Is "i don't like using the phone.."

[Aslan]

A good excuse for not calling often? Or is it BS?


TIA, you guys are the best.

[IntlSet]

No, it's not BS! I hate talking on the phone (I just always feel shy and awkward for some reason, even with my closest friends and my own MOTHER) and do not keep in touch as well as I should. I email and chat online often with close friends but calling... not so much.

[berryblondeboys]

Originally Posted by Aslan

A good excuse for not calling often? Or is it BS? TIA, you guys are the best.

Well, it's BS if you actually do talk on the phone a lot with other people! You could get caught in that lie pretty easily if your phone is always tied up!

I don't like the phone very much. First, I always have in the back of my head that it's costing something and two, it's so CONCENTRATED - online or in person you can take breaks in conversation or do something else. On the phone, it's pretty much ON THE PHONE. With that said, we don't use our cell as a mode of communication - just for emergencies, so no, I can't take a walk and talk. Unless you DO talk a lot on the phone, cell plans are WAY too expensive.

[fiatflux]

Well, how does this person normally keep in contact with you? Is it an issue for you that he/she doesn't contact you enough?

[envyme]

I'm not a phone person. However, I talk to my SO alot on the phone because our conversations are never stagnant.

[chinadoll724]

Originally Posted by Aslan

A good excuse for not calling often? Or is it BS? TIA, you guys are the best.

NOoo, that's me! I hate talking with people on the phone with a few exceptions- my parents, and my bf. I feel like there are expectations to keep the convo going and I HATE the pressure.

[Aslan]

Originally Posted by fiatflux

Well, how does this person normally keep in contact with you?

He emails and facebook messages between 2-6 times a day. He just can't ever seem to call!

[fiatflux]

So does that level of communication leave you dissatisfied? I guess I'm trying to see where the problem is... Do you ever call him?

[Aslan]

Originally Posted by fiatflux

So does that level of communication leave you dissatisfied? I guess I'm trying to see where the problem is... Do you ever call him?

It does leave me dissatisfied. I don't feel I can have a "real" conversation via email. Yes, I call him.

[mundodabolsa]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

No, it's not BS! I hate talking on the phone (I just always feel shy and awkward for some reason, even with my closest friends and my own MOTHER) and do not keep in touch as well as I should. I email and chat online often with close friends but calling... not so much.

Originally Posted by chinadoll724

NOoo, that's me! I hate talking with people on the phone with a few exceptions- my parents, and my bf. I feel like there are expectations to keep the convo going and I HATE the pressure.

This is me, I can't handle the phone at all. Even stupid stuff like calling to schedule an appointment or to find out if a store has something, I just can't do it. Phone calls for me never last more than minute or two, and are used strictly for stuff like "I'll be there in 5 minutes." The ONLY people I spend more than 5 minutes on the phone with are my parents.

Originally Posted by Aslan

He emails and facebook messages between 2-6 times a day. He just can't ever seem to call!

Again, me. I can email you 10 times a day, but if you call, I won't even answer.


So my answer is, it just depends on the person and if their non-calling behavior is across the board, or just with you.

[Aslan]

Thanks guys. I really, really enjoy talking on the phone and it's hard for me to remember that some people can't tolerate it at all, LOL.

He doesn't talk to his guy friends over the phone much either, but I just assumed that's because they are GUYS.

But tell me this...if you like talking to someone in person, why not over the phone? What makes it different?

[purly]

Actually I hate using the phone because I find it wasteful in terms of time. It's much quicker for me to type what I'm thinking than to say it.

Some people also get nervous talking "to a machine" if that makes any sense. Even though they're talking to you, they feel like they're talking to a machine instead.

I don't think it's uncommon these days for people to not use the phone. I primarily chat via text messaging and google talk with my friends and even some family instead.

[berryblondeboys]

As I mentioned. In real life, you can pause, switch to doing something while talking. You can go on about LIFE and talk at the same time. On the phone, it's JUST the conversation between the two of you and you aren't walking somewhere together, or doing something together, just "talking" and that's so artificial. Even with my best friend in the WHOLE world whom I don't get to see except about once a year now with both of us having kids, we talk face to face, but then we get up to make some tea. Then we shift to downstairs or maybe we drive into the city to talk. Sometimes there are silences. Sometimes we talk with someone else too. You just can't do that with a phone conversation as easily.

[nawth21]

Yup. Thats what I told SO when we first started dating/talking. I haaaaate the phone with a passion.

[cascratchfever]

Originally Posted by chinadoll724

I feel like there are expectations to keep the convo going and I HATE the pressure.

Me too, I hate the phone for that reason. I'm always scared I won't be able to think of anything to say! The only people I don't mind talking to are my DH, my sisters and my mom.