long distance relationships

lvuittonaddict · Jun 30th, 2008, 10:21 PM

SUCK!!!!!!!! im gonna

i miss him soooo much and i cant see him because we are about 5 hours away from each other at the moment. until i go back to school in the fall. it feels weird. it feels like i cant even count these months as being together because we aren't, technically. we've both been super busy and haven't had time to see each other in almost a month, the longest we've gone. grrrrr. someone needs to invent a teleportation device. but he's coming to see me soon, i think, and then for my bday. yay...

amber11 · Jun 30th, 2008, 10:33 PM

i'm sorry that sucks... just think of how great it will be when you guys see eachother!

talexs · Jun 30th, 2008, 11:35 PM

I know, it is the worst. I date a guy who lives 4 hours from me and we used to see each other every 3 weeks and now we occassionally go months without seeing each other, I travel a lot for work and he is just super involved with his company, but when you see him it is all worth it. It can make you go crazy and during the first year I felt as though I couldn't do it and would cry all of the time. Best of luck, I know these things are not easy and require a lot of trust...I'm rooting for you, and if this helps I always go shopping when I miss him like crazy.

lvuittonaddict · Jun 30th, 2008, 11:47 PM

thanks!

talexs he's actually in philly. i'll trade places with you!!!!! lol

lovinalotofbags · Jul 1st, 2008, 04:05 PM

My hometown. Keep yourself busy. How sweet it will be once you see each other. The heart doth grow fonder.

luckygirl83 · Jul 1st, 2008, 06:07 PM

There is hope for LD relationships! I was in a 5 year LD relationship before b/f and I finally decided to settle in NYC two years ago. We didn't even live in the same countries! First, he was in New Zealand and I was in Canada. Then he moved to Canada but was 12 hours away (driving). I moved away to college but didn't want to go to his school (now we were 10 hours apart). He then moved to NYC for grad school (2 hours plane + 2 hours drive) and I didn't move to NYC until I enrolled in grad school.

We tried to see each other once a month (but trips are costly!) and we talked to each other every night on the phone. He would send flowers and gifts on special days (like V-day and birthdays) and I would send him baked goods and cute gifts (like sending him Hershey hugs and kisses but taking out the little strips and inserting my own strips with nice comments on them). I once surprised him but that didn't work out too well (I was locked out until his roommate came home).

I always tell myself that if we can overcome this obstacle, we are building on a pretty good foundation for the future. Good luck!!!

lunatwinkle · Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:19 PM

I'm so sorry lvvuittonaddict, I definitely know how that feels. My BF and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and most of that time we've been in a long distance relationship.

I'm from Northern California and he's from Southern California. He moved up here to attend the junior college so he could have a good chance of transferring into UC Berkeley (he didn't do so hot in high school). We met during my last semester at the JC and hit it off amazingly! We dated for about 6 months, then I transferred to the University of Southern California in LA (aka where my BF is from). We didn't want to kill the great relationship we had, so we made an attempt to keep it strong over the 6 hours and 400 miles difference between us. So I spent 2 years at USC while he spent 1 more year at the the junior college, and then transferred to UC Berkeley. Then I graduated college and moved back home, and we were finally reunited! I started working in the SF Bay Area and my BF finished his final year at UC Berkeley. Now he finally graduated this summer, and he's moving back home to LA.

So now we're back to being in a long distance relationship. Aaaah, it's like we can never be together! We talk on the phone multiple times a day, and either I'll fly to LA or he'll come up here. We see each other about once a month and a half. It's not easy. Both of us have to work at it, but we still love each other very much.

But just be patient. And make sure he knows that you're always thinking about him. Occasionally, I'll mail little surprises or love notes to my boyfriend in LA, just to remind him that I love him. It's these things that constantly keep your relationship strong, at least I think so.

