Is this the right decision to make?

[hairsprayhead]

Originally Posted by MarneeB

Pretty much.

[hairsprayhead]

And one last thing, as a few others have posted-

You need to do some serious soul searching to figure out why you picked such an awful guy to begin with.

It doesn't matter if he returns from Asia and opens up a freaking orphanage for babies and kittens and puppies- it will never make up for the bad things, EVER.

This thread is almost unbelievable.

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by lulabee

UGH!! Reading this thread is like beating ones head against the wall. Jenna, why do you get offended by people calling you out for being with this jerk only because he buys you Louboutins? You're the one coming to the CL sub- forum and announcing to all who will listen that he's the one who buys them for you. Have you ever asked yourself why he's with you? Anyway, you are the one who started this thread and IMO have gotten some excellent advice (which you asked for) but you obviously don't like the feedback you are getting. Why not just let this thread crawl into a cave an die already??? Ask the mods to close it.

I think it's extremely rude that you're saying I am only with him because he buys me Louboutins.

You just answered your own question

'why are you offended people are saying you're only with him because he buys you shoes?'

There. Your own question answered.
Plain rude. You wouldn't know how our relationship started or why i am with him.

But I would never date someone because they buy me something. If I want shoes, I can buy them myself. I have a job and generous parents. I don't need some guy to buy me shoes.

And I don't need to justify myself to you either so take your rude comments elsewhere.

If you give me good advice, fine. But if you're going to be rude to me, like you just were how can you expect that I would thank you for accusing me of being a gold digger?

Don't even bother responding to this it's a waste of my time to reply to you.

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

I think what she is getting at is that the only good thing you can say about him is that he buys you expensive shoes. that does not make him a good person. and if thats the only reason you choose to be with him then you need to raise your standards. Thats what I think she meant anyway.

double

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by juneping

Oh boy...if my bf put his mom in front of me all the time but buy me CL sometimes...I m not so sure if I'll stay with him. But if I did I sure will need another man to pamper me emotionally. CL is no way more important than ILU, emotionally pampering/fulfillment, make me feel I am his priority...

I'm sorry when did I say that?

[msJenna]

I wouldn't date anyone I didn't love for a few pairs of shoes.

Take your judgements elsewhere.
If I want shoes I can buy them on my own.

Can a mod close this thread now please?
Total waste of my time at this point.

Last time I ever ask for advice on here because I apparently get some good advice, and then a flurry of extremely rude judgements and people implying I am such a trashy person I'd put my emotional well being on the line for some shoes I could just ask my parents for for or hmm maybe buy myself.

thanks

[dallas]

Wow. Your time has been wasted? You really are a piece of work. A spoiled piece of work from the sound of things.
... Yeah, I know, I'm rude.

[bisousx]

rofl

[nataliam1976]

msJenna, we dont know you in real life. We only know what you choose to post here. You post how terribly your bofriend treats you and you decide that you will break up with him. Then suddenly you reiterate and say you will give him another chance and you post about him getting you a Chanel bag and Louboutins and giving a lot of info about his financial status elsewhere ( I dont care how rich he is, spending a 1000 bucks on a WoW character is ridiculous, that alone says a lot about him). What conclusions would you draw yourself when you saw such posts of someone else? You must admit that it does sound like a possibility that it is a factor in your decision making - based on your posts.

You said you posted it when you were mad at him. True, sometimes people exagerrate when they are mad, but sometimes they just see the truth that they avoid seeing on daily basis. And no matter how you cut it, some awful things you wrote about him was just quoting him. Being mad at him doesnt change what he said and did for worse.

I wish you only good luck and hope that you will meet a guy, who will treat you properly, with love, care and respect - notions unknown to your boyfriend, Im afraid.

[queenvictoria2]

Originally Posted by MarneeB

yep.

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by dallas

Wow. Your time has been wasted? You really are a piece of work. A spoiled piece of work from the sound of things. ... Yeah, I know, I'm rude.

