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Cristina · Jun 30th, 2009, 04:30 PM

Originally Posted by redney

OP, it's a shame you're wasting time with this frog when you could be experiencing a real prince in someone else.

Once you experience how a good, decent man treats you, you'll kick yourself in the head for wasting as much time as you have with the current loser.

Ditto. Redney, you're like my R&F twin

redney · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:22 PM

^^^I'm honored, Cristina!

msJenna · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by Nieners

Well.... if there's no love, there's at least a Chanel bag. Right?

[/sarcasm]

That was rude and uncalled for.

msJenna · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by lorihmatthews

Throwing things at your window is violent and is also almost vandalism. Maybe even bordering on stalking. It is NOT "cute."

Seriously, save up for your own handbag and find someone who is worthy of your attention.

Lol no it was because it was the middle of the night and he couldn't ring on my doorbell and I wasn't answering my phone so he was throwing snowballs to get my attention.

I've had multiple friends throw things at my windows to get my attention.

msJenna · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:30 PM

Anyways I explained why he is the way he is but he's either going to change or get lost.
If he really loves me he will change and if he can't then it's over between us

PrettyInPink · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:32 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

Anyways I explained why he is the way he is but he's either going to change or get lost.
If he really loves me he will change and if he can't then it's over between us

What I've learned in my 22 years is that a man will not change because YOU want him to change. A man will only change because HE wants to change.

It sounds like this man doesn't want to change. You're wasting your time.

MarneeB · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:49 PM

msJenna, please, please, PLEASE walk away from this guy. Of course he was upset when you broke up the first time, who else would he use that way?! Don't you know how many men there are that will treat you right? This isn't love. When you get away from him and find a wonderful man you will know you should have left him long ago. The fact that he abuses your dog is a major red flag for me (and it is abuse). Abusing an animal is usually only the first horrible thing somene does, then they move on to worse things. He's went too far for too long being like this. THEY DON'T CHANGE. You deserve so much better, take it a day at a time WITHOUT him and go from there. Before you know it you'll be free for good and so much happier. Too many people stay with an abuser for too long. Why do you think you're not worth any better? You'll be just fine without him, you just have to make the steps and DON'T LOOK BACK. And when he comes crying to you about taking him back remember: he's NOT sorry, he WON"T change, he doesn't REALLY love you. Look at his actions, NOT his words! When you truly love someone you don't treat them badly. Do you want to be insulted your whole life by your own bf (or-yikes!-future dh)? I cannot even fathom some of the stuff you said he's done and said to you-my God you have got to stop it NOW if you haven't already. Please, drop this boy that treats you like crap and be happy just being you and being free. Then you'll be able to meet a man that treats you like you should be treated!
Keep us updated and know you can always come here to vent and find support! Abusive relationships are HELL and I hate seeing anyone go through them.

Avril · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:49 PM

msJenna, you are totally wasting your time on this loser by giving him a third / fourth / fifth / sixth chance or whatever number it is at now.

You are totally rationalising his behaviour for treating you terribly and your lil dog. He is a horrible person and does not give a crap about you. The only reason he was trying to get your attention when you broke up with him and started seeing another guy was just because he didn't want to see you with anybody else but when he gets you, he doesn't want you either. What's the point?

Why do you feel that he is the best you can do? You can do so much better than him. There's no point wasting another minute of your life on this guy. He doesn't appreciate you and he definitely doesn't deserve you. He has had multiple chances to change, yet he is still breaking your heart. Just dump him, go meet a nice guy and be happy. Let him jet off to Asia and do whatever he wants over there, and don't see him when he gets back.

msJenna · Jun 30th, 2009, 08:06 PM

Well, he could of used the crackhead. She was obsessed with him and wanted to date him badly but he wasn't interested in her.
And it is true, he will only change if he wants to. So if he wants to change, fine. If he doesn't it's done.

He's not mean to my dog on the regular. He calls him fat but it was only that one time he yanked the blankets which made no sense to me and I am still mad about. He cuddles with my dog now but yeah. Ill never forgive him for pulling the blankets out from under my baby.

queenvictoria2 · Jun 30th, 2009, 08:15 PM

So why do you stay? Are you afraid of being alone?

ver0nique · Jun 30th, 2009, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

Anyways I explained why he is the way he is but he's either going to change or get lost.
If he really loves me he will change and if he can't then it's over between us

Okay, I'm going to blunt here. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have treated you the way he did.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 30th, 2009, 10:01 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

He's not mean to my dog on the regular. He calls him fat but it was only that one time he yanked the blankets which made no sense to me and I am still mad about.

mistreating any animal even only once is a HUGE deal breaker for me. it pretty much tells you a lot about a person too - if he can mistreat an innocent animal like that, imagine how he can mistreat you - which he already has over and over. not understanding why you believe this atrocious person would ever change or what you even see in the scum in the first place.

