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GondolaGirl · Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:12 PM

^^^^Exactly!

Charles · Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by merika

I don't think that's a very good idea. As adults everybody has their own personal limits of what they would like to see/hear in media. Having a standard guideline (such as PG-13) is a good idea.

If there were such a sub-forum I'd predict it would rapidly become very explicit, people who were uncomfortable with such explicitness would be told to be more broad minded and accept it or go take a hike, there would be trolls galore and the moderator would have a nervous breakdown.

Uh, it would be a SEX forum, which you have to apply, and be approved, to participate in. That's like joining a forum talking about murders and getting upset at the violence.

I also think that most people here are classy enough to keep it from becoming XXX

Jill · Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:32 PM

I think Megs has said what IS and isnt allowed..period..And we should respect their wishes.

dearmissie · Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:34 PM

If I'm not comfortable with the thread I just dont go in the thread. Simple and done, no need for me to feel uncomfortable or whatever. I just don't look, but if I happen to read something sexual I don't like I just let it roll off my shoulders. No biggie.

merika · Dec 22nd, 2008, 07:07 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Uh, it would be a SEX forum, which you have to apply, and be approved, to participate in. That's like joining a forum talking about murders and getting upset at the violence.

I also think that most people here are classy enough to keep it from becoming XXX

Yes, some people do have the class to not have XXX discussions, but other people simply do not. I've seen plenty of graphic posts in the R&F and GD forums which have to be edited or deleted by moderators.

I think vetting marketplaza applications are a headache enough for M&V, lol. And imagine all the complaints in the feedback dropbox: "I applied to join the sex forum eight months ago. What is the status of my application????"

Originally Posted by oo0ehxtahcee0oo

If I'm not comfortable with the thread I just dont go in the thread. Simple and done, no need for me to feel uncomfortable or whatever. I just don't look, but if I happen to read something sexual I don't like I just let it roll off my shoulders. No biggie.

I guess it's different for different people. Sometimes I've seen threads go completely off topic and sexual, when the OP never intended for it to become that way. I had it happen to a thread that I started which was meant to be lighthearted and fun, asking a very simple question. Only people kept getting increasingly explicit in their replies and it made me uncomfortable as to where the thread was going. I kept reading the responses as it was "my" thread, so to speak. I've never started threads with remotely sexual topics after that because I'm afraid of where they would lead in terms of people's responses.

compulsivepurse · Dec 22nd, 2008, 07:10 PM

Thank you. I worry that people forget there are 13 year olds that read these. Not that I didn't know what sex was when I was 13 but I didn't need graphic accounts of it on a board dedicated to fashion.

caitlin1214 · Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:35 PM

Just a rule of thumb: euphamisms are your friend, the less obvious and the less crude, the better.

Melissa71 · Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:44 PM

candace117 · Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:45 PM

Correct. For instance:

Samantha Jones: I love to color. I could color ALL day, and every day.

Carrie Bradshaw: When Big colors, he never stays in the lines...

nathansgirl1908 · Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Uh, it would be a SEX forum, which you have to apply, and be approved, to participate in. That's like joining a forum talking about murders and getting upset at the violence.

I also think that most people here are classy enough to keep it from becoming XXX

And based on what Megs has said, a SEX forum would not necessarily be in keeping with what the purse forum should be like. If you simply must discuss sex, it is easy to find a forum for that purpose on the Internet. I'm so excited to find a place where I can talk about purses

, who CARES if they don't want lewd or explicit topics?

Thanks Megs for addressing this issue.

Like some others have said, I was starting to feel uncomfortable about some of the topics.

caitlin1214 · Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:43 PM

To tell you the truth, I haven't exactly noticed that many, but for the ones I have seen, as amusing as some of them were, they were just not appropriate.

berryblondeboys · Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:47 PM

I TOTALLY respect what Vlad and Megs are saying, but it isn't true that all that is talked about here is purse or purse related. People migrate over or, like in my case, I look once in awhile at the purse stuff, but I try to stay away to save my pocketbook. That's why there are all these other areas in the playground.

And while, yes, I agree, I don't like seeing sex items mixed in with family and dating/marriage stuff, it is also part of life and people have questions.

Maybe I'm an oddball, but I like forums where I can talk about whatever I want with people I've gotten to "know". I wouldn't feel comfortable asking some things of strangers on some random forum I just "found" to ask that one question. First, newbies tend to be overly scrutinized and/or ignored. Two, how do I know if I can trust a random person's answer?

