sure enough there was an LV bag inside. After holding it and salivating for awhile, I sent him an email (he was off today) to say thank you, but I could not take his wife's bag. He told me that it was not her bag and that she did not have any Speedy bags, so he bought me one! He said it was a thank you because I helped him pick out her Christmas gift (just offered my opinion on what he already bought). Here I am with this beautiful bag, but I feel weird about taking it. He is a very very sweet guy, and he is happily married, but it still feels odd. Does anyone have any thoughts on how I should handle this? :( __________________

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:40 PM	#2
hebden Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Personally, I'd give the bag back. I'd have doubts about him being "happily married" if he's giving other women LV bags. Also, I wonder if what you see as being a sanity break is something that he thinks is something more. __________________ My fashion and style blog, updated daily: Style...a work in progress

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:41 PM	#3
Sabine Member Location: The Netherlands	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Wow, i wouldn't accept it. If your don't feel comfortable about it i wouldn't accept it __________________ please review our signature rules for size permission. Thanks!

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:43 PM	#4
cosmogrl5 Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna That is how I see it too. I am single, and I would NEVER EVER hit on a married man. We definitely have a platonic relationship, but still....something is so weird about this. I don't think I could ever feel comfortable using a bag under these circumstances. __________________

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:43 PM	#5
Wentworth-Roth Oldtime member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Give it back. A Speedy bag is an expensive gift, and it comes from a questionable giver.

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:50 PM	#6
Alaska Material Girl Location: Alaska	Re: LV-related moral dilemna such a lame situation!!!!! I'd still give it back though..... __________________ "this..stuff? ....it's not turquoise, it's not lapis, it's actually cerulean.... that blue represents millions of dollars and countless jobs and so it's sort of comical how you think that you've made a choice that exempts you from the fashion industry when, in fact, you're wearing the sweater that was selected for you by the people in this room. From a pile of stuff....."

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:53 PM	#7
adeener Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Trust your instincts and give it back! For a happliy married man, it's an expensive and inappropriate gift.

Dec 27th, 2007, 04:56 PM	#8
cpster Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna I agree with the a above...I mean if they guy was a multi-millionaire and gave extravagant gifts to everyone it would be okay, but this situation sounds strange. Trust your instincts. Good luck! __________________ A newbie's wishlist Montorgueil PM or GM My humble but growing collection Watercolor Speedy 30 VVN! Cherry Blossoms: Brown/Pink Papillon, Red/Cream Pochette, Pink/Pink Pochette Cerises: Speedy 25, Pochette Cosmetics Cases: Gold Miroir and Pomme Pomme Ludlow Panda Pochette Sophie Damier

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:03 PM	#9
Expy00 Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna I'd also give the LV gift back and explain to your co-worker that you're uncomfortable accepting such an extravagant and expensive gift from him. On the other hand, I wonder if his wife knows that he purchased an LV hand bag for some one other than her.

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:04 PM	#10
jenniletv In Minkie Land!! Location: Middle of Hokie Nation!	Re: LV-related moral dilemna I'd have to say give it back too, as much as you may want the bag, it just doesn't seem right. __________________ Wishlist: RM Devote in Black - Preorderd!! RM K&U in any color RM MAC in ...color undecided RM MAB Luxe - PM if you find one for a great deal!! Come see my RM Collection: here

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:14 PM	#11
GTOFan Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna ITA, give it bag...if you look closely, the bag has strings.

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:17 PM	#12
reon Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna i would give it back. he doesnt sound too platonic to me.... and i agree with gtofan, that bag has got some serious string issue there....

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:19 PM	#13
iluvbags123 Member	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Definitely give it back. That's too nice of a gift for a "thank you" present. I still wouldn't accept it even if he was single and so was I...

Dec 27th, 2007, 05:21 PM	#14
DesigningStyle All-American Girl Location: New Jersey, USA	Re: LV-related moral dilemna Okay, let me be the odd one here. This man is not happily married and is looking for some action. Well, you said that you have no intention of giving him any action, so what an idiot he is! It is that little glimmer of hope he has. All men do. They all hope that we will have sex with them. By golly, definately keep the bag--either way if you give the bag back or keep it--your work relationship with this guy is going to be weird! Consider it his price for being such a fool! __________________