Couture Dreams · Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:28 PM

awww you poor thing. dont focus so much on how much long it will be until you see him. stay busy!! atleast its only 5 hours, and not an ocean or another continent away.

i know exactly how you feel. i moved 3000 miles away from my boyfriend for 6 months. its so hard to be apart!

lvuittonaddict · Jul 3rd, 2008, 12:42 AM

thanks luna andCouture

I have good news....MY BF IS COMING TO VISIT ME TOMORROW UNTIL SATURDAY OR SUNDAY!!!!!

i was at work...okay, i work at target

anyways, he said sent me a txt saying that he had a surprise for me and to call him on my break. so i did, and he asked me what would make me the happiest? obviously by then i knew, so i asked "are you coming to see me?!" he said yes. i started to

cause i was sooo happy. he always makes fun of me because i cry so much...i cry when im happy, i cry when im sad. i'm "girl" emotional...no offense to the tpf girls. hehe. omg, i almost started crying again while i was writing this. haha

talexs · Jul 3rd, 2008, 12:46 AM

Lvuittonaddict, keep us posted and let us know how it all works out. I have always found, even though I know it sounds super lame, that it helps to talk to other people about how your feeling. Just when I think I can't do this anymore I'll talk to a good friend and suddenly it all seems worth it. Just keep telling yourself absence makes the heart grow fonder :) Until then hang in there, I once went 4.5 months without seeing my man and,surprisingly, I survived.

3nticing_d3sir3 · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:29 AM

I know how you feel. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years now. We used to live in the same city then I moved to a different state and we were 3 hours apart. At first I went back pretty much every weekend. Then it become once every month, then it was school breaks and holidays. This past year was the real challenge he stayed home while I went off to school in Atlanta (He's was in Missouri btw). We talked on the phone pretty much every night and texted each other nonstop. He also flew to Atlanta for Valentine's day and I flew to see him over breaks. Im back home for the summer and he just moved to Nebraska for school. So this year he'll be in Nebraska while I am in Atlanta. This year I will be flying to Nebraska for hour anniversary/his birthday. Long distance relationships are hard, but they are so worth it for the one you love!

Couture Dreams · Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:31 AM

aww so sweet of him to visit!

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Jul 3rd, 2008, 05:45 AM

very sweet of him to visit!! best of luck, i know it can be hard. kudos for you and your BF. but extra kudos for him for visiting you!! you should visit him too!! oh and BTW, my second job was at target. i loved it. won a free TV, movie tickets, and $75!!

lvuittonaddict · Jul 3rd, 2008, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by oo0ehxtahcee0oo

very sweet of him to visit!! best of luck, i know it can be hard. kudos for you and your BF. but extra kudos for him for visiting you!! you should visit him too!! oh and BTW, my second job was at target. i loved it. won a free TV, movie tickets, and $75!!

lol. really? they are doing a free tv giveaway right now for people who do not call out and who do not leave early....but i just started, so i probably wont win that one. lol

lvuittonaddict · Jul 3rd, 2008, 07:16 AM

thanks everyone. omg omg omg, he comes in like 4 hours. hehe. so excited.

Jun 30th, 2008, 10:21 PM	#1
lvuittonaddict ImASofaKingBannedBoy Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bikini Bottom Posts: 1,691	long distance relationships SUCK!!!!!!!! im gonna i miss him soooo much and i cant see him because we are about 5 hours away from each other at the moment. until i go back to school in the fall. it feels weird. it feels like i cant even count these months as being together because we aren't, technically. we've both been super busy and haven't had time to see each other in almost a month, the longest we've gone. grrrrr. someone needs to invent a teleportation device. but he's coming to see me soon, i think, and then for my bday. yay... __________________ Wishlist LV Trevi GM[] LV Milla Pochette[] LV Mono Beaugorg[] Chanel Medallion Tote[] Chanel- Any Reissue[] HG: LV Tulepo My Collection http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...on-207662.html

Jun 30th, 2008, 11:47 PM	#4
lvuittonaddict ImASofaKingBannedBoy Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bikini Bottom Posts: 1,691	thanks! talexs he's actually in philly. i'll trade places with you!!!!! lol __________________ Wishlist LV Trevi GM[] LV Milla Pochette[] LV Mono Beaugorg[] Chanel Medallion Tote[] Chanel- Any Reissue[] HG: LV Tulepo My Collection http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...on-207662.html

