"it's complicated" on facebook?

[Aslan]

Facebook causes only as much drama as the people on the other end of the computer cause. It's a communication medium, not a thing in itself. I ignore an "It's Complicated" status.

[ILuvShopping]

if he always had it listed as single and then changed it to 'it's complicated' after breaking up with you then I would take that as just doesn't know what he wants to do.
It's good that you were able to defriend him so quickly. I have a guy who still has me on his "mass email" list and sends me all kinds of political stuff (yuck) so unfortunately I get to see his name about every 6 months or so. I just don't want to email him backand say "hey, take me off" because i don't want to start any contact. he probably doesn't realize he's sending stuff to me.

my favorite is when people on facebook are married and THEN they change their status to "it's complicated" I mean...really....??? do you really want the whole world to know your marriage is on the rocks??
A guy I went to high school with suddenly changed his status from married to single and WOAH, the comments he got on his wall. within a day or two he deactivated his account. it's been over a year now and he just reactivated it. but it's interesting the things people choose to share.

[BagLadie]

Relationships - whether new, old good or bad - should not be out there for all to see. Facebook and all this other crap out there sucks for this very reason. In a relationship - its complicated - single - I mean, really??? Gone are the good old days. I know I sound old - I'm only 40 (that's right....ONLY 40!) but the internet ruins mystery - dreams - wonder - love - disdain - everything. my advice? keep relationships out of facebook and off the internet. Phone calls are oh so much better.....speaking face to face is too. We will only drive ourselves sick with jealousy by peeking at SO's facebook page.

[juneping]

Originally Posted by BagLadie

Relationships - whether new, old good or bad - should not be out there for all to see. Facebook and all this other crap out there sucks for this very reason. In a relationship - its complicated - single - I mean, really??? Gone are the good old days. I know I sound old - I'm only 40 (that's right....ONLY 40!) but the internet ruins mystery - dreams - wonder - love - disdain - everything. my advice? keep relationships out of facebook and off the internet. Phone calls are oh so much better.....speaking face to face is too. We will only drive ourselves sick with jealousy by peeking at SO's facebook page.

i agree completely. r/s is about two people, it's very private. i understand sometimes we just want to announce to the world that we fall in love or getting married. but keeping it low profile is a better way to go. at least we don't have to explain when things won't work out down the road.
to me, i find it more intimate or respectful when my friends tell me they have a new bf or getting married in person instead of posting on fb that their r/s status is "complicated".....

[talexs]

^^Agreed, I am incredibly private and wouldn't ever post relationship status on Fb, but that's just me. Heck people I work with are always shocked to learn that I have been dating someone for some time, I don't know, I guess I have just always felt that relationships can be hard enough and I don't want to do anything that could possibly make it any harder.

I was actually just talking about this with a friend and she said that she has noticed on FB--nothing scientific about this just her observation--that to her it seemed that people over 25 have a tendency to not post their relationship status, but people under 25 seem to post more freely. I don't know I 've never really put the energy into looking and granted this is just her group of friends.

[missfunkenstein]

i definitely agree with what you all are saying here about privacy. it's like, you just broke up with me and you want to display to the whole world that you've already moved on?? that does not gain respect; it just shows everyone what a player you are. what a slap in the face that is. we were still fbook friends at that point; he knew i could see that he changed it. i just can't believe he would throw me away and disregard me that quickly. what a douche. the guy couldn't even handle one month in another state without finding someone else? i'm glad he's out of my life because i deserve someone who will and can stay loyal to me and only me.

ps. hey im just wondering, have you guys ever changed ur status to "it's complicated?" and what were the reasons? personally i would never because why would i want to display to the world that i'm having issues? lol. either ur in a relationship or you're not. it's not that hard to decipher. that awkward early stage of dating should be kept private, not announced to all ur friends...OR exes.

[juneping]

^^ funny you asked that...i was just thinking about it earlier.

it only tells me either one doesn't want to commit. and usually if you know the friend you'd know he or she is either being played or playing someone.
i saw my friend put "complicated" on her r/s status...later she put single....apparently the guy was never ready....to me was why tell the world your guy wouldn't commit to you???

[redney]

I hate the "it's complicated" option on FB. Someone who selects it is only looking for attention IMO.

[MarieG]

^^^ita!

[siworae]

Originally Posted by Aslan

Facebook causes only as much drama as the people on the other end of the computer cause. It's a communication medium, not a thing in itself. I ignore an "It's Complicated" status.

ITA! i've been using facebook for a little over 5 years, and have never had any drama there.

personally, i don't even have my status listed... it's really no one's business. if i'm dating someone and am ready to introduce him to friends/family, i would prefer to tell them in person rather than letting them find out via facebook. i think it's better to put nothing there at all rather than use "it's complicated."

[legsieloveslamb]

I don't have my status on either.

[Luccibag]

Sorry to hear about this. It probably means you should just move on. But to cheer you up, take a look at this Youtube link to "facebook breakups" Its hilarious! I cant stop laughing. They discuss relationship statuses. "its complicated? I'll tell you what's complicated, you not havin a job, that's what's complicated" hehe "your cousin sleepin' on my couch"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6NdP...x=0&playnext=1

[missfunkenstein]

oh and i forgot to mention some other fbook activity of his before i defriended him. a couple days after he called it quits, he deleted a photo of us he had uploaded from his graduation and also untagged himself in all the photos of us that i had posted while we were dating. soo yeahh...add those onto changing his status to "it's complicated"...i just figured those were crucial details.

[jackie100]

I can understand that you would be hurt but if you're no longer together then it shouldn't matter. What he did was hurtful but you should just not give a damn and not even look at his fb and wonder who the flirty friend is why he untagged the pics. Just try not to waste time thinking about him. I know it's hard but if you're no longer together it shouldn't really matter what he does. He's not worth the time to be wasting your energy feeling anxious etc

[juneping]

OP,

he sounds like a loser. he made it seem pretty simple but put it on the FB as complicated?? PLEASE....he's probably juggling with a few women....