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Handbag fever · Oct 2nd, 2009, 01:01 AM

This is my first post. I will try to follow the rules.

My boyfriend of one year and I have been having a hard time finding time and privacy for our 'personal time' (

). We are both in our mid twenties but I still live with my parents and his mom and brother are staying with him temporarily. Obviously we don't live together and try to respect our parents personal beliefs. But since his brother has been staying with him it is nearly impossible to find time for intimacy.

This month makes one year so I want to do something special that he will enjoy. We have plans to get together and do something tomorrow evening. I was thinking of renting a nice hotel in the city and not telling him where we were going. But on second thought that would leave his mom and brother wondering why he didn't come home. (Not that he can't/doesn't but without letting them know they would probably worry.)

Should I go for the hotel surprise anyway? He can always call once we are there. Or should I ask him how he feels about the idea? How can we find private time for each other (not just in a sexual way) with someone else always around?

meganfm · Oct 2nd, 2009, 01:17 AM

I think you might want to talk to him about it-I'm sure he would love the idea, but he would probably want a "heads up" so that he can figure out what to tell his mom and brother.

zoeyjoey · Oct 2nd, 2009, 09:22 AM

DH and I lead very busy lives, and for us a quick getaway in a hotel is a great way to schedule some intimacy (hotwire rocks!). I agree some advanced notice might be nice since he lives with others who might need to know his whereabouts.

To keep costs reasonable, I often forgo a big dinner out and instead "picnic" in our room. For us that means bringing a nice bottle of wine/champagne, cheese, crackers, fruit, cupcakes/chocolates, whatever. It is fun because it's so personal and also affordable. Whatever you decide have fun!

Aslan · Oct 2nd, 2009, 10:24 AM

Tell me the secret once you find out. DH and I both work, and go to graduate school (he's pursuing his second Master's and I'm pursuing my first and last, lol). I feel like we barely see each other anymore. We are both so tired at night that we just flop in the bed and go to sleep.

NYCBelle · Oct 2nd, 2009, 10:29 AM

you don't have to sleep overnight at the hotel. why don't you just have it for a few hours? same day check in and check out. get in the afternoon do whatever

go to dinner come back and do whatever

then go home hehe

amymaria · Oct 2nd, 2009, 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by NYCBelle

you don't have to sleep overnight at the hotel. why don't you just have it for a few hours? same day check in and check out. get in the afternoon do whatever

go to dinner come back and do whatever

then go home hehe

That's a good idea!

And just in case, pack some clothes for him and toiletries in case he wants to stay over too.

Hope you guys have a great night

petitechouchou · Oct 2nd, 2009, 02:05 PM

Yup, my dbf and I are constantly busy and even though we live together our intimacy level isn't what it use to be but we do try to make time for it. I think it's great that you plan to surprise him with the hotel idea but I think you should give him some advance notice so his mother and brother knows his whereabouts. Have fun!

bagaholic85 · Oct 2nd, 2009, 03:02 PM

if u wanna keep it a surprise, why dont u just mention to his mother that u wanted to plan a surprise get away for ur anniv? i think the idea of a surprise is cute and more special

Oct 2nd, 2009, 01:01 AM	#1
Handbag fever OP Member Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	increasing intimacy in a busy relationship This is my first post. I will try to follow the rules. My boyfriend of one year and I have been having a hard time finding time and privacy for our 'personal time' (). We are both in our mid twenties but I still live with my parents and his mom and brother are staying with him temporarily. Obviously we don't live together and try to respect our parents personal beliefs. But since his brother has been staying with him it is nearly impossible to find time for intimacy. This month makes one year so I want to do something special that he will enjoy. We have plans to get together and do something tomorrow evening. I was thinking of renting a nice hotel in the city and not telling him where we were going. But on second thought that would leave his mom and brother wondering why he didn't come home. (Not that he can't/doesn't but without letting them know they would probably worry.) Should I go for the hotel surprise anyway? He can always call once we are there. Or should I ask him how he feels about the idea? How can we find private time for each other (not just in a sexual way) with someone else always around?
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Oct 2nd, 2009, 01:17 AM	#2
meganfm Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: Vancouver Posts: 1,605	I think you might want to talk to him about it-I'm sure he would love the idea, but he would probably want a "heads up" so that he can figure out what to tell his mom and brother.
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Oct 2nd, 2009, 10:24 AM	#4
Aslan liberty+compassion Joined: Nov 2006 Location: New York Posts: 3,368	Tell me the secret once you find out. DH and I both work, and go to graduate school (he's pursuing his second Master's and I'm pursuing my first and last, lol). I feel like we barely see each other anymore. We are both so tired at night that we just flop in the bed and go to sleep.
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Oct 2nd, 2009, 10:29 AM	#5
NYCBelle Yahtzee anyone?? Joined: Oct 2006 Location: 57th & 5th Ave Posts: 5,545	you don't have to sleep overnight at the hotel. why don't you just have it for a few hours? same day check in and check out. get in the afternoon do whatever go to dinner come back and do whatever then go home hehe
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Oct 2nd, 2009, 09:22 AM	#3
zoeyjoey Member Joined: Jun 2009 Location: East Coast Posts: 255	DH and I lead very busy lives, and for us a quick getaway in a hotel is a great way to schedule some intimacy (hotwire rocks!). I agree some advanced notice might be nice since he lives with others who might need to know his whereabouts. To keep costs reasonable, I often forgo a big dinner out and instead "picnic" in our room. For us that means bringing a nice bottle of wine/champagne, cheese, crackers, fruit, cupcakes/chocolates, whatever. It is fun because it's so personal and also affordable. Whatever you decide have fun!

Oct 2nd, 2009, 02:05 PM	#7
petitechouchou "H" is for Hamster Joined: Jun 2009 Location: sleeping in my skybox Posts: 1,283	Yup, my dbf and I are constantly busy and even though we live together our intimacy level isn't what it use to be but we do try to make time for it. I think it's great that you plan to surprise him with the hotel idea but I think you should give him some advance notice so his mother and brother knows his whereabouts. Have fun!

Oct 2nd, 2009, 03:02 PM	#8
bagaholic85 Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: i <3 ny Posts: 5,087	if u wanna keep it a surprise, why dont u just mention to his mother that u wanted to plan a surprise get away for ur anniv? i think the idea of a surprise is cute and more special

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