IMPORTANT about Relationships & Family Forum

[nathansgirl1908]

Originally Posted by BagLadie

GRRRR NO ONE is wanting a "SEX FORUM"!!!! My god all we said was that maybe if people on here wanted to continue to talk about sex....maybe we could think about a sex sub forum....as not to offend anyone.

Isn't a sex subforum still a sex forum?

[dearmissie]

Originally Posted by Charles

I'm not jonesing for a sex forum, trust me.

LOL, love that word. Heard it for the first time Sunday when I was in the E.R. and the nurse said DF was jonesing to see me. LOL. Loves it!!

[berryblondeboys]

Originally Posted by nathansgirl1908

Isn't a sex subforum still a sex forum?

I understand that you are trying to defend Megs and Vlad's message, but they are adults and could have closed the thread, have the power to ban people and so on. I don't think they need a posse arguing for them. No one has shown them any disrespect

I get what they want (and so does everyone else who has posted) we all agree to stick to that and a suggestion was made very politely and concisely and it's hard to call it anything but attacks that has happened to that person(s) since then. THAT I don't understand.

Interestingly, RIGHT before this thread opened, in another thread it was DISCUSSED that these questions and points are important, but wouldn't it be nice if there was a subforum so that a post about problems with some form of sex in a relationship wasn't next to a post that said, "My grandmother died and I need support". Both are about relationships, but just POLAR opposites and it's a little weird.

And whatever Megs and Vlad do is their choice - their site is great and well run and I think the way they handles things make this forum in general very positive and respectful...

Which is probably why the request for a sex SUB forum (needing permission to become a member and so on) would feel "right" here because this site draws a crowd of probably mostly upper teens and 20 somethings (and some now aging to 30 somethings), mostly people who are educated or planning to be educated and well rounded and NORMAL people (who might have a problem with spending). HERE on this site it would be more likely to have mature conversation that wouldn't be perverted. It would be great if it could be closed to outside search engines so that it's not FOUND by creepos too.

Honestly, I think it's way more awful to read things on the True Crime forum (I'm soooooo glad that forum was split) than anything on a sex SUB forum would be and I doubt anyone would ever call it SEX anyway.

Maybe because I'm a sex educator for teenagers, I feel that sex conversation shouldn't be so hush-hush (because secrecy gives it power). Sex is a normal part of life and something most of us know so little about beyond the simple mechanics of it. There are books and such, but sometimes you just have questions and even with the bestest of friends, sometimes asking those questions of real people, face to face is still so taboo. I don't think it should be, but it IS.

Yes, we all have differing levels of comfort and differing levels of "what I would say or do", but reality is, most of us have sex, just like most of us shop, diet, eat, do crafts, travel, watch TV and movies, etc. - all which have forums and are not about purses.

Again, I COMPLETELY respect what Megs and Vlad are saying and I agree - the Relationships forum should be PG13 because of the audience. but what I don't understand is why part of this 'audience' is so quick to say, "Don't like it LEAVE if you HAVE to talk about sex." Kind of goes against the feeling that sex is normal and it's OK to talk about it in my mind.

This message is all convoluted, but it bothers me a bit at how forceful some people are about trying to defend Megs request when no one has shown any disrespect of Megs request... unless I've missed something.

[candace117]

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[nathansgirl1908]

Originally Posted by berryblondeboys

I understand that you are trying to defend Megs and Vlad's message, but they are adults and could have closed the thread, have the power to ban people and so on. I don't think they need a posse arguing for them. No one has shown them any disrespect I get what they want (and so does everyone else who has posted) we all agree to stick to that and a suggestion was made very politely and concisely and it's hard to call it anything but attacks that has happened to that person(s) since then. THAT I don't understand. Honestly, I think it's way more awful to read things on the True Crime forum (I'm soooooo glad that forum was split) than anything on a sex SUB forum would be and I doubt anyone would ever call it SEX anyway. Maybe because I'm a sex educator for teenagers, I feel that sex conversation shouldn't be so hush-hush (because secrecy gives it power). Sex is a normal part of life and something most of us know so little about beyond the simple mechanics of it. There are books and such, but sometimes you just have questions and even with the bestest of friends, sometimes asking those questions of real people, face to face is still so taboo. I don't think it should be, but it IS. Again, I COMPLETELY respect what Megs and Vlad are saying and I agree - the Relationships forum should be PG13 because of the audience. but what I don't understand is why part of this 'audience' is so quick to say, "Don't like it LEAVE if you HAVE to talk about sex." Kind of goes against the feeling that sex is normal and it's OK to talk about it in my mind. This message is all convoluted, but it bothers me a bit at how forceful some people are about trying to defend Megs request when no one has shown any disrespect of Megs request... unless I've missed something.

