lunch with an ex?

lovinalotofbags · Jun 30th, 2008, 12:42 PM

Better to know than later so we can write him off.

guccimamma · Jun 30th, 2008, 02:57 PM

i don't think having lunch hurts, especially if it was his idea.

look fabulous, don't get in the drama. whether you want him back or not, act like you could care less.

LissiSays · Jun 30th, 2008, 04:59 PM

I still think you should go to the lunch. It might end up being the closure you need. I would be just as hurt if I saw those messaged between an ex and a friend... but you have to remember that you two weren't together. You have also done some things during this time apart. And that is fine.

You never know what might come from this lunch. It could be closure. Or you can figure out what might happen between the two of you from now on. I'm the type of person that can have a friendship with an ex, with no problems, as soon as I drop those emotional feelings. I broke up with a boyfriend that I was with for 7 years. For the first few months I was very confused. I didn't know if I had done the right thing. I missed him sometimes even though I was very unhappy at the end of the relationship. And every guy I met after bored me... Over time those feeling will disappear.

Update us. If you went to lunch, I hope it worked out well.

Ladybug09 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:25 AM

^^^This is hard for me to say this, but I agree with the above....If you two were Broken UP, then it is NONE of your business who he hooked up, had sex, whatever with. Usual when we snoop we tend to get our feeling and egos hurt.

Stop snooping.

moi et mes sacs · Jul 2nd, 2008, 10:24 AM

I think its good for you to go, it will help you to see if it is really over or not. I wonder why he wants to meet...maybe he wants to find out the same. Maybe he wants to see if he still feels the same too. I would go, otherwise you might spend the rest of your life saying ' what if ....'

Jun 30th, 2008, 12:42 PM	#16
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Location: South Carolina	Better to know than later so we can write him off. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jun 30th, 2008, 04:59 PM	#18
LissiSays I <3 Coach =Þ Location: Miami, Florida	I still think you should go to the lunch. It might end up being the closure you need. I would be just as hurt if I saw those messaged between an ex and a friend... but you have to remember that you two weren't together. You have also done some things during this time apart. And that is fine. You never know what might come from this lunch. It could be closure. Or you can figure out what might happen between the two of you from now on. I'm the type of person that can have a friendship with an ex, with no problems, as soon as I drop those emotional feelings. I broke up with a boyfriend that I was with for 7 years. For the first few months I was very confused. I didn't know if I had done the right thing. I missed him sometimes even though I was very unhappy at the end of the relationship. And every guy I met after bored me... Over time those feeling will disappear. Update us. If you went to lunch, I hope it worked out well. __________________ *LiSSi* Don't play games with a girl who can play better!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:25 AM	#19
Ladybug09 So Sweet! Location: Born in the USA	^^^This is hard for me to say this, but I agree with the above....If you two were Broken UP, then it is NONE of your business who he hooked up, had sex, whatever with. Usual when we snoop we tend to get our feeling and egos hurt. Stop snooping. __________________ Ladybug

Jul 2nd, 2008, 10:24 AM	#20
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	I think its good for you to go, it will help you to see if it is really over or not. I wonder why he wants to meet...maybe he wants to find out the same. Maybe he wants to see if he still feels the same too. I would go, otherwise you might spend the rest of your life saying ' what if ....' __________________ If you never change your mind, why have one? Edward de Bono

Jun 30th, 2008, 02:57 PM	#17
guccimamma guccimamma	i don't think having lunch hurts, especially if it was his idea. look fabulous, don't get in the drama. whether you want him back or not, act like you could care less.