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bagnshoofetish · Jun 27th, 2009, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

I'm trying to think about things he has done that are nice...

Nothing comes to mind.

what the hell is wrong with you? get out. sorry to be so blunt.

juneping · Jun 27th, 2009, 11:49 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

I don't think I've ever been in a good relationship honestly.

And I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 19.

if you stay with him, of course you are never going to be in a good relationship.
you are only 20.....come on, you'll meet someone who treats you right. even though you won't meet the Mr. Right right away but you sure will meet some guy better than this dipsh*t.

isabellam · Jun 27th, 2009, 11:57 PM

Originally Posted by msJenna

My boyfriend will hang out with his friends playing video games until 3am.

Honey, BOY is the operative word to describe this boyfriend of yours. You got me right at the first point about the video games.

Anyone who would 'hang out with friends playing video games until 3am' is just not my idea of anyone I'd have a relationship with. How responsible can he be if he lives like this? I'd guess, just from that comment about video games, that the guy is very immature and selfish. Grown men do not routinely play video games UNTIL 3 AM. They have jobs, plans, goals. Things to do and places to go! A guy who routinely plays games until the wee hours is an adolescent, regardless of his chronological age.

To me, the purpose of dating is to find out if you want to get married to each other. A guy who would choose to spend his time so frivolously is not someone who I'd trust my heart to, let alone my life, my children, or my finances. Dating is an job interview for marriage. I'd say that this fellow blew it.

ellacoach · Jun 28th, 2009, 12:08 PM

dump his ass asap. you are too young to be dealing with this crap!

Avril · Jun 28th, 2009, 12:21 PM

I really hope you dumped this guy. Seriously, anybody who treats their other half like that deserves to be dumped. He doesn't care about you, he treats you like crap and he is so mean to your lovely doggie.

You're only 20, have your whole life ahead of you so why waste another minute on this pathetic loser? And seriously, if he brings on the BS of "oh but I love you" or whatever, he doesn't love you. If he did, he wouldn't treat you like you are a piece of dirt on his shoe. He is a mean, horrible person and you deserve much better.

shy*violet · Jun 28th, 2009, 12:39 PM

Originally Posted by rainedrop1019

When you can write 3 pages of why you cannot stand him, it's long past time to dump him. He obviously doesn't give a crap about you so don't be his doormat or whipping post.

I know it's hard to give up a relationship that you have been in a while and have invested emotions in but you owe it to yourself to DUMP HIS ASS and get some freedom and dignity back girl.

Do not be insecure about that choice, do not second guess your decision to leave him, do not pass go, do not collect $200. JUST DO IT. You will be soooooooo much happier in hindsight. Trust me.

100% agreed.

TejasMama · Jun 28th, 2009, 01:05 PM

Ignore his words because he has shown you they mean nothing. Do not waste your future on this cruel loser. You have the power to decide what your life looks like. It's up to you.

una · Jun 28th, 2009, 01:26 PM

You're 20, treat this crappy relationship as a learning experience and move on. I'm only a year older than you and that's how I look back on my past relationships that weren't so good.

ProfNot · Jun 29th, 2009, 12:43 PM

Originally Posted by dallas

I have a question. If your best friend was in your situation, what advice would you give to her?

This is a really good way to evaluate a BF.

Another good way: judge a man by his behavior, not his words or intentions. This was the best dating advice I ever received.

mrsklem14 · Jun 29th, 2009, 12:55 PM

How could you stand this kid?? Break it off as soon as possible

Jeneen · Jun 29th, 2009, 01:39 PM

MsJenna - please let us know how it went.

I almost never tell people to break up, unless they seem like they are in an abuse cycle.

You are in an abuse cycle!

GET OUT NOW!! DUMP HIM!! CUT OFF CONTACT WITH HIM!!! DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM!!! HAVE A PLAN IN CASE HE BECOMES VIOLENT/STALKERISH/VANDALIZES!!!

ok, whew... then spend some time with your friends and loved ones. Spend some time on yourself. Build up your self worth... so you will never need to stay a year in that sort of relationship EVER again.

xoxo take care of you.

LeeMiller · Jun 29th, 2009, 01:47 PM

I didn't even read the whole thing, but he sucks. Please dump him.

