=( i'm having a bad day...

swee7bebe · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:03 PM

I posted my story on another thread...and didn't want to hijack that one, so here it goes. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 8+ years when I found out a month ago that he was cheating on me w/ his co-worker. This is the second time I found out that he cheated on me...first time was about 4 years ago. I forgave him after that first time, and it was a little better for a while. Anyway, he ended up moving in w/ me in September and started acting really shady...I later found out that he's been texting/calling this person from work. Of course after that I kicked him out and broke up with him. I'm just so hurt and upset that he could do this to me, especially since moving in with me was his idea. I looked through our phone bill and found that he started talking to this girl in September, about two weeks after he moved in with me. I've had some up and down days since we broke up last month...luckily I have great friends that take me out and just be with me when I'm feeling down. Well, today I got the bill for our cell phones (we have a family plan, which I'm still paying for). He charged up $35 for 600 text messages that he sent MOSTLY TO HER and when I looked through the bill, it was mostly her number that showed up. Our plan has 1400 minutes and 1200 minutes were used up. Most of my friends and family have the same carrier as we do, so it's included in our minutes. I'm sooo pissed that I'M STILL PAYING for the freaking bill and this jerk has the nerve to make phone calls and send text messages to this little...ok, i'll be nice and not say anything about her. I had asked him earlier this week if he could get his own line already because I don't want to be paying for him to be talking to her. He had the nerve to ask me if I could give him a little time because he has a lot of things to pay for (car insurance, car, and rent for him & his mom...he moved back w/ his mom after I kicked him out). Umm...excuse me, I have a car, mortgage, insurance, and bills to pay for. *sigh* I'm so upset I don't know what to do. I didn't want to have to cancel the line because I didnt' want to pay the $175 but I guess I have to now. And he has the nerve to call me up and text me asking me if I'm ok and say that he misses me. Sorry for the long post...I just need to vent...

Jill · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:07 PM

GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...kick his AS* OFF YOUR PLAN!!!!!!!!NOW!!!
Call and cancel his phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

keya · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:10 PM

I agree, cancel his phone, you should NOT be paying for him to talk to the woman he CHEATED on you with!

swee7bebe · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:16 PM

i know...i should...i was just going to wait til he got his account. i'm too nice.

chinadoll724 · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:16 PM

You don't need to cancel- Just take his phone back. End of discussion as far as he's concerned. He is no longer your problem.

dollyrusso · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by swee7bebe

i know...i should...i was just going to wait til he got his account. i'm too nice.

you are sweet

but....was he thinking about you and what you needed when he was cheating? uh no. Cancel that jerks phone

wordpast · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:20 PM

Yes you are too nice! He wasn't that nice to you was he? Give the idiot a dose of his own medicine. Cancel it right now!

choozen1ne · Dec 17th, 2007, 09:20 PM

My sister did the same thing on our family plan , between 3 months she used up all the roll over minutes , anytime minutes and texted about 400 times - she is 29 so she should know better , so I shut her line down , we still have the pay the 9.99 a month for the line but I refused to let her abuse our cell phone plan
Call, shut his line off , you have no need to be nice , the guy cheated on you and does not deserve your wonderful generosity , you are way to good of a person for him

Speedy · Dec 17th, 2007, 10:16 PM

STOP BEING NICE TO HIM.

RIGHT NOW.

Get the phone back, and if he won't give it to you, cancel the plan IMMEDIATLY. You owe him nothing, and he will continue to use you and run up the minutes as long as you allow it.

You really want to be paying for his time talking/texting the woman he cheated on you with?

bagnshoofetish · Dec 17th, 2007, 10:28 PM

what are you waiting for??? swallow the $175 bucks and get him out of your life!

jayjay77 · Dec 17th, 2007, 10:48 PM

swee7 -- my heart goes out to you. This sucks. But clearly you are better off moving on. I know this is hard, I wish the best to you.

kitty nyc · Dec 17th, 2007, 10:50 PM

i agree! cut him off now!

Tammy518 · Dec 17th, 2007, 11:00 PM

Sorry you're having a bad day. I know just how horrible this is to get through. Just take it one day at a time, and stick with your tPF friends! You definitely need to keep him off your cell plan. Just try to keep yourself busy and get out and meet new people. Slowly, this will get better. Hugs!

swee7bebe · Dec 17th, 2007, 11:03 PM

thanks everyone. yeah, i'll get him off my plan soon. i can't take this. i just feel...i don't know...like i was thrown away so easily. he went from me to this girl like i was nothing to him. 8 years just like that. he's called her so many times this past month...every morning on his way to work, just like how he used to do with me. i really hate him for doing this to me.

Speedy · Dec 17th, 2007, 11:12 PM

Soon? How about TOMORROW? And you shouldn't feel any guilt about it either, I mean, you said it yourself, look how easy he cast you aside.

Get rid of him completely, let him pay for his own messages, and get on with your life. He's not worth it at all.

