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missfunkenstein · Oct 11th, 2009, 02:22 PM

so i've been dating this guy for 4.5 months, 2 of which he went out of state for military training, and the entire time we were exclusively dating he listed his status as "single." a week after he broke it off with me, he changed his status to "it's complicated." what does this mean exactly? i've also noticed he has a new very flirty "friend" posting on his walls just four days after our breakup. i just want answers! :/

heart goes boOm · Oct 11th, 2009, 03:06 PM

i'm sorry, but i don't think you will get any answers. i don't think he too you seriously, which is why he is able to move on so quickly.

amymaria · Oct 11th, 2009, 03:07 PM

ugh this is why i hate fb

i don't and never will add my bf on their as my friend

Pursegrrl · Oct 11th, 2009, 03:41 PM

Oh lordy, it can mean just about anything. And it can mean a way to attract attention/drama/curiosity too for some people.

When I first got on FB a relative of mine was one of my first friends. Her status was "it's complicated," so it did intrigue me. She's single and has dated a few guys but doesn't really talk to much about her relationships. Lo and behold, she had a photo album posted with pics of an outdoor committment ceremony with her and another woman I didn't recognize. OK...wow, didn't know this!

I know it's a bummer, OP, but there just aren't any clear cut answers. Sorry about the frustration!!

ChanelMommy · Oct 11th, 2009, 03:43 PM

Originally Posted by heart goes boOm

i'm sorry, but i don't think you will get any answers. i don't think he too you seriously, which is why he is able to move on so quickly.

^I agree.

talexs · Oct 11th, 2009, 05:07 PM

Not to be a serious downer but this is why I hate FB and would never join. I am sorry you are going through all this, it sounds very dramatic, you deserve better.

little LV lover · Oct 11th, 2009, 06:10 PM

Sigh, you deserve better than this. Sorry to say but you may not find the answers you're looking for...especially from a BOY that has replaced you so quickly. Hugs to you!

flashy.stems · Oct 11th, 2009, 06:14 PM

facebook makes everything so stressful and confusing, especially when it comes to guys.
you just.. find things out that you are meant to not know..

good luck to you, sweetie. hugs!

shy*violet · Oct 11th, 2009, 07:17 PM

Originally Posted by heart goes boOm

i'm sorry, but i don't think you will get any answers. i don't think he too you seriously, which is why he is able to move on so quickly.

I agree.

You probably won't get the closure you are looking for, OP. I think you should delete him as a friend and block him so you aren't tempted to FB-stalk him.

It will be easier to get over him if you aren't scouring his wall for flirtatious females

starra007 · Oct 11th, 2009, 07:26 PM

Facebook causes unnecessary drama. Honestly, there could be a million reasons behind why his status suddenly went from "single" to "it's complicated." Regardless, it has nothing to do with you at this point. As suggested, I'd de-friend him and save yourself the extra grief and turmoil. If you don't, you'll continue to look and it'll keep nagging you. Move on and don't look back! You deserve better and it seems like he didn't have much respect for you anyway.

Pinkified J · Oct 11th, 2009, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by starra007

Facebook causes unnecessary drama. Honestly, there could be a million reasons behind why his status suddenly went from "single" to "it's complicated." Regardless, it has nothing to do with you at this point. As suggested, I'd de-friend him and save yourself the extra grief and turmoil. If you don't, you'll continue to look and it'll keep nagging you. Move on and don't look back! You deserve better and it seems like he didn't have much respect for you anyway.

Agreed de-friend him and I would also recommend adding him to your block list. So you won't be able to search him up unless you remove him and you won't be able to see his posts if you have any mutual friends.

Relationship statuses are so confusing on facebook, variation of seriousness and just silly inside jokes..

juneping · Oct 11th, 2009, 09:54 PM

Originally Posted by shy*violet

I agree.

You probably won't get the closure you are looking for, OP. I think you should delete him as a friend and block him so you aren't tempted to FB-stalk him.

It will be easier to get over him if you aren't scouring his wall for flirtatious females

agree. sorry for what happened. but please don't waste your time when he moved on.

missfunkenstein · Oct 12th, 2009, 12:05 AM

oh wow, i didn't expect this many responses so quickly! i really appreciate all the input, and yes, i did defriend him earlier today. it's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! i shouldn't care what he does from now on anyway; it's not like it involves me. i have completely removed him from my life, and today is the official start of my newly single life. if he moved on, so can i....but i am definitely going to take some more time for self-loving and recovery before i jump into anything. i wouldn't want my emotions for my ex to get mixed up with the next guy!

ps. how much time is needed in order for me to move on? because at this point, eventho a week has passed, i haven't felt very much different from when i used to date him...aka my feelings are still there, i miss our special memories, etc etc. i would hate to dwell on this longer than i need to because even now, i'm still thinking about him. :/

turboflgrl · Oct 12th, 2009, 12:09 AM

You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders! Remember that only you can decide how much time is needed to move on. Everyone is different. Some people take 5 minutes, others a week, or maybe a year. Who knows?