Jul 1st, 2008, 04:05 PM	#5
lovinalotofbags Member Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Carolinas Posts: 1,376	My hometown. Keep yourself busy. How sweet it will be once you see each other. The heart doth grow fonder. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 03:19 PM	#7
lunatwinkle Nicole <3 tPF! Joined: Nov 2006 Location: SF Bay Area, California Posts: 3,325	I'm so sorry lvvuittonaddict, I definitely know how that feels. My BF and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and most of that time we've been in a long distance relationship. I'm from Northern California and he's from Southern California. He moved up here to attend the junior college so he could have a good chance of transferring into UC Berkeley (he didn't do so hot in high school). We met during my last semester at the JC and hit it off amazingly! We dated for about 6 months, then I transferred to the University of Southern California in LA (aka where my BF is from). We didn't want to kill the great relationship we had, so we made an attempt to keep it strong over the 6 hours and 400 miles difference between us. So I spent 2 years at USC while he spent 1 more year at the the junior college, and then transferred to UC Berkeley. Then I graduated college and moved back home, and we were finally reunited! I started working in the SF Bay Area and my BF finished his final year at UC Berkeley. Now he finally graduated this summer, and he's moving back home to LA. So now we're back to being in a long distance relationship. Aaaah, it's like we can never be together! We talk on the phone multiple times a day, and either I'll fly to LA or he'll come up here. We see each other about once a month and a half. It's not easy. Both of us have to work at it, but we still love each other very much. But just be patient. And make sure he knows that you're always thinking about him. Occasionally, I'll mail little surprises or love notes to my boyfriend in LA, just to remind him that I love him. It's these things that constantly keep your relationship strong, at least I think so. __________________ MY LOVELIES: Coach Hamptons Weekend Scarf Print Pouch Coach Legacy Straw Tote Coach Signature Gallery Tote Gryson for Target Black Patent Woven Bag w/ Cutout Handles Rebecca Minkoff Morning After Mini in Wine Rebecca Minkoff No Strings Clutch in Pewter/Eggplant Click on my profile to view my small but well-loved handbag collection!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 09:28 PM	#8
Couture Dreams spidey kisses Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Lovely CA Posts: 1,128	awww you poor thing. dont focus so much on how much long it will be until you see him. stay busy!! atleast its only 5 hours, and not an ocean or another continent away. i know exactly how you feel. i moved 3000 miles away from my boyfriend for 6 months. its so hard to be apart! __________________ SAN FRANCISCO TPF MEET! August 10, 2008 http://forum.purseblog.com/tpf-meeti...216050-11.html Be there.. or be square! Wishlist - Coach Lindsay Vintage Shopper in Gray

Jun 30th, 2008, 10:33 PM	#2
amber11 Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 265	i'm sorry that sucks... just think of how great it will be when you guys see eachother!

Jun 30th, 2008, 11:35 PM	#3
talexs Beauty Junkie Joined: Jun 2008 Location: The (215) Posts: 322	I know, it is the worst. I date a guy who lives 4 hours from me and we used to see each other every 3 weeks and now we occassionally go months without seeing each other, I travel a lot for work and he is just super involved with his company, but when you see him it is all worth it. It can make you go crazy and during the first year I felt as though I couldn't do it and would cry all of the time. Best of luck, I know these things are not easy and require a lot of trust...I'm rooting for you, and if this helps I always go shopping when I miss him like crazy.

Jul 1st, 2008, 06:07 PM	#6
luckygirl83 Member Joined: May 2008 Location: New York City Posts: 278	There is hope for LD relationships! I was in a 5 year LD relationship before b/f and I finally decided to settle in NYC two years ago. We didn't even live in the same countries! First, he was in New Zealand and I was in Canada. Then he moved to Canada but was 12 hours away (driving). I moved away to college but didn't want to go to his school (now we were 10 hours apart). He then moved to NYC for grad school (2 hours plane + 2 hours drive) and I didn't move to NYC until I enrolled in grad school. We tried to see each other once a month (but trips are costly!) and we talked to each other every night on the phone. He would send flowers and gifts on special days (like V-day and birthdays) and I would send him baked goods and cute gifts (like sending him Hershey hugs and kisses but taking out the little strips and inserting my own strips with nice comments on them). I once surprised him but that didn't work out too well (I was locked out until his roommate came home). I always tell myself that if we can overcome this obstacle, we are building on a pretty good foundation for the future. Good luck!!!