When I have a parenting question here, I know there are some posters I would never follow for advice and others I would listen to with great interest and so on. So...if I had a sex question (which I did), I would trust and feel more comfortable asking a group of people I have gotten a feel for versus some pervert who just likes to hang out on a sex forum...

Which is why I know Vlad and Megs want to stay away from have a sex subforum because there are lots of people they don't want hanging out on their purse forum... I just like the feel of forums where I feel it's a more complete "friendship" versus... these are the people I talk to only about baby stuff, and these people only about exercise and these people only about my sex life. They never get to KNOW me if I just dole out pieces here and there. The best advice always comes from people who know a more complete picture of someone... that's what's lacking on most internet forums... the seeing a person as a whole person and not just a purse lover, or shoe lover, etc.

GondolaGirl · Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:52 PM

Hmmm..... alot to think about ^^^^^ I agree about the newbie part, as well as everything else that you said!

kimalee · Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:56 PM

thanks for the reminder, Megs!

aquablueness · Dec 23rd, 2008, 12:01 AM

Originally Posted by ash14vwb

Thank youuu Megs; I've been getting nervous at the titles of some of the threads, lol.

Plus, I don't want this site to come up when people google topics like that, and then have some creepos looking at our usernames/info who otherwise wouldn't be!

me too, thanks Megs

, you certainly know how to manage things

and make things comfortable for everybody

Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:12 PM	#16
GondolaGirl Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: Chicagoan transplanted in the sandy beaches of Florida. Posts: 617	^^^^Exactly!
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:32 PM	#18
Jill MOD Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 27,929	I think Megs has said what IS and isnt allowed..period..And we should respect their wishes.
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 05:34 PM	#19
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:35 PM	#22
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:45 PM	#24
candace117 Embrace the Suck! Joined: Oct 2007 Location: The Dustoff Compound, IRAQ Posts: 9,315	Correct. For instance: Samantha Jones: I love to color. I could color ALL day, and every day. Carrie Bradshaw: When Big colors, he never stays in the lines...
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 07:10 PM	#21
compulsivepurse Member Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Washington, D.C. Posts: 3,393	Thank you. I worry that people forget there are 13 year olds that read these. Not that I didn't know what sex was when I was 13 but I didn't need graphic accounts of it on a board dedicated to fashion.

Dec 22nd, 2008, 10:44 PM	#23
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:43 PM	#26
caitlin1214 You just got slapped Joined: Jul 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada (Eh?) Posts: 22,395	To tell you the truth, I haven't exactly noticed that many, but for the ones I have seen, as amusing as some of them were, they were just not appropriate.
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:47 PM	#27
berryblondeboys Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: VA (DC Burbs) Posts: 2,822	I TOTALLY respect what Vlad and Megs are saying, but it isn't true that all that is talked about here is purse or purse related. People migrate over or, like in my case, I look once in awhile at the purse stuff, but I try to stay away to save my pocketbook. That's why there are all these other areas in the playground. And while, yes, I agree, I don't like seeing sex items mixed in with family and dating/marriage stuff, it is also part of life and people have questions. Maybe I'm an oddball, but I like forums where I can talk about whatever I want with people I've gotten to "know". I wouldn't feel comfortable asking some things of strangers on some random forum I just "found" to ask that one question. First, newbies tend to be overly scrutinized and/or ignored. Two, how do I know if I can trust a random person's answer? When I have a parenting question here, I know there are some posters I would never follow for advice and others I would listen to with great interest and so on. So...if I had a sex question (which I did), I would trust and feel more comfortable asking a group of people I have gotten a feel for versus some pervert who just likes to hang out on a sex forum... Which is why I know Vlad and Megs want to stay away from have a sex subforum because there are lots of people they don't want hanging out on their purse forum... I just like the feel of forums where I feel it's a more complete "friendship" versus... these are the people I talk to only about baby stuff, and these people only about exercise and these people only about my sex life. They never get to KNOW me if I just dole out pieces here and there. The best advice always comes from people who know a more complete picture of someone... that's what's lacking on most internet forums... the seeing a person as a whole person and not just a purse lover, or shoe lover, etc.
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:52 PM	#28
GondolaGirl Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: Chicagoan transplanted in the sandy beaches of Florida. Posts: 617	Hmmm..... alot to think about ^^^^^ I agree about the newbie part, as well as everything else that you said!
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Dec 22nd, 2008, 11:56 PM	#29
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