Mrs. MC · Jun 29th, 2009, 06:53 PM

This behavior gets progressively worse. He sounds like he has no respect for you. Look what happened to Rhianna, he sounds similar to Chris Brown ? Even beautiful successful women like her can get involved with guys like this and it only gets worse. Who cares if he is hot ? You can find a hot guy who doesn't treat you like this. You will never regain his respect since you have been putting up with the 3am "visits" already, he has his fun with his friends and you accomodate him at 3am, that is ridiculous.

redney · Jun 29th, 2009, 07:28 PM

OP, did you kick him to the curb yet?

kissmyace108 · Jun 29th, 2009, 07:30 PM

I have a feeling you're just gonna "talk" with him and stay together hoping it will get better, when it's obvious that it won't. Honestly, the worst thing I read was that he terrorizes your dog...I couldn't be with someone who thinks it's funny to be mean to my dog or any other animal. Says alot about someone's character. Good luck with this psycho boyfriend of yours, I truly hope you get out soon!

Jun 28th, 2009, 12:08 PM	#64
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Jun 28th, 2009, 12:21 PM	#65
Avril grly grl Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,153	I really hope you dumped this guy. Seriously, anybody who treats their other half like that deserves to be dumped. He doesn't care about you, he treats you like crap and he is so mean to your lovely doggie. You're only 20, have your whole life ahead of you so why waste another minute on this pathetic loser? And seriously, if he brings on the BS of "oh but I love you" or whatever, he doesn't love you. If he did, he wouldn't treat you like you are a piece of dirt on his shoe. He is a mean, horrible person and you deserve much better.
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Jun 28th, 2009, 01:05 PM	#67
TejasMama Member Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 5,437	Ignore his words because he has shown you they mean nothing. Do not waste your future on this cruel loser. You have the power to decide what your life looks like. It's up to you.
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Jun 28th, 2009, 01:26 PM	#68
una Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: UK Posts: 508	You're 20, treat this crappy relationship as a learning experience and move on. I'm only a year older than you and that's how I look back on my past relationships that weren't so good.
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Jun 29th, 2009, 12:55 PM	#70
mrsklem14 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 1,239	How could you stand this kid?? Break it off as soon as possible
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Jun 29th, 2009, 01:39 PM	#71
Jeneen Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: up in the gym workin on my fitness Posts: 2,543	MsJenna - please let us know how it went. I almost never tell people to break up, unless they seem like they are in an abuse cycle. You are in an abuse cycle! GET OUT NOW!! DUMP HIM!! CUT OFF CONTACT WITH HIM!!! DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM!!! HAVE A PLAN IN CASE HE BECOMES VIOLENT/STALKERISH/VANDALIZES!!! ok, whew... then spend some time with your friends and loved ones. Spend some time on yourself. Build up your self worth... so you will never need to stay a year in that sort of relationship EVER again. xoxo take care of you.
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Jun 29th, 2009, 01:47 PM	#72
LeeMiller Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 3,263	I didn't even read the whole thing, but he sucks. Please dump him.
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Jun 29th, 2009, 06:53 PM	#73
Mrs. MC Member Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 4,093	This behavior gets progressively worse. He sounds like he has no respect for you. Look what happened to Rhianna, he sounds similar to Chris Brown ? Even beautiful successful women like her can get involved with guys like this and it only gets worse. Who cares if he is hot ? You can find a hot guy who doesn't treat you like this. You will never regain his respect since you have been putting up with the 3am "visits" already, he has his fun with his friends and you accomodate him at 3am, that is ridiculous.
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Jun 29th, 2009, 07:28 PM	#74
redney Lovin' Life! Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,701	OP, did you kick him to the curb yet?
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Jun 29th, 2009, 07:30 PM	#75
kissmyace108 Member Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,701	I have a feeling you're just gonna "talk" with him and stay together hoping it will get better, when it's obvious that it won't. Honestly, the worst thing I read was that he terrorizes your dog...I couldn't be with someone who thinks it's funny to be mean to my dog or any other animal. Says alot about someone's character. Good luck with this psycho boyfriend of yours, I truly hope you get out soon!
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