_kate_ · Jun 30th, 2009, 10:14 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

He's not mean to my dog on the regular. He calls him fat but it was only that one time he yanked the blankets which made no sense to me and I am still mad about. He cuddles with my dog now but yeah. Ill never forgive him for pulling the blankets out from under my baby.

your saying it made no sense but in your last post you were saying that he did it because if he did it to his dog the dog would like it and think it was a game...

I think he sounds like a douche, and Ive had my ex sit outside my window when were were fighting and cry etc. Its just manipulative bullshit to make you think they are super invested in the relationship when it looks like it might be taken away from then.

HE TOLD YOU TO JUST HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH HIM AND YOU CAN 'JUST' HAVE AN ABORTION IF YOU GET PREGNANT!!!!!! WHAT IS WRNOG WITH YOU THAT YOU ARE GIVING THIS PERSON A SECOND CHANCE!!!!!!

dallas · Jun 30th, 2009, 11:20 PM

I am so confused. Is this for real?

MarneeB · Jun 30th, 2009, 11:36 PM

^^Yea, I'm starting to think this is all a load of crap.

Jun 30th, 2009, 05:22 PM	#92
redney Lovin' Life! Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,744	^^^I'm honored, Cristina!
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Jun 30th, 2009, 05:30 PM	#95
msJenna OP Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 737	Anyways I explained why he is the way he is but he's either going to change or get lost. If he really loves me he will change and if he can't then it's over between us
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Jun 30th, 2009, 05:49 PM	#98
Avril grly grl Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,160	msJenna, you are totally wasting your time on this loser by giving him a third / fourth / fifth / sixth chance or whatever number it is at now. You are totally rationalising his behaviour for treating you terribly and your lil dog. He is a horrible person and does not give a crap about you. The only reason he was trying to get your attention when you broke up with him and started seeing another guy was just because he didn't want to see you with anybody else but when he gets you, he doesn't want you either. What's the point? Why do you feel that he is the best you can do? You can do so much better than him. There's no point wasting another minute of your life on this guy. He doesn't appreciate you and he definitely doesn't deserve you. He has had multiple chances to change, yet he is still breaking your heart. Just dump him, go meet a nice guy and be happy. Let him jet off to Asia and do whatever he wants over there, and don't see him when he gets back.
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Jun 30th, 2009, 08:06 PM	#99
msJenna OP Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 737	Well, he could of used the crackhead. She was obsessed with him and wanted to date him badly but he wasn't interested in her. And it is true, he will only change if he wants to. So if he wants to change, fine. If he doesn't it's done. He's not mean to my dog on the regular. He calls him fat but it was only that one time he yanked the blankets which made no sense to me and I am still mad about. He cuddles with my dog now but yeah. Ill never forgive him for pulling the blankets out from under my baby.
msJenna OP Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 737	__________________ I Only Have Eyes For European Cars, European Shoes, And European Handbags

Jun 30th, 2009, 08:15 PM	#100
queenvictoria2 psalm 25:4 Joined: Sep 2006 Location: In a Shoe .... Posts: 4,290	So why do you stay? Are you afraid of being alone?
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Jun 30th, 2009, 05:49 PM	#97
MarneeB Taking it all in. Joined: Mar 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 842	msJenna, please, please, PLEASE walk away from this guy. Of course he was upset when you broke up the first time, who else would he use that way?! Don't you know how many men there are that will treat you right? This isn't love. When you get away from him and find a wonderful man you will know you should have left him long ago. The fact that he abuses your dog is a major red flag for me (and it is abuse). Abusing an animal is usually only the first horrible thing somene does, then they move on to worse things. He's went too far for too long being like this. THEY DON'T CHANGE. You deserve so much better, take it a day at a time WITHOUT him and go from there. Before you know it you'll be free for good and so much happier. Too many people stay with an abuser for too long. Why do you think you're not worth any better? You'll be just fine without him, you just have to make the steps and DON'T LOOK BACK. And when he comes crying to you about taking him back remember: he's NOT sorry, he WON"T change, he doesn't REALLY love you. Look at his actions, NOT his words! When you truly love someone you don't treat them badly. Do you want to be insulted your whole life by your own bf (or-yikes!-future dh)? I cannot even fathom some of the stuff you said he's done and said to you-my God you have got to stop it NOW if you haven't already. Please, drop this boy that treats you like crap and be happy just being you and being free. Then you'll be able to meet a man that treats you like you should be treated! Keep us updated and know you can always come here to vent and find support! Abusive relationships are HELL and I hate seeing anyone go through them.

Jun 30th, 2009, 11:20 PM	#104
dallas Yeah ano Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,272	I am so confused. Is this for real?
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Jun 30th, 2009, 11:36 PM	#105
MarneeB Taking it all in. Joined: Mar 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 842	^^Yea, I'm starting to think this is all a load of crap.

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