Involve yourself in other activities. Do you play any sports? Go to the gym? Have social gatherings you could start going to? Anything to get your mind off of it will help you as you slowly recover from the break up. Just take your time!

legsieloveslamb · Oct 12th, 2009, 12:10 AM

^^When it comes to "healing times of the heart" there isn't a specific amount of time that is needed. It all depends on each individual person. You have to be sure of yourself, know who you are, and what you want in life. If you are still dwelling on him now then no, you aren't ready yet. Take it one day at a time.

Oct 11th, 2009, 02:22 PM	#1
missfunkenstein OP Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 14	"it's complicated" on facebook? so i've been dating this guy for 4.5 months, 2 of which he went out of state for military training, and the entire time we were exclusively dating he listed his status as "single." a week after he broke it off with me, he changed his status to "it's complicated." what does this mean exactly? i've also noticed he has a new very flirty "friend" posting on his walls just four days after our breakup. i just want answers! :/
missfunkenstein OP Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 14

Oct 11th, 2009, 03:06 PM	#2
heart goes boOm Member Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 170	i'm sorry, but i don't think you will get any answers. i don't think he too you seriously, which is why he is able to move on so quickly.
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Oct 11th, 2009, 03:07 PM	#3
amymaria I is Hello Kitty? Joined: Jan 2009 Location: Toronto Posts: 1,126	ugh this is why i hate fb i don't and never will add my bf on their as my friend
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Oct 11th, 2009, 03:41 PM	#4
Pursegrrl Oh no she di-int!! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 19,262	Oh lordy, it can mean just about anything. And it can mean a way to attract attention/drama/curiosity too for some people. When I first got on FB a relative of mine was one of my first friends. Her status was "it's complicated," so it did intrigue me. She's single and has dated a few guys but doesn't really talk to much about her relationships. Lo and behold, she had a photo album posted with pics of an outdoor committment ceremony with her and another woman I didn't recognize. OK...wow, didn't know this! I know it's a bummer, OP, but there just aren't any clear cut answers. Sorry about the frustration!!
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Oct 11th, 2009, 07:26 PM	#10
starra007 Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 97	Facebook causes unnecessary drama. Honestly, there could be a million reasons behind why his status suddenly went from "single" to "it's complicated." Regardless, it has nothing to do with you at this point. As suggested, I'd de-friend him and save yourself the extra grief and turmoil. If you don't, you'll continue to look and it'll keep nagging you. Move on and don't look back! You deserve better and it seems like he didn't have much respect for you anyway.
starra007 Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 97

Oct 11th, 2009, 05:07 PM	#6
talexs I Love It!!!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: always in the office :( Posts: 1,488	Not to be a serious downer but this is why I hate FB and would never join. I am sorry you are going through all this, it sounds very dramatic, you deserve better.

Oct 11th, 2009, 06:10 PM	#7
little LV lover Because I can... Joined: Apr 2007 Location: Where do you live? Posts: 1,339	Sigh, you deserve better than this. Sorry to say but you may not find the answers you're looking for...especially from a BOY that has replaced you so quickly. Hugs to you!

Oct 11th, 2009, 06:14 PM	#8
flashy.stems Hermès Hottie Joined: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 2,000	facebook makes everything so stressful and confusing, especially when it comes to guys. you just.. find things out that you are meant to not know.. good luck to you, sweetie. hugs!

Oct 12th, 2009, 12:05 AM	#13
missfunkenstein OP Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 14	oh wow, i didn't expect this many responses so quickly! i really appreciate all the input, and yes, i did defriend him earlier today. it's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! i shouldn't care what he does from now on anyway; it's not like it involves me. i have completely removed him from my life, and today is the official start of my newly single life. if he moved on, so can i....but i am definitely going to take some more time for self-loving and recovery before i jump into anything. i wouldn't want my emotions for my ex to get mixed up with the next guy! ps. how much time is needed in order for me to move on? because at this point, eventho a week has passed, i haven't felt very much different from when i used to date him...aka my feelings are still there, i miss our special memories, etc etc. i would hate to dwell on this longer than i need to because even now, i'm still thinking about him. :/
missfunkenstein OP Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 14

Oct 12th, 2009, 12:09 AM	#14
turboflgrl Sofa King Addicted Joined: Jun 2008 Location: The Beach! Posts: 448	You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders! Remember that only you can decide how much time is needed to move on. Everyone is different. Some people take 5 minutes, others a week, or maybe a year. Who knows? Involve yourself in other activities. Do you play any sports? Go to the gym? Have social gatherings you could start going to? Anything to get your mind off of it will help you as you slowly recover from the break up. Just take your time!
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Oct 12th, 2009, 12:10 AM	#15
legsieloveslamb BaG jUnKiE! Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 4,094	^^When it comes to "healing times of the heart" there isn't a specific amount of time that is needed. It all depends on each individual person. You have to be sure of yourself, know who you are, and what you want in life. If you are still dwelling on him now then no, you aren't ready yet. Take it one day at a time.
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