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domlee · Sep 23rd, 2009, 09:59 AM

Happy Birthday!

I've had ones where people forgot.
I've been to the ER two b-days in a row (because my gf at the time needed to go).

But know that your b-day is indeed special. =)

Charles · Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:25 AM

Jake says: "Sorry everyone forgot your birthday, but let's go to my place, sit on my dining room table and have some cake."

Immi · Sep 23rd, 2009, 11:45 AM

Perhaps it's just me, but I tend to remember birthdays that are close to mine so I do think it's weird for him to actually forget. So if it was me I'd be surprised but not pissed. Did you see/hear from him at all or did he totally forget?

Myself, I don't think remembering/celebrating birthdays is a pivotal part of any relationship and I would never be bothered if my SO forgot mine. The way I see it a relationship isn't just for your birthday and it's the other 364 days that count more I guess! I'd rather my SO and I treat eachother great all year round and never celebrate birthdays at all than have great birthdays only.

I hope you had a nice birthday anyway. On the positive side you got to see your parents! :) I'm sure they loved seeing you too.

bagaholic85 · Sep 23rd, 2009, 01:12 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Jake says: "Sorry everyone forgot your birthday, but let's go to my place, sit on my dining room table and have some cake."

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haha...that was my first thought too. i watched it last nite on tv actually. so funny.

either way op happy birthday, and maybe the bf is planning something great for you! dont give up hope just yet

plain jane doe · Sep 23rd, 2009, 01:45 PM

Aww, sorry you had a bum birthday, OP.

Happy belated birthday!

I do agree with everyone else, though, that you do have to speak up! (I have trouble with this myself, so definitely no high horse here.) The fact that he needs a gentle reminder doesn't make him terrible or selfish, just forgetful. And if you can see the forgetfulness coming, it's better for both of you to prevent it rather than wait and see it happen.

Sorry, that doesn't help you much after the fact. But if you would feel better having a late celebration with him, let him know and you can still have a good time.

for your late bday

Miss T · Sep 23rd, 2009, 07:42 PM

Happy Birthday

Birthdays are special, and it's a bummer when they're forgotten. However, I've found that, in the past, those who have forgotten my birthday feel worse when they realize they forgot it than I did in the first place! Personally, I have a tough time remembering birthdays and have felt so awful if I forgot to call someone on their special day. In your case, OP, it doesn't sound like it was done to hurt you. These things just slip our minds once in awhile. Hope everything gets better for you.

floridagal23 · Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:10 PM

Happy birthday!!

A few years ago, I dated my very best childhood friend growing up and wow, what a disaster - but he totally blew off my birthday. Every year when we were friends, he'd call, send a card, email, whatever..but he didn't even pick up the phone that year. To me, you don't have to buy me flowers, buy me gifts, whatever..but a simple happy bday, I'm thinking about you is fine. Nada..we broke up shortly thereafter (not just because of that, but still). It really hurt my feelings!! I don't blame you for being upset!

boxermom · Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:53 PM

Well, happy birthday to you! I certainly hope he remembers and apologizes for forgetting.

I grew up in a family that never did much of anything for our birthdays and I do believe it was harmful. To this day I'm uncomfortable receiving a gift or a compliment and that ruins it for the giver. I have to fight the tendency to ignore them every year.

Cherrasaki · Sep 24th, 2009, 12:38 AM

Happy Belated Birthday!!! Don't feel bad, we've all had moments like these. I remember once I didn't get a phone call from my own parents until a day or two after the fact! Granted I was living abroad at the time and they didn't mean too and they felt bad afterward but it can make you feel bad and that is completely understandable! I hope he makes it up to you!

QueenCoco · Sep 24th, 2009, 02:20 AM

happy belated birthday! Don't worry too much! I think as you get older, no one really cares about YOUR birthday anymore. Only You....(Not you...I mean a collective YOU)....As women, we are just different and I always put so much thought into my husbands bday. Always have. But honestly, I rarely even get a present....I agree with the poster who said what matters is how everyone treats you throughout the year..(ex. your SO) and not if they are creative or romantic enough to think up something for one day. Now, I remind him the day before to buy me a card, because thats what I love most and all I really want....(I like when he writes how he feels) and I tell him where I want to go and ask for $$$ to buy something unless he thinks he knows what to buy. Being women, many of us are destined...past 18...to put way more effort into everyone elses lives then is put into ours. Its life. Next year, take yourself to lunch, buy something nice and make your SO take you to dinner and remind him to buy you a card. Dont rely on other people to make the day good because you will be let down more often then now.

Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:25 AM	#17
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,190	Jake says: "Sorry everyone forgot your birthday, but let's go to my place, sit on my dining room table and have some cake."
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Sep 23rd, 2009, 11:45 AM	#18
Immi <3s life Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 271	Perhaps it's just me, but I tend to remember birthdays that are close to mine so I do think it's weird for him to actually forget. So if it was me I'd be surprised but not pissed. Did you see/hear from him at all or did he totally forget? Myself, I don't think remembering/celebrating birthdays is a pivotal part of any relationship and I would never be bothered if my SO forgot mine. The way I see it a relationship isn't just for your birthday and it's the other 364 days that count more I guess! I'd rather my SO and I treat eachother great all year round and never celebrate birthdays at all than have great birthdays only. I hope you had a nice birthday anyway. On the positive side you got to see your parents! :) I'm sure they loved seeing you too.
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Sep 23rd, 2009, 01:45 PM	#20
plain jane doe Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,570	Aww, sorry you had a bum birthday, OP. Happy belated birthday! I do agree with everyone else, though, that you do have to speak up! (I have trouble with this myself, so definitely no high horse here.) The fact that he needs a gentle reminder doesn't make him terrible or selfish, just forgetful. And if you can see the forgetfulness coming, it's better for both of you to prevent it rather than wait and see it happen. Sorry, that doesn't help you much after the fact. But if you would feel better having a late celebration with him, let him know and you can still have a good time. for your late bday
plain jane doe Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,570

Sep 23rd, 2009, 07:42 PM	#21
Miss T Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 204	Happy Birthday Birthdays are special, and it's a bummer when they're forgotten. However, I've found that, in the past, those who have forgotten my birthday feel worse when they realize they forgot it than I did in the first place! Personally, I have a tough time remembering birthdays and have felt so awful if I forgot to call someone on their special day. In your case, OP, it doesn't sound like it was done to hurt you. These things just slip our minds once in awhile. Hope everything gets better for you.
Miss T Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 204

Sep 24th, 2009, 12:38 AM	#24
Cherrasaki 99% Angel Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,659	Happy Belated Birthday!!! Don't feel bad, we've all had moments like these. I remember once I didn't get a phone call from my own parents until a day or two after the fact! Granted I was living abroad at the time and they didn't mean too and they felt bad afterward but it can make you feel bad and that is completely understandable! I hope he makes it up to you!
Cherrasaki 99% Angel Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,659

Sep 23rd, 2009, 09:59 AM	#16
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 952	Happy Birthday! I've had ones where people forgot. I've been to the ER two b-days in a row (because my gf at the time needed to go). But know that your b-day is indeed special. =)

Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:10 PM	#22
floridagal23 Member Joined: Oct 2007 Location: New York, New York Posts: 859	Happy birthday!! A few years ago, I dated my very best childhood friend growing up and wow, what a disaster - but he totally blew off my birthday. Every year when we were friends, he'd call, send a card, email, whatever..but he didn't even pick up the phone that year. To me, you don't have to buy me flowers, buy me gifts, whatever..but a simple happy bday, I'm thinking about you is fine. Nada..we broke up shortly thereafter (not just because of that, but still). It really hurt my feelings!! I don't blame you for being upset!

Sep 23rd, 2009, 10:53 PM	#23
boxermom Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: North Carolina Posts: 13,688	Well, happy birthday to you! I certainly hope he remembers and apologizes for forgetting. I grew up in a family that never did much of anything for our birthdays and I do believe it was harmful. To this day I'm uncomfortable receiving a gift or a compliment and that ruins it for the giver. I have to fight the tendency to ignore them every year.

Sep 24th, 2009, 02:20 AM	#25
QueenCoco Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,121	happy belated birthday! Don't worry too much! I think as you get older, no one really cares about YOUR birthday anymore. Only You....(Not you...I mean a collective YOU)....As women, we are just different and I always put so much thought into my husbands bday. Always have. But honestly, I rarely even get a present....I agree with the poster who said what matters is how everyone treats you throughout the year..(ex. your SO) and not if they are creative or romantic enough to think up something for one day. Now, I remind him the day before to buy me a card, because thats what I love most and all I really want....(I like when he writes how he feels) and I tell him where I want to go and ask for $$$ to buy something unless he thinks he knows what to buy. Being women, many of us are destined...past 18...to put way more effort into everyone elses lives then is put into ours. Its life. Next year, take yourself to lunch, buy something nice and make your SO take you to dinner and remind him to buy you a card. Dont rely on other people to make the day good because you will be let down more often then now.
QueenCoco Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,121

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