My question doesn't constitute arguing for anyone or defending Megs' request. It was simply a question because it seemed that she was contradicting herself. In one sentence she said no one wants a sex forum, then she turned around a sentence or two later and said we want a sex sub forum.

And I don't recall anyone telling anyone on here to LEAVE the forum if they HAVE to talk about sex. Please point me in the direction of any post that said that because I truly overlooked it. Not to mention the fact that I don't think anyone on here was going against the feeling that sex is normal. It is just that some people feel that some topics are too explicit. I can think of one right now that was started a few days ago that was really out of line in my opinion and when I first started reading it I literally became nauseous and wondered why in the world someone would post something like that on here. I'm not really sure why some people have the mentality that just because people may not wish to see or discuss explicit sexual topics in certain situations means that they are somehow being hush hush about sex or not "embracing" how natural it is. Some people just recognize that some situations are more conducive than others for talking about certain topics.

[candace117]

Who contradicted themselves?

[Vegas Long Legs]

Originally Posted by Jill

I think Megs has said what IS and isnt allowed..period..And we should respect their wishes.

You are right, it is their business. No different than if they had a physical location & we walked in the front door.

[IntlSet]

Originally Posted by berryblondeboys

Which is probably why the request for a sex SUB forum (needing permission to become a member and so on) would feel "right" here because this site draws a crowd of probably mostly upper teens and 20 somethings (and some now aging to 30 somethings), mostly people who are educated or planning to be educated and well rounded and NORMAL people (who might have a problem with spending). HERE on this site it would be more likely to have mature conversation that wouldn't be perverted. It would be great if it could be closed to outside search engines so that it's not FOUND by creepos too.

There are tons of forums on the internet to talk about sex. I can't imagine loving the discussion of sex so much that one would ask for a special sub-forum here, on a Purse Forum? That just seems odd.

I agree with nathansgirl1908... I'm still baffled by why you're so determined to talk about this... what Megs asked is so beyond reasonable. It doesn't require a special sub-forum, it doesn't really require anything except some common sense.

[candace117]

I know I just like discussion, from the inane to the most vital of sorts

[berryblondeboys]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

There are tons of forums on the internet to talk about sex. I can't imagine loving the discussion of sex so much that one would ask for a special sub-forum here, on a Purse Forum? That just seems odd. I agree with nathansgirl1908... I'm still baffled by why you're so determined to talk about this... what Megs asked is so beyond reasonable. It doesn't require a special sub-forum, it doesn't really require anything except some common sense.

Ugh.... nevermind. I'm not looking for a site to talk about sex. I don't have a need to go on and on about sex, but once in awhile, I have a question, and because I'm a sex educator, I know a lot more stuff than the average joe - not techniques, no, but risks with sex, gender issues, sexuality issues, etc. that I could help OTHER people who have questions.

Since I'm not consumed with needing talk about it, finding a site that revolves around sex talk doesn't match my needs (or most people's needs). But with the NUMBER of people on this site and the number of posts that do ask SOMETHING about sex, there does seem to be a need for it here.

Yes, you can talk about sex here and such, but even with keeping it PG13, it's still odd to have a "my sister is so mean" post next to a "my husband wants sex every day and I don't" post. Don't you think?

Why does everyone assume that a sex subforum would be an online orgie? Reality is people have sex and have questions about sex probably more often than they do about travel or crafts. How many members are here? How many are young, still new to the sex thing? Do you really want to send people to sites that are possibly full of pervs and have them ask a question about sex there, or here where they feel more comfortable with the people because they've gotten to know them in other ways too.

But I'm done arguing because no one seems to get what I'm saying by the suggestion of "just find sex stuff elsewhere".

[PrinceAbdullah]

Look at all the drama just talking about having a "Sex" forum. Imagine what would happen if we did actually have one.

If we did get one, we might attract crazy people searching things in search engines.

[candace117]

^That's why Megs said it would be private, like the Marketplace. MP stuff doesn't show up on search engines, last I knew. And even if you found something, you wouldn't have access to it unless you were allowed in by Mods.

[PrinceAbdullah]

Originally Posted by candace117

^That's why Megs said it would be private, like the Marketplace. MP stuff doesn't show up on search engines, last I knew. And even if you found something, you wouldn't have access to it unless you were allowed in by Mods.

WOW I didnt know that, sounds cool.

[candace117]

HAHA But I agree, this thread is dramarama. I have way more important things to worry about. LOL!!!! I need to find movers to pack up my apartment...

[berryblondeboys]

Well, I'm not viewing it as drama, but as an interesting discussion. Can't people discuss things any more? I get tired of everyone tiptoeing around everything, all the time - makes the world boring if all we ever do is nod and smile.