Haha. Yeah, you know. I am such a rude person for thanking the people who gave me good advice and not wanting to waste my time with people who only want to pass judgments and be rude to me because they are having a bad day and want to feel better about themselves. Anyone who passes judgement on someone on the internet and is rude when the person is clearly in a predicament isn't a nice person who I'd like to waste my time on. I don't know about how you were raised, but I was raised to respect other peoples decisions, religion, and personal beliefs regardless of what my own are, and if I disagreed with something, to do so in a respectful manner. So you can call me a "piece of work" for not wanting to waste my time with someone who is only being rude to me and for having the decency to say it straight out instead of making rude sarcastic remarks. You really have to question your character when you're talking down to someone because they are standing up for themselves when they're being attacked for a decision they made. So, call me rude for not getting off on insulting people when I don't agree with them, and just simply not wanting to address someone. How do you want me to treat you? Give you a gold crown for insulting me and recommending you for TPFER of the year? Yeah right. Go do something more productive with your time. Insulting me and then getting mad when I am offended, insulting me again, and calling me a piece of work for not wanting to waste my time on someone who's only being rude is a little much. I could waste my time calling you names, searching all your posts and then passing judgments about you but the truth is I'm not insecure enough to do so and I don't really care enough about you to. There are a million other things you could focus your energy on. So why are you trying to upset me when I don't even know you, because I don't agree with you insulting me. Like, grow up seriously. I ask for advice and I have to deal with rude women who want to upset me and then call me names because I don't want to waste my time arguing with them. What a joke!

And now you're gonna respond with "the only joke is you! Because you so use your boyfriend and you don't love him because I know that! And he doesn't love you because I totally know what goes on in your relationship and your head! And you have low self esteem you spoiled skank!".

Atleast I have enough self esteem that I don't have to go attacking people on forums. Only losers kick people when they're already down. Go find another punching bag.

[kaeleigh]

Originally Posted by msJenna

I wouldn't date anyone I didn't love for a few pairs of shoes. Take your judgements elsewhere. If I want shoes I can buy them on my own. Can a mod close this thread now please? Total waste of my time at this point. Last time I ever ask for advice on here because I apparently get some good advice, and then a flurry of extremely rude judgements and people implying I am such a trashy person I'd put my emotional well being on the line for some shoes I could just ask my parents for for or hmm maybe buy myself. thanks

**You can report your thread and ask a Mod to close it** (msJenna.... not sure if you know or not, click on the Red Exclamation mark..to report)
They don't read every thread, so this would be the fastest.

Also, you can click here to start reading the book.
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Love-B...0627560#reader

[msJenna]

So can a mod please close this thread? It's getting ridiculous. It's like rude comment after rude comment. Apparently because my boyfriend has bought me some shoes, it gives everyone the right to be nasty to me and tell me how I am/who I am when they clearly have no idea.

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by nataliam1976

msJenna, we dont know you in real life. We only know what you choose to post here. You post how terribly your bofriend treats you and you decide that you will break up with him. Then suddenly you reiterate and say you will give him another chance and you post about him getting you a Chanel bag and Louboutins and giving a lot of info about his financial status elsewhere ( I dont care how rich he is, spending a 1000 bucks on a WoW character is ridiculous, that alone says a lot about him). What conclusions would you draw yourself when you saw such posts of someone else? You must admit that it does sound like a possibility that it is a factor in your decision making - based on your posts. You said you posted it when you were mad at him. True, sometimes people exagerrate when they are mad, but sometimes they just see the truth that they avoid seeing on daily basis. And no matter how you cut it, some awful things you wrote about him was just quoting him. Being mad at him doesnt change what he said and did for worse. I wish you only good luck and hope that you will meet a guy, who will treat you properly, with love, care and respect - notions unknown to your boyfriend, Im afraid.

I think I mentioned he wasn't strapped for cash when someone accused me of forcing my boyfriend to buy me shoes with his hard earned money. Or something along those lines.

And if you focus on one or two threads about a gift from him, sure it sounds like a possibility. But you're leaving out the fact that I have contributed a lot more than that to this forum. People only see what they want to see. If you want to think I am a gold digger, you'll only go view one post and then pass judgments.

It's not in my character to go and draw rude conclusions and try to upset other members.
And it is none of my business to judge other peoples relationships whether I agree with them or not.

[msJenna]

Originally Posted by kaeleigh

**you can report your thread and ask a mod to close it** (msjenna.... Not sure if you know or not, click on the red exclamation mark..to report) they don't read every thread, so this would be the fastest. Also, you can click here to start reading the book.:d http://www.amazon.com/why-men-love-b...0627560#reader

thanks!