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petitechouchou · Sep 30th, 2009, 07:38 PM

You have the right to feel the way you feel missme411. I hope things work out for you.

talexs · Sep 30th, 2009, 11:08 PM

Sorry to keep posting short random things and agreeing with other peoples posts. But while I think that cutting things off before you get too far in is a good idea I also think that olialm1 makes a good point. My situation isn't exactly like yours but kind of close, I was in LDR ended and then he gets in touch more than a year later and we get back together, every once in awhile we don't talk for a bit, we both work a ton and I travel more than 3 or 4 days a week, so even a quick email can slip our minds. But when we talk about it we realize that even though we may not talk every day--or hell evey week--what we have when we are together is worth it. I know that this is not conventional and maybe not even healthy, maybe we aren't even in a relationship and we are only kidding ourselves, but I guess I just wanted to throw a different experience into the mix.

missme411 · Sep 30th, 2009, 11:41 PM

Originally Posted by talexs

Sorry to keep posting short random things and agreeing with other peoples posts. But while I think that cutting things off before you get too far in is a good idea I also think that olialm1 makes a good point. My situation isn't exactly like yours but kind of close, I was in LDR ended and then he gets in touch more than a year later and we get back together, every once in awhile we don't talk for a bit, we both work a ton and I travel more than 3 or 4 days a week, so even a quick email can slip our minds. But when we talk about it we realize that even though we may not talk every day--or hell evey week--what we have when we are together is worth it. I know that this is not conventional and maybe not even healthy, maybe we aren't even in a relationship and we are only kidding ourselves, but I guess I just wanted to throw a different experience into the mix.

Very true. Things can happen, schedules can get busy, and communication just doesn't happen. But this coming sunday makes four weeks. It was 2 or three before that. I emailed tonight, very short, saying I couldn't keep going like this. I bet'cha I get a response in the next 2-3 days.

PurseAddict79 · Oct 1st, 2009, 12:15 PM

All of this emailing and waiting is exhausting. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude and hope my post isn't interpreted as such, but why don't you call him? Email is so impersonal... is phoning him an option?

MidNiteSun · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:19 PM

op update please. have u heard from him?

Sternchen · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by PurseAddict79

All of this emailing and waiting is exhausting. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude and hope my post isn't interpreted as such, but why don't you call him? Email is so impersonal... is phoning him an option?

Seriously.

DH and I were in a LD relationship before I moved to Germany. There were days where we didn't hear from eachother.

Why don't you just call him?

plain jane doe · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:31 PM

Am I missing something? Didn't you break up with him and that's why he's not emailing you anymore?

Mininana · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:41 PM

^ I was wondering the same. You did send him a sweet goodbye email right? Guys are VERY simple minded. If you say goodbye, it's goodbye, they won't take it as a "please call me because I'm getting VERY mad" sign.

I'm assuming he's thinking the relationship is OVER. And sorry to say this but he sounds like that's what he wanted. So apparently he does have time to email and argue with you because you ARE hurting his feelings by DUMPING him, yet it's ok for HIM to leave u like that for weeks no notice?

Sounds like this guy is a total loser and not even worth it. Or perhaps that is just his attitude with you.

Being LR and all, who knows, he might have even used you as a rebound, you never know.

Not worth your time. Hope you feel better soon. Hugs.

rainrowan · Oct 1st, 2009, 02:46 PM

He certainly hasn't been appreciative of you, even with history being together. It's a little obvious you are still invested in him. Do you suppose he'd rather stay platonic and chickened out of trying to make it work again?

I wouldn't spend any more time waiting or expecting anything from him. When he does make contact, take it for what it is, him connecting but nothing more. Some guys know what they don't want but they don't know how to explain themselves out of fear or lack of experience communicating.

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Oct 1st, 2009, 02:31 PM	#22
plain jane doe Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,584	Am I missing something? Didn't you break up with him and that's why he's not emailing you anymore?
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Oct 1st, 2009, 02:41 PM	#23
Mininana Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 764	^ I was wondering the same. You did send him a sweet goodbye email right? Guys are VERY simple minded. If you say goodbye, it's goodbye, they won't take it as a "please call me because I'm getting VERY mad" sign. I'm assuming he's thinking the relationship is OVER. And sorry to say this but he sounds like that's what he wanted. So apparently he does have time to email and argue with you because you ARE hurting his feelings by DUMPING him, yet it's ok for HIM to leave u like that for weeks no notice? Sounds like this guy is a total loser and not even worth it. Or perhaps that is just his attitude with you. Being LR and all, who knows, he might have even used you as a rebound, you never know. Not worth your time. Hope you feel better soon. Hugs.
Mininana Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 764

Oct 1st, 2009, 02:46 PM	#24
rainrowan INFJ Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,934	He certainly hasn't been appreciative of you, even with history being together. It's a little obvious you are still invested in him. Do you suppose he'd rather stay platonic and chickened out of trying to make it work again? I wouldn't spend any more time waiting or expecting anything from him. When he does make contact, take it for what it is, him connecting but nothing more. Some guys know what they don't want but they don't know how to explain themselves out of fear or lack of experience communicating.
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Sep 30th, 2009, 07:38 PM	#16
petitechouchou "H" is for Hamster Joined: Jun 2009 Location: sleeping in my skybox Posts: 1,299	You have the right to feel the way you feel missme411. I hope things work out for you.

Sep 30th, 2009, 11:08 PM	#17
talexs I Love It!!!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: always in the office :( Posts: 1,499	Sorry to keep posting short random things and agreeing with other peoples posts. But while I think that cutting things off before you get too far in is a good idea I also think that olialm1 makes a good point. My situation isn't exactly like yours but kind of close, I was in LDR ended and then he gets in touch more than a year later and we get back together, every once in awhile we don't talk for a bit, we both work a ton and I travel more than 3 or 4 days a week, so even a quick email can slip our minds. But when we talk about it we realize that even though we may not talk every day--or hell evey week--what we have when we are together is worth it. I know that this is not conventional and maybe not even healthy, maybe we aren't even in a relationship and we are only kidding ourselves, but I guess I just wanted to throw a different experience into the mix.

Oct 1st, 2009, 12:15 PM	#19
PurseAddict79 PerpetuallyPenniless Joined: Sep 2008 Location: The Mall Posts: 1,236	All of this emailing and waiting is exhausting. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude and hope my post isn't interpreted as such, but why don't you call him? Email is so impersonal... is phoning him an option?

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