Issues with In Laws

[Fetish]

Originally Posted by kitty nyc

wow, i just read this and you've really shown yourself to be the bigger person! i couldn't imagine putting my best foot forward after all the damage they've caused. it would probably eat me up inside but it's so much easier for me to take revenge than to forgive.

For too many years I dwelled on negativity and let it eat me up inside. Its easy to fall into a negative lifestyle. But people who are "wrong-doers" are deep inside only "control addicts." They want to control and manipulate a situation. If they can say/do something to get you riled up, then they will do it. And by allowing yourself to get upset and get hurt and get mad, you are only letting them "win," in their eyes. If they can get to you somehow in your life and make you angry, to them they have done a good days work but most of all they feel like they have CONTROLED the situation by making you pissed off. Some people are just like that.

The best thing to do with these types of people is show, this does not bother you. I was doing wrong by showing his family that I was allowing them to affect me so much, that I would refuse to attend events. And it made me look even worse to the small percentage of the good side of his family, who wondered why I was constantly avoiding them. So I grinned and beared it. Life is too short to worry and dwell on people who want to cause wrong in your life. Be happy, regardless. Situations are only ever what you make of them. If you choose to be upset, you will just stress yourself out over something you have no control over. And you will just feed the fire.