Jul 3rd, 2008, 12:42 AM	#9
lvuittonaddict ImASofaKingBannedBoy Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bikini Bottom Posts: 1,691	thanks luna andCouture I have good news....MY BF IS COMING TO VISIT ME TOMORROW UNTIL SATURDAY OR SUNDAY!!!!! i was at work...okay, i work at target anyways, he said sent me a txt saying that he had a surprise for me and to call him on my break. so i did, and he asked me what would make me the happiest? obviously by then i knew, so i asked "are you coming to see me?!" he said yes. i started to cause i was sooo happy. he always makes fun of me because i cry so much...i cry when im happy, i cry when im sad. i'm "girl" emotional...no offense to the tpf girls. hehe. omg, i almost started crying again while i was writing this. haha __________________ Wishlist LV Trevi GM[] LV Milla Pochette[] LV Mono Beaugorg[] Chanel Medallion Tote[] Chanel- Any Reissue[] HG: LV Tulepo My Collection http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...on-207662.html

Jul 3rd, 2008, 12:46 AM	#10
talexs Beauty Junkie Joined: Jun 2008 Location: The (215) Posts: 322	Lvuittonaddict, keep us posted and let us know how it all works out. I have always found, even though I know it sounds super lame, that it helps to talk to other people about how your feeling. Just when I think I can't do this anymore I'll talk to a good friend and suddenly it all seems worth it. Just keep telling yourself absence makes the heart grow fonder :) Until then hang in there, I once went 4.5 months without seeing my man and,surprisingly, I survived.

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:29 AM	#11
3nticing_d3sir3 Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 104	I know how you feel. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years now. We used to live in the same city then I moved to a different state and we were 3 hours apart. At first I went back pretty much every weekend. Then it become once every month, then it was school breaks and holidays. This past year was the real challenge he stayed home while I went off to school in Atlanta (He's was in Missouri btw). We talked on the phone pretty much every night and texted each other nonstop. He also flew to Atlanta for Valentine's day and I flew to see him over breaks. Im back home for the summer and he just moved to Nebraska for school. So this year he'll be in Nebraska while I am in Atlanta. This year I will be flying to Nebraska for hour anniversary/his birthday. Long distance relationships are hard, but they are so worth it for the one you love!

Jul 3rd, 2008, 03:31 AM	#12
Couture Dreams spidey kisses Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Lovely CA Posts: 1,128	aww so sweet of him to visit! __________________ SAN FRANCISCO TPF MEET! August 10, 2008 http://forum.purseblog.com/tpf-meeti...216050-11.html Be there.. or be square! Wishlist - Coach Lindsay Vintage Shopper in Gray

Jul 3rd, 2008, 05:45 AM	#13
oo0ehxtahcee0oo Happily Engaged! Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Bay, CA Posts: 3,452	very sweet of him to visit!! best of luck, i know it can be hard. kudos for you and your BF. but extra kudos for him for visiting you!! you should visit him too!! oh and BTW, my second job was at target. i loved it. won a free TV, movie tickets, and $75!! __________________ Got free time?? Kill some time by keeping yourself entertained, updated, and get some great savings here!! I'm happily engaged [Click photo to read thread!]

Jul 3rd, 2008, 07:16 AM	#15
lvuittonaddict ImASofaKingBannedBoy Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bikini Bottom Posts: 1,691	thanks everyone. omg omg omg, he comes in like 4 hours. hehe. so excited. __________________ Wishlist LV Trevi GM[] LV Milla Pochette[] LV Mono Beaugorg[] Chanel Medallion Tote[] Chanel- Any Reissue[] HG: LV Tulepo My Collection http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...on-207662.html