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:03 PM	#1
swee7bebe Sofa King Addicted Location: nj	=( i'm having a bad day... I posted my story on another thread...and didn't want to hijack that one, so here it goes. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 8+ years when I found out a month ago that he was cheating on me w/ his co-worker. This is the second time I found out that he cheated on me...first time was about 4 years ago. I forgave him after that first time, and it was a little better for a while. Anyway, he ended up moving in w/ me in September and started acting really shady...I later found out that he's been texting/calling this person from work. Of course after that I kicked him out and broke up with him. I'm just so hurt and upset that he could do this to me, especially since moving in with me was his idea. I looked through our phone bill and found that he started talking to this girl in September, about two weeks after he moved in with me. I've had some up and down days since we broke up last month...luckily I have great friends that take me out and just be with me when I'm feeling down. Well, today I got the bill for our cell phones (we have a family plan, which I'm still paying for). He charged up $35 for 600 text messages that he sent MOSTLY TO HER and when I looked through the bill, it was mostly her number that showed up. Our plan has 1400 minutes and 1200 minutes were used up. Most of my friends and family have the same carrier as we do, so it's included in our minutes. I'm sooo pissed that I'M STILL PAYING for the freaking bill and this jerk has the nerve to make phone calls and send text messages to this little...ok, i'll be nice and not say anything about her. I had asked him earlier this week if he could get his own line already because I don't want to be paying for him to be talking to her. He had the nerve to ask me if I could give him a little time because he has a lot of things to pay for (car insurance, car, and rent for him & his mom...he moved back w/ his mom after I kicked him out). Umm...excuse me, I have a car, mortgage, insurance, and bills to pay for. sigh I'm so upset I don't know what to do. I didn't want to have to cancel the line because I didnt' want to pay the $175 but I guess I have to now. And he has the nerve to call me up and text me asking me if I'm ok and say that he misses me. Sorry for the long post...I just need to vent... __________________ Michelle My Loves : Balenciaga '06 Ink City, '08 Vert Thyme Fist, '03 Red First, '02 Caramel Flat Brass First, Chanel Vintage Ligne Flap, LV Mono Ribera, LV Robert Wilson Pink Houston Currently On A Purse Ban

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:10 PM	#3
keya Member	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... I agree, cancel his phone, you should NOT be paying for him to talk to the woman he CHEATED on you with!

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:16 PM	#4
swee7bebe Sofa King Addicted Location: nj	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... i know...i should...i was just going to wait til he got his account. i'm too nice. __________________ Michelle My Loves : Balenciaga '06 Ink City, '08 Vert Thyme Fist, '03 Red First, '02 Caramel Flat Brass First, Chanel Vintage Ligne Flap, LV Mono Ribera, LV Robert Wilson Pink Houston Currently On A Purse Ban

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:16 PM	#5
chinadoll724 Member	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... You don't need to cancel- Just take his phone back. End of discussion as far as he's concerned. He is no longer your problem.

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:20 PM	#7
wordpast Member Location: Never Never Land	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... Yes you are too nice! He wasn't that nice to you was he? Give the idiot a dose of his own medicine. Cancel it right now! __________________

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:07 PM	#2
Jill	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...kick his AS* OFF YOUR PLAN!!!!!!!!NOW!!! Call and cancel his phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dec 17th, 2007, 09:20 PM	#8
choozen1ne Member Location: Michigan	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... My sister did the same thing on our family plan , between 3 months she used up all the roll over minutes , anytime minutes and texted about 400 times - she is 29 so she should know better , so I shut her line down , we still have the pay the 9.99 a month for the line but I refused to let her abuse our cell phone plan Call, shut his line off , you have no need to be nice , the guy cheated on you and does not deserve your wonderful generosity , you are way to good of a person for him

Dec 17th, 2007, 10:16 PM	#9
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... STOP BEING NICE TO HIM. RIGHT NOW. Get the phone back, and if he won't give it to you, cancel the plan IMMEDIATLY. You owe him nothing, and he will continue to use you and run up the minutes as long as you allow it. You really want to be paying for his time talking/texting the woman he cheated on you with?

Dec 17th, 2007, 10:28 PM	#10
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... what are you waiting for??? swallow the $175 bucks and get him out of your life! __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Dec 17th, 2007, 10:48 PM	#11
jayjay77 Member Location: New York	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... swee7 -- my heart goes out to you. This sucks. But clearly you are better off moving on. I know this is hard, I wish the best to you.

Dec 17th, 2007, 10:50 PM	#12
kitty nyc Need more bags! Location: New York, NY	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... i agree! cut him off now!

Dec 17th, 2007, 11:00 PM	#13
Tammy518 Just one more... Location: Virginia Beach, VA	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... Sorry you're having a bad day. I know just how horrible this is to get through. Just take it one day at a time, and stick with your tPF friends! You definitely need to keep him off your cell plan. Just try to keep yourself busy and get out and meet new people. Slowly, this will get better. Hugs! __________________ Never allow someone to be your priority while you remain their option...

Dec 17th, 2007, 11:03 PM	#14
swee7bebe Sofa King Addicted Location: nj	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... thanks everyone. yeah, i'll get him off my plan soon. i can't take this. i just feel...i don't know...like i was thrown away so easily. he went from me to this girl like i was nothing to him. 8 years just like that. he's called her so many times this past month...every morning on his way to work, just like how he used to do with me. i really hate him for doing this to me. __________________ Michelle My Loves : Balenciaga '06 Ink City, '08 Vert Thyme Fist, '03 Red First, '02 Caramel Flat Brass First, Chanel Vintage Ligne Flap, LV Mono Ribera, LV Robert Wilson Pink Houston Currently On A Purse Ban

Dec 17th, 2007, 11:12 PM	#15
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: =( i'm having a bad day... Soon? How about TOMORROW? And you shouldn't feel any guilt about it either, I mean, you said it yourself, look how easy he cast you aside. Get rid of him completely, let him pay for his own messages, and get on with your life. He